I am really a basketcase today...

[FirstLight]

As a single mom, there are bound to be days like this.

- raining and stormy...kids can't play outside. They are up at 6:30AM on my ONLY day off and want to play the loudest game in the house or just run around and be little monkeys! ack!
- My health is failing and i am still at a loss. Been through an ultrasound and a ct scan in the past 2 weeks, with non follow up because I go to the medi-CAL clinic and they could care less what happens next...Monday I have to go get the reports from the hospital and pursue some kind of next step on my own... meanwhile, I am dizzy, weak, achey, emotional and just plain sick of feeling sick (hormones suck)
- Since we spent the bulk of October fighting some kid of "back to school" illness and i got it twice as bad as the kids... rent is likely to be a stretch. Still need to pay the electric and phone bills and i hate begging my mom for help with groceries, but if she didn't pitch in and assist us...i'd be at the food pantry every week.

honestly, i just don't know how much more I can take some days. I know there are people who have it harder than us... At least I have a warm house and a bed to sleep in, but I am so tired of the struggle i am just overwhelmed by pain and exhaustion and I want it to be January and SEE the changes we keep hoping for... the thought of ANY more time under the abusive dominion of this dictatorship and it's war on those of us who try SO hard to get by is just wearing me down.

I am tired of tears. i want some peace and happiness...

[2Design]

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[Ken Burch]

2. Do you have any friends there? Anyone who can help?

Maybe some of the California Du'ers could touch base with this poster. She may need whatever help(even moral support)you guys could give her, if you're in the same part of the state. I'd suggest pm'ing her if you can do something.

[FirstLight]

12. i have a great support system

family church etc...but they can't do it for me and i am just treading water some days. I know it goes in cycles but today is just rough. i really want this election to be a done deal and feel like we have half a chance instead of more class=warfare where me and my family get the bottom of the barrel and that is supposed to be our lot in life.
i am sick of being in this place of struggle ALL THE TIME. and honestly, friends and family can't handle the day to day stuff for me...i have to find that strength somewhere.
...and the times i feel bad, honestly, are an indulgence.
I don't get to feel bad for more than a day or so because the demands are too great for me to just roll over and give up. so tomorrow and monday i'll be back on the horse and trying to get through it again...

[VoodooGuru]

3. hang in there.

It's coming soon. Have faith, and the peace and happiness are going to follow.

[Jed Dilligan]

4. Hope you get better

I just got refused medical insurance--I'm healthy now but it's coming for all of us. Obama had better win and fix this damned mess.

Anyway, I'm right down the hill in Sactown pulling for you to get better! And feeling much the same way--this rain brought on the dark side, the what if he loses or they steal it side, and the thought that my life isn't worth much if that is the case. I've lost three close people this year, one in Iraq who was WAY too young to die, and I just feel like I'm at the very edge of life and death myself.

[eowyn_of_rohan]

5. Hang in there...

First thing is don't be afraid for your health right now. This sounds like stress-related stuff to me. I have been feeling like a basketcase, too, and your symptoms sound identical to mine! This is an incredibly nerve-wracking time, but hopefully by Wednesday morning we will be feeling a huge sense of relief! Be easy on yourself- get more sleep! :hug:

[madmax]

6. I don't know what to say

Going thru the ct scans and bloodwork thing myself. Today has been the worst day for me also. :hug: Take it one day at a time - it's all we can do. I wish you lived near me.

[EFerrari]

7. Did you know DU has one beautiful mental health forum?

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=show_topics&forum=276

It's a great place to unload and get some good support. :hi:

[tabatha]

8. Avoid carbs and especially sugars as much as possible.

[Lancer]

9. I sincerely hope you catch a break soon.

I swear you guys, the corruption, lies, deceit and all the other horrors of the last eight years have been enough to make you physically ill. I know the stress, anger and despair at what has happened to our country has made me depressed enough to stay in bed at times.

BUT, it will all be over Tuesday. The numbers cannot lie at this point. You cannot make up 100 electoral votes in 2 days.

Can you imagine the change in mood and atmosphere, the optimism, once an Obama administration is a reality?

We don't have much longer to wait. Hang in there. . . hope and change ARE coming.

:hi:

[FirstLight]

10. I know stress is such a huge factor...

it is so hard to get un-stressed though! i can manage most days...some days i even feel like i have things under some semblance of "control" (whatever that is! lol)

But i swear, the bad weather really took the icky-ness and amplified it. and the feeling of being under the imprisonment of the current administration is really a driving force. i want SO much to just crawl in bed and sleep till spring and when i wake it will be a brighter world we live in!

besides, telling a single mom to take it easy is really a non-sequitr - i mean, i can help myself by doing little things, tea, sleep bubble baths etc...
but the "fundamentals" of MY economy are NOT strong! and that makes life really hectic most of the time

ugh, and I hate being a wet blanket when my normal personality is usually very optimistic...

...
yes, the last 8 years have been hard on SO many of us. I see that we will be a healthier country in SOOOO many ways because we are not being held under the steel-toed boot of the assholes anymore! Wonder if we can remember what it feels like to be hopeful and truly optimistic about our future again?

[illuminaughty]

13. So sorry you're feeling so overwhelmed

I've had MS for 18 years and I can tell you that dealing with doctors trying to figure out what is wrong with you is a bitch! And that was when I HAD health insurance.

I recently had to go back on anti-depressants because everything just got to be too much. I couldn't think beyond the stress ...between the financial struggle and health issues..it just seemed to be a constant juggle. I started thinking of giving up. But I've been there before.

If your hormones are off the seratonin is probably not releasing. I had zilch there for awhile.

Try to project yourself into a positive place in the future, because I can tell you from experience that there were many times I didn't believe I'd ever have another good day. Things changed drastically and I was so glad I made it over the hump.

Be very forceful with the docs. I've learned how to boss them around big time in order to get to the root of the problem. I wish you the best.

[OHDEM]

11. Sorry you're feeling blue.

It's bad enough when money is a problem, but it's hard to keep your head up when you're ill.

I hope you get better soon and I'll be praying for your peace and happiness. Everyone deserves that!

[Liberal_in_LA]

14. I hope you get an accurate diagnosis soon.

[struggle4progress]

15. Hot bath. Hot liquids. Soothing music. As much bed rest as possible.

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[tom_paine]

16. Stay strong. Sorry to hear things are so tough, but this, too, shall pass.

Cliched, but true nonetheless.

Know that many many of your DU friends are sending you good wishes and prayers that you and yours get through this crisis OK.

:hug:

[barbtries]

18. i hope you can get well soon

know that there are people pulling for you.

[wroberts189]

19. had a bad last 48 hours myself ...no one would believe

So bad ..I cannot go into details here. Very very bad.

Been up all night watching over someone. They are ok thank the gods ...all of them. :)

I know my comments may have little value but let me give it a try...

Feelings ..like the weather will change. I am sure you have better moments...right? Remind yourself of them.

To raise kids is an enormously challenging task and that is why I have none..look at how you have kept them ok so far... YOU HAVE DONE GREAT ! :)

Your kids are full of aliveness and sound full of energy and thunder :) Ask for their help... in what ways they can give it. I have no kids but when I was one and "mommy" asked me for help ..it turned the tables quite a bit. The child became a willing parent with deep concern.

You made it this far ... you will make it ok. YOU WILL BE OK .. one day at a time as they say.

... if a total nut case like myself can survive the daily struggle anyone can. You WILL feel better soon... you must ask your kids to let you sleep. They will.. but you may have to challenge them... Mom really needs your help... will you help her?? This is my pure intuition speaking so perhaps I know nothing but a try could not hurt right?

I know this is hard but ..Concentrate on what is right and ignore what is wrong... this always helps me. I know this is very very hard when your sick. I am sick myself ..and the big problem is no Doctors have a clue. I live with almost constant nausea as well as other issues. ..script...antidepressants (might as well be placebos)

I need a new roof but until it leaks ..no worries. Get it? Worry is very very very bad ... wait till it happens then deal. Do not deal or worry about things that have not happened yet. Assume the best or at least assume it will work out..it is usually never as bad as I think it's going to be ...it will be the same for you ..k?

My Mom used to say .."God does not give you what you cannot handle" ...I do not know how true that is but I have been hit with quite a bit (not something I like saying) and somehow I managed to survive it. Looking back ...I wonder how I made it but you see reality has a funny quality ..it always changes.

After Tuesday .. I believe the whole world will rejoice so much the powerful psychic impact of billions will alter "things"... at least I strongly believe so. I think everyone will feel the impact of what's coming in some way ..and its going to be good.

We will all get some peace and happiness... Heard it here first :)

peace and get well soon




As the others said ..HANG IN THERE

HANG IN THERE DAMMIT ..change is coming. It IS coming.

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[1776Forever]

20. Nature sooths me - I am the mother of 5 sons - All grown now - Try to pamper yourself today.

Take the kids out to the park and just relax. Don't worry about the house or other burdens and let the weight lift a little. Water seems to help me too. Just watching the water and hearing the sounds of the birds and the wind in the trees helps me. Believe me we parents all go through major challenges in our lives, but they do pass and we are able to choose our path in the future to a better tomorrow. Sometimes it takes a lot of courage but it is worth the effort.

Blessing and hugs!