Men prefer being solo over a bad marriage: study

[raccoon]

Men prefer being solo over a bad marriage: study

By Belinda GoldsmithMon Jun 2, 1:26 AM ET

Bachelor Carl Weisman got fed up of being classified as a playboy, a loser or a commitment-phobe so he set out to find out exactly why he and a growing number of eligible men were steering clear of marriage.

Weisman, 49, conducted a survey of 1,533 heterosexual men to research a book aiming to give women an insight into why some smart, successful men opted to stay single -- and help lifelong bachelors understand why they are still the solo man at parties.

He concluded that most men were not afraid of marriage -- but they were afraid of a bad marriage.

"Men are 10 times more scared of marrying the wrong person than of never getting married at all," Weisman told Reuters in a telephone interview.

"This is the first generation of people who have grown up with bad divorces."

Maybe so, but there have always been plenty of people who have grown up with their parents staying for years and years in horrible marriages. (I said that---Raccoon)

http://news.yahoo.com/s/nm/20080602/lf_nm_life/books_bachelors_dc&printer=1;_ylt=Apv49u9aOP3jZjqmRXsUtryGWo14

[devilgrrl]

1. That's so funny. A lot of women think the same way... I'm one of them.

:hi:

[raccoon]

6. Me too! nt

[Myrina]

17. Me three!

:hi:

[no_hypocrisy]

18. Me four.

[bean fidhleir]

29. Five

[Eurobabe]

2. No shit, this is not gender specific.

Not aimed at the OP, but at yahooligans and the dumb ass articles they always post as TOP NEWS. :eyes:

[BigDaddy44]

3. File this under "Duh"

[ChairmanAgnostic]

4. when I first heard that joke, Take my wife, please,

I would have laughed, but for the pot of boiling water she was holding.

A bad divorce is nothing compared to a bad marriage. In fact, there is no such thing as a bad divorce. Over time, that is.

[hlthe2b]

5. men who choose not to marry are a quandry to society...

while women who likewise do not marry are assumed to be "undesirable" or lesbian...... And some say there is little sexism in our culture? :eyes:

[raccoon]

9. A few decades ago, a man who didn't marry was assumed to be gay, while

a woman who didn't, it was assumed that "she couldn't get anybody."

I think a lot of people still ASSume that a woman who is unattached is desperate to get a man.

[devilgrrl]

12. Single men: Bachelors. Single Women: Spinsters.

You know the routine. ;-)

[kskiska]

21. I remember when those old single guys were referred to as

"confirmed bachelors". Lots of people back then never questioned sexual orientation. They were presumed to be hetero. That was back in the '40s and '50s.

[bean fidhleir]

30. Well, back before Freud everyone thought it very noble and inspiring

when two women or two men entered into an "intimate friendship" that was the primary relationship for both. In the late 1800s, there was even a name for when women did it: Boston marriage.

[sui generis]

7. yeah works for those pesky gays too.

Strangely, most people would rather fly solo than be crippled by a bad relationship. I'm sure there's a perfectly good reason to only consider hetershekchuls though . . .

durrr to the power of two: durr squerred.

[jojo54]

8. We live in a disposable world now.

That includes disposable marriages'. It's the kids that I feel bad for.

[Marie26]

10. Isn't that true of people in general? nt

[LiberalFighter]

11. They say there are plenty of fish in the ocean

But that doesn't mean one gets to meet all those fish in the ocean.

Or that there are many fish in the ocean that are suitable.

I sure as hell haven't found anyone close to being suitable and more importantly at my age that is not attached.

[Triana]

13. They needed to do a study to determine that PEOPLE prefer being solo over ...

... a bad marriage? It's not just men. Women do, too.

Pffft! Waste of time and money on that study.

[supernova]

14. Well, who the hell doesn't?

Honestly, this is ground-breaking news? :eyes:

[devilgrrl]

15. Considering the abysmal state of the news media, yes, it's definitely ground-breaking!

:crazy:

[seabeyond]

16. IF at 32 hadn't ran into hubby, would be single to this day. i prefer

single over married too. but i just got a damn good one and marriage is easy, really easy when both partners are nice and respectful and like each other.

[spanone]

19. d u h

[LibDemAlways]

20. A little off topic but there was an article in the

LA Times yesterday about a pair of 95-year-olds who just tied the knot. They both had long (over 60 years each) and happy 1st marriages, were both recently widowed, lived in the same senior citizen community, both in good health, and they went for it.

I'd rather be single than unhappily married (who wouldn't) but I had to smile reading about those two.

http://www.latimes.com/news/local/la-me-oldwed1-2008jun01,0,6960545.story

[midnight]

22. For those of us who listen to Garrison Keiller

"In general, the rules for marriage are similar to the rules for being in a lifeboat on the open ocean: don't crowd each other, no sudden moves, and keep all disastrous thoughts to yourself." http://micahgirl.blogspot.com/2005/03/garrison-keillor-on-marriage.html

So for those who are waiting for all the rules that brought them success in the material world to present itself in the marriage world, read some of Garrison Keiller, and then you will understand why you're scared.

[Javaman]

23. "staying for years and years in horrible marriages"

Having lived under a roof like that for years as a kid, I'm the direct result of that.

I had one failed relationship after another. Until years of therapy finally kicked in and finding a truly amazing and understanding soul brought me into the light of "normalcy".

[DadOf2LittleAngels]

24. And they had to study this?

Proverbs 21:9
It is better to live in a corner of a roof Than in a house shared with a contentious woman.

--

And its also true the other way around...

[Xenotime]

25. Marriage is overrated anyway. Progressives have proved that you don't need it

The old fundie way of life has proven to be inefficient, expensive and just plain dumb.

[shanti]

26. i don't believe this

almost every man i've known had an emotional death grip on their woman, even when the relationship was bad. they'd rather stay in a bad relationship, than be alone. the women i know are just the opposite.

wasn't there a study showing that unmarried men were unhappier than unmarried women?

[Beregond2]

27. Well, duh.

News flash! People prefer a bowl of oatmeal to a bowl of puke!

[xartlu]

28. fear

I can relate..it's a terrible feeling living with someone you've grown to distrust.

[bean fidhleir]

31. Well, back before Freud everyone thought it very noble and inspiring

when two women or two men entered into an "intimate friendship" that was the primary relationship for both. In the late 1800s, there was even a name for when women did it: Boston marriage.