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4 years here and 10 years in a relationship with my wife. I have seen it all, been through so many things I cannot even begin to describe it all.
I have spent nights alone with my little girl building fires out back, watching her ride her bike with training wheels, all the while my wife was sitting alone in bed sick. Lost my house and my jobs (worked two jobs for a spell-got laid off of both in one month).
I gave up my career to take care of the woman I love and my baby girl, and yet somehow in it all I failed my wife. We live with a friend of mine at his house and he is able to be there for her on levels I could not. She is in love with two men (me and him), which I can grasp as I will always be in love with X GF out in CA (we have a daughter together, she won't know who I am until she is 18 - just wanted her to have a normal life unlike my 3 boys....that is another story). I GET being in love with more than one person, so I understand what she is going through right now.
My wife has Parkinson's and is on a lot of meds, which mess with her mind. She forgets things, she shakes a lot, and is bed ridden more than she is up. She needs a security I cannot give her a lot of times (even though I did for a spell, from a house and 2 cars to what we have now which is nothing - I can't even get a good job because I am over qualified, a term I am tired of hearing about).
I live here in another man's house who helps me take care of her and my daughter, a man who could not help but to fall in love with her because she is a beautiful and intelligent woman. One of a kind.
Through all this though I have spent many nights alone thinking about life and the many people out there in 'weird' or 'odd' situations, folks like the lady I gave a dollar to the other day who was begging for change.
What is love? I love my wife and want to see her happy, I want to see her last few years be happy - even if it hurts me. I love other people too and want to see them have a happy and good life - and how hard is that for us to accomplish?
Health care, food, jobs, etc. We have the power in our hands to make the lives of other people better, we bail out huge companies because we worry about how those companies failing will impact us all - and yet there are people out there all over the US just trying to pay rent/mortgages and make ends meet. We have people needing medications, mental health assistance, general health and Dr appointments, we have folks just needing the basics and our government is failing them. We are failing them as well in some ways.
I'll watch my wife slowly fall into the abyss of this disease, as others watch the ones they love die from a variety of things. Some fight stem cell research, some fight against the obese who cannot help where they are at because of a variety reasons (genetic, mental, etc), we still see people telling people to just to buck it up and try harder - when they don't have the mental capacity to deal with their issues.
Compassion and love, to me, means we see beyond ourselves and have some empathy. I can work hard and get my life back on track. I might be dirt poor and begging for money here and there, but I will rise again because I can - but there are many others who have issues that get in their way, that does not make them bad people.
So many people need our help right now, and it is only going to get worse I think for so many. Little kids going without food, moms/dads crying and not able to sleep because their kids are missing out on the basics. Sleeping in the cold or in cars, shelters, etc.
This is our time to shine and show what we are made of, to show people what liberals truly are - that we love others and want to take care of them and help them out. While the RW is busy bailing out those big companies it is people like US who want to help out the people that need it the most.
We don't care if you are gay, straight, in a weird relationship like I am, we don't care if you got pregnant from a one night stand, etc and so on - we love you all and want to see you happy, we want to see a smile on the face of moms and dads and kids. We want you to have the most basic things in life.
Security, food, and a place where your dreams can come true.
Love means sacrifice at times, not condemnation.
Several folks have helped me out here recently, and it means the world to me. From talking to me to other things, and I have seen real love here on this web site. I thank you for all you have done and I hope some day I do you proud.
Don't judge me or my wife because of how things are, she is a good woman - but she is in a bad place and I will stand by her through it all. And all that I ask is that we liberals stand by the many people out there who need us - and not judge them but be there for them in their time of need.
Judgment is for the fundies. For us progressives there is something I call love and understanding. Sadly the RW only cares about it all when it comes to money.
Rant off - TSS/Todd
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