If my husband ever called me a c@^t, his ass woudl be on the floor and he would be toothless

[greenbriar]

and would NEVER call another woman that ever again


okay...it is hyperbole


but...

that is just aweful and I would NEVER put up with it

[niyad]

1. not to mention that my next call would be to a divorce attorney

[YDogg]

2. I must have missed something.

:shrug:

[gateley]

4. Here you go --

But remember -- we don't really know if it's true or not. (We DO know McCain is an asshole, though.)

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=view_all&address=389x3119999

[greenbriar]

5. McNasty called his wife a c@#t

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2008/04/07/report-mccains-profane-ti_n_95429.html

[YDogg]

61. Ah. Thanks. Niiiiiiice.

mccain is a freak.

[gateley]

3. You never would have married

an asshole like McCain.

[ZombieHorde]

6. Violence is always the answer in domestic disputes because might makes right.

[greenbriar]

8. oh get off the holier than thou attitude

so you would let your spouse call you a c@#t

and take it ?

[ZombieHorde]

17. I would talk with them about it, I would not use violence,

I would not use lawyers, and I wouldn't call names back.

I find it bizarre that being non-violent with non-violent loved ones is a holier than thou attitude.

[zanne]

27. I wouldn't be violent either...

But his clothes would be all over the front lawn.

[Kelvin Mace]

70. I don't think the OP would actually be violent

Some times we have to blow off steam. Better to blow off such things in a burst of angry writing than to embrace them and make them part of your life, you know, like conservatives and religious nuts. :)

[2rth2pwr]

77. When violence against teachers is written down by students it is taken very seriously.

Those types of thoughts and reactions are considered as coming from a disturbed individual.

[Kelvin Mace]

78. Which I find kind of distrubing

People need to understand what is, and isn't serious.

Yeah, if a kid writes something threatening. Sit down, have a talk.

Call the police if you think its a legitimate threat.

[2rth2pwr]

79. maybe you could help us understand what is and isn't serious.

[Kelvin Mace]

81. You have to talk to the person doing the writing

and examine the context. It requires using ones brain and making a judgment. This is highly preferable to either: 1) Ignoring all such things. 2) Treating all such things as conspiracy to commit murder.

[XemaSab]

96. I think calling women cunts and calling black people niggers constitutes violence

There are lines you don't cross.

[ZombieHorde]

114. I would rather be called any name over being beaten. Maybe that is just me. nt

[trumad]

12. LOL

ZombieHorde..... Aren't Zombie's violent?

[ZombieHorde]

18. Hunting for food does not count. nt

[Kelvin Mace]

71. Brains.... fresh brains....

Oops, took a wrong turn and wound up at a McCain rally.


Hungry.... so hungry....

[ZombieHorde]

89. LOL. nt

[Matariki]

69. You have to wonder how the response would be if a man wrote that about his wife.

"her ass would be on the floor and she would be toothless"

Yep, that would go over well. 'Hyperbole' or not.

[ZombieHorde]

94. That is how I feel. nt

[Donnachaidh]

7. I'd have one CALM response to anyone who called me that.

"you have to sleep sometime." And then I'd sharpen my kitchen knives in full view of them. :evilgrin:

[kimmerspixelated]

29. Everyone calm down with the violence!

Remember, if your hubby or significant other says something like that, you don't want to risk going to prison just because they tempted you with their assholeness! THEY ARE not worth it! Just friggin' walk away! Silence is golden, really! They can't stand it when you walk away from a fight!

[2rth2pwr]

9. no "Lorraina Bobbitt"?

[seabeyond]

10. i'd just walk. that would be it. that would be a huge indicator to me how he really feels

about me. life is too short. i dont need any man to be happy. and if i am not valued, i dont stick around.

a simple walk. no talking, no yelling no nada. i get real quiet with that kinda stuff. done and over.

[PCIntern]

11. In America, that is a transcendent word.

In Britain, somewhat less so, but here it never appeared 'on subway walls or tenement halls' here except in rare instances. As a kid, the first time I ever saw it in print was in Henry Miller's Tropic of Capricorn and boy was that a hot book for its day.

I have never used that word directed towards a female in my life, no matter how horribly she might have treated me, and to use it against your own wife in public is beyond reprehensible. It is a "high crime and misdemeanor' in a marriage, that's for certain.

[greenbriar]

14. you ain't kidding

that would be the ultimate


I would put his ass on the floor, then take him for EVERYTHING he EVER had or will ever have

[Javaman]

13. Ahhh but if your husband had a hair trigger temper and at times

thought he was completely nuts or certifiable, would you still do that?

Me, I would promptly say, "the divorce papers are drawn up and you are going to have to owe big". Smile and walk away.

LOL

[Virginia Dare]

44. She's got all the money anyway..

and we don't have any idea what sort of things he might have on her. It may not be a good option for her.

[blondeatlast]

Especially if you are the one with the money and political inside-ness.

I don'[t doubt he did this having heard about similar things from friends in the local press.

[Ian David]

15. I agree. Because that's what we named the dog.

I'm kidding!

[AngryAmish]

16. Because violence always solves interpersonal problems?

[ZombieHorde]

22. Tooth extraction to be exact. nt

[AngryAmish]

23. A woman hurting a man = funny

You see, those stupid oafs don't feel pain like normal people. Their pain is a font of comedy.

[Romulox]

33. Thank god we're among "progressives", huh?

A belief in self-righteous violence couldn't lead this country astray, no siree!

[2rth2pwr]

74. The prison rape jokes are the best.

[Virginia Dare]

45. No, but everybody's human..

I agree with the OP, that would probably be my first reaction too.

[AngryAmish]

52. Where did you get the idea it was ok to use violence with family members?

Do children who misbehave also deserve to be hit?

[Virginia Dare]

98. Did I say it was okay?....n/t

[Kip Humphrey]

19. I guess that would make you a poor choice for "trophy wife"

[greenbriar]

21. true

I am real

I have feelings

at times, I even get a little sharped tongued



but calling me a c@#t I think would throw me into a rage

[seabeyond]

25. even trophy wives eventually get old. wasnt too nice of her going after his ego

with the thinning hair comment in public. was saying on another thread, i would never do that to hubby, even in private. all and all, .... looks like they deserve each other

[ingac70]

20. No wonder Cindy took drugs...

Fuckin' asshole.

[datasuspect]

24. if my wife ever emasculated me in front of reporters, her ass would be on the floor

and she would be toothless.

[seabeyond]

26. you know. after walking from hubby after saying c*nt, i came exactly to your point

what wife would say something like that in public.

[zanne]

28. Er...That sounds alot like battering. nt

[datasuspect]

30. it isn't funny?

[zanne]

42. WTH do you mean? nt

[datasuspect]

47. some people seem to find humor in domestic violence in which the male

is the victim.


i thought people might think the obverse was funny too.

[zanne]

56. You know very well what the difference is.

Men are larger and generally stronger than women and domestic violence of that sort happens every day. No, definitely NOT funny.

[datasuspect]

58. violence is violence

and neither situation is funny.

[PeaceNikki]

82. I agree

:thumbsup:

[EOTE]

105. Pshaw! Women beating up men is funny because men don't feel pain.

Just like men getting raped in prison is so damned hilarious because men are immune to the effects of rape as well. Nope, no double standard there at all.

As an aside, I love your sig quote. We need more men like Dwayne Alazondo Mountain Dew Herbert Camacho.
"Now I understand everyone's shit's emotional right now. But I've got a 3 point plan that's going to fix EVERYTHING!"
-President Camacho (truer words have never been spoken)

[2rth2pwr]

76. 1.5 million women and 835,000 men battered each year

National Violence Against Women survey (National Institute of Justice/Centers for Disease Control) estimates 1.5 million women and 835,000 men battered each year.

http://www.batteredmen.com/

It's always hilarious when men are the victims ie. "If he cheated on me, I'd slice it off!

[Matariki]

93. Are you trying to make the point that it's OKAY to post fantasies of violence against another person

as long as it's a woman harming a man?

The OP is inappropriate. The ugliness of the post isn't forgivable just because it's a woman 'joking' about beating her husband.

[Matariki]

92. The point is the OP isn't funny either.

Datasuspect is holding a mirror up to the OP so hopefully she'll come to understand how inappropriate her post is.

[readmoreoften]

99. Oh lord to have your masculinity threatened! The pain! The agony!

Nothing better for getting the old balls back like slugging your wife, right? It'd be pretty funny if she slugged you right back.

[EOTE]

106. Wow, you really don't get it, do you?

I bet you found the OP hilarious.

[Perry Logan]

31. Just what we need--a President with poor impulse control.

[Romulox]

32. She MADE ME hit her!

:puke:

[Jazzgirl]

34. I swear I thought the same thing when I read Mc-Stain

called his wife that name! The closest my now ex-husband ever came to calling me a b**ch was when he said I was acting like one. We got into it real good over that one....no details.... I would never continue to be around any man that thought that little of me.

[ZombieHorde]

35. Justice is served.

[raccoon]

100. You could have spared us that, zombie. nt

[ZombieHorde]

110. Sorry, for whatever reason, domestic violence seems to be a hot button for me.

I guess that I need to get over it a little bit.

[tired_old_fireman]

36. This reads like your bragging about how you would beat a loved one.

If somebody's verbally abusive, there are much better ways to deal with it--like therapy.

[greenbriar]

39. oh come on...in reality hubby would never call me that

so I would never hit him



its called hyperbole

[AngryAmish]

40. Then why say it?

[seabeyond]

43. i have often used, kick ass... in many different forms and no way am i kicking any ass

and all know i am not kicking any ass and have never been gone after like this for using kick ass.....

but.

point taken from the guys. i have often been outraged when a woman goes after a man, he defends self, and he gets in trouble. pisses me off huge.....

[LanternWaste]

46. A visceral reaction harmlessly reduced

A visceral reaction harmlessly reduced to a few stokes of the pen (or the keyboard, in this case...) to allow emotional steam to vent out.

That's one possibility. I'm sure if we thought about, we could come up with many more, equally harmless reasons...

[AngryAmish]

49. 'cause minimizing domestic violence is always harmless...

Listen, joking about the subject of domestic violence is commonly known to be in bad taste. Believe it or not men actually have feelings and do not like to be dehumanized. Some people fail to empathize with people different than them, including those of different genders.

[LanternWaste]

64. You asked for a reason.

"'cause minimizing domestic violence is always harmless..."
Where in the hell did I imply/say/answer with that? Or are you simply dramatizing a bit for the sake of your own rejoinder?


You asked for a reason. You received a reason void of judgment or culpability on my part.

You don't like the reason given?-- well, I'm sure you're bright enough to come up with equally valid, though less desensitizing reason on your own.

Next time you ask for a reason, try making a point to qualify the request with "and make sure it's one I deem ideologically pure" to avoid wasting time...

[seabeyond]

66. "and make sure it's one I deem ideologically pure"... bah hahahah

that is funny. i want to copy and paste this all over. happens SO much.

lol

thanks for the laugh. now i must cook

[LanternWaste]

67. I'd cook-- but I'm still at work

I'd cook-- but I'm still at work for another twenty minutes. I'm thinking meatloaf and mashed potatoes. MMMMmmmmmm


(How are you? :hi: )

[seabeyond]

68. chops and stuffing.....

boring.

good. so good.


:toast:

but i think i am going to use your meatloaf and mashed potatoes later in week. has been a while. thanks for the tip

[EOTE]

108. Here's where you said that:

"A visceral reaction harmlessly reduced to a few stokes of the pen" That is where you suggest that by merely writing about such things instead of doing them is 'harmless'. I think the bulk of posters here would feel very differently if the genders were reversed.

"Hey, my wife called me a small-dicked asshole yesterday. Maybe she'll apologize when she's able to speak again." Hiiiii-larious.

[LanternWaste]

113. Then fiction writer's should never write of violence?

"That is where you suggest that by merely writing about such things instead of doing them is 'harmless'."


Then fiction writer's should never write of violence? No more screenplays with any hint of violence? 'Schindler's List' should never have been made, let alone aired? Visceral emotions harmlessly reduced to the stage and screen.

No more Grand Theft Vice Auto (or whateverthehell it's called) video games?

History reduced to anti-septic, non-threatening bits of squeaky-clean class room lessons?


OR...

(and I find this much more likely) we look at context as well as context.

[PassingFair]

91. She thought it was a RIOT when her husband pulled a gun on her...

daughters first date, too.

:rofl:


The she told ME to "lighten up"!

:shrug:

[seabeyond]

41. hyperbole. and they all know it. and they are fuckin with you in essense making lite

male abuse to women. and the way they all jumped in here was amazing.

of course you arent going to knock his teeth out. you even try and you would be on your ass i am sure. i know if i tried, (and i have not hit anyone, but once at 12) if i tried knocking hubby teeth out even with good reason, i bets are off to him not protecting himself.

you know, i know they all know it was a bullshit in post....

[tired_old_fireman]

62. It's not bullshit. I've seen men who were really hurt by women.

Maybe it's news to some people here, but all men aren't stronger than all women. If you come onto a scene as an EMT and see a man or woman who has been badly hurt by his or her spouse, it's not really that much of a chuckle.

FYI, some men are taught not to hit a woman even in self defense. So they take the abuse even if the might be stronger. They also can get hit when they have their guard down, are sleeping, etc.

[seabeyond]

63. read my post below to you tof. i hear ya. n/t

[tired_old_fireman]

59. I don't know you or your husband. How do I know it's hyprbole?

I hate that type of macho--I'll kick someone's ass type language you used. I've been around it my whole life. I've seen men and women battered in domestic disputes. If you were just trying to be funny, so be it. I missed the humor in your original post.

[seabeyond]

60. i dont like it either. tired of it too. bet greenbriar learned something here.

lol

but knowing her, it is so obvious that is not what she is saying. and yes.... i have watched both male and femlae be physically abusive. more than anything i hate the female that starts it, goes at it. the guy finally lets go and he gets in trouble. i have seen that way too much in my life and female say.... but but but.... you arent allowed to hit. bullshit

further

i have two boys and we are doing a horrible job with our girls teaching them not to hit. they are hitting kickin pinchin and teachers do nothing, and boy cant even protect himself. huge bitch on my part.... with girls today, and parent not doing their job

[LanternWaste]

65. As long as she knows its hyperbole, it's fine. Otherwise, hit the alert button.

"How do I know it's hyprbole?"

If you didn't know it was hyperbole, shouldn't you have hit Alert? Or called the authorities...?

[liberal N proud]

37. My wife would take me out as well

It is inexcusable, even for a right wing sexist.

Language like that would get every male in this country fired from whatever job they had. But the right wing will ignore, forget or forgive this sexist bastard and go on like nothing happened.

[Missy Vixen]

38. That word has a lot less power since I saw "The Vagina Monologues"

At the same time, there'd be no violence from me. Oh, no. I'm with the other posters who said they'd simply file.

I wouldn't stay with someone who believed that was an appropriate behavior.

IMHO, YMMV,
Julie

[Fleshdancer]

48. Real men don't say this to their wives

and knowing he said this to humiliate her in front of other people makes it that much more disgusting.

Obviously we all have moments when our SO pisses us off, but there's not reason to resort to hideous name calling and you certainly don't pick heated fights with him/her in front of others. At the end of the day, if you're willing to treat complete strangers with more respect than those who love you, then you have no business being in a relationship. It really is that simple.

[ZombieHorde]

50. Real men don't say this

They must androids, or spider people disguised as men.

[Fleshdancer]

51. or how about humans with the emotional capacity of a 7 yr old?

at some point, being a man has to be about more than just age.

[ZombieHorde]

55. emotional capacity of a 7 yr old

That is possible, but I think that if we use Occam's razor, then spider people disguised as men is the best theory.

[2rth2pwr]

80. 7 yr old boy or girl?

[MasonJar]

53. My husband would have never considered calling me any such

derogatory term. He was a gentleman first and foremost; he had great respect for me and women in general. This just shows the kind of person McCain really is...to insult his wife so viciously and in front of others is Machiavellian. In addition, the provocation was minimal...wonder what he says when he is truly mad.

[eleny]

54. In fact, I've never heard my hubby utter the word

And that's since 1976.

[Duppers]

57. BRAVO.

same here. and I cringe when I hear another woman use the term. Jeeeesh!

[The Straight Story]

72. Is that the fancy way of saying coat? C@^T - is it like that lol cat stuff?

;)

[timtom]

73. Now that I think about it,

My wife and I, in 25 years of marriage, have NEVER called each other names of any sort (epithets, that is).

Angry or no, we have always maintained a level of mutual respect that precludes name-calling.

And I have NEVER called any human being of any stripe a c**t.

[seabeyond]

75. absolutely. my husband and i are the same. good to hear

nathan... lol lol.

i couldnt imagine either of us behaving even close to this. but then, we dont even yell. just dont do things to each other that gets us that bothered. we are only 14 yrs though, and married older.

on edit though: mccain being 105 and she is in 60's.... i guess they should be old enough to qualify for mature....

[timtom]

97. I'm 15 years older than my wife.

She was 25 when we got married. I have never strayed, either.

[seabeyond]

104. ya. i am four years older than hubby

and i have never strayed on him either. wink.

[malaise]

83. But would you marry that crazy fascist?

I doubt it.

[greenbriar]

86. oh heck no

never in a million years

[malaise]

88. My hubby has never used that word

and we do use graphic language in conversation but never at each other.

[KoKo]

84. You aren't the only one who would have "dead hubby," for that one...

:D

[mondo joe]

85. Because your marriage is a model of respect and partnership?

?

[RB TexLa]

87. I'm sure he'd still be able to speak the words "take her to prison" when the cops arrived.

[ellie]

90. Indeed.

My husband and I have thing called respect for each other. That is god-awful.

[Skittles]

95. don't get me started

the bastard would never be ABLE to utter ANYTHING else - to ANYONE

[Eurobabe]

101. another dysfunctional married relationship in politics

who woulda thunk it!? :eyes:

[B3Nut]

102. From the Family Values party, of course!

Why on earth would a husband utter such an awful thing to his wife? Mrs. Nut and I would never level that word at each other. And using a slang term for a sexual organ to insult someone strikes me as pathetically unimaginiative...doesn't require any brainpower at all. Though it seems calling men "dicks" or "dickheads" gets a pass quite often, so what do I know...

Actually, the first time I ever heard the "C" word was in the song "Rehumanize Yourself" by The Police...

"Billy's joined the national front
He always was a little runt
He's got his hands in the air with the other c**ts
You've got to humanize yourself"

I guess the word has a different force in British parlance than it does on the Yankee side of the pond...indeed, John Cleese & Co. once anagrammed Fawlty Towers into "Flowery Twats" one episode I'm told...they must have a different take on it than we do...either that or they're just more shamelessly coarse. ;) hellifiknow...

Funny thing language....strange species, homo sapiens...someone get me a shot of Jameson's...

TP

[Maddy McCall]

103. Aren't you the one who posts the "he's drunk again" threads in the lounge?

Hmmm.... ok.

[SidDithers]

107. Is "fucking whore" OK?...

I'm not sure what are and what aren't acceptable slurs against women anymore.

:sarcasm:

Sid

[gort]

109. Most abusers joke about violence first

seek help

[Solly Mack]

111. It's called cast iron. Learn it. Live it. Love it.

[Marrah_G]

112. In another thread there is a picture....

A picture of Hillary standing in front "O" in the word count on a banner.

The picture is still up.