For some, life changes in an instant

[proud2BlibKansan]

Our neighbor is a sweet young girl about 27 or 28 years old. She is 7 months pregnant with her second baby, a boy. She and her husband painted the nursery yesterday. I saw her in her yard last night and we had a nice visit; we laughed about getting husbands to do stuff around the house. Next weekend is her baby shower.

Today she went to the doctor and had a sonogram. The baby is non viable. His kidneys are where his lungs are supposed to be. He will either die before birth or shortly after. She is in an ambulance right now being moved from her doctor's office to the hospital.

I feel so bad for her and her family. I cannot even imagine. :cry:

They have a 10 year old boy whom I love dearly. He is a huge Obama supporter and I got him an Obama shirt a few months ago that he wears all the time. The other day I drove by and waved at him and he pointed at his shirt and smiled. I saw him in his driveway tonight and went over to give him an Obama bumper sticker. He told me about his mom. Poor kid. His aunt was there to take him to her house. I said well let me sit here and hug him for awhile first. My heart just aches for him.

[MadMaddie]

1. Damn!

That puts life in perspective.

[quiet.american]

2. That is terribly sad. My sincere condolences to her and her family. nt

[EFerrari]

3. It really does change that fast.

I'm so sorry.

:hug:

[proud2BlibKansan]

9. They are just the nicest kids

We have known them since they were 14 or 15 years old. They were high school sweethearts. She got pregnant at 16 and they got married and are still married. Very much in love.

Her hubby is my oldest's best friend. We are sitting here trying to decide if we should go to the hospital to be with them.

[EFerrari]

14. Bless you guys. You could go check it out to see who's there.

Do they have other kids at home?

[proud2BlibKansan]

16. No just the 10 year old

[EFerrari]

18. It's good he had his aunt to take care of him.

These events are so hard for everyone and imho, especially hard on the kids.

[tblue37]

24. Yes, you should. Really. I am sure that having friends there will help them, even if it's

just to know they are not alone in their grief and that you feel for them. Let them know that they don't need to talk to you if they don't feel like it, but that you are there if they do need a shoulder to cry on.

[roguevalley]

36. aw. this is so sad. Hug them for me. And hug them after the hooplah

dies down. that is when people really need help, when everyone finally gets back to normal but them.

[annabanana]

4. How very sad.

We build a whole life in advance of a much wanted child. (Prayers to the family)

[mike_c]

5. damn, that's hard-- I'm so sorry for her and her family....

:hug:

[Tandalayo_Scheisskopf]

6. Please let her know...

A lot of strangers are hurting for her right now. Including me.

[The Straight Story]

7. Tell her we will be thinking about her and praying

Damned sad indeed.

[Danmel]

8. How sad

When I had my 2nd child, a boy delivered by c-section, I developed a serious staph infection and had to be rehospitalized for 5 days of heavy duty IV antibiotics. I of course ws separated from my Danny and my older girl, who was 3 1/2 at the time. I was feeling pretty sorry for myself until i spoke to my roomate, who had just suffered a stillbirth of a full term baby girl.

Put it all into immediate perspective. My thoughts are with your neighbor

[proud2BlibKansan]

11. One of my closest friends and I were pregnant at the same time

Due a month apart. The day of her baby shower she went into premature labor and her baby never came home from the hospital. When I had my baby, one of the hardest things I had to do was pick up the phone and call her. I knew she would be upset if I didn't. But damn that was hard.

[RevCheesehead]

10. Thank you for being there for that boy.

He will never forget it. :hug:

[proud2BlibKansan]

17. I have known him since before he was born

He is just a dear.

[fizzgig]

12. how heartbreaking

i cannot even imagine what the family is going through

[Patchuli]

13. There is hope

My pastor's grandchild has CDH and has survived for almost a year with her progressing to normal development. Her organs were just scrambled and she underwent a lot of surgery but she's pulling through it and is a beautiful child!

http://www.realhopeforcdh.com/

http://www.childrenshospital.org/clinicalservices/Site1943/mainpageS1943P6.html

[proud2BlibKansan]

15. Her sis in law told me there is 100% chance the baby will die

It would be nice if the doctors are wrong.

[Patchuli]

27. The doctors thought Cadenne wouldn't make it either

but they just kept going. A few of the other CDH babies born at the same time as my pastor's grandchild have died, but sometimes they make it. I'll have this mom and child in my good thoughts and prayers...

[proud2BlibKansan]

30. Thanks so much for giving me hope

:hug:

[Patchuli]

32. You bet, friend!

I'm trying to find Cadenne's website because her parents have blogged the whole experience of her birth and troubles. It was a weird miracle that they discovered she was a CDH baby. Her mother, frighteningly, had a seizure. Thankfully, she was in good hands when it happened. If she had been driving...! Now that is controlled also and if they hadn't discovered the CDH with Cadenne so early, she probably wouldn't have made it. They can do a lot more with a heads up like this.

[REACTIVATED IN CT]

34. I googled her name and found her blog

Here is an excellent link that was on her blog

http://www.chw.org/display/PPF/DocID/34373/Nav/1/router.asp

I hope that your neighbor's baby can be saved.....

Many years ago I worked with a woman whose fetus had no brain. It was discovered when she was 7 or 8 months pregnant. She had to carry that baby to term and go thru labor and deliver it knowing it would not survive more than a few days. This was in the pre- Rowe v Wade days.....

[undeterred]

19. Ugh. That reminds me of someone I got to know

through my job. We were in separate cities and never met in person. She was pregnant with her first child and planning to take a couple of months off when he was born. I would need to communicate with her during this time so she said I should leave her messages and she would call me back from home.

Well, I called her office about a week after the baby was due and she answered the phone. I was so excited and I asked if she had the baby already. She told me that a week before she felt the baby stop moving. She went to the doctor right away and there was no heartbeat. The umbilical cord had become wrapped around this perfectly healthy baby's neck and he died. The next day they induced labor and she delivered a stillborn child.

I couldn't believe it. I sat there on the phone and cried with this woman I had never met. It was the saddest thing I'd ever heard, but I was so glad she picked up the phone and told me.

A year later she delivered a perfectly healthy baby girl, but she was nervous during the whole pregnancy.

[oldtime dfl_er]

20. That really is sad

I'd like to send him an Obama shirt out of my shop. Could you PM me here if that's something I could do for the boy? I'd let him choose whichever one he wants.

[unblock]

21. i just came home from a funeral for a 3-year old today.

he choked while eating a grape.

went without oxygen for at least 10 minutes until they could get him to the e.r.

spent a week and a half in a coma and finally passed on thursday.


the parents are friends of the family, the mothers were pregnant at the same time and we even chose the same name for our kid.

that was without a doubt the toughest funeral i've ever been to.

[proud2BlibKansan]

22. My friend's step grandchild choked on a sucker about a year ago

I can't even imagine burying a child that young.

[tblue37]

23. How sad! When my daughter was at 7 months' gestation, she stopped

moving for nearly 24 hours for some reason. It turned out that she was fine. The doctor said she was probably just sleeping. But I remember what it felt like to think I had lost my baby, especially since my boss's wife, who was pregnant at the same time I was, had just lost hers at 7 months when he strangled on his umbilical cord.

Some people who have never carried a child assume that it's not as terrible if the baby has not been born yet, but losing a much wanted and already loved child before birth is just as bad as losing an already born child.

I hope they will be able to have another child and that this was just a one-time fluke.

[Blue Diadem]

25. .

:hug:

My heart goes out to her and her family.

[robinlynne]

26. Good thing they have you as a neighbor....

[proud2BlibKansan]

28. And they are the only neighbors we are close to . . .

[Skittles]

29. life can and so often does change in an instant

a month ago at an intersection a drive through frequently a guy was going 98 mph in a 40 zone - smacked into a van and killed a family of five leaving church on a Sunday morning.....now I avoid that intersection because the five crosses and flowers in the median just hurt to see

My sympathy to your neighbor

[hfojvt]

31. He might have had an older brother in Iraq too.

In a similar theme, my cousin recently wrote this about his eleven year old son:

"Many have asked about what exactly happened to Joseph. The following is a brief account of what caused his severe injury on July 14th: I (dad) was doing some mowing around the brick house next to ours (also belonging to the church). It was late evening as I finished the original section and was about to quit. I looked over in front of our house and in a split second decision thought it would be nice to quickly mow that section. On the first pass around the yard, I didn't see a few metal bars and bolts lying by a tree. I heard a loud noise as the blade made contact with the metal and launched a large bolt through the air. His mom thought it sounded like a gun shot from inside the house. The bolt traveled 25 feet on a rising trajectory, pierced two glass panes and struck Joseph on the right side of his head about an inch behind and above his temple. Joseph had just come into the office and was standing next to his mom asking her a question when the bolt struck him. The bolt went over an inch into his skull as it glanced off of him. He was taken to the hospital by ambulance and went into surgery for 4 hours to stop the bleeding and re-form the skull which had been broken into 7 pieces at the place of impact. The surgery was amazingly successful and we continue to pray and wait for his recovery."

He's still in the hospital under sedation.

[proud2BlibKansan]

33. Oh how sad

Here's hoping he recovers.

[DailyGrind51]

35. My cousin's daughter suffered two miscarriages prior to delivering

a healthy baby, eventually followed by two healthy brothers. Life can turn on a phone call or letter or routine physical. I received a cancer diagnosis in 1980, but am still alive to talk about it 26 years after concluding treatments. Your neighbor need not lose hope about conceiving and delivering healthy children. Life can bring good things too!

[Stinky The Clown]

37. .......... in an instant ...........

.......... indeed.

:(