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jennygirl (133 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 05:39 PM Original message |
Should Fathers of Fetuses Know that their Girlfriends are Pregnant? |
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redqueen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 05:40 PM Response to Original message |
1. Please. |
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masuki bance (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 05:41 PM Response to Reply #1 |
3. If he just slept with her once, he knows? nt |
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redqueen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 05:43 PM Response to Reply #3 |
6. No... if he "just slept with her once," he's not involved with her. |
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masuki bance (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 05:45 PM Response to Reply #6 |
9. But this same sap, could also be legally and financially responsible for at least 18 yrs, right? |
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redqueen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 05:48 PM Response to Reply #9 |
10. As could anyone who is sexually active and fertile, yes. (nt) |
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TexasObserver (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 06:17 PM Response to Reply #6 |
41. All of that is immaterial. She doesn't own the child. She bears it. |
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Robb (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 07:42 PM Response to Reply #41 |
109. Indeed. |
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alittlelark (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 09:48 PM Response to Reply #41 |
190. Interesting post - given the ones further downthread. |
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redqueen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-21-09 11:08 AM Response to Reply #41 |
284. This is about a pregnancy, not a child. |
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joeybee12 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-21-09 11:22 AM Response to Reply #41 |
287. 18 years later the kid could show up demanding money from the father... |
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wuushew (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 05:40 PM Response to Original message |
2. No |
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rug (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 05:41 PM Response to Original message |
4. Should the child know her father? |
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me b zola (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 07:46 PM Response to Reply #4 |
303. In manycases, no |
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readmoreoften (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 05:42 PM Response to Original message |
5. Not if the woman doesn't want to tell him. What're you going to have the state |
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TexasObserver (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 06:21 PM Response to Reply #5 |
44. She has a duty to tell him. |
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Greyhound (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 06:30 PM Response to Reply #44 |
53. How? n/t |
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TexasObserver (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 06:47 PM Response to Reply #53 |
69. When the baby is born, some states mandate disclosure of the father. |
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Milspec (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 07:09 PM Response to Reply #69 |
85. My highly progressive state of Oklahoma |
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Greyhound (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 07:21 PM Response to Reply #85 |
91. Mr. Morality doesn't care about that. |
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TexasObserver (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 07:22 PM Response to Reply #85 |
92. Generally speaking, all states favor joint parenting. |
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likesmountains 52 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 08:38 PM Response to Reply #69 |
144. I help plenty of women fill out paternity papers and birth certificates...if she says she doesn't |
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ProgressiveProfessor (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 08:54 PM Response to Reply #144 |
156. The current system is a mess in this area |
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TexasObserver (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 08:59 PM Response to Reply #144 |
160. There are 50 states. Each one has different laws regarding child custody. |
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ejpoeta (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-21-09 05:25 AM Response to Reply #69 |
266. at least in NY, if she ever tries to get any public assistance they will make her go |
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defendandprotect (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-21-09 09:27 PM Response to Reply #69 |
293. And do they mandate a truth serum ....or a polygraph test . . ??? |
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alittlelark (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 07:31 PM Response to Reply #44 |
103. WHY? Given that she does not want to, odds are he's an a**hole. |
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TexasObserver (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 07:42 PM Response to Reply #103 |
110. You're projecting, and so are several others. |
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tigereye (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 08:27 PM Response to Reply #110 |
135. and you aren't projecting? |
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TexasObserver (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 08:43 PM Response to Reply #135 |
147. No, I'm basing my posts upon actual knowledge of how the law views this topic. |
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tigereye (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 08:56 PM Response to Reply #147 |
159. well, the OP wasn't only about the law... |
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TexasObserver (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 09:11 PM Response to Reply #159 |
169. My concern is for the child, and that child's right to know and have 2 extended families. |
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musette_sf (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 09:59 PM Response to Reply #147 |
195. and your example worked out SO well |
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ejpoeta (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-21-09 05:29 AM Response to Reply #195 |
267. if the woman had just told him in the first place, then the kid would have had two parents all along |
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Horse with no Name (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 07:50 PM Response to Reply #147 |
305. Well going by MY experiences |
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alittlelark (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 08:49 PM Response to Reply #110 |
151. I know he had sex w/ a woman outside of wedlock, therefore |
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TexasObserver (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 08:53 PM Response to Reply #151 |
155. Wedlock is immaterial to the parental rights of the father. |
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alittlelark (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 09:03 PM Response to Reply #155 |
163. No, it is not. The child has not yet been born. |
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TexasObserver (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 09:14 PM Response to Reply #163 |
171. "We all agree that the father has no legal rights until the child is born." |
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alittlelark (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 09:18 PM Response to Reply #171 |
174. Uhhhh, that was in the TEXT of your message. |
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alittlelark (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 09:40 PM Response to Reply #171 |
184. You don't respond once BUSTED. |
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TexasObserver (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 10:31 PM Response to Reply #184 |
220. No, I choose not to further engage those who seem irrational. |
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alittlelark (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 11:30 PM Response to Reply #220 |
230. Cowardly headline - back up any of it. |
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Robb (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 07:44 PM Response to Reply #103 |
114. You're probably right |
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alittlelark (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 08:50 PM Response to Reply #114 |
153. The OP was intentionally vague. |
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tkmorris (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 10:06 PM Response to Reply #103 |
203. It's too late for that call |
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alittlelark (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 10:14 PM Response to Reply #203 |
206. As soon as men carry the fetus for 9+ months they have a say |
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TexasObserver (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 10:33 PM Original message |
Very well stated. |
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Yupster (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-21-09 02:12 AM Response to Reply #103 |
242. What if she's the one who's the a...hole? |
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TommyO (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-21-09 07:28 AM Response to Reply #103 |
272. It's quite possible that she's the one that's an asshole |
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TommyO (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-21-09 07:45 AM Response to Reply #103 |
274. self delete - dupe |
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masuki bance (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 05:43 PM Response to Original message |
7. nm |
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Bunny (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 05:44 PM Response to Original message |
8. Legally required to inform him? No. |
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TexasObserver (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 06:23 PM Response to Reply #8 |
45. Depends on the State. State law controls in each state. |
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Bunny (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 06:33 PM Response to Reply #45 |
55. I have no idea how that relates to my post. |
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TexasObserver (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 06:42 PM Response to Reply #55 |
65. You made an assertion that is not correct. |
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Bunny (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 06:47 PM Response to Reply #65 |
68. Of course I was stating my opinion. That's what the OP asked for. |
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gratuitous (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 05:52 PM Response to Original message |
11. The ethical thing to do is to notify the father |
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rateyes (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 05:55 PM Response to Original message |
12. If he finds out after the child is born, he'll have a helluva lawsuit |
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Mz Pip (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 05:55 PM Response to Original message |
13. Maybe I'm old fashioned |
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redqueen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 06:00 PM Response to Reply #13 |
15. Not old-fashioned. |
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Mz Pip (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 06:06 PM Response to Reply #15 |
24. I know |
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Kdillard (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 06:15 PM Response to Reply #13 |
35. My thoughts exactly. |
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mamaleah (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 07:28 PM Response to Reply #13 |
102. I agree. |
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Tangerine LaBamba (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 06:00 PM Response to Original message |
14. I'm a feminist, |
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redqueen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 06:02 PM Response to Reply #14 |
18. Why invent your own backstory? |
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TexasObserver (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 06:29 PM Response to Reply #14 |
50. Well said. It's not an issue among civilized people. |
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tigereye (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 08:32 PM Response to Reply #50 |
140. unfortunately people do this all the time... |
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TexasObserver (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 09:03 PM Response to Reply #140 |
164. I make no assumptions regarding who is better between the parents. |
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tigereye (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-21-09 10:21 AM Response to Reply #164 |
280. I've never heard that spoken of as a right, that is interesting |
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ProgressiveProfessor (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 09:05 PM Response to Reply #140 |
165. The court would construe their actions as evidence of lack of fitness |
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kiva (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 06:01 PM Response to Original message |
16. Absolutly. |
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d_r (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 06:01 PM Response to Original message |
17. the father should have a right to know |
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LiberalFighter (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 06:02 PM Response to Original message |
19. What happens if the mother needs public assistance sometime in the future? |
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MrSlayer (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 06:02 PM Response to Original message |
20. if she doesn't tell him she should never expect him to pay for anything. |
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Fire1 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 06:04 PM Response to Reply #20 |
22. Ditto, that!!!! n/t |
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rfranklin (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 06:14 PM Response to Reply #20 |
34. Yes, but she could easily get a decision in court for him to pay.... |
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MrSlayer (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 06:19 PM Response to Reply #34 |
42. Yes, our "justice" system. |
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Yupster (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-21-09 02:28 AM Response to Reply #34 |
244. That was a very public case near us |
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ejpoeta (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-21-09 05:37 AM Response to Reply #244 |
268. that is bullshit!! i'm imagining the woman and her boyfriend having a good laugh |
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Yupster (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-21-09 02:22 AM Response to Reply #20 |
243. The problem with that is the court says the child support |
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musette_sf (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 06:03 PM Response to Original message |
21. .... |
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Tangerine LaBamba (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 06:05 PM Response to Reply #21 |
23. Did I miss something? |
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musette_sf (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 06:09 PM Response to Reply #23 |
27. though the OP has tenure |
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Tangerine LaBamba (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 06:15 PM Response to Reply #27 |
36. I saw the number, and thought |
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musette_sf (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 06:59 PM Response to Reply #36 |
78. back at ya |
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raccoon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-21-09 07:52 AM Response to Reply #21 |
275. Right on! |
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LWolf (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 06:07 PM Response to Original message |
25. I think it's the right thing to do to tell the other person involved. |
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JitterbugPerfume (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 06:08 PM Response to Original message |
26. of course the child should know it's father. |
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Occam Bandage (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 06:11 PM Response to Original message |
28. If the girlfriends ever expect the father to pay for anything, yes. |
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lunatica (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 06:11 PM Response to Original message |
29. There are factors to consider |
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jennygirl (133 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 07:26 PM Response to Reply #29 |
98. I AM NOT AN NOT A MRA I AM A FEMINIST WHO THINKS HE SHOULD KNOW |
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lunatica (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 07:44 PM Response to Reply #98 |
112. Why are you yelling? |
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musette_sf (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 08:21 PM Response to Reply #98 |
131. mm-hmm |
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varelse (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 09:30 PM Response to Reply #98 |
180. If you think he should know |
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defendandprotect (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-21-09 09:33 PM Response to Reply #98 |
294. So you're not mandating that GENERALLY "boyfriends" should know . . .???? |
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Yupster (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-21-09 02:31 AM Response to Reply #29 |
246. Those are all complications, but |
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TexasObserver (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-21-09 02:45 AM Response to Reply #246 |
253. A family court would appoint a guardian ad litem to represent the child. |
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Taverner (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 06:12 PM Response to Original message |
30. Why? It doesn't involve them |
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MercutioATC (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 06:16 PM Response to Reply #30 |
40. It involves them financially. |
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TexasObserver (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 06:35 PM Response to Reply #30 |
56. It does involve them if the baby is born. |
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lumberjack_jeff (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 06:38 PM Response to Reply #30 |
60. Mom is not the only person with rights that matter. |
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MrsMatt (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 07:26 PM Response to Reply #30 |
100. But, I'd argue once she made the decision to keep it |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 07:39 PM Response to Reply #30 |
106. bullshit. lol, i totally disagree. 50% his... n/t |
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Taverner (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 07:54 PM Response to Reply #106 |
120. Does he have to bear the child? |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 08:20 PM Response to Reply #120 |
129. if she brings that child into the world, that does not make it more her child |
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Yupster (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-21-09 02:33 AM Response to Reply #30 |
247. What about once the baby's born? |
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Gwendolyn (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 06:12 PM Response to Original message |
31. If the ex is a POS, it's often best to exclude him from the process. |
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TexasObserver (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 06:12 PM Response to Original message |
32. When a child is born, both parents have equal rights regarding the child. |
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musette_sf (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 06:23 PM Response to Reply #32 |
46. "This notion that the woman owns the child is a fairly new one" |
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kiva (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 06:32 PM Response to Reply #46 |
54. Overreact much? Nothing the poster said |
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musette_sf (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 06:45 PM Response to Reply #54 |
67. not "overreacting" but thankyouforyourconcern |
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kiva (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 07:43 PM Response to Reply #67 |
111. Wow, you mean that women and children didn't always |
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musette_sf (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 08:17 PM Response to Reply #111 |
128. um. |
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TexasObserver (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 06:37 PM Response to Reply #46 |
59. Neither parent owns the child. Both parents have equal rights regarding the child. |
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musette_sf (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 06:53 PM Response to Reply #59 |
72. i did not infer that AT ALL. |
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TexasObserver (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 06:56 PM Response to Reply #72 |
74. Yes, that's exactly what you first inferred, then implied. |
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musette_sf (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 07:18 PM Response to Reply #74 |
89. FAIL |
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JitterbugPerfume (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 07:00 PM Response to Reply #46 |
79. Owns the child? |
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TexasObserver (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 07:07 PM Response to Reply #79 |
81. That's correct. No one owns the child. Both have rights equal in the child. |
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musette_sf (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 07:07 PM Response to Reply #79 |
82. precisely! |
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OPERATIONMINDCRIME (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 10:19 PM Response to Reply #32 |
208. Hear Hear To That! |
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Spike89 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 06:12 PM Response to Original message |
33. Legally, no. Morally, probably most of the time |
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southernyankeebelle (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 06:15 PM Response to Original message |
37. Gosh, that is an individual choice - If the dad isn't a responsible |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 07:40 PM Response to Reply #37 |
107. if the motehr isnt responsible??? and sounding like not. if a female leaves themselves open |
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KittyWampus (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 06:15 PM Response to Original message |
38. Ethically, she should tell the biological father. Unless abuse is part of the equation. |
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EC (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 06:15 PM Response to Original message |
39. Not anyone's business except the pregnant |
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ProgressiveProfessor (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 09:13 PM Response to Reply #39 |
170. Once the child is born others have coequal rights in the situation |
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OPERATIONMINDCRIME (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 10:20 PM Response to Reply #39 |
209. It's Every Bit The Man's Business. |
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jesus_of_suburbia (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 06:20 PM Response to Original message |
43. It's her business.. but she shouldn't come to him 10 years later looking for child support... |
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OPERATIONMINDCRIME (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 06:25 PM Response to Original message |
47. Absolutely He Should Now. Unfortunately, Men's Rights Have A Long Way To Go In This Country. |
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mmonk (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 06:28 PM Response to Original message |
48. Hard question. I am male and think if the law would make me |
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Yupster (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-21-09 02:39 AM Response to Reply #48 |
250. So who should decide if the guy's bad? |
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Greyhound (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 06:29 PM Response to Original message |
49. It is up to her and nobody else's business. |
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Rosa Luxemburg (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 06:30 PM Response to Original message |
51. It's their business not ours |
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noamnety (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 06:30 PM Response to Original message |
52. I trust the woman to do what's best given the circumstances |
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lumberjack_jeff (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 06:35 PM Response to Original message |
57. Of course. |
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ColbertWatcher (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 06:36 PM Response to Original message |
58. If you want to be correct, you should say "sperm donors" instead of fathers. n/t |
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lumberjack_jeff (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 06:41 PM Response to Reply #58 |
63. Then she should produce the donorship agreement. n/t |
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ColbertWatcher (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 07:02 PM Response to Reply #63 |
80. The way I look at it, a father is one of the people who provides care for a child. |
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GliderGuider (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 06:38 PM Response to Original message |
61. A woman has an absolute right to make any and all decisions regarding what goes on in her body. |
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lumberjack_jeff (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 06:41 PM Response to Reply #61 |
62. The child in the crib is no longer part of her body. |
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GliderGuider (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 06:55 PM Response to Reply #62 |
73. If the child asks, it should be told. |
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lumberjack_jeff (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 07:17 PM Response to Reply #73 |
88. The child only has rights when (s)he's old enough to ask for them? |
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GliderGuider (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 07:23 PM Response to Reply #88 |
94. The child isn't asking for their rights, they're asking for information. |
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lumberjack_jeff (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 07:26 PM Response to Reply #94 |
99. A child's right to a parent should not be contingient on asking anyone. |
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GliderGuider (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 07:41 PM Response to Reply #99 |
108. "Equal rights under the law"? |
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lumberjack_jeff (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 08:41 PM Response to Reply #108 |
146. So fathers have no rights that mothers are bound to respect? |
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GliderGuider (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 08:54 PM Response to Reply #146 |
157. I'm impressed. |
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lumberjack_jeff (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 10:23 PM Response to Reply #157 |
211. I did. Your premise is that fathers have rights, but only if moms agree. |
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OPERATIONMINDCRIME (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 10:22 PM Response to Reply #73 |
210. The Child Can't Talk At A Day Old. |
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Gwendolyn (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 06:56 PM Original message |
I believe if she wants to give the child up for adoption... |
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GliderGuider (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 07:09 PM Response to Original message |
84. I'm speaking here of my ideal situation, |
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ProgressiveProfessor (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 09:17 PM Response to Reply #84 |
173. In your scenario the child is chattel to the mother... |
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GliderGuider (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 09:32 PM Response to Reply #173 |
181. Three people with "equal" rights? |
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ProgressiveProfessor (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 09:52 PM Response to Reply #181 |
193. Yes, three people with rights... |
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GliderGuider (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 09:59 PM Response to Reply #193 |
196. I gave my position on this argument below |
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Gwendolyn (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 06:56 PM Response to Reply #61 |
75. I believe if she wants to give the child up for adoption... |
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musette_sf (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 06:58 PM Response to Reply #61 |
77. + 1 |
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TexasObserver (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 07:12 PM Response to Reply #61 |
86. Her absolute right is only the decision to have the child. |
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GliderGuider (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 07:18 PM Response to Reply #86 |
90. As I said above, I'm speaking of the rights I think she "should" have. |
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TexasObserver (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 07:26 PM Response to Reply #90 |
97. So, you believe mothers should be able to own their children. |
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GliderGuider (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 07:44 PM Response to Reply #97 |
113. I don't require you to agree with me. This is my personal opinion. |
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stray cat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 06:42 PM Response to Original message |
64. No - its just a choice not a child and its the woman's choice |
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gleaner (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 06:45 PM Response to Original message |
66. That is a tough one.. |
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peace13 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 06:48 PM Response to Original message |
70. No, I think all fathers should be aborted! |
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travelingtypist (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 06:49 PM Response to Original message |
71. Need to know, should know, sure. |
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SidDithers (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 06:56 PM Response to Original message |
76. Does a fetus have a father? Or do only children have parents?..nt |
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bemildred (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 07:08 PM Response to Original message |
83. The kid has a right to know who his/her parents are. |
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Brooklyns_Finest (747 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 07:50 PM Response to Reply #83 |
118. +1 |
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musette_sf (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 08:26 PM Response to Reply #118 |
133. - 1 |
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ProgressiveProfessor (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 09:03 PM Response to Reply #133 |
161. Under current law her abolute authority to choose ends at birth |
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GliderGuider (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 09:15 PM Response to Reply #161 |
172. Does the fact that it's "current law" make it right? |
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ProgressiveProfessor (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 09:23 PM Response to Reply #172 |
177. Yes it does. The child has two parent each with equal rights and responsibilites |
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GliderGuider (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 09:37 PM Response to Reply #177 |
182. See my response above |
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ProgressiveProfessor (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 09:47 PM Response to Reply #182 |
189. Its "what is in the child's best interest" is paramount |
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GliderGuider (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 09:57 PM Response to Reply #189 |
194. If the child is going to be the primary responsibility of one partner |
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ProgressiveProfessor (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 10:49 PM Response to Reply #194 |
224. Why would you support such a blatently sexist approach? |
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GliderGuider (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 11:00 PM Response to Reply #224 |
228. Partly because women have been getting the short end of the stick for thousands of years. |
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DatManFromNawlins (640 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 11:45 PM Response to Reply #228 |
231. This has nothing to do with women's rights |
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bemildred (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-21-09 12:04 AM Response to Reply #231 |
235. That was kind of where I was coming from. |
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GliderGuider (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-21-09 05:21 AM Response to Reply #235 |
264. A child acquires "full moral, legal, and human rights" at birth? |
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bemildred (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-21-09 10:47 AM Response to Reply #264 |
281. Yes, exactly. |
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Yupster (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-21-09 02:47 AM Response to Reply #228 |
254. It really is sexism Glider |
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GliderGuider (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-21-09 05:13 AM Response to Reply #254 |
263. As I said above |
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Yupster (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-21-09 09:40 PM Response to Reply #263 |
296. I guess that's fine |
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Brooklyns_Finest (747 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 10:03 PM Response to Reply #133 |
199. Forget the story |
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GliderGuider (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 10:13 PM Response to Reply #199 |
205. Would it surprise you to find out |
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Brooklyns_Finest (747 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 11:29 PM Response to Reply #205 |
229. Absolutely |
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TorchTheWitch (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-21-09 02:03 AM Response to Reply #205 |
241. she already let him in |
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TexasObserver (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-21-09 02:29 AM Response to Reply #241 |
245. Excellent post on this topic. |
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Yupster (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-21-09 02:53 AM Response to Reply #205 |
255. The woman wouldn't have to have the man in her life |
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OPERATIONMINDCRIME (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 10:24 PM Response to Reply #118 |
213. Exactly. It's Ignorance Due To Closed Minded Bias. |
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Tierra_y_Libertad (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 07:14 PM Response to Original message |
87. It's up to her. She's a free human being able to make her own choices. |
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Greyhound (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 07:23 PM Response to Reply #87 |
93. If only that were so. n/t |
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ejpoeta (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-21-09 05:42 AM Response to Reply #87 |
269. for herself, maybe, but this isn't about her. it's about her kid. and while i do not |
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alittlelark (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 07:24 PM Response to Original message |
95. As soon as med. tech. allows for implantation into a male |
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GliderGuider (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 10:04 PM Response to Reply #95 |
202. I'd settle for a swap at the half-way point. |
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alittlelark (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 10:23 PM Response to Reply #202 |
212. Sounds good to me - the last 1/2 tears your bod up. |
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Pushed To The Left (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 07:25 PM Response to Original message |
96. The thought of having a son or daughter out there somewhere that you'll never know about seems |
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mamaleah (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 07:26 PM Response to Original message |
101. Well, in the world of mature adults |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 07:35 PM Response to Original message |
104. i am a feminist in that i think it is a responsibility to tell father. i dont think that |
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H2O Man (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 07:36 PM Response to Original message |
105. It depends. |
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GliderGuider (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 09:19 PM Response to Reply #105 |
175. Damn your reasonableness! |
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jennygirl (133 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 07:45 PM Response to Original message |
115. I AM NOT AN MRA BUT A CONCERNED FEMINIST IN THE CHILD'S BEST INTEREST |
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GliderGuider (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 07:55 PM Response to Reply #115 |
121. Self-delete -- I changed my mind. nt |
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jennygirl (133 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 08:31 PM Response to Reply #121 |
137. Thanks, GliderGuider |
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musette_sf (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 08:35 PM Response to Reply #137 |
141. and your "concern" would include |
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GliderGuider (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 08:37 PM Response to Reply #137 |
143. Try to help her on "her" terms, not your own. |
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TexasObserver (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 08:01 PM Response to Reply #115 |
124. The father may very well be a better choice than the mother for primary caregiver. |
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tigereye (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 08:50 PM Response to Reply #124 |
154. Do you ever do anything else but repeat the same thing over and over? |
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musette_sf (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 09:11 PM Original message |
one of those who thinks |
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tigereye (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-21-09 10:07 AM Response to Original message |
279. yeah I find that exasperating - to me, that's not a discussion |
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OPERATIONMINDCRIME (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 10:27 PM Response to Reply #154 |
216. You Can't Convince That Which Is Blindfully Ignorant; So I Doubt That's The Poster's Intent. |
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alittlelark (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 09:43 PM Response to Reply #124 |
185. AGENDA much? |
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TexasObserver (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-21-09 12:35 AM Response to Reply #185 |
238. My agenda is speaking up for the concept of joint custody and the child's rights. |
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musette_sf (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 08:20 PM Response to Reply #115 |
130. sure you are |
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GliderGuider (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 08:29 PM Response to Reply #115 |
136. For a feminist there is an oddly patriarchal tone to your concern. |
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Name removed (0 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 08:32 PM Response to Reply #136 |
139. Deleted sub-thread |
Name removed (0 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 09:46 PM Response to Reply #115 |
188. Deleted message |
musette_sf (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 10:03 PM Response to Reply #188 |
200. it's been lurking a long time |
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Name removed (0 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 10:07 PM Response to Reply #200 |
204. Deleted sub-thread |
OPERATIONMINDCRIME (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 10:33 PM Response to Reply #200 |
222. You Happen To Have A Very Strange Perception There. |
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OPERATIONMINDCRIME (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 10:26 PM Response to Reply #115 |
215. What's Wrong With Being An MRA? Are Men's Rights Less Valid Than A Woman's? |
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GliderGuider (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 10:32 PM Response to Reply #215 |
221. Yes, in a sense they are less valid. |
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OPERATIONMINDCRIME (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 10:37 PM Response to Reply #221 |
223. Not When Dealing With Children. The Culture Is Still Largely And Ignorantly Biased Against Men There |
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katanalori (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 07:46 PM Response to Original message |
116. Not enough info. |
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hedgehog (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 07:50 PM Response to Original message |
117. Strictly my opinion, but unless a man is willing to enter a |
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musette_sf (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 08:05 PM Response to Reply #117 |
126. + 1 |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 08:24 PM Response to Reply #117 |
132. the child is as much as his. if a mother doesnt like it she can use the pill, he a condom |
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RB TexLa (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 07:53 PM Response to Original message |
119. No, nothing going on in someone's body is anyone else's business. |
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mamaleah (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 07:59 PM Response to Reply #119 |
122. "Just like if I have a vasectomy, it's none of my wife's business." |
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RB TexLa (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 08:04 PM Response to Reply #122 |
125. Maybe you don't understand, I am a human being, not my wife's dog or property |
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KittyWampus (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 08:26 PM Response to Reply #125 |
134. I'm going to guess you are not married. |
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RB TexLa (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 08:32 PM Response to Reply #134 |
138. I am married. Neither my wife or I look at each other as property, we respect the other as a human |
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mamaleah (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-21-09 12:27 AM Response to Reply #125 |
236. It has to do with respect, not property. |
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OPERATIONMINDCRIME (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 10:28 PM Response to Reply #119 |
217. This Isn't Constipation. It Is A Child, As Much A Part Of The Father As The Mother. |
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RB TexLa (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 10:54 PM Response to Reply #217 |
225. And if someone denies this right you feel one has to know what is going on in someone else's |
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Bluzmann57 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 08:01 PM Response to Original message |
123. Of course the father should know |
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JVS (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 08:16 PM Response to Original message |
127. Clarify something please |
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jennygirl (133 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 08:36 PM Response to Reply #127 |
142. Nicole the Mother was Married |
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GliderGuider (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 08:43 PM Response to Reply #142 |
149. You're not helping your case with things like this. |
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BlueMTexpat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-21-09 09:10 AM Response to Reply #142 |
277. Thanks for clarifying this ... I was a bit confused because if the daughter was married to him, |
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slackmaster (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 08:41 PM Response to Original message |
145. Yes, I think a man, or sperm doner, has a right to know where his genes are getting mixed up |
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Bill McBlueState (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 08:43 PM Response to Original message |
148. Of course a man should know whether he got a woman pregnant |
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ismnotwasm (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 08:44 PM Response to Original message |
150. Up to the Mom |
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musette_sf (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 09:10 PM Response to Reply #150 |
167. + 1 |
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GliderGuider (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 10:25 PM Response to Reply #150 |
214. +1 from me too. |
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Arkana (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 08:50 PM Response to Original message |
152. Well, if I was the father of some kid and the girl didn't tell me I'd be upset |
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DireStrike (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 08:54 PM Response to Original message |
158. If the man can be on the hook for child support or ANYTHING, he should be informed |
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Yupster (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-21-09 03:00 AM Response to Reply #158 |
256. Correct Direstrike |
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Blasphemer (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 09:03 PM Response to Original message |
162. It really depends on the circumstances |
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petronius (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 09:06 PM Response to Original message |
166. The father has a moral right (and should have a legal right, IMO), to know about |
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GliderGuider (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 09:11 PM Response to Reply #166 |
168. What about extenuating circumstances? |
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ProgressiveProfessor (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 09:23 PM Response to Reply #168 |
178. Mother can go to family court for an ex partie hearing if its that bad |
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GliderGuider (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 09:45 PM Response to Reply #178 |
187. I agree that there are some safeguards in the current (American) legal system |
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Yupster (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-21-09 03:05 AM Response to Reply #187 |
260. Of course he does |
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petronius (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 10:02 PM Response to Reply #168 |
198. He'd still be entitled to know. If there were circumstances to preclude |
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GliderGuider (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 10:16 PM Response to Reply #198 |
207. We differ on this. No problem. |
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petronius (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 11:52 PM Response to Reply #207 |
233. Fair enough. To me, even though the one night stand seems a pretty small thing, |
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Yupster (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-21-09 03:03 AM Response to Reply #168 |
259. That would be up to a court to decide |
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ProudToBeBlueInRhody (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 09:22 PM Response to Original message |
176. Keep us informed...... |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 09:44 PM Response to Reply #176 |
186. lots are not bashing the father and think he should be informed. |
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GliderGuider (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 09:50 PM Response to Reply #186 |
191. And I'd bet that some of us think |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 10:04 PM Response to Reply #191 |
201. for me... there is just no question at all in the morality of informing the father, regardless |
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Yupster (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-21-09 03:06 AM Response to Reply #191 |
261. The problem with that is the mother has no right to give up support |
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ProudToBeBlueInRhody (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 09:52 PM Response to Reply #186 |
192. I understand that...... |
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TexasObserver (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-21-09 12:47 AM Response to Reply #176 |
240. You are almost certainly right. |
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Nikia (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 09:24 PM Response to Original message |
179. By biology, a woman must decide if she wants to be a parent |
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sendero (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 09:39 PM Response to Original message |
183. Why should they? |
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musette_sf (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 10:00 PM Response to Reply #183 |
197. BS |
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OPERATIONMINDCRIME (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 10:29 PM Response to Reply #183 |
218. +1 |
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RB TexLa (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 10:31 PM Response to Reply #183 |
219. Nothing to do with family law no one has a right to know what is going on inside another person's |
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ProgressiveProfessor (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 10:56 PM Response to Reply #219 |
226. What about after the child is born? |
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RB TexLa (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 10:59 PM Response to Reply #226 |
227. From the way this thread is going, I'm sure someone will say that you just |
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ProgressiveProfessor (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 11:48 PM Response to Reply #227 |
232. I've heard that DCS does that via intimidation of young mothers |
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armyowalgreens (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-21-09 02:37 AM Response to Reply #219 |
249. After the child is born, it is no longer in the mothers body. |
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RB TexLa (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-21-09 11:46 PM Response to Reply #249 |
297. So if they have an abortion you are fine with the would have been father being notified |
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Brooklyns_Finest (747 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-20-09 11:57 PM Response to Original message |
234. Great thread |
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northamericancitizen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-21-09 12:35 AM Response to Original message |
237. My answer is not in regard to the OP or if it is so it's an oblique way |
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ejpoeta (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-21-09 05:50 AM Response to Reply #237 |
270. the only problem with not going through family court is.... |
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ZombieHorde (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-21-09 12:42 AM Response to Original message |
239. If the sex was consensual then the most ethical thing to do would be to tell him. |
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armyowalgreens (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-21-09 02:36 AM Response to Original message |
248. When the child is born, both parents have equal custody rights. |
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caseymoz (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-21-09 02:40 AM Response to Original message |
251. Now wait-- shouldn't the father ask? |
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armyowalgreens (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-21-09 03:02 AM Response to Reply #251 |
258. What if she concealed the pregnancy? |
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caseymoz (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-21-09 12:05 PM Response to Reply #258 |
288. I'd say she is ethically obligated not to conceal it from him, physically or otherwise. |
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TexasObserver (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-21-09 03:10 AM Response to Reply #251 |
262. The father should not have to ask, for why should he know? |
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Horse with no Name (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 07:42 PM Response to Reply #262 |
301. Rule #1 in adult sex that does not include a relationship |
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Warren DeMontague (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-21-09 02:42 AM Response to Original message |
252. Only if they can say "Five Furious Fetus Fathers Fasted, Feasted then Farted Furiously" 15X. |
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Fearless (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-21-09 03:00 AM Response to Original message |
257. In a perfect world of course... |
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ejpoeta (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-21-09 05:24 AM Response to Original message |
265. personally i think the guy has a right to know. regardless what the girl thinks |
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Heidi (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-21-09 05:53 AM Response to Original message |
271. No, not for a pregnancy . However, if the pregnancy results in a birth, |
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Lyric (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-21-09 07:33 AM Response to Original message |
273. To know that they're pregnant? No. |
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dugaresa (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-21-09 08:30 AM Response to Original message |
276. if the relationship were abusive or if the woman feared for her or her child |
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Ewellian (302 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-21-09 09:12 AM Response to Original message |
278. If she's his "girlfriend" |
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ensho (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-21-09 10:56 AM Response to Original message |
282. fathers only come into the picture if a baby is born, breathes air |
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Iggo (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-21-09 10:57 AM Response to Original message |
283. You're crazy. |
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rd_kent (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-21-09 11:10 AM Response to Original message |
285. No, she should hide it from him for a few years |
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izzybeans (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-21-09 11:19 AM Response to Original message |
286. Sounds like a horrible relationship. I feel sorry for the child. |
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Xithras (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-21-09 12:43 PM Response to Original message |
289. Women have LOST their children this way. She needs to talk to a lawyer NOW.. |
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TexasObserver (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-21-09 05:47 PM Response to Reply #289 |
291. Thank you for that testimonial. I tried to warn them upthread about this happening. |
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JVS (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 02:22 PM Response to Reply #289 |
298. Did he sue her for child support yet? |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 07:22 PM Response to Reply #298 |
299. both my brothers are raising their kids. neither are getting child support. |
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ecstatic (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-21-09 02:38 PM Response to Original message |
290. No, but I think it's rather bitchy and selfish to keep such a thing secret |
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defendandprotect (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-21-09 09:25 PM Response to Original message |
292. It's up to the woman/female ....maybe she has good reasons . . .?? |
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Juche (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-21-09 09:35 PM Response to Original message |
295. Yeah, he should know |
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Horse with no Name (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 07:39 PM Response to Original message |
300. Nope. Any man that willingly wags his dick out of his pants |
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me b zola (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 07:44 PM Response to Original message |
302. Not their body, not their problem |
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deaniac21 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 07:46 PM Response to Original message |
304. Who cares? It's a frickin fetus! |
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