My mother would have been 69 today June 9th. I know we have lost some DUers and others

[RB TexLa]

have lost people or have birthdays, anniversaries and the like.

Just wanted to give thoughts to those missing people right now.

[EFerrari]

1. I miss Monkeyman and I miss Andy. It's not something that goes away.

Thanks, RGBolen.

[RB TexLa]

5. Thank You.

[shireen]

2. i lost my aunt 2 weeks ago today

only 61 years ... too young. I was really close to her, she helped raise me. i can't imagine a world without her.
she was socialdemocrat1981's mom -- he's really hurting right now.

[EFerrari]

3. Thoughts and wishes to you both, shireen.

:hug:
:grouphug:

[shireen]

6. thanks ....

:hug:

[RB TexLa]

4. I understand, my mother passed in December and I still can't believe

I am in a world that she is not in.

:hug:

[shireen]

7. doesn't feel real ....

:grouphug:

[EFerrari]

11. My mom is 75 and having a lot of problems. I'm not ready

and can't really understand a world without her.

Aside from being my mom, she's been a force of nature in my life in every way -- plant life to politics.

I hope you've had people around you.

[StarryNite]

12. The 10th will mark

one year since my mom died. Nothing is the same without her.

:cry:

[EFerrari]

13. No, and it couldn't be, could it?

:hug: to you, StarryNite.

[StarryNite]

14. Thank you.

The few weeks leading up to this date have been extremely difficult. She would have turned 89 on May 8th. Then there was my first Mother's Day without her. And my uncle, her brother died just 6 days before she did. She died suddenly, just passed in her sleep. At least she left this world peacefully.

[EFerrari]

15. Anniversaries are very, very difficult. I'm so sorry.

I've lost several friends to quick and terrible cancers in the last few years, miss then daily and still talk to them because it's just not real to me that we can't talk any more.

[StarryNite]

16. I know what you mean about the talking

I talk to my mom all the time. Hopefully they are in a place where they can hear us.

[calimary]

8. I miss Khephra, too. And nostamj. And now Monkeyman, too.

Bummer.

Someone else here posted a thread to Skinner about a memory wall or some such thing to commemorate departed DUers. A very nice idea.

[shireen]

9. yes, it would be nice

i hope a DU'er artist can come up with a beautiful online memorial to honor those lovely people.

[calimary]

23. My condolences on your auntie.

My mom died last November.

It isn't easy, is it? The one thing that helped ease it for me was the fact that she was so horrendously sick, and for so long, that death truly came as a relief. She really suffered in the last couple of years of her life. I couldn't help but feel as though she'd just been liberated. My dad went out the same way. Really bad.

Oh yes, and when I posted about my mom here, SO MANY DUers were SO incredibly kind and supportive. It was a great comfort (that, and knowing my mom was finally out of pain).

[shireen]

24. thanks ...

nothing makes sense. She was too young, only 61, and was even younger in spirit. She had so much ahead for her. No one should have to suffer like that. She was a beautiful person, inside and out. She passed those same beautiful qualities to her children, socialdemocrat1981 and his sister.

I'm so sorry about your mom and dad, Calimary. It's such a deep loss, like a giant hole in your life. Life, as they say, moves on but we learn to live with those giant holes ....

[gator_in_Ontario]

10. Losing your mother

is almost impossibly hard. My positive energy goes your way.
For those of you out there with living mothers, on YOUR next birthday, call her up. Thank her for bringing you to life. I mean, it is far from perfect this life, but most of us are glad we are here. That is a tradition I started at about 20. Mom would call me on my birthday, and it started, in part to "beat her to it", and in part cuz I had no phone. But anyway, she loved it and it continued until she died in 1999 ( I was 40 ).

Thanks RG for reminding me, and kudos to our mothers!

[Dervill Crow]

20. The first year after I had my own child I started sending my mom thank you cards on my birthday.

It just seemed the logical thing to do.

[dEMOK]

17. My Mom would be 76 (I'm 56)...

She died at '73 years. Here name was Dolores. She died because there was no communication in the medical system she was involved in.

One doctor prescribed one thing & another prescribed another. The effects of the combination killed her.

I still remember her face and her voice -- but my Dad (who could never stand to be alone) had to inter her (alongside an empty crypt with his name on it -- his legacy to his love for her).

[StarryNite]

18. It's so heartbreaking

watching the dads try to cope without our moms. My dad has had such a hard time and yet I lean on him for support. Hopefully I am giving him some strength in the process. He's 91.

[dEMOK]

19. Your Dad Loves the fact that you're so connected to him...

It gives him a similar purpose in life that your Mom gave him -- he loves to take care of his loved ones. If he had no one to care for, he'd probably already have moved on.

[skids]

21. Thanks. Much appreciated. n/t

[goclark]

22. My heart goes out to you

My Mom will be 89 years old in August.
I can't even imagine how it would hurt to not have her in my life.

:hug:

[roguevalley]

25. My Dad died July 23, 2006 and my Mom this memorial day,

May 28, 2007. I send only love and hope to those who have members of your life struggling. Only love and hope. I wouldn't wish this desolation on an enemy.

[StarryNite]

26. I'm so sorry for your losses.

A year ago today I had no idea that my mom would only have hours left to live. I'm glad she had no idea how short her time left was either. Sometimes life really sucks.

:hug: :cry:

[calimary]

29. Damn. It just happened. I'm so sorry. The survivor often goes quickly

after his/her mate dies. I guess you can be comforted knowing they're together again, but it's very SMALL comfort, indeed, isn't it? My condolences. I'm so sorry, roguevalley. You're in our hearts here, for certain.

:hug:

[Roon]

27. I hate to ask this

but could someone post the link announcing monkey's passing?

[waiting for hope]

28. Here it is:

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=view_all&address=389x1065355

[Roon]

31. Thanks eom

[windbreeze]

30. Why can't I read posts about Monkeyman, w/o crying....?

and I lost my mother on Mother's Day...May 13, 2007...perhaps I cry for them both...
wb