One of my best friends ever passed on the other day. So please forgive me

[Bluzmann57]

if I babble on senselessly. I found out about it on Thursday, visitation was earlier tonight, and interment is tomorrow (Saturday). It finally hit me tonight and I am sitting here crying like a baby. I don't like crying. My friend was 48 and had a heart attack. He and I went through a lot of shit together. Good times and bad times. He was a high school dropout who went back and got his GED and then started to believe in himself. He went on to Community College, along with me, and made something of himself. Yes, we did drugs, drank alcohol and smoked cigarettes. Yes we were womanizers. He wasn't perfect. None of us are. I am going to miss him. I already do. RIP my brother Tom.
I apologize for the ridiculous babbling in this post. I am weeping even more as I write this. Thank you all for understanding. I hope DUers will understand. I think you all will.

[Arugula Latte]

1. I'm so sorry ...

Your reaction is perfectly understandable. What a shock.

:hug:

[Maat]

2. RIP, Tom.

Healing and comforting energy to you, Bluzmann57.

Both of you were lucky to experience such a friendship.

He transitioned to a higher, peaceful place.

DU grouphug for Bluzmann57.

:grouphug:

[CaliforniaPeggy]

3. My dear Bluzmann57...

Of course you're crying...

You have a heart, and it has been broken by your friend's death...

I wish you happy memories as time passes...

Please take care of yourself...

:hug:

[Botany]

4. The more you loved someone the more it will hurt

Your tears let you know that you had a real friend.

[gateley]

5. I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm sure Tom realized how much you treasured

your friendship. Be gentle with yourself during this difficult time.

[nadinbrzezinski]

6. Here you go

:grouphug:

[Swede]

7. No apologies are needed,my friend.

We've all been there.

[man4allcats]

8. Best to you, Bluzmann, during this very difficult time.

I am sorry for your sadness and your loss. I lost two of my brothers to heart disease when they were in their forties. I know how hard it can be to lose someone close, especially if they were still quite young. Take care.

[Bluzmann57]

9. I also wish to add this...

I certainly do not want to burden any of you. I just really needed to unload. DU is a pretty good forum to do that. So once again, thank you to all of you. BTW, Tom was an avid Union man and Democrat.

[Breeze54]

10. I'm so sorry for your very painful loss, Bluzmann57...

:cry: You're making me cry with you.

Bringing up memories of the friends I have lost over the years...

It's really painful and heartbreaking and sad and you have every right

to cry and you should!! :hug: It's normal to cry, even for men!!

Men who don't cry, ever, scare the hell out of me! You have a heart!

Don't be ashamed for showing your emotions or caring...ever!!

That's what makes us human. :hug:

My deepest sympathies to you. :(

[TomInTib]

11. Time is a Quiet Train

Sneaks up on us and sweeps us off the tracks.

But you and your friend enjoyed the moment(s).

Cherish all of those times.

Weep for a while...

But those Treasures are yours to hold.

What can we do with our Days but hope and pray...

[WinkyDink]

12. {{{Bluzmann57 and friend Tom}}} ~~~Please accept my sincere sympathy.

My best friend (56) died suddenly 2 years ago, and I found great comfort in the kind words from my Internet friends, though I didn't know them.
I hope you can, as well.

[Dystopian]

13. So very sorry for your loss....

Lifelong friends are rare....True friends are priceless.

peace~

[PsN2Wind]

14. Take comfort in remembering the "good times"

you shared with your good friend.

[Booster]

15. I understand. I recently lost the last of my old drinking buddies

whom I've known for over 35 years. There were 5 of us that met almost on a daily basis and had a drink or two (or more); I am the only one left and it's a daunting feeling. Sometimes you can be closer to good friends than your own family because they know the real you - not the face you put on for the families sake - the real you. I'm sorry for your loss - it really hurts to lose a good friend.:hug:

[saracat]

16. I am so sorry Bluzmann57.I know how you feel.I lost a friend recently as well.It seems the good ones

are leaving us. But they are in a better place, and will be watching out for us. Treasure those memories and be grateful to have had such a friend. RIP Tom, and peace to you Bluzmann57!

[emilyg]

17. So sorry for your loss.

[uppityperson]

18. So sorry bluzmann. It can be very diffcult and it just can be hard.

My Mr just lost a friend suddenly (was 50) and I a work mate (mid 50's) recently. It is just hard and best wishes to you and all.

[KT2000]

19. This is sad

that he died so young and you lost your friend.
You guys really lived life together! May your many memories comfort you.

[sandnsea]

20. Guys - get your hearts checked

My husband was 49, had heartburn and was feeling nauseated. Turns out he was having a heart attack, needed 2 stints. A few weeks later, my kids' friends lost their dad. Right around 50. I think men don't realize that there is a huge incident of fatal coronaries in men that age. The cardiologist said there's a specific artery involved, and you don't really get symptoms until you get the heart attack. So please listen to this if you are approaching 50, and just go get the tests.

Sorry for your loss. :hug:

[melody]

21. Losing a best friend can be the same as losing family

I've lost both and one hurt just as badly as the other.

Give yourself lots of time and space. Give yourself a break. Don't make too many demands
of yourself. Do to yourself as you'd tell your friend to do, if the situations were switched.