Came back from Funeral home today

[Highway61]

I met OMC and introduced myself. He was so grateful that I came. I feel so sorry for him as he is still in shock. Stacey was so young and beautiful...I did not realize she was diagnosed in JUNE. WTF!!!...the chemo knocked her immune system and she caught a "cold"...went to pneumonia and here we are.
He wanted me to thank you all for your prayers and support...obviously there was a LOT! He was amazed at the outpouring of love. You folks are awesome, he really needed that. I lost my daughter at age 20 just 4 years ago so I know first hand what he is going through. It's when the dust settles,the cards have all been read and folks go on with their own lives is when it will hit him. Believe me I know. Continue your support for him down the road, he's going to need it.
He also mentioned how he perhaps made some people here dislike him....I told him to not be ridiculous and not even go there.
A statement on that from me...we all here have different views on things and that's what makes us unique. We all agree to disagree. And ya know what? Different isn't always BAD..it's just different.
I'll check back later. Thank you all again...your love and support made a difference to this young man you were there when he needed you the most. You can all be proud of that. It was so very very sad this afternoon...I won't forget the look in his eyes any time soon.

[TomInTib]

1. Bless you.

What a wonderful thing for you to do.

[Lucinda]

43. You said exactly what I thought as soon as I read the post.

Highway61, ya did a really good thing. Thank you.

[GreenPartyVoter]

2. Thanks for letting us know how he is doing during this very difficult time.

[midnight]

3. How wonderful of you to go and show support....

[TwilightGardener]

4. How kind of you to go--glad someone could represent DU in person!

[saracat]

5. Thank You Highway61. This was a very lovely thing for you to do.

I lit a candle for Stacey at the website. I was so sorry to hear of this passing.I am glad you were able to give DU condolences to OMC.Many times I have not agreed with him but many times I have.It is strange how we all become a "family" on DU, though we have never met. I pray that OMC and his two lovely boys will be granted peace and assurance that they were loved.God Bless them all.

[applegrove]

6. Thank you for going. I'm sure it meant the world to him.

[monmouth]

7. What a lovely thing to do, I know first-hand how he feels.

[Jeanette in FL]

8. How sweet of you

That was such a kind gesture. I am sure that OMC appreciated that immensely. Thank you for representing those of us who are too far to be there in person, though we will be there in spirit.

Thanks also for reminding us of the loneliness that will hit him when the dust settles. There is always so much to do in the beginning and there is no time to think at all.

[gademocrat7]

9. How very thoughtful of you.

Thank you. I am keeping OMC and his family in my prayers.

[Warpy]

10. Thank you for going

I hope the kids got to say goodbye.

I wish I could make it all better, but only time will do that.

Thank you for saying what we couldn't be there to say.

[young_at_heart]

11. It's people like you that make me want to stay with DU

There have been many times over the years when I've wanted to just give up----I feel so hopeless about everything since W took over. Your humanity and goodness are a true inspiration to those of us who feel "lost". Thank you so much! OMC's story has been beyond heartbreaking.

[yellerpup]

12. Thank you for sharing your strength

with OMC. My sympathy for the loss of your daughter. You must have a huge heart.

[NMDemDist2]

13. glad you cross posted this

you really are a dear heart :hug:

[roguevalley]

14. poor guy. I am so glad you went to see him. You went for all of us.

[Gregorian]

15. We all understand.

We're Democrats. We know the pain is great. Loss and suffering. This is what we are here for. Life does this. It leaves us empty. It leaves us sad. Sometimes. It's these times when we rely on being one.

I've been going through my days, not even knowing this man and his family, and having to hold back the tears. Do you know what that means? We understand. And that won't make it easier. But it will be worth something.

[question everything]

16. Thank you

The only thing that I "disliked" was the unbelievable nightmare that both of them were faced.

He wrote very eloquently and each one of us, who read his posts, could really feel the pain and the despair.

I hope that he continues to come to DU. It appeared that it provided some kind of respite for him, a place where he could pour his heart and soul and still feel safe and secure.

Yes, after the days of support for a bereaved friend and a family member, most of us go back to our regular busy lives, but here, someone will always be to talk to him.

[JohnnyLib2]

17. Thank you.

[emilyg]

18. Thank you.

[fed-up]

19. thanks for sending some DU love in person-hugs to all nt

[GardeningGal]

20. For the first time I can remember

I actually wish I lived in the east so I could have attended. Thank you for going and helping him through this time. I'm also sorry for your loss. It's always difficult to lose someone we love but it seems more amplified when it is unexpected and a young person.

[abq e streeter]

21. i hope there will be information soon

regarding an idea I saw posted about setting up a fund to help OMC out financially. I don't have a lot of money, and probably a lot of people here are in the same boat, but if lots of DUers were able to contribute a little bit each, it might be a big help to him....Also, I'm so sorry to hear about your daughter; I lost my mom to breast cancer when I was a teenager so I can relate. Life does go on, and I'm guessing that with all your pain and sadness, you've still regained the ability to feel happiness and laughter ( please forgive me if I'm being inappropriately presumptuous here); I certainly have, as did my dad... and OMC will someday too. God bless both of you.

[liberalhistorian]

41. Maybe a fund for both OMC and Mrs.Grumpy?

I think that's a wonderful idea of yours, and maybe we should include MrsGrumpy as well? She and OMC both lost young spouses within the past month, and both have young children. She is in as much shock and pain as OMC, as you can imagine; what a heartbreaking, terrible coincidence that this happened to both of them within such a short time (her husband had a sudden, massive heart attack at 38!).

Maybe we could start something for both of them? How about it, DUers? Let's put our money where our mouths are!!!!

[abq e streeter]

44. can't take credit for the idea

someone on an earlier thread mentioned his financial difficulties including possibly losing his home , and suggested that DUers could help. I'm pretty new here and was not familiar with either OMC or Mrs grumpy but the fact that they're here means they're people who are allies in the fight to reclaim our country, so I feel a bond with them just for that. I'm a profoundly disorganized person, but if someone who actually has their act together can organize a fund to help these people if they're truly in need, and it sounds like they are, I'm willing to do my small part in throwing a few dollars their way ( and a few is really all I can afford myself, but as I said, a few dollars times a lot of people might make a difference.)

[Ilsa]

22. Thank you for going and being there to help him. nt

[BrklynLiberal]

23. Thank you so much for representing us, and sharing your love and strength with OMC and his family.

I am sorry about your losing your daughter. It was wonderful of you to reach out thru your pain to comfort OMC.

[Dorian Gray]

24. Very nice of you to go...

The loss of his wife is very sad, and though I know he had a contentious relationship with some on the boards, it's so nice to see the group love and support that is coming out. It's inspirational.

[pacalo]

25. Thank you for your firsthand perspective.

This is heartbreaking.

[ljm2002]

26. Thank you for going...

...I am so glad DU had someone there. And thank you for sharing your observations with us.

[Blue Fire]

27. Thank you for being there for the many of us who couldn't.

And let us keep OMC and his family in our hearts.

:grouphug:

[datadiva]

28. Thank you n/t

[Maat]

29. Thank you very much for this.

I'm sorry for the loss of your daughter.

AND, I'm sorry for the loss of Stacey.

It makes me so mad when the World is SO unfair.

:mad: :cry:


We're here for DUers who have suffered these kinds of losses.


:grouphug:

Who knows? Maybe he will come here and argue about some relatively silly political matter - and get his mind off of things.

I will look upon our debates in a very different way now.

[truedelphi]

30. Repeating - Thank you and also

Sorry for your terrible loss.

The hardest thing of being a parent is that even when it is okay, you can be just one phone call away from it being all wrong. One wrong slip on a ski trail, one dash into traffic to get a ball, one illness that no one ever thought that their own kid would get.

My heart breaks every time a local headline mentions someone's twenty or twenty something child dying from an accident or illness. As though somehow that family suffering misfortune means that
my family will escape.

[orleans]

31. thank you. we stand together--all of us. and we stand by him in spirit

thank you for going and giving him your support.

[WillyT]

32. Thank You For Being There For Him... And For All Of Us...

:grouphug:

[shaniqua6392]

33. That sure was a wonderful thing you did.

I am sure it meant a lot to him. We have all been praying and lighting candles for him. She was just so young and they have two little ones it is heartbreaking. I hope someone can set up a fund for him here at DU to help him. I would gladly contribute to help him. He must have lost time at work, etc. lately and funerals are extremely expensive. It is not something a young couple would even think about so I am sure there is some difficulties there. God bless him and the children. Thanks again for representing his fellow DU'ers today.

[democrank]

34. Bless your heart, Highway61.

Lot of special people here. ~PEACE~

[fortyfeetunder]

35. Thanks for going

and being there for OMC. It meant a lot to him and for those of us like me who cannot be there in person.

Sympathies to you for losing your daughter :hug:

[xxqqqzme]

36. What a wonderfully generous and

kind thing to do. It is all so very, very sad. Thank you for giving your time. I am most appreciative.

[avrdream]

37. Thanks for going and letting us know. Regarding this:

"He also mentioned how he perhaps made some people here dislike him" - I have only disliked the posters who come to DU to start a flame war. He is not one of those. Occasionally I felt differently than he did but his reasons for believing the things he did were always well said and valid.

DU members tend to be very reasonable in their analyses - we may not agree but it never means I dislike them.

If you speak with him again, please send him our reassurances in that regard.

[proud patriot]

38. Thank You for being there for OMC

:hug:

[ChazII]

39. Thank you

for being our face and our arms. ( Arms to give him the hug we would have, had we been able to attend).

[calimary]

40. Dang! I saw this too late to add another rec -

Thank you for this, Highway61!

What a nice thing you did - and my condolences to you, however belatedly, about your daughter. There's probably quite a bit of you that's still awfully tender from that. I relate to this through the death of my mother last November. The outpouring of love and sympathy and support from here was just almost shocking. I posted a piddly little thread about it and there were HUNDREDS of responses. I read them over again and again and again and again as the days turned into weeks after that. I CANNOT tell you how much it meant, and how much it helped - a lot of emotional Neosporin for some pretty profound hurts. If it gives OMC even half as much solace as it provided me, it'll make a HUGE difference in his getting through this.

It was sweet of you to go and offer solidarity, and then to come back and share.

Just another reason why I LOVE DU.

[Catherine Vincent]

42. "He also mentioned how he perhaps made some people here dislike him"

How thoughtful of him to be concerned about that. I feel so sad for him and his young kids.

Time heals all wounds.


edit: Sorry for your loss also. Thank you for representing DU. :hug: