What is worse: Hiring a prostitute or breaking someones heart?

[Smith_3]

Seriously. Assuming you are a young male looking for easy sex, which is a quite natural thing to do:

Is it better to go to a prostitute (provided it is legal where you live), where the terms are clear, every side knows what they want out of the deal and no feelings are claimed to be involved, or is it better to pick up some innocent girl who isn't aware that it is only her body that you are interested in and take advantage of her?

I personally think that prostitution is a legitimate business. I grew up in a place where it was legal, and I think that is ok.

[The Backlash Cometh]

1. Sad as it may sound, some young men are not having any trouble

getting poontag. My daughter tells me that the players on a certain baseball team not only smoke pot, but have groupie girls who are willing to be double-teamed. We're talking about high school kids.

[ayeshahaqqiqa]

2. What is worse is not being able to control sexual urges

and not being aware of consequences. My husband told me of a time when he was 18 or 19 when a girlfriend of his best friend came onto him. He was greatly attracted, but didn't act upon his impulses because he realized what the consequences would be. So he holds other men to his standards in these matters. I think I married a rare individual, though, as I have an idea that most males are not like my husband.

[Smith_3]

3. Thats a different thing. Its called loyalty to ones friends.

However, I reject the notion that it is wrong for a young man to want sex without commitment.

[ayeshahaqqiqa]

10. He also learned to respect women as ladies

and never did anything to break a lady's heart. Ironically, his first wife broke his heart.

[Echo In Light]

4. As gender propaganda changes, more young women seek emotionless sex also

I mean, to respond to the question, breaking a heart is def worse, in my estimation ... but the premise the poster is using speaks to the earlier generations cultural/gender propaganda i.e. sex without love is wrong, especially for women {double standard} - hence a strong compulsion for denial/tricking one's self into believing they're "in love" in order to allow themselves to act on normal, healthy sexual impulses without feeling the sting of guilt for not abiding the cultural code, as it were. {"slut"}

[malaise]

7. There was a great survey in France recently

http://www.time.com/time/world/article/0,8599,1720316,00.html

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Yet perhaps the most significant finding in the report is that French women have been playing serious sexual catch-up with their male counterparts since the last national sex survey in 1992.

Less expected, however, is how thoroughly French women have closed the gap with men in terms of number of lovers, age of initiation, and variety of acts engaged in. In some measures, women have overtaken men for the first time. Only 3.5% of women aged 18-35 years now say they are sexually abstinent, for example, versus 6.2% for males of the same age. French women are engaging in sex from a younger age and more frequently than before, while 20% of French men aged 18-24 years say they have no interest in sexual or romantic activity whatever.
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Women are way less inhibited today.

[Echo In Light]

9. Definitely. Anal sex, group sex, sport sex at parties, these were unheard of growing up in the 80s

Now I work around young women who openly boast of such sexcapades ... which apparently seems to be tied into hip hop culture. I've noticed that women who are more artistic, "nerdy," or into the more indie/alternative or even heavy metal scene aren't as given to finding sport sex or sexual exploitation "cool."

[Zookeeper]

11. What I'm hearing from my HS daughter...

is that a lot of kids are having very casual sex, although most of the girls have told her that it isn't really all that great and they wish they had postponed becoming sexually active.

She has frequently been propositioned with the eloquent line, "My parents aren't home. Want to come over and have sex?" She thinks it's hilariously stupid, but apparently some girls go for it.

She IS a very intelligent, arty, indie/alternative type, like you mentioned, as well as being aware of the way our youth culture tries to make sexism and sexual exploitation the norm. AND, she doesn't think boys her own age have much to offer, while older guys with teen girls are pervs. I'm thrilled that she is so level-headed in that regard. (Kinda makes up for the all the areas where she's a pain in the ass. ;) )

[malaise]

5. Most terms are clear among young men and women

Only naive young ladies believe that sex and love are the same thing.

[Echo In Light]

6. You can hear this belief in the views of older women as well

Which is fine, as I also hold to it in my personal life, yet understand that people in this bizarre corporate culture are constantly bombarded with mixed messages that often serve to shape the public mind/impulses.

[Orsino]

8. That's a tough calculus.

Spitzer was something of a hero to me, and mine is only one of many hearts in some small way broken by the revelation of his corruption/hypocrisy. But do the hurt feelings of millions of fans/constituents outweigh the pain he has brought to his family and friends? Can anyone's disappointment match the disaster he has presumably wrought in his marriage?

Or perhaps he and his wife had an understanding, an open relationship, and what she's feeling is mostly embarrassment? I dunno.

[rocktivity]

12. Breaking someone's heart BY hiring a prostitute.

:headbang:
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