Just wanted to let You all in on the fact we are losing a Democratic voter

[mrcheerful]

my father went into the hospital last week with breathing problems, at first the doctors thought it was his asthma and emphysema acting up. After running test they discovered dad has had cancer for the last 2 years so its pretty well spread throughout his body. He got out of the hospital and came home last thursday, Hospice is involved and dad is on morphine, they only expect him to live a few weeks so he won't be voting for Obama.

Mom and I will be voting for O though as well as the rest of the family. But my heart really isn't into this election as it has been in the past, which explains why I haven't been real active in this election topics in the las week or so. I'm surprised on how much dads dying is effecting me, we hadn't got along since I was 16, we made amends a few years ago, but I am finding out that I respect and admire the man dads is. Sorry if I ruined anyones fun with taking down the pukes............... Cheerful.

[boobooday]

1. I am sorry to hear about your Dad

But don't forget about early or absentee voting, if he feels well enough and wants to do so.

Best wishes to you, it's hard to lose a parent no matter how strong or fragile the relationship.

[Marnieworld]

2. It sounds like a bigger loss than just one vote

So sorry to hear about your dad. Cherish these last moments with him- you are lucky to get them even though I'm sure it doesn't feel that way. :hug:

[Sweet Freedom]

3. ((((Mr Cheerful))))

I'm so sorry about your father. :hug:

[opihimoimoi]

4. Damn...so sorry to learn of dad's plight....Courage and Strength to you and Fam

during the hard times ahead

:(

Opi

[Hekate]

5. It's time to take care of family now--that's where your heart and obligations lie...

May you and your whole family find peace. :hug:

Hekate

[firedupdem]

10. God Bless You and your family and don't be hard on yourself

about the time you spent away from Dad. You are with him now and that's what matters.

[patrice]

6. My husband died of lung cancer 11 years ago. We had him at home.

One of my little sisters died of multiple myeloma a little over a week ago.

Be with your Dad. Love him.

:grouphug:

[underseasurveyor]

31. I'm sorry you lost your lil sister

I can't begin to imagine what it would be like to lose my sister and I don't want to.

Big Huge HUGS :hug: for you sweetie.

[patrice]

44. Thank you. I've worn out every myth there is. No Answers. Nothing left but the understanding

that absolutely the ***ONLY*** thing that matters is how we are to one another. Therefore, if you can't be decent to _____________________ (any other Human), how you are with those to whom you have decided to be "decent" is affected negatively.

:hug: back to you and your Family.

[livetohike]

7. I'm sorry to hear about your dad

My thoughts are with you and your family :hug:.

[Mz Pip]

8. So sorry about your dad

Losing a parent is difficult no matter how well you get along. Spend whatever time you can with him without regrets. Take care.

[arthritisR_US]

9. mrcheerful, my heart goes out to you. I'm so glad you and your father had

made amends. Your heart and mind are right where they should be, and this election and anything else should take a back seat. Take care of yourself and cherish the time remaining with your dad.:grouphug:

[w8liftinglady]

11. I'm sorry to hear about your dad...my dad is on hospice,too

I'll keep you and your family in my thoughts

[wryter2000]

12. I'm so sorry

My love to you, your father, and your family. :cry:

[Kitty Herder]

13. I'm so sorry.

:hug:

[leftynyc]

14. Prayers for your family (n/t)

[Bigleaf]

15. Lots of LOVE coming your way. My heart goes out to you. Make sure you tell your father

what you just told us. God Bless!

[GreenPartyVoter]

16. I am so very sorry *hugs*

[ancient_nomad]

17. I am very sorry to hear....

this about your Dad, and what you and your family will be going through. I will remember you and yours in thought and prayer.

Take good care of yourself. He is in good hands with Hospice.

[sudopod]

18. *hug* nt

[Divernan]

19. Hospice provides great counseling to all family members, and are there as long as you need them.

My Mom died just over a year ago (age 94). I signed her up for Hospice care for the last 8 months of her life. In addition to providing physical and psychological comfort to her, they were great for me (her primary caregiver) also. After she died they kept in touch with me by phone and by mail. I had several hour long, long distance phone conversations wtih the grief counselor and he was wonderfully helpful to me.

Be strong for your Mom and Dad - it's very hard, but it's all that you can do for them now. The hardest part of loving someone is supporting them as they face death.

And be good to yourself.

[Cleita]

20. My heartfelt sympathy to you.

I hope your dad's passing is peaceful.

[panAmerican]

21. Your family comes first...Take your time, and we'll keep up the fight on your behalf

:grouphug:

[malaise]

22. Too sad

Hug that dad. :grouphug:

[madrchsod]

23. we will not let him down...

[Lars39]

24. So sorry, mrcheerful.

:hug:

[kevinmc]

25. Sorry for that bad news about you Dad ..... Prayers for him. n/t

[XOKCowboy]

26. My heart goes out to you....

My Dad and I had a near-violent parting of the ways when I got out of high school but we made amends within a couple of years. He was my best friend and supporter for the next 30 years. He was a WW2 vet who hated the Vietnam War, Reagan and both Bush's. I think after Ike he gave up on any Republican ties. He was a heck of a guy. He died very quickly after a very full life, thankfully and is buried on the ranch where he grew up. I think about him every day and smile.

I know what you're going through. Stay strong for your Dad and be with him while you can. Then celebrate his memory when he's gone.

Peace

[underseasurveyor]

27. Oh baby my heart goes out to you

Funny I woke up this morning feeling so sad. I had dreams last night of my dad and his parents, my grandparents. I woke up mising them so much and since I was so very young when they all died, I was 13 months when my dad was killed, 7 y/o when I lost my granma and mid twenties when I lost my papa I feel like I really missed out on a lot. Not nearly enough time with any of them.

So my wish for you is be thankful for your memories both good and bad but focus more on the good and from this moment forth cherish every single second you have left with your dad, take pictures and/or video. Tell him how much you love him and hug him every chance you get and one more thing, give him a hug and a kiss from me and tell him that I love him too:loveya:

Big hugs:hug: for you sweetheart

[a kennedy]

28. *hugs* prayers and positive thoughts.....

My brother was the first hospice patient back in 1980 he had melanoma cancer and did die, but the hospice personnel were just wonderful.

[Blue Diadem]

29. I'm so sorry

You do what you need to do mrcheerful. Be with your Dad and let him know how much he means to you.
We'll hold down the fort here and our thoughts and prayers will be with you and your family.

:hug:

[Trillo]

30. Just remember to love him in his last days.

Sympathies to you and your family.

[Stinky The Clown]

32. Hold his hand ..... for him and for you.

[librechik]

33. blessings, mr. cheerful--

[liberalhistorian]

34. I'm truly sorry, cheerful,

what a horrible blow for you and your family. Try to spend every moment you can with him; you both need it. I don't doubt at all how much it's affecting you and I so sympathize. The older I get, the more I understand Garrison Keillor's observation that we need to enjoy and appreciate our parents' presence on earth as much as possible, because the world is a very cold, lonely place without them. I don't think we fully understand that until one or both are gone or until we know we're losing one soon.

My stepdad has Lewy Body Dementia and advanced prostate cancer; he's in a nursing home and it's only a matter of time (he was only in his fifties when we started to get the first inklings of his dementia several years ago). It is, indeed, a devastating shock to come face-to-face with the reality of a parent's passing, and not just the abstract knowledge that they will pass someday. Feel free to PM if you want.

[bkkyosemite]

37. So sorry to hear about your dad. Don't think about what the past was think about what the present is

between you and dad because that is what counts. And dad will be proud that you are voting for Obama.

[beac]

35. I am so sorry.

Be with your family and know that we will take care of the rotton GOP. We will do your dad proud in November. :hug:

[countryjake]

36. Strong empathy here...mine died much the same manner...

except he was already a good old age and opted to go with nature, rather than suffer thru any treatments. His strength affected me and also caught me off guard, as you say, and tho it's been years since he passed, I still feel like smiling when I think back to that last surprising emotion he managed to bring on. You have all my sympathies and my wishes that you can stay strong for the sorrow you face. The wheel does keep turning.

Peace to you

[gateley]

38. I'm so sorry.

I'm glad you have Hospice involved. They helped me so much with both my parents. Take care of yourself.

:hug:

[LonelyLRLiberal]

39. I am so sorry to hear that - tell your Dad he is famous now and has lots of well-wishers. eom

[Obamarama]

40. I don't know if you'll find any solace or wisdom in this, but:

Be thankful that you patched things up with your dad. My dad and I only came to put the past behind us literally days before he died. For a time after his death, I bemoaned the fact that we had let our differences get in the way of the fact that we were father and son, not adversaries. As time progressed, though, I became more and more thankful that he didn't go to his grave with the two of us estranged, even if that time period was only 5 days.

I don't expect the fact that you are now reconciled to ease the here and now emotions of losing him, but just know that in the years to come you will look back on those few years not with regret that it was only a few years, but you will look back on those few years with fondness.

Peace to you and your family during yours and your father's difficult journey.

[mrcheerful]

41. Thanks everyone we might disagree around here but really we are a family and when one of

us is in need you all ae here to listen. Dad is 75 and was at the start of alzhiemers so at least we won't have to see him go that way. As sad as the cancer death is, to me that was worse. I been out visiting him 3 to 4 hours every other day as I am concerned about wearing him out as well as the stress on mom. Again thanks for the empathy, as well as mine to all those having gone through this and those going through it along with my family.

[SoCalDem]

42. Condolences to your family for the sadness you are all enduring.

Hopefully your dad will have a peaceful passage, and you can all be with him and "dot all the i's & cross all the t's" before his time comes..

It's always so awful when this happens.. I have a dear friend who is dying of cancer, and one day she said to her daughter (also my friend), "I wish I would have just been hit by a truck".. My friend reminded her that if that had happened, no one in her life would have been able to say their goodbyes, and would forever hurt from the loss of her and the things left unsaid, and by having time to "let her go", half of their sorrow would be lessened...She was given a month to live..and she's still going, almost a year later ..

:hug: to you and yours..

[AzDar]

43. All the best to you and your family. I lost my Dad to lung cancer in 1994; it's an awful thing.

:hug:

Take care of yourself.
--Darlene

[nadinbrzezinski]

45. I am sorry about your family situation

take care of family, that matters

[Mnemosyne]

46. .

:hug:

[roguevalley]

47. God bless you and your family and your dad. My dad and mom

didn't get to come home. What a trial but know he will love you for an eternity for everything you do.

[Solly Mack]

48. I'm so sorry.

:hug:

[countingbluecars]

49. I am so sorry

to hear about your father.