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Everyone has deal-breakers...for some, their spouse even looking at Internet porn is cheating. Others have open relationships, poly-fidelity, and so forth.
Sex is something that is inherently intimate, and I don't think it's hypocritical for someone to not want to bring strangers into that intimacy (whether for money or as part of an open relationship or any other reason) even as they want their partners to be happy.
If my partner joined the military (which he's medically ineligible to do, so I'm perhaps coming at this from too much detachment), it wouldn't just be "this is what he wants to do." It would also mean when he was deployed, my own mental health would deteriorate (I'm prone to anxiety, I'd be left a de facto single parent if we had kids, I wouldn't be able to see my stepdaughter(because her mom probably wouldn't send her over to visit just me and I'd have no legal right to complain), and there would be that constant on-eggshells feeling: Is that doorbell the UPS guy or somber men in dress uniforms? How long before the next deployment? It would impact the very way I live. Yes, it's a selfish way of looking at things, but if I selflessly said "sure, honey! I support you 100%!" we'd be in big trouble a year or two down the road and I know this because I know how I operate.
With sex work, it's much the same thing, depending on the work. I'd probably not have a problem with a partner who wrote/directed/designed porn, or ran Web sites, but I'd have trouble with him acting in it. Too much room for diseases, for getting someone else pregnant, for getting recognized.
I think there's a difference between being OK with the existance of something and being OK with it in your relationship, and it's not hypocritical to be OK with the former and not the latter.
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