Is this compliment a good thing? check out this partial email from my principal

[greenbriar]

Got this email from my principal. We are dealing with a very over involved mom and an ADHD child with issues...

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just called Mom back.
We talked for about 20 minutes. I believe we left on very good grounds.

She appreciated Greenbriar's call to Grandmother. Go green : ). Your sense of legitimate care is unmistakable and means a lot to all you meet


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is this a good compliment???

[ogneopasno]

1. Yes.

[DJ13]

2. Its worded in a clumsy manner, but its actually a nice compliment

[dorkulon]

3. How could it not be? /nt

[greenbriar]

4. well the legitimate stuff is weird

like sometimes I am not legitimate????

[dorkulon]

10. It means not fake.

He should have said "genuine." But you really seem to be trying to find an insult in this. This is exactly why e-mail is a terrible way to communicate.

[greenbriar]

11. I am definately not trying to find an insult,

the principal is new and we are all just tryign to figure out where we stand.


I like the Genuine analogy...

I can relate to that

maybe that is what he meant.

[daninthemoon]

5. what type of letter were you expecting? seems nice to me. was there

some issue that he failed to address?

[greenbriar]

7. I wasn't expecting anything...

I didn't even know he was calling mom...



it is just worded really strange

[proud2BlibKansan]

6. Is it posible to have a sense of illegitimate care?

:)

Yes that's a compliment. Good for you.

I took my YES WE CAN sign out of my yard and put it up in my classroom. Keeps my Republican principal out of my room :evilgrin:

[greenbriar]

9. I thought about hanign my Obama/Biden poster in my room

I may do that Jan 20 after all, it will be our new administration

[la la]

8. sounds good to me.....

once in a great while...I would get good notes from my Principal--depending on who the Prin. was that year!

I think you did receive a compliment.

congrats!

[Meldread]

12. I think he was saying this:

That you obviously really care (and thus are a really good person), unlike some people who just pretend. Thus the word, "legitimate."

[greenbriar]

13. oh...that is good

thanks for helping me clarify

[aikoaiko]

14. UR 2 legit 2 quit.

hammertime.

[greenbriar]

15. bwaha

thanks

[ProudToBeBlueInRhody]

16. Doesn't read like they are a very good writer

I'd take it as a compliment, I think the person just has a problem expressing themselves through written words.

[HelenWheels]

17. "very over involved mom"

What do you mean by that? I've heard that before about parents and it's meant to dismiss their legitimate concerns.

In the 50's and 60's the term "refrigerator mother" was used to blame mother's poor parenting skills for autistic children. Now parents of autism spectrum kids are often called over protective because the schools won't admit the child needs help.

[greenbriar]

18. In this case, the MOM is ready to pounce on any little thing she percieves her son

to be wronged.

for instance, her son was observed using very offensive language and was given a day in In school suspension but because grandma and grandpa are retired teachers, they called the super to complain about it without hearing all the facts. They just listened to their sweet little boy tell them the teacher hates him and he didn't do anything wrong...

she doesn't think grades are fair

she doesn't think it is fair to move him when he is talking as it is "singling him out"

and on and on and on

[HelenWheels]

19. Was it determined why he was swearing

I'm cautious about this because I spent a lot of time volunteering in our schools and I see how the bullies roll. If this kid has AHDD or some other issue the bullies smell blood in the water and after years of badgering it doesn't take much to set the victim off anymore. A bullied kid comes to school filled with apprehension and fear and staff often get tired of dealing with the "whiner" instead of dealing with the issue of why this kid is acting this way.

I don't know if this kid is bullied or just thinks he's too wonderful because of who his grandparents are, the principals daughter at my son's school used to tell the kids that they had to do as she said or she'd tell her dad. The principal pretended he didn't know this was going on which only fed the ego and meanness of the daughter.

As for a teacher hating a student, I've heard that too, I've had two teachers tell me they hate some of their students. If the kids parents had one of those types of teachers they're more likely to believe it from their kid. I had two, a third grade teacher that hit kids, in class in front of us - he taught for years after that and retired from the district. The other finally retired last year after thirty years of bullying students. I had her thirty years ago and my son's had her four years ago and she was still a nasty piece of work. So sometimes when kids say the teacher hates them they're just working their parents but sometimes they're telling the truth.

[greenbriar]

20. I am sure the kid was swearing, but it wasn't my room. I personally don't have issues with this kid

I have him at 7 am

I have observed his behavior in the lunch room and other places...He is no angel. Mom is over reacting a LOT

but that is beside the point...

[HelenWheels]

21. What's beside the point? nt