Stacey has lost her fight. (OMC's post from the Lounge)

[SeattleGirl]

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=show_mesg&forum=105&topic_id=6991801&mesg_id=6991801


:cry:

[KitchenWitch]

1. I was just going to post this...

Thanks!

:cry:

[nadinbrzezinski]

2. RIP

[jgraz]

3. I've been trying to prepare for this post, but I still feel like someone kicked me in the gut

:cry:

[motocicleta]

34. Me too.

Those little boys ... poor OMC.

[BrklynLib at work]

42. Exactly...

[roguevalley]

76. I agree. This is the saddest thing I've seen on here in a long time.

What a terrible, awful outcome.

[southerncrone]

4. So sorry to hear this.

OMC must be devastated.

May she be as delightful on the other side, as she was here. Love never dies.:grouphug:

[snowbear]

5. Thank you for the notice SeattleGirl...

I placed a note on the thread that you provided.

Thank you.

[grace0418]

6. I am heartsick.

I wish I could hug OMC right now.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

7. You know, I did expect this...

And I was still shocked...

:cry:

:hug:

[Lucinda]

8. Thank you for posting - I was just going to look for an update

My prayers are with their friends and family

[Mabus]

57. Same here

:cry:

[Breeze54]

9. Damn....

There's nothing I can say to ease your pain, OMC.

This is just so sad. :( She's out of pain now.... I'm so sorry for your loss, OMC. :hug:

http://www.beyondindigo.com/candles/index.php">Ease Your Grief & Light A Candle for Stacy
For centuries, in almost every religious and secular culture, lighting candles has been a symbol of hope and remembrance. Please light a virtual candle in memory of someone you lost, in hope for someone you know is hurting, or just to send a comforting message to someone special. To light your candle, just follow these three easy steps:

[candymarl]

94. Thank You for the link. Done.

For those Stacey left behind my heart goes out to you. She also left behind her love and her light. Blessings to you all.

[orleans]

10. shit! (i appreciate the link) n/t

[pansypoo53219]

11. damn.

damn.
i know how he feels. ALMOST. but it ALWAYS suck to lose someone you love. and so young. i don't know if it is better how young the kids are or worse.

may he have much better days.

[DianaForRussFeingold]

12. I'm so sorry!

I know I never met her ,but I love her... :cry:

[Hekate]

13. Thank you, SeattleGirl, for seeing that this gets seen here.

[Lindsey]

19. I saw that little video he had a few days ago and she really seemed so

sweet - God - how incredibly sad:cry: It's so hard to understand this. I do believe very strongly that she's in a wonderful place now - a place we can only imagine. God be with OMC and their young boys....What a sad time..there's just nothing else to say....

[flamingyouth]

14. RIP, Stacey.

:cry:

[pnwmom]

15. Thanks, SeattleGirl. n/t

[Breeze54]

16. ....

dupe

[EFerrari]

17. Thank you for letting us know.

Thank you so much.

:hug:

[lovuian]

18. May the angels treasure her so sorry for your loss

[DianaForRussFeingold]

22. That is so beautiful...Sort of looks like Stacey.. made me think of this song..

:hug: Would you know my name if I saw you in heaven?
Would it be the same if I saw you in heaven?
I must be strong and carry on
'Cause I know I don't belong here in heaven

Would you hold my hand if I saw you in heaven?
Would you help me stand if I saw you in heaven?
I'll find my way through night and day
'Cause I know I just can't stay here in heaven

Time can bring you down; time can bend your knees
Time can break your heart, have you begging please, begging please

Beyond the door there's peace I'm sure
And I know there'll be no more tears in heaven

Would you know my name if I saw you in heaven?
Would it be the same if I saw you in heaven?
I must be strong and carry on
'Cause I know I don't belong here in heaven
'Cause I know I don't belong, here in heaven :cry:
The Choirboys- Tears in Heaven http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uvLAZ51Wsq8&mode=related&search= -- Eric Clapton - Tears in Heaven http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VRsJlAJvOSM

[SeattleGirl]

25. That is such a beautiful song.

:cry:

[DianaForRussFeingold]

30. I know I can't stop crying

:hug: I sang that song day and night when my dad died... :cry:

[FloridaJudy]

20. I was afraid of this

Damn, it hurts.

[dailykoff]

21. I am very sorry to hear this.

:grouphug:

[Disturbed]

27. I rarely post on these sort of situations and feel guilty about it.

I just don't know what to say, aside from what others say. I did not know OMC, except for reading his posts, so I don't feel personally connected to him. I can imagine that this is horrible for him and his kids. As a member of this Online Community I feel that it is the right thing to post support for other members. I don't know if when he reads the posts directed to him that they bring a measure of solace to him or not. At a time as this,I don't know if anything can.

[Tsiyu]

23. Hey checking in to see what's up and this...damn

Will go check the thread you linked. Thanks SG for letting us know in GD.

Very, very sad and disheartening news.


I wish for hope and peace for OMC and his family.

[NorthernSpy]

24. I am so sorry.

:cry:

[saracat]

26. I was so sad to see this. Blessings and comfort to all.

[Pachamama]

28. This was a post I had hoped not to see....I am so sad for OMC and his two little boys...

:cry:

I prayed daily and visualized her healing....she was so young....Now we all need to pray for OMC and his sons... :grouphug:

[CitizenLeft]

29. I'm so very sorry for your loss...

...and I saw that you have 2 sweet little ones, too. I wish you all strength and love to get you through tonight and all the days to come.

[Hissyspit]

31. Peace.

[Raksha]

32. Kicking for OMC and Stacey, because not everyone on GD

comes to the Lounge.

[donheld]

33. I'm so sorry for this loss

It's such a tragedy. OMC and the boys will be in my heart and my mind.

[Liberal In Texas]

35. Deepest condolences.

:cry:

[Mushroom]

36. oh no!

no words

[progressoid]

37. Peace to you and your family.

[Triana]

38. OMG - deepest condolences to OMC and his boys....

...I was afraid of this, but still hoping she'd pull through.

:(

[GreatCaesarsGhost]

39. i'm very sorry to hear that.

[Canuckistanian]

40. Thanks for posting

Terrible news.

[BrklynLib at work]

41. The sad end of a valiant fight...

So much love. So much sadness.

:cry:

Farewell
~ Anne Bronte

Farewell to thee! but not farewell
To all my fondest thoughts of thee:
Within my heart they still shall dwell;
And they shall cheer and comfort me.
O, beautiful, and full of grace!
If thou hadst never met mine eye,
I had not dreamed a living face
Could fancied charms so far outvie.

If I may ne'er behold again
That form and face so dear to me,
Nor hear thy voice, still would I fain
Preserve, for aye, their memory.

That voice, the magic of whose tone
Can wake an echo in my breast,
Creating feelings that, alone,
Can make my tranced spirit blest.

[Evergreen Emerald]

43. I am so very sorry.

You have been in my thoughts and prayers.

[ChazII]

44. What DU can do for the family is

purchase a star. A friend of mine has a daughter whose classmate recently passed away from a brain tumor. The child was a third grader. Her classmates bought a star so the family (and the students) could look up at the night sky and know she was watching over them. This might help OMC's children.

[Lost4words]

45. This is very sad....

[CTyankee]

46. Words of Stanley Kunitz I just discovered yesterday.

It's from his poem "The Testing-Tree":

"In a murderous time
the heart breaks and breaks
and lives by breaking.
It is necessary to go
through dark and deeper dark
and not to turn."

[Cha]

66. That's true and

sad. I'm so sorry this has to be the test for OMC and his family, now.

RIP Stacey O8) :grouphug:

[CTyankee]

71. I understand this quote was also said at the end of Angels in America.

Kind of fitting.

Stacey's story is a true tragedy. This is an instance where I want to yell "This is UNFAIR!"

[Cha]

77. Ohhh, thank you

for that and this poem. I sent it to myself in an email so I can have it, too. :(

[CTyankee]

86. Here is one I sent to a dear friend who lost her husband unexpectedly:

"By a departing light
We see acuter, quite,
Than by a wick that stays.
There's something in the flight
That clarifies the sight
And decks the rays."


It is by Emily Dickinson.

Someone once said that art always saves you. I find that poetry and music can be extremely helpful. When my brother died suddenly I was the only one to make final arrangements, which kept me too busy to grieve. When I returned to my home in CT my husband played Brahms "Requiem" and I let the tears flow, especially during the beautiful section "How Lovely is Thy Dwelling Place." If you are in mourning, I recommend it highly.

[Cha]

89. Thank you so much, CTyankee!~

I was in mourning starting in '97 when I lost my Mom unexpectedly, but I knew nothing and didn't handle it right..looking back I can how wrong I was to react in the self destructive way I did..that why the first poem you gave resonated so well.

And, in the future we will all lose someone unless we go first so I'm going to keep these poems handy. Listening to Chris Rea's "Auberge" right now which is about getting one's priorities straight(it's ten years old but I looked him up and he had cancer)..it's very heartwarming and uplifting.

[MissDeeds]

47. So very sorry

Prayers to OMC and family at this terrible time.

[madrchsod]

48. "sorrowful angels wept into their wings.... "

[myrna minx]

49. I am so sorry.

:hug:

[Kajsa]

50. Thank you , SeattleGirl.

Thanks for the link to OMC's thread. :hug:

I'm at a loss for words now.

:cry:

[helderheid]

51. I'm at a loss for words

:cry:

We love you OMC

[DemExpat]

52. So saddened by this news.

Love to OMC and his children.


:cry:

DemEx

[sinkingfeeling]

53. There are no words. How tragic. I'm so very sorry for OMC's loss.

[Vidar]

54. Vaya con dios, Stacey.

[librechik]

55. Goodbye, Stacey. Go in peace.

you will be well remembered.

:kick:

God bless you and yours, OMC.

[snappyturtle]

56. I'm so sad and so sorry to hear this dreadful news.

May OMC and family find strength from what Stacey taught them during her brief stay on this Earth. Peace to the family.

[rox63]

58. Prayers and healing light to OMC and family

This is so sad... :cry:
OMC, this is for you and the boys, from your DU family: :grouphug:

[pacalo]

59. I'm so sorry.

It's very apparent through OMC's words that Stacey was a special presence among those who were fortunate enough to know her, but anyone who could write such a heartfelt testimony about how much he appreciated and loved her inner beauty is just as special, because his beautiful words have affected those who weren't as fortunate to have known Stacey.

Peace and strength be with you and your two young sons, OMC.

[Auntie Bush]

60. You write so elequantly...you should write a book for bereaved families.

Here is my favorite poem that I found so helpful during my time of great personal bereavement. It's very popular so you may have already read it...but it's a poem you could read regularly and still find comfort.

God Bless you and your family and may your wife watch over you and guide you for the rest of your lives. She will be there when you need her! Please believe that as I do with all my heart and have had many experiences receiving messages from beyond...and I was an Agnostic at the time. Believe an listen and watch and you will know what I'm talking about. They are there...watching over you! God Bless you all.

I have one bit of advice...cry your darn eyes out till there ate no more tears and don't try to hold them in for the sake of the children. It will give then permission to cry too and everyone will heal faster, better and longer. I'm crying too for you and your pain. :cry:

Here's the poem.


Do not stand at my grave and weep.

Do not stand at my grave and weep,
I am not there, I do not sleep.

I am a thousand winds that blow.
I am the diamond glint on snow.
I am the sunlight on ripened grain.
I am the gentle autumn rain.

When you wake in the morning hush,
I am the swift, uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circling flight.
I am the soft starlight at night.

Do not stand at my grave and weep.
I am not there, I do not sleep.
(Do not stand at my grave and cry.
I am not there, I DID NOT DIE!
Mary Frye (1932)

[sleepyhead]

110. Do not stand at my grave and weep

I thought of this poem too. It has comforted me before. Tears are healing. So sorry, OMC.

[calimary]

61. I'm so sorry to hear this, but thank you for letting us know.

So sad.

A hard time. There's a former DJ from the first station where I worked who is now dying of complications from Hepatitis C. She's been taken off the transplant list because her heart is so weakened she's no longer considered a reasonable candidate. The family and the rest of us are on a death watch, 'cause it's pretty inevitable at this point.

So sad. I'm so sorry to hear this. Say some extra prayers today, guys. To help the new angel get settled and her family find comfort.

[tandot]

62. Thanks for letting us know. I posted on OMC's thread.

This is devastating.

[SharonRB]

63. This is just so, so sad

Thanks for posting this. I'll go over there.

[spanone]

64. ...

:grouphug:

[Kadie]

65. Our thoughts and prayers

Our thoughts and prayers are with OMC and family.

:cry:

[youthere]

67. I am so sorry.

[MasonJar]

68. I am so sorry and thinking of you with tears, sympathy and prayers.

[libnnc]

69. I don't know what to say...

OMC, I'm so, so sorry.

:cry:

[stellanoir]

70. People are discussing how we can best help out. . .

In the lounge

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=view_all&address=105x6992634

[Raffi Ella]

72. I'm so sorry OMC

SO very sorry this happened.My heart aches for you and your family.

[colorado_ufo]

73. RIP

[rubberducky]

74. I`m so, so sad for OMC and family. 34 is way too young to leave us.

W all grieve with you OMC. Lean on this little community here. We`ll all be here for you:grouphug:

[shaniqua6392]

75. Blessings and peace

to OMC and his children. How unbearable this must be for them.

[blondeatlast]

78. May she be at peace. God bless you and your family, OMC. nt

[Catherine Vincent]

79. I am so sorry.

She fought the good fight. May she rest in peace. :-(

[Arugula Latte]

80. I'm so sorry to hear this.

:cry:

[me b zola]

81. ...

:hug:

[phylla]

82. What a shame. A beautiful woman lost too soon.

My deepest sympathy.

[sazemisery]

83. Love and peace, OMC, from me to your family

[BlooInBloo]

84. Aw jeez. I'm so sorry OMC. :(

[AZ Criminal JD]

85. Prayers are with you OMC n/t

[sickinohio]

87. how very very sad.

:cry:
I am so sorry for your loss. Prayers to you and your precious children.

[Squatch]

88. Crap. Sorry to hear this, OMC.

[LibDemAlways]

90. There is a lot of truth to the adage that all too often

the best among us are taken much too soon. I join all DUers in extending heartfelt condolences to OMC and his children, and hope that the support he finds here helps comfort him and bring him peace.

[ChiciB1]

91. We Haven't Posted Much, But I've Seen Many Postings Of Yours SO As A Part

of the DU family I simply want to express my deepest sympathy. I myself understand your shock and grief and words don't fill the immense loneliness. Time DOES help, but you NEVER NEVER forget.

I was once given a poem called "Miss Me, But Let Me Go" but have tucked it away with my memories. It is short, beautiful and insightful. It's so very difficult to watch a loved one suffer, but so very hard to let go.

I send you strength and blessings.

[otherlander]

92. Damn.

"This is the end,
beautiful friend.
This is the end,
my only friend, the end.

Of our elaborate plans, the end
Of everything that stands, the end
No safety or surprise, the end
I'll never look into your eyes...again"

:cry:

[lumberjack_jeff]

93. Dammit. I'll have to read this later. Not yet. n/t

[Solly Mack]

95. I'm so sorry, OMC.

I can't imagine...


I wish for you strength and healing.

[AwakeAtLast]

96. {{{{{OMC}}}}}

:hug:

:cry:

:hug:

[thetaoofterri]

97. I am so very sorry for your loss.

You and your family are in my prayers.

[frogmarch]

98. So sad

I went to OMC's DU journal and watched and listened to him sing to Stacey on their wedding day. I was deeply moved by it.

I'm profoundly sorry that Stacey didn't make it.

[Niccolo_Macchiavelli]

99. Requiescat in pace

be at peace Stacy

i'm sorry for us all, most of all for OMC and his kids who are at the epicentre of pain. I'm really sorry.

:hangover:

[Redstone]

100. How nice of you to post it here in GD. That might provide him that many more

messages of support, which I am sure would be good for him.

Not that ANYTHING will really make him feel better, not for a long time, but I am sure he appreciates all the support he's gotten from DUers in his time of trial.

SG, you're a peach.

Redstone

[Cameron27]

101. I'm so sorry OMC,

peace and comfort to you and your children, and RIP Stacey.:grouphug:

[stlsaxman]

102. i am so sorry to hear of your loss, OMC

:cry:

[abq e streeter]

103. I am saddened beyond words

You will be in my prayers.

[lonestarnot]

104. Oh I'm so sorry OMC.

:hug: :cry: :grouphug:

[SmokingJacket]

105. Hugs to you.

I wish I could take some of the pain from you.

[Ken Burch]

106. So sorry to hear.

n/t.

[bronxiteforever]

107. Peace and sympathy to OMC and his children

[Felinity]

108. I am so sorry.

Alongside the deepest grief, there lives the deepest joy; they both abide in the truest part of us. They both honor the connection of surrender.

May the joy your loved one brought you live forever within you, and the grief subside.

[Gman]

109. Oh, no.

Not good.

Prayers for OMC and Stacy.

[Stump]

111. I don't know what to say...

I will be praying for you during this most difficult time.

[CelticWinter]

112. My deepest sympathies to OMC and family

I am by no means a religous person but I have found great comfort throughout the years in this poem. I wish you share it with you.

I'm Free

Don't grieve for me, for now I'm free

I'm following the path God laid for me.

I took His hand when I heard him call;

I turned my back and left it all.

I could not stay another day,

To laugh, to love, to work or play.

Tasks left undone must stay that way;

I found that place at the close of day.

If my parting has left a void,

Then fill it with remembered joy.

A friendship shared a laugh, a kiss;

Ah yes, these things, I too will miss.

Be not burdened with times of sorrow

I wish you the sunshine of tomorrow.

My life's been full, I savored much;

Good friends, good times, a loved ones touch.

Perhaps my time seems all to brief;

Don't lengthen it now with undue grief.

Lift up your heart and share with me,

God wanted me now, He set me free.

~© Linda Jo Jackson~

[earthboundmisfit]

113. ...

:cry:
Hearts go out to you, OMC

[debbierlus]

114. Here is a favorite quote about love enduring....

i carry your heart with me,
i carry it in my heart and i'm never without it.
anywhere i go, you go, my dear.
and whatever is done, by only me, is your doing, my darling.
i fear no fear for you are my fate, my sweet.
i want no world for beautiful, you are my world my true.
it's you or whatever a moon has always meant,
and whatever a sun will always sing is you.
here is the deepest secret nobody knows
here is the root of the root and the bud of the bud
and the sky of the tree called life
which grows higher and higher than the soul can hope or mind can hide
and this is the wonder that is keeping the stars apart
i carry your heart,
i carry it in my heart.

[Blue Fire]

115. We need to be there as best we can for OMC and his two young boys.

I certainly can't imagine the pain and sorrow he feels. Only anyone here who has lost a spouse under such tragic circumsatances can understand.
Let us be there for him and his kids. For as long as it takes.
:grouphug:

[1620rock]

117. ...the great wheel turns...the circle of life...sometimes it breaks our

hearts. :grouphug:

[Rex]

116. RIP

:cry:

[Reciprocity]

118. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

[Digit]

119. I am at a loss for words.

Rest in peace, Stacey.

:cry:

[LaStrega]

120. No words. I'm off to hug my daughter and kiss my new kittens. And cry. n/t

[erinlough]

121. OMC my thoughts are with you

Thank you for thinking enough of us to include us in this time in your life. It says alot about how much you cared. Having lost many in my family this year I sympathize greatly with your loss. I'm so sorry for your loss.

[Radio_Lady]

122. Echoes of my husband's past. I am lighting a candle for Stacey and Lee...

who both died in the month of October.

Name Birth Death Last Residence Last Benefit SSN Issued

LEE XXXXXXXX 28 Aug 1937 Oct 1971 020-XX-XXXX Massachusetts

Had my stepchildren's mother lived, she would have turned 70 last August.

She died at 34, of stomach cancer.