Women In Their Sexual Peak Scare Most Men... To Younger Girls

[trumad]

First let me make this perfectly clear---- I've never had this problem! ;-)

Among the universe's cruel ironies—pretty much anything having to do with puberty, say, or the career arc of Michael Bay—this has to be near the top of the heap: Women typically hit their sexual stride in their mid-thirties, just as many guys the same age are pulling up lame with the equivalent of a sex-drive charley horse.

Okay, the sprinting metaphor is a bit much, but you get the idea. Guys experience a huge surge of testosterone during adolescence, but by their late twenties, that jolt is already on the wane. A few years later, women are finally ready to join the party.

Does it get any crueler?

And this situation may be more acute than ever.

"There are a lot of very attractive women in their thirties not getting the sex they want," says Pepper Schwartz, a professor of sociology at the University of Washington in Seattle and author of Prime: Adventures and Advice on Sex, Love,
and the Sensual Years. "And it happens as the relationship matures."

Schwartz notes that it can be an off-putting experience for some men—conditioned for years to initiate sex—when their partners are suddenly making the first move. And the second. And the twelfth.

"Men are used to cajoling and seducing, they are used to doing things on their own erotic schedules," says Schwartz. "This often teaches him about his own sexuality—that he's not as omnivorous as he thought." Then something truly bizarre occurs. "Men can get hurt, too, and find women pushy."
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[no_hypocrisy]

1. That's interesting. In my thirties, I was turning down offers from guys who

were six to seven years younger than me. They found my "experience" and confidence to be alluring and women their age to be frivolous by comparison.

[blondeatlast]

31. I married one of them 11 years ago and we've been quite content ever since! nt

[papau]

2. LOL - I suspect it is just fear of being rated 20th on the best in bed scale of the

older lady's last 20 lovers.

:-)

[RainDog]

3. huh?

I have NEVER met a man who was upset if a woman was the one initiating sex. Just the opposite, in fact. And while my experience is not enough to provide a valid statistical sample, that has never been my experience either.

but maybe that's because I would never choose a conservative partner. I wonder if she asked the men to take tests to determine if they have "authoritarian" povs rather than liberal/libertarian ones.

[Clark2008]

4. Mid-thirties here.

My husband is a bit younger. Ahem.

Oh - did I mention I have newborn? We all know where they come from. LOL.

[Omphaloskepsis]

6. OMFG.. Nice image selection.. Or is the 8 year old....

kissing the baby part of your sig?

edit :: looks like part of the sig.. I thought it was a picture of the husband and newborn..

[trumad]

13. ROTF

that's funny.

[mainegreen]

5. Men find this to be a problem?

Hunh?

[Spinzonner]

7. More of this Hornier than Thou nonsense ?

[The Vinyl Ripper]

8. Very attractive women not getting the sex they want?

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[rooboy]

9. I know a LOT of women in their mid 30's...

two in particular:

one left her husband for lack of sex and ended up in a wild sexual affair with one of my friends.

the other one demanded daily sex from her husband and eventually left him as well, but not before she got mixed up in a crazy affair with a 'kid' of 21 who dumped her once he'd had enough.

In both cases (definitely in one), although there was an insatiable need for sex, the real need was for intimacy... both women seem to have since settled down quite dramatically since they realised they were fighting loneliness. I don't believe you could do the things I see some of these girls get up to without there being a large proportion of emotional issues lying underneath.

Other women I know who are emotionally very stable and/or in good relationships didn't seem to have the same drive.

[RainDog]

12. soooo

are you saying that women who have strong libidos are somehow emotionally unstable?

that's the gist of your statement from the only examples you provide.

well, hell, if that's the case, I longer fear insanity. :rofl:

[NC_Nurse]

10. I hooked up with my current husband when I was in my 30's, he was 22.

We were quite compatible in every way. Still are. ;)

[BoneDaddy]

11. Damn

My sex drive is still pretty darn healthy then.

[lateo]

14. I don't buy it.

Men will have sex with pretty much anything. And to be honest I would rather get pounced on by a woman who knows what she wants than one too shy to young to know what she wants.

[Red Zelda]

15. "very attractive women in their thirties" ?????

ROFL. No such thing.

[Le Taz Hot]

32. I'm sure you meant to put a

:sarcasm: and yes, its so crazy around here with the older woman bashing lately I, for one, would be more comforted to know you meant to put one there.

Thanks,

[riqster]

16. Statistics, like Scripture, can be used to make a case for anything one wishes

In my 30's my libido hadn't diminished at all, and my wife's had. (For that matter, as I approach 50, I still haven't traded in sex for a favorite chair.)

Sounds like somebody had a desired result and made the numbers fit.

[BlooInBloo]

18. Stupidity is required in the former case, unlike the latter.

[supernova]

17. 30s?! How about 40s?!!!

You think we fall off the face of the earth after 39?

We deserve great sex too, you know. :grr:

[BlooInBloo]

19. Pfftt. Like anyone would consider having sex with a woman in her 40s...

:hide:


Totally kidding of, course. :) Two of my three personal examples of insatiable-woman were in their 40s. Older women DEFINITELY offer the benefit of actually actively *contributing* to the experience - not shy & all that. Some younger girls do too, but it's not common in my experience.

[supernova]

21. That's what I'm talking about

I've never been more interested in sex, and it's a pity I've no one to spend it on right now.

I remember a long ago conversation w/ my brother. I was in college; he was early 30s. I remember saying something like "you expect us to just lie there, like a mannequin?" And he essentially said "yes." Wierd, I thought. But he's way more conservative than me. :-)

[BlooInBloo]

23. OMFG - there's a guy who *liked* the "limp bag of sand" partner? That's freakish. lol!

[supernova]

29. I thought so, even

at the time I was still a virgin, I was thinking :wtf:

I just want someone who will treat me like a real human being. Is that too much to ask?

[Atman]

27. My wife went crazy when she hit forty

Forties have been a blast so far! No kids around (we planned that right!), the money to go do the stuff we want -- it's makes all the difference in the world. In fact, every woman her age that we know is a total MILF...and, ahem...yeah, I'd like to!

.

[BlooInBloo]

30. :) I started seeing my divorced boss who had an 18 yo kid...

... In effect a similar responsibility-free situation as yours. Looking back on it, I can't believe I was able to keep up with her. Good times, good times. :rofl:

[THUNDER HANDS]

20. what exactly does "sexual peak" mean?

that they enjoy it more?

that they enjoy it at all?


that they start getting kinky?

5 more years, 5 more years.....

[Cessna Invesco Palin]

22. I'm 28.

My girlfriend is 34. I am one happy monkey.

[GliderGuider]

24. I have taken as my motto Donald Sutherland's line from "Space Cowboys"

"I have devoted my life to helping women explore their infinite capacity for orgasm."

Women in their 40's totally rock. And any man who relies on testosterone rather than dopamine for their sex drive is missing most of the point (as well as an extra 40 years of joyous fun).

[Katherine Brengle]

25. Ew.

"Men are used to cajoling and seducing, they are used to doing things on their own erotic schedules," says Schwartz. "This often teaches him about his own sexuality—that he's not as omnivorous as he thought." Then something truly bizarre occurs. "Men can get hurt, too, and find women pushy."

Maybe we should stop teaching men to "cajole and seduce" and stop perpetuating ridiculous gender-based sex roles.

[BlooInBloo]

28. Yes. Women should speak up to the contrary, and explain to men what they like and not.

[gatorboy]

26. How's that Ronnie McDowell song go?

:)

[The2ndWheel]

33. Do I have to sign up for that somewhere? Is there a line I'm missing?

A lottery that I don't know about? What's wrong with pushy? Why did that question sound so dirty?