How violently do you AVOID contact in a public bathroom?

[underpants]

I know I avoid it-hell I don't even talk to coworkers as we cross paths- with every once of my being when I am in there.

:eyes:

He was running his hand on the underside of a public stall??? Are you kidding me?? I would miss the flight just from the time spent washing my hands!!!

Who looks through the crack to see if anyone is in there? Doesn't everyone lean to one side and look for shoes or just assume that any door that is closed is OCCUPIED???

:silly:

[King Coal]

1. I imagine Craig would have had a couple of broken fingers it he mistook me for a cop.

[Bluebear]

3. You would break his fingers? Not just say "get out of here!!"?

[karlrschneider]

16. I hate to imagine his fate were he to mistake you for a man!

:eyes:

[anniebelle]

2. Have you ever in your life picked up a piece of

toilet paper off of any floor except possibly your own. Phew Yuck! He's a disgusting old fart if nothing else.

[Scairp]

4. I talking to my husband about this

And I told him that the things Craig did were secret signals when a man is looking for anonymous sex from another man in a public toilet, and the look on him face was priceless, as he told me he had been solicited and didn't even know it! He's an extremely intelligent man, but when he is on a business trip, he is usually thinking about the presentation he is going to be making, or checking email while waiting for his connection, or calling us to check in, so I can see how he could not even give it much thought if some guy in the next stall did something like that. He completely ignored it, so I guess the person or persons figured out he wasn't another man living on the "down low". So it would seem that, despite the excuse makers for Craig and the other sleazy GOP scum, this kind of thing is a real problem.

[whistle]

6. I'm a man and I never knew that such signals existed. This is right out of 19th century

...Victorian sexual repression!

[TahitiNut]

27. This is the first I've heard of it myself.

I've not been a particularly "sheltered" person, either.

Nonetheless, Craig's sexual orientation and objective has little or nothing to do with the fact that he peeped, attempted to play footsie, and reached into the adjacent stall ... violating the privacy of a person who was a total stranger to him. That's just pathetic and creepy, no matter what sexual orientation, imho. Peeping tanning beds, bathrooms, motel rooms ... I don't know where that wouldn't be against the law.

[whistle]

5. Well, I've decided not to use public restrooms any more

:hide: :yoiks: Perhaps we should have restrooms marked "For republicans only" and water fountains and any other public facilities.

[katty]

7. what is the (potential) sex fetish with public bathrooms?! yuck!

[Jed Dilligan]

9. A weatherman back in the 80s in Sacramento

got caught in the men's room at Macy's engaged in piss and shit fetishism with a large (8 or 9 I think) group of guys.

I don't think most men's room sex hinges on that but rather it's just a convenient half-public/half-private anonymous and non-territorial space. Very much like space that homeless people use for (criminalized) sleeping.

[stirlingsliver]

13. Ever Hear of The "Mile High Club"??

It's much like the Mile High Club.

The thrill of having sex someplace where you just might be caught.

The thrill of having sex someplace other than in bed. (Bedroom sex night after night gets boring to some people).

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[alcibiades_mystery]

10. Why Restrict our Gay Bashing to Public Restrooms?

After all, innocent teenage boys roam all over the place in public, and could be accosted by these pervert deviants at any time. Society must be defended!

Supermarkets - If one of these perverts suggests that I like the size of a cucumber, I immediately venture to the cleaning goods aisle, break off a mop handle, and savagely thrash the pervert right there before the canteloupes, afterwhich I squeeze a couple while making eyes at some hottie in a miniskirt, cuz that's how I roll, son.

Public Park - Filled with deviant pervert homosexuals, these parks. They wink at you, or come up and ask if you want to go get some coffee - YOU! an obvious heterosexual! (Imagine what they would say to the children!) But don't be afeared, for there are plenty of sturdy tree branches around to mercilessly teach them the lesson about decency and what is acceptable in a free society!

Video Store - These deviant perverts sometimes suggest that you may like a bite to eat, just because you happened to be reading the back cover of Oklahoma! Oh, I rue the day that the homosexual agenda perverts claimed the Broadway showtune for their own, thus robbing the decent of one of the most wholesome spectacles of true Americana. Moreover, it's likely that they're making such overtures within 500 feet of the children's movies section of the store, these fucking creeps. For that, and for their unwelcome advance, it is easy enough to slam their pervert faces into the that beepy thing that goes off when you walk through it with a video. Thanks, pervert. Come again! Har har!

WARNING- None of these techniques should be attempted on those muscle boys in Chelsea, Boys Town, or the Castro. For that pack of aggressive homosexual deviants, you will have to go round up your crew, then wait for them to leave their pervert bars alone or in groups of two at most, after which you should set upon them immediately, so long as they are far enough from their freak friends to avoid getting help. Bring at least ten friends to protect the children!

:sarcasm: :sarcasm: :sarcasm:

[Binka]

12. making eyes at some hottie in a miniskirt, cuz that's how I roll, son.

You are such a fucking romantic AM. Have I told you lately that I love you :loveya:!!!!!

[stirlingsliver]

11. OMG! OMG! OMG!

Oh My God!

Are you kidding??

How violently do I avoid contact in a public bathroom??

Why, at ALL costs. (There might be homosexuals in there, you know!).

So, before I go into ANY public restroom, I first call the police.

Then I have the police check out the restroom to see if there are any homosexuals in there.

While the police are doing that, I call the police headquarters to see if the police who are searching the restroom are married to people of the opposite sex and whether they have any children.

Then I get out some duct tape and tape off the entry to the rest room. (So no homosexuals can enter while I am in there).

Then I install a little electric eye to warn me in case any homosexuals leap over the duct tape.

You can never be too careful about using a public rest room.

There might be homosexuals in there.

:sarcasm:

[Maddy McCall]

14. I don't even make eye contact.

Who goes to the BR to make friends??

[DemocratSinceBirth]

15. I Take My Glock With Me

SARCASM

[JuniperLea]

17. I don't even like posting on threads about them! eom!

[mondo joe]

18. My boss started talking to me one day while he was in a stall and I was at a urinal.

I guess I'm glad he couldn't see my WTF? face.

[BuyingThyme]

19. I would tend to agree, but the only thing that flies around here is:

All gay men naturally flock to public restrooms. Particularly before 1952.

[swimboy]

24. What a twisted creed

How did you arrive at this testimony. It is terribly wrong-headed.

[BlooInBloo]

20. I shoot people for looking at me in a bathroom - Tucker's a fucking wuss.

:rofl:

[Raejeanowl]

21. Do Women Have Bathroom Encounters?

I must be living a sheltered life. The only times my hand has crossed over was when a neighbor shared her TP with me or I with her. And I might have foot-nudged dropped keys or a toy back once or twice.

Otherwise, the most embarrassing things "going down" in there involve toddlers peeking under the divider.

ZZZzzz...

[Raine]

22. Same with me

the closest encounter was one time a woman dropped her lipstick or something like that and it rolled into my stall and I handed it back. Other than that the rare times someone asked for TP. Though one time a woman asked if anyone else was in the restroom cause her door was stuck and she couldn't get out! I went and gave it a shove from the outside so she could get out. After that we laughed abit, she said "thanks" I said "your welcome" and we went our separate ways.

[uppityperson]

33. did the toddlers tap their feet?

[Hekate]

36. I sometimes think men live on a different planet. I've passed TP to a friend whose roll was empty.

I've glanced -- quickly -- through the crack in the door so I wouldn't have to stoop down to look for feet. I've had to wedge my toddler's stroller in the doorway so I could pee and not lose sight of my baby -- kind of a problem if you are prone to "shy bladder", but better than the alternative.

But sex? How desperate is that?

Hekate

[Scairp]

41. No way

Women aren't dumb enough, or desperate enough, to resort to anonymous bathroom encounters for gay sex. I have never seen anything like that in any women's toilet, and I have been through many airports in this country, and a couple abroad. Besides, most women are hauling children into the restroom with them. Who the hell thinks about signaling the woman in the next stall for a quickie when you're traveling with a cranky two year old?

[foreigncorrespondent]

23. Oh no I have been found out!!!

You see, I am not really a violent person until I enter bathrooms, and then just watch the fuck out if you dare speak to me. :sarcasm:

underpants, you are another DUer who should know better!

[TahitiNut]

29. I doubt you peep, play footsie, and reach for total strangers in the next stall, though.

I seriously doubt that's behavior DUers engage in, regardless of sexual orientation. Or ... am I wrong and it's just not something people would admit? I sure don't equate that to ANY sexual orientation.

[foreigncorrespondent]

30. No I don't do any of that!

I like getting my kicks the usual way. But I am getting tired of the bullshit bathroom "humor" threads showing up. It isn't funny. It is a serious problem, and one which ridicule won't fix.

[TahitiNut]

32. While I wouldn't want to, I don't think there's anything particularly 'wrong' ...

... about two consenting adults "getting it on" in a bathroom, just as long as they don't scare the horses or traumatize children and old people. In my younger years, I had sexual relations in a car in parking lots, parking garages, and along the side of the highway ... as well as at work, in the office, and in other 'semi-private' situations. It wasn't particularly wise (probably illegal) ... but what the hell. But I sure draw the line at peeping, footsie and reaching for a (non-consenting) complete stranger. The fact it was in a public bathroom where people are urinating and defecating - with the genital exposure that implies - presents a context of vulnerability that provokes discomfort in many. It's NOT at all unusual for folks to resort to humor - even tasteless, clumsy humor - when envisioning such a circumstance.

At least that's how I view it - and, admittedly, I sure haven't seen everything. But I'm not 'sheltered' or naive, either. I just don't think sexual orientation is relevant - no matter how certain forces (Craig himself?) might like to emphasize such suppositions if only to smear liberals for hypocrisy in echoing such associations.

Part of the political 'spin' is obvious. The right would just love to claim that liberals are only 'tolerant' when it's another liberal. The right would LOVE to claim is ONLY about sexual orientation - when, in fact, it has little or nothing to do with that. IMHO.


When one thinks about it, there's probably no more ludicrous, awkward, and undignified activity that humans undertake than intercourse/copulation. It sure ain't ballet. Emily Post doesn't choreograph it. It's the oldest 'joke' in humanity's history. Combine it with potty jokes and it's certain to be tasteless. There's nothing new about that.

[backscatter712]

25. Never happened to me.

Maybe I just don't go to places where that is common.

Sorry to disappoint all the wannabe-badasses out there, but the worst I'd likely do is smack the stall wall and tell the creep to "BACK OFF!!!"

Nope, no Chuck Norris ass-kickings or Tucker Carlson grab-a-friend-and-bash-his-head-against-the stall tactics (Tucker's a wuss.)

Violence is something that even if I was stupid enough to want to do it, I'm not very good at, and I'd likely get my ass kicked trying. :P

More likely, I'd just keep my eyes opened, and if a particular restroom seemed too creepy, I'd go somewhere else, so any encounters probably won't happen.

[DemGa]

26. I don't even mumble hello

to co-workers or fellow students I know at school. My goal is to avoid contact with surfaces and people while there. And I must be pretty bored to be writing this. lol.

[rucky]

28. I had a guy stare at my * at a urinal and start beating off.

It was a bit shocking, but oddly enough, it didn't bother me as much as hearing about it may have.

I got out of there in a hurry, but this guy was obviously mentally ill. No lasting harm to me, but think about what he has to live with every day.

[mb7588a]

31. I'd have dropped a nice log on his shoe! nt.

[NJCher]

34. men and contact in bathrooms

Come to think of it, this bathroom signal stuff isn't news to me. I thought it was but I just remembered a guy I used to go out with in college. This was a lonnnnnng time ago, me being a boomer and all. This man was exceptionally handsome and he complained about getting hit on in men's bathrooms a lot. Now that I'm remembering and putting what he told me together with this story about Craig, I'm thinking he didn't understand some of the gestures and cues.

I remember thinking that he was the only one I had ever heard talk about it and I chalked it up to his exceptional looks. But then I started asking around, just to check it out and I did come across a few other guys who said it had happened to them now and then.

There was an academic on Tweety tonight, I think it was Tweety anyway. He studies this phenomena. He said one reason the encounters take place in men's bathrooms is that they are women-free. That didn't make a whole lot of sense to me. If anyone has thoughts on that or if anyone saw this segment and can offer more in the line of explanation, I'd like to hear it.

Another thing this source said that was interesting was that some experts in the field are positing that there might be a different breed of cat out there who just goes in for some quick sex and doesn't really think of himself as a gay person or a homosexual.

Craig might be one of those types and that would partially explain why he was so adamant about not calling himself a homosexual or gay person.



Cher

[Bright Eyes]

35. Am i the only one who NEVER goes into public restrooms?

[Hekate]

37. Yes. You are the only one with a gallon-size bladder.

:rofl:

Hekate

[DarbyUSMC]

43. No, you are not the only one. The one benefit of having

dead kidneys is that you do not forever and always have to search for public restrooms. Phew. How lucky am I? B-)

My sons are grown but when they were very young, I took them into the Ladies room rather than letting them go into the Men's room.

I may be a bit out of it age-wise on this forum, but I don't recall ever worrying about letting my little girl go into a public Ladies room.

[DesertRat]

44. I don't know how it can be avoided

I like to travel, attend major league baseball games, theaters, restaurants, etc. all which require me to be away from home for hours. How do you manage to never go into one?

[Liberal_in_LA]

38. We women go to the toilet in groups & chat while sitting in the stall. Even shout over flush.

lol

[Bluebear]

39. Violently? Only Tucker Carlson. nt

[Hubert Flottz]

40. GOP = XXX

Morality my ass!

[JVS]

42. I like to play Battleshits!

[Buns_of_Fire]

45. Never had a problem

Of course, the fact that I normally roll a tear gas canister in there shortly before I enter myself may have something to do with it. :shrug:

[L. Coyote]

46. I do not. Yesterday, when someone was waiting for a turn, I pointed to a stall and

said, "Don't worry, I didn't see any Republicans." Everyone had a good laugh!