I actually thought of your point and think it's valid too.
However, let me point you to the Kelly Ripken Foundation and Kelly Ripken's story. A wife of a star baseball pitcher is a "have," right? She should have no trouble getting a diagnosis because she has so much money and can get all the best doctors...right? Took her two years. For me, it's taken around ten. This is common for women with thyroid disease because many doctors are dismissive of subjective symptoms as psychological, especially in women. "Stress/menopause/your new marriage/your hard job/your kids"
http://thyroid-ripken.med.jhu.edu/Let me also point you to the article below:
"Communication barriers between older women and physicians"
http://www.pubmedcentral.nih.gov/articlerender.fcgi?artid=1478043"Use of jargon and a nonempathic interviewing style by the doctor tend to discourage free exchange of information. A third consideration is the many psychosocial factors which affect the behavior of older women and their relationship with providers. One element is the belief in negative stereotypes of women in general, and older women in particular. Fear of being labeled a "hypochondriac," a "nuisance," or a "crabby old woman" inhibits accurate reporting by patients. Attitudes toward doctors, especially male doctors, make some older women timid and fearful. Physician and patient alike may accept signs and symptoms of disease as a normal part of aging and may cause medically treatable problems to be overlooked."
And a few more abstracts:
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/sites/entrez?cmd=Retrieve&db=PubMed&list_uids=1943269&dopt=AbstractPlus"Sex differences in patients' and physicians' communication during primary care medical visits"
http://www.informaworld.com/smpp/content~content=a713658270~db=all"Problems in doctor-patient communication: the case of younger women with breast cancer"
Etc...
The irony is, the docs can't figure out what happened to Roberts either, and I'm hearing "stress" tossed around in threads. It's true that the mind and body are linked together but it can be frustrating to have "stress" tossed around as a catch-all if you know on the inside something is wrong and you are wandering around sick for years with people giving you speeches on attitude and vitamins. Anyway, someone totally needs to make a unified field theory of human biochemistry but I doubt that will happen in my lifetime.
Once I get all settled down I've been inspired to write a patient-targeted book pointing out how women get treated differently by doctors, using studies as reference, and offering advice on how patients and doctors can better communicate about subjective (non visible) symptoms.