Have you dated outside your 'race'?

[Breeze54]

I'm only asking because I saw a thread about race in GD-P yesterday and I kept thinking about it
and I had actually been thinking about this topic for the last month or so anyway and I wondered
how many here at DU have actually dated a person not of their race. But after that post last night?
I just thought I'd ask the question. I hope I can devise a poll to truthfully reflect the question though. *gulp* ;)

I'm not a social scientist. Can you tell? :sarcasm:

To start? Yes, I have dated African Americans and Hispanics and... Norwegians! :P

But I have never dated anyone from my own background... Irish.

Go figure. Isn't that weird? It is to me.

Go ahead and correct my poll. I'm sure it's flawed but I tried.

[Karenina]

1. What do you mean by "race?"

:evilgrin:

[Breeze54]

2. Thanks for getting 'that' out of the way, off the bat!

:rofl:

You suck!! :rofl:

:evilgrin:

:hug:

[trusty elf]

7. human race?

[Smith_3]

3. I'm a liberal who is currently dating a libertarian.

Does that count? :P

[Breeze54]

4. Ummm...NO!

:rofl:

I'll do political affiliations and sex next week! :P

[livvy]

5. Yes. I go out with my Bouviers daily. n/t

[Breeze54]

6. I'd love to have a Bouvier date! LOL!

:P

"The Bouvier des Flandres is an obedient dog with a pleasant nature.
He looks intimidating, but is actually calm and gentle. Enthusiastic,
responsible, even tempered and fearless. An excellent guard and
watchdog that is easy to train....."

http://www.dogbreedinfo.com/bouvierdesflandres.htm

Nice looking dog! ;)


But doesn't count in this human poll. Sorry. :hug:

But sounds like the perfect human mate. ;)

[Babel_17]

8. Race isn't an issue (I voted yes)

dating republicans on the other hand ...... :) Is the hot sex worth the guilt? And they aren't cheap dates.

I'm a white male fwiw.

[Breeze54]

9. A date with a repuke is a date with psychological harm....

It's like courting "The Plague". :puke:

:P

Go here, if you're tempted to stray!



http://democraticsingles.net/index.php

[DFW]

10. Sure

I was heavily involved with an Asian woman for a while,
back when I was 19.

I don't know how nitpicky you want to get with the term
"race," but as my background contains some Semitic blood
(my background is Eastern European Mongrel) and my wife is
a pure-blooded German blonde (family geneology dates back
to the year 1473), if you're a Nazi, then I've been on an
interracial date for the last 34 years now. If you're not
a Nazi, then take yer pick! LOL

(We never gave it a thought)

[bleowheels]

11. "Orientals" ???? You might want to edit your poll to change this word to "Asians"

The term "oriental" to refer to a person of Asian descent has been outdated for a long, long time. In fact, you might hear a person explain it like the following: "Oriental is a rug, Asian is a person."

Not only have I dated outside my race (I am caucasian), but I married outside my race. My wife is originally from China. Our first child, a son, was born four weeks ago. I couldn't be happier.

[Zywiec]

12. That's one of the reasons I voted for lame poll

In addition, what if you dated a black person, that wasn't American?

:shrug:

[JTFrog]

13. Maybe I dated a bald guy with an Oriental on his head?

:shrug:

[TahitiNut]

36. Maybe it was occidental.

:dunce:

[malaise]

14. What if you're multiracial?

I guess you have the best of all worlds

[BoneDaddy]

15. I have dated outside of my ethnicity

plenty of times before I was married. I love the rainbow of diversity.

[blondeatlast]

16. Yes, and happily married outside it as well. (I won't nitpick the "race" thing as I

think no harm was meant). :thumbsup:

[madokie]

17. no problem with that as I am a mixed race individual myself so my answer would be yes I have

English, Cherokee and German for the most part. I fell in love with the prettiest person I had ever met up to that point but it never developed into a dating situation as I was about to cause a race riot at the company where we worked, A most beautiful Black girl just dripping with charm and poise. I finally just quit working there so as to not be so heart broken because of the circumstances that would not allow us to date.
dang it breeze I wished you hadn't brought that up now ;-)
peace and have a great day

[Marrah_G]

18. Yes.

I dated a young black man when I was a teenager. Race definitely had a hand in breaking things up. Neither family was thrilled about it.

Then I dated an Indian man in my late 20's. Still one of the sexiest men I know.

[Echo In Light]

19. Out of 150 employees where I work there are very few under 30 women who don't exclusively

Date African Americans. But I chalk it up to the influential power of media and Empty V hip hop culture, not from any desire to break down old racial barriers. Plus, there seems to be an inherent glorification of racial stereotypes involved in this, as the young women seem to prefer the men who consciously go out of their way to project very racist and sexist/misogynistic stereotypes.

[kwassa]

21. I can't begin to unpack all the issues in your short note.

You crammed a lot into two sentences.

Resent much?

[Echo In Light]

22. Just an observation. Many of the women acknowledge they seek the "criminal bad boy" types, which is

Exactly the prevailing stereotype/image sold in the media. The young men adopt and assimilate to be "cool," and the young women in turn are attracted to what constitutes that "cool." This particular dilemma of media induced mass affectation has a great deal to do with many issues/problems our country is mired in ... including the many illusory aspects of our phony democracy.

[NOLALady]

32. The bad boys, huh?

There are a couple of young women in my family who go from one bad boy to another. For the life of me, I can't figure it out. I just chalk it up to a generational difference. Either that or my young cousins are batshit crazy.

[Echo In Light]

38. It's a highly volatile topic to discuss...invariably someone will get angry/offended

To hear anyone make an objective cultural observation on some of these touchy issues angers some. When it comes to indoctrination and the media's power of suggestion, many prefer to remain in denial as to its overall efficacy. People don't want to believe that they are indeed that susceptible to external coercion and groupthink.

[alfredo]

20. What about dating outside our species?

[seasat]

39. If you date a Republican that qualifies as outside your species. N/T

[alfredo]

41. True. But I want to stick with sentient beings.

[genie_weenie]

23. No, race is an arbitrary made-up system designed to cause divisions

between humanity.

[Stinky The Clown]

24. Yes, I have dated outside my race

But it was eons ago (Sparkly is the only one now.)

[NOLALady]

25. No. I haven't met any cool aliens lately.

[whatchamacallit]

26. The diversity of human beauty is intoxicating

I pretty much wanna love everybody. When it comes to womankind it's ALL good.

[knitter4democracy]

27. I've only dated two guys, and I married the second one.

Not much dating experience, I'm afraid. Of the two, both were of my ethnicity, since it was at our massively white Christian college.

[Echo In Light]

35. Similar situation: my wife and I met in 88 and have been together since

Where I live though, you don't see many white men dating/marrying outside of their own ethnicity, just the other way around.

[Heidi]

28. I don't identify by race, but others identify me by race, so by others' definitions of my race,

yes, I have.

[Iktomiwicasa]

29. Honest answer

Yes, and I probably wouldn't do it again. Not because of the difference in race, I am fullblood Lakota, but because the cultural divide is a very wide gulf between people of my traditional culture and almost any other group of americans.

Not saying *never*, but just not likely.

[slackmaster]

30. Race, hell. Women aren't even the same species.

:argh:

[TahitiNut]

31. Hell, yes.

Viva la difference!

[shanti]

33. yes

dated, married, and procreated outside my race. this IS california, ya know! ;) my son has the same racial makeup as obama (b/w).

[Rosemary2205]

34. I married outside my race.

Well, sorta. My mother is white, my father "looks" black but is really Heinz 57. I "look" black. My husband is the whitest white boy that was ever born white and everyone I've ever met in his family are too. My family is all mixed up and by marriage we've adopted about every mix of racial makeup I can think of.

We struggled a little with my husband's extended family. His immediate family was just wonderful. My family is worse than Stephen Colbert. They just don't even "see" race anymore. (kidding, of course).

:)

[alcibiades_mystery]

37. Do one night stands count?

:shrug:

:evilgrin:

[dorkulon]

40. As a half-breed, it's sort of impossible not to... (nt)

[Momgonepostal]

42. I put "no" but not because I ever had a policy...

against multicultuaral dating, I was just never asked out by anyone non-white. If I were younger, maybe that would be different because the town I live in is much more multi-ethnic now than when I was dating.

[kwassa]

43. I never date outside my race.

If I did, the black woman I am married to would kill my white ass.

[Behind the Aegis]

44. I only date humans.

:)

[uppityperson]

45. I have only dated the human race. Do a poll on ethnicity instead, or skin color?

My ancestors came from many places, but I do not consider those places my race. My skin is a certain color, but I do not consider that race.I am a USAnian citizen, but do not consider that race. I like to participate in the three legged race at picnics, perhaps you mean that?

[KamaAina]

46. Yes. And I miss her terribly...

...she was suddenly called back to Tau Ceti. It was over in just minutes: the spaceship descended, and then in a blinding flash of light, she was gone... :(

[pitohui]

47. won't answer polls after the poll snooping/gotcha scandal but...

sure i've dated outside my race, who hasn't, even bigots do, who people hope to get lucky with has little to do with their attitudes toward that person having civil rights, equal pay in the workplace, aspiring to public office, and so on

consider the huge numbers of men throughout history who dated women and even married them, without a thought, even though they thought of them as inferior in the sight of god himself -- wamting to sex someone doesn't mean you think that someone is your equal, now does it? for some twists of mind, it means exactly the reverse!

you won't learn much from a poll about who dates who, methinks, some people date outside their race because it's truly about the person, others because they are bigots who figure it's easier to get over on that race (certain fat old white men who prefer to purchase their encounters in thailand might spring to mind), just because someone dates outside their race you can't figure them for one of the good guys -- you have to look closer

[Alexander]

48. I dated a girl who is half-Mexican. Does that count?

:shrug:

[TheUniverse]

49. Nope, I've never had a date.

[BeHereNow]

50. I'm currently dating my cat...

I love him so-
best snuggling partner I've ever had and since he isn't human,
then yes, I guess I'm dating someone outside of my race.
BHN:P

[taught_me_patience]

51. I've only dated outside my race

It's hard to find other "halfies" :P

I've dated: Asian, Hawaiian, Hispanic, European, and Black.

I'm half asian half white.