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Hissyspit (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 04:40 AM Original message |
I Don't Believe In Marriage - Here's Why I (Grudgingly) Got Married Anyway |
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sam sarrha (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 05:30 AM Response to Original message |
1. no primate is monogamous |
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Teaser (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 06:18 AM Response to Reply #1 |
2. not every marriage is monogamous, either. |
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tavalon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 06:43 AM Response to Reply #2 |
3. Some of them are openly not monogamous |
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GoesTo11 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 06:18 PM Response to Reply #3 |
62. What percent of people do you think could deal with that situation? |
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tavalon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 10:49 PM Response to Reply #62 |
79. Good questions! |
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Mariana (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 07:14 AM Response to Reply #1 |
4. That's not true. Gibbons are monogamous. |
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Yupster (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jul-23-09 10:19 AM Response to Reply #4 |
91. Easy way to tell is |
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truedelphi (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jul-23-09 02:41 PM Response to Reply #4 |
94. Now you tell me. If I only had known that back when dating a gibbon, |
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GoesTo11 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 07:51 AM Response to Reply #1 |
7. This one is. |
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sam sarrha (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 04:36 PM Response to Reply #7 |
43. .. doesn't count the males are terribly "Monkey Whipped" .... 6% of primates are monogamous.. |
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AtheistCrusader (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 05:07 PM Response to Reply #7 |
44. +1 |
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Kalyke (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 08:11 AM Response to Reply #1 |
8. Bullshit. |
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Mad_Dem_X (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 08:27 AM Response to Reply #8 |
11. +1 |
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FreeState (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 02:23 PM Response to Reply #11 |
17. Why does marriage have to be monogamous? n/t |
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sarcasmo (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 05:47 PM Response to Reply #17 |
51. Excellent question which I do not have the answer for. |
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redqueen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 05:49 PM Response to Reply #17 |
53. If both parties agree it doesn't, then it doesn't. |
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FreeState (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 07:58 PM Response to Reply #53 |
70. Not playing dumb |
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AtheistCrusader (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 05:09 PM Response to Reply #11 |
45. OR marry someone where monogamy is not an interest/concern/value. |
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Mimosa (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 09:11 PM Response to Reply #11 |
77. Mad Dem, I agree! |
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misanthrope (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 01:53 PM Response to Reply #8 |
13. Wolves are forced into monogamy via intimidation in social hierarchy... |
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apocalypsehow (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 02:28 PM Response to Reply #13 |
20. I've seen a lot of dumb posts on DU. This is one of them. n/t. |
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misanthrope (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 02:49 PM Response to Reply #20 |
29. Only dumb to those comfortable with ignorance... |
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apocalypsehow (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 03:01 PM Response to Reply #29 |
36. Dumb to those who understand the moral difference between wolves & human beings - which you don't. |
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apocalypsehow (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 03:05 PM Response to Reply #36 |
37. And isn't that just the cutest little DU nick? A self-proclaimed loather of people on a discussion |
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misanthrope (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 08:46 PM Response to Reply #36 |
74. The moral difference? LOL!!**nm |
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apocalypsehow (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 10:44 PM Response to Reply #74 |
78. Last wordism at its finest - says nadda, refutes not a thing, and of course, the ubiquitous "LOL!" |
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misanthrope (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jul-23-09 01:03 AM Response to Reply #78 |
80. Which of the Lupine Ten Commandments is transgressed most?... |
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apocalypsehow (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jul-23-09 01:32 AM Response to Reply #80 |
83. It's no great shakes given the low level of intellect opposite, but thanks for the compliment. n/t. |
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redqueen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 02:31 PM Response to Reply #8 |
21. Thank you. |
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WildEyedLiberal (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 04:21 PM Response to Reply #8 |
41. +1 |
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Hissyspit (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 06:18 PM Response to Reply #8 |
60. Why is everyone in this thread confusing And conflating monogamy with marriage. |
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ProfessorGAC (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 05:43 PM Response to Reply #1 |
49. I Am |
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Hissyspit (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 07:42 PM Response to Reply #49 |
66. He's talking about species not individuals. |
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ProfessorGAC (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jul-23-09 06:18 PM Response to Reply #66 |
99. That's Not What The Post Said |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 05:49 PM Response to Reply #1 |
52. you are full of shit... and to take it a step further. it is easy... n/t |
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Fire1 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 06:18 PM Response to Reply #1 |
61. Bullshit. n/t |
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One_Life_To_Give (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 07:26 AM Response to Original message |
5. Unmarried Father would have no legal status |
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csziggy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 02:49 PM Response to Reply #5 |
30. No necessarily true - it would depend on the state |
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fishnfla (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 07:33 AM Response to Original message |
6. maybe her vocabulary includes the words "we" and "our" more often now |
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Kalyke (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 08:13 AM Response to Reply #6 |
9. Me, too. |
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NashVegas (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 08:22 AM Response to Original message |
10. I Feel Sorry for Her and Her Husband |
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smalll (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jul-23-09 02:43 PM Response to Reply #10 |
95. That was my first reaction too - especially for her husband. |
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misanthrope (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 01:51 PM Response to Original message |
12. There seem to be some responses here... |
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Liquorice (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 02:21 PM Response to Reply #12 |
16. We are more than just our bodies. nt |
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redqueen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 02:33 PM Response to Reply #12 |
22. Monogamy is a choice, not a condition (such as blue eyes). |
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misanthrope (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 02:47 PM Response to Reply #22 |
26. Junk science? You might want to go talk to some physical anthropologists... |
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redqueen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 02:52 PM Response to Reply #26 |
31. I think you misread. |
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misanthrope (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 02:56 PM Response to Reply #31 |
33. The intent? How, pray tell, did you divine that?... |
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redqueen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 02:59 PM Response to Reply #33 |
35. Uh... from your post. |
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girl gone mad (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 03:26 PM Response to Reply #35 |
38. They do it all the time. |
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redqueen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 03:31 PM Response to Reply #38 |
39. Oh yes... it's nothing new or rare... which is why I posted this: |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 05:39 PM Response to Reply #38 |
47. lol lol... such a huge ass duh, ignored. from beginning of time, all cultures |
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misanthrope (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 08:50 PM Response to Reply #38 |
75. So who is the arbiter of relevance and meaning?**nm |
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misanthrope (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 08:54 PM Response to Reply #35 |
76. And...? How does that evidence deny polyamory?**nm |
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redqueen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jul-23-09 09:27 AM Response to Reply #76 |
85. *sigh* Did I say it "denied polyamory" (whatever that means)? |
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truedelphi (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jul-23-09 02:48 PM Response to Reply #26 |
96. Thank you for that. More and more, as we have scientists unravel the |
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WildEyedLiberal (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 04:22 PM Response to Reply #12 |
42. Hmm... bullshit "science" to support a political agenda? |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 05:42 PM Response to Reply #12 |
48. guesses, assumptions, supposition to support agenda. everything but the facts |
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misanthrope (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jul-23-09 01:06 AM Response to Reply #48 |
81. Wrong. All cultures haven't always embraced monogamy... |
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Boojatta (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 08:34 PM Response to Reply #12 |
73. "humans are no more monogamous in nature" |
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misanthrope (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jul-23-09 01:11 AM Response to Reply #73 |
82. No, I meant in "essence"... |
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ieoeja (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 02:12 PM Response to Original message |
14. "Moral" issues aside, how would you determine standing on legal issues? |
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MoonRiver (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 02:19 PM Response to Original message |
15. Been happily, and monogamously, married for 20+ years. |
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gleaner (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 06:49 PM Response to Reply #15 |
63. Been happy and monogamous...... |
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Romulox (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 02:24 PM Response to Original message |
18. Isn't it silly for cohabitating heterosexuals to complain that they don't have all the benefits |
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cbdo2007 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 02:25 PM Response to Original message |
19. If there's one thing I've learned from my parents, grandparents, aunts and uncles,.... |
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redqueen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 02:34 PM Response to Reply #19 |
23. Oh please. For half the people, that's how it works. |
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Fire1 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 06:05 PM Response to Reply #23 |
55. They'd be hard pressed to prove 'half.' I'd venture to say |
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Liquorice (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 02:35 PM Response to Reply #19 |
24. That hasn't been my experience at all. nt |
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kimmylavin (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 02:48 PM Response to Reply #19 |
27. Broad brush much? |
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Lorien (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jul-23-09 09:45 AM Response to Reply #27 |
88. You just restated what he said |
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kimmylavin (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jul-23-09 02:33 PM Response to Reply #88 |
92. I did no such thing. |
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cbdo2007 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 02:58 PM Response to Reply #19 |
34. I'm not talking about anyone else's experience just mine. |
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Lorien (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jul-23-09 09:40 AM Response to Reply #34 |
87. I believe that your experience is the norm, not the exception |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jul-23-09 09:46 AM Response to Reply #87 |
89. interesting.... |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 05:44 PM Response to Reply #19 |
50. and in my family and my hubby family there is only one couple that cheated |
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Lorien (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jul-23-09 09:37 AM Response to Reply #19 |
86. My dad and stepmom lasted 27 years together cohabitating |
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Echo In Light (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 02:35 PM Response to Original message |
25. My wife and I have been together since 88' |
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localroger (663 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 02:48 PM Response to Original message |
28. Me Too |
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kimmylavin (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jul-23-09 02:38 PM Response to Reply #28 |
93. I'm not scandalized. |
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csziggy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 02:55 PM Response to Original message |
32. I agree with a lot she wrote - I never planned on getting married |
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Hell Hath No Fury (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 03:54 PM Response to Original message |
40. San Francisco solved that problem years ago -- |
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Gwendolyn (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 05:33 PM Response to Original message |
46. What a whiner! |
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Fire1 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 06:10 PM Response to Reply #46 |
57. Yeah and this issue has NOTHING to do with |
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Hissyspit (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 07:39 PM Response to Reply #57 |
65. How social & property rights laws and gender role cultural pressures |
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Fire1 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 07:44 PM Response to Reply #65 |
67. I was specifically addressing the 'monogomy' or lack |
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Hissyspit (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 07:51 PM Response to Reply #67 |
68. Thanks for clarifying. |
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Fire1 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 07:58 PM Response to Reply #68 |
69. Respectfully, I totally disagree. n/t |
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Avalux (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 05:54 PM Response to Original message |
54. I'm confused as to why she 'grudgingly' got married. |
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Fire1 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 06:08 PM Response to Original message |
56. Most of the marriages in my family worked and mine is |
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Individualist (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 06:11 PM Response to Original message |
58. Higamous, hogamous, woman’s monogamous; hogamous, higamous, man is polygamous. |
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Liquorice (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 06:13 PM Response to Reply #58 |
59. That's ridiculous. nt |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 06:57 PM Response to Reply #58 |
64. please clarify why percentage of women and men now cheat the same.... |
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LWolf (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 07:58 PM Response to Original message |
71. Interesting range of responses, lol. |
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Generator (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-22-09 08:15 PM Response to Original message |
72. We got married for health coverage |
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IdaBriggs (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jul-23-09 05:14 AM Response to Original message |
84. This woman is an idiot, and she misses the whole point of "marriage." |
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Dogmudgeon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jul-23-09 09:57 AM Response to Original message |
90. Humans are flexible. Monogamy, polygamy, what-have-you. |
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SoCalDem (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jul-23-09 02:57 PM Response to Original message |
97. When a country/state give special privileges to a group of people, one must BELONG to that group |
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mainer (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jul-23-09 03:01 PM Response to Original message |
98. cohabiting just isn't the same thing. It isn't. |
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