From Stargazer99

[Stargazer99]

I am astounded at the empathy and response regarding my daughter' death. My anger was the reason I took the time to post initally...as I cycle through calm times and crying times.I thought no one would really care very much, what a surprise. The moderator sent me an e-mail letting me know there were responses to my post.I want to thank those taking us in prayer. I want her crossing to be gentle and filled with love and to erase the pain she had endured in this life.

I now have her daughter who is 14 to be responsible for and to take care of. I work three part time jobs at 68 years old and am lucky to have any jobs. age discrimination is not exactly an unknown factor in employment. But that money goes to the utility company, garbage collection, food,heating bills, etc. $50/$100 is a lot of money for medical and dental care and it just insn't there.

My daughter had a genetic disorder that made it difficult to create the red part in the blood. She had become so low in the red component in her blood that she had to have several blood transfusions to keep her alive. Her system could notmake the red components but at times would become very low. Last year a cyst was discovered in her knee which made it extremely painful at times to walk. Despsite all that she worked in a food trailer at the Puyallup Fair. Her employer would give her some time to get off the feet to ease the knee pain while working. She could not work a full 8 hours plus on her feet, but she tried.

My anger comes from those who want to scare the general public with if you want change doctors will be forced out of business. Then my question is how come doctors of England aren't in Food Bank lines?
Or any other country will medical care for all?

Another scare for the unthinking they throw out is "do you want the government telling you what doctor and services you can have? Like the insurance companys don't do that!

If you are not limited in doctors or services you must be able to pay alot of money in premiums. Yes, if single payer gets in you might not have it so good because more serious medical problems will come before your wants. What do you think is more important? You? Before anyone else?

[Dennis Donovan]

1. Peace to you, Stargazer.

:grouphug:

[BlooInBloo]

2. :) She sounds like a wonderful person...

I think I'll make a point of doin it at a trot or doin it at a gallop this year.

[Missy Vixen]

3. Stargazer, your daughter was so lucky to have such a loving, caring parent

I am so sorry for your loss.

My thoughts are with your family, and especially her daughter.

The health care system in this country is irretrievably broken. For those who think "I've got mine," you are one job loss away from finding yourself in a situation like the above.

:hug:

[mike_c]

4. .

:hug:

[babylonsister]

5. I am astounded that this state of health care, or lack thereof,

has languished for so many years, and impacted so many people so adversely. My love and symathies go out to you, Stargazer, and I will keep you in mind as we fight for more equality for everyone. :hug:

[DesertRat]

6. Your family is in my prayers

:hug:

[monmouth]

7. Good thoughts of peace to you Stargazer99...n/t

[noiretextatique]

8. (((((Stargazer99)))))

:hug: :cry:

[CrispyQ]

9. I am so sorry for your loss!

My heart goes out to you. :hug:

The little TV I've watched, I've seen more anti-health care reform commercials than pro-ones. What's up with that? I hope I'm just missing them, but someone needs to counter act the 24x7 'news' spin that reform means 'socialism' & 'government will make health decisions for you.' I have smart, well educated friends who have completely swallowed the 'private industry can do it better' lie.

Peace to you & your family during this difficult time.

[lpbk2713]

10. Thank you for taking the time to let us know.

May peace be with you.

[gleaner]

11. Stargazer...

We should all be seen as equally important. The fact that we are not must change. Health care is a basic right which has been ignored too long. I don't know you, but I am so sorry for your loss. Your daughter lived her life with a great deal of courage and it is unthinkable that it had to end. You also are a person of great courage. I admire you greatly. You have taken the worst that life can hand you and you are still looking forward and protecting your loved ones. You are a very special person.

I will ask God to hold you and your family in the light and help your daughter with her crossing, to ease her transition and comfort her. I will think of you often, and hope that your life eases the constraints you have to live under. All of my condolences and best wishes for you and your family. Bless all of you, and may you find some comfort as well.

[abbeyco]

12. In kind memory of your beloved daughter

Can you provide the information of the food bank where she worked? I'd love to send a memoriam in her name.

Peace to you at this incredibly difficult time.

abbeyco

[Stargazer99]

15. Dear person

Where she worked was not a food bank, I'm sorry if I did not make that more clear. She worked at The Western Washington Fair which is located in Puyallup Washington. It is the 7th largest fair in the US. She worked in one of the mobile food trailers. She had done this for years until this last year when the knee problem started, she then could not put in 10/12 hours a day during fair time. She had to stop when the knee hurt her too much and rest, get up and go at it again.

[abbeyco]

16. Thank you for setting me straight -

I took it that she was doing something at a foodbank, although after reading your story about her, I would believe she's the kind of person who would do such a thing.

Again, I'd love to send a memoriam in her name to some group she would have loved. PM me with details if necessary.

My thoughts are with you -

abbeyco

[Left coast liberal]

13. My thoughts are with you and your grand daughter.

May she rest in peace and bless you for sharing her story.

XO

[Hissyspit]

14. kick

Thank you for your posts, Stargazer99, and most sincere and heartfelt sympathies to you.

[lexanman]

17. You are much older than I, but I relate and again offer my condolences

I'm new here, but this issue makes people very upset. It is literally a life and death issue, and people die every day due to lack of healthcare. And for those who argue that you can go to any ER, they don't treat genetic illnesses in ER's. Or cancer. Or needed surgeries for long term physical disabilities. This country's healtcare sucks and its criminal the way they let people die. Single Payer Now!

[Stargazer09]

18. Hugs

I hope that you are able to find peace, and I greatly appreciate you sharing your thoughts here.

:grouphug:

[Rhiannon12866]

19. K&R. Peace and profound sympathies to you, my friend. ;(

And to your young granddaughter, who is so fortunate to have you. :grouphug:

[mckara]

20. There is No Justice in This World

Akbar the Great quoted a Holy Quran inscription when he wrote, “Jesus, Peace be on Him, said this: ‘The world is a bridge. Pass over it but build no house upon it, for whoever hopes for one hour, hopes for all eternity. The world is one hour. Spend it in prayer, for the rest is unseen.’”

I hope your daughter finds eternal justice where Goodness triumphs over all Earthly injustice.

[midnight]

51. Beautiful.

[DUlover2909]

21. Man you are preaching to choir here. I totally feel your pain. I'm so sorry.

All your points are so blatantly obvious. I can't understand why the politicians don't get it. A person dying is just like a house on fire. All hands on deck. Let's fix it. Where is the sense of community? We're all Americans god damn it. We should leave none behind just like the armed forces. These kinds of stories make me so sick inside. I hope we can fix this shit, finally, so no more people like your daughter have to go without help. K&R Brother.

:kick:

[The Doctor.]

22. You are the epitome of restraint.

I doubt I could keep myself together under similar circumstances.

Please... don't stop sharing this. I've come to know at least one thing; "shared pain is lessened". I believe that actually applies to all involved.

[Liberal_in_LA]

23. K&R

:grouphug:

[madamesilverspurs]

24. Holding you and your granddaughter

in my thoughts and prayers. And please let us know if we can help in any way.

[Mari333]

25. if you ever need a friend, i understand what you are going thru

hugs

[Triana]

26. I'm so sorry for what you're going through and for what you and your daughter...

...went through.

I am familiar with age/sex discrimination - very. And that only adds to your troubles.

I'm sure you've been much too busy but if you can find the time and energy it would be beneficial to send a letter (online at whitehouse.gov or snail mail) to the President about your story.

And, yes, the lies health care reform/single-payer detractors tell are insidious, exasperating - especially when our lame$tream media parrots them as gospel. David Swanson wrote that we are lacking basics in this country - like decent health care and an actual news media (we have instead a state-run propaganda machine - the state being corprats and the paid-for gov't that serves them exclusively).

We are all trying to be the bigger voice - to be heard. It's not easy. Definitely add yours - it's an important voice and an important story.

You are NOT alone, though I know it feels like it. But ya ain't. :hug:

[tavalon]

27. What has happened to you and your family is not okay in any way shape or form

I do hope and pray that your family makes it through this awful, awful time. I lost my mother when I was eight and ended up living with my grandparents. They were godsends and wonderful people. I can't imagine how hard it had to be to raise me as a teenager when they were in their late 60s. May you have the strength to get through this.

[InfiniteThoughts]

28. my prayers are with you ...

i wish that DU forwards your case to Congressmen & Senators and press them to give you a hearing opportunity to showcase what's rotten in the system.

:hug:

[SeattleGirl]

29. Again, I send blessings to you, Stargazer.

I,too, have a daughter, and it would tear my heart apart to lose her.

My heart is very sad at her loss.

And very angry that it happened.

:hug:

[northernlights]

30. I am so very sorry for your loss

and your situation, working 3 jobs at your age when you should be "out to pasture" and caring for your granddaughter. You've earned your rest.

Serious health issues should be 1st in line. Not wealthy people who "need" a botox treatment to feel important. :grr: :grr: :grr:

The fact is, our entire health care system is broken. It is one of those things -- food is the other -- that should not be "for profit."

Our "socialist" tap water didn't bring the world to and end, for cripes sakes. It didn't stop the wealthy from having private wells or imported perrier. It just ensures a basic need to all.

[Christa]

31. K & R

From one mother to another:

:hug:

[sce56]

32. My deep condolences to you and your Grand child

As for govt run health care I have been using it since 1974 and I'm still around. Just had all the over 50 exams including a heart stress test so the bozo's that say it does not work have neglected to mention the largest system govt run the Military's and it works!

[flyarm]

33. My heartfelt condolences to you Stargazer99 and your family and grandaughter,

Your daughter and family will be in my prayers.

fly

[Wetzelbill]

34. Sorry for your loss

My condolences. Wonderful post, I wish you the best.

[Kajsa]

35. You are a wonderful mother, Stargazer,

and a wonderful lady.

Again, my thoughts and prayers are with you and
your family as you are going through this very
difficult time.

May your dear daughter rest in peace.

:hug: :grouphug:

[Tikki]

36. I am so sorry for this loss....

It hurts..I know...

You are a fine person to raise your granddaughter.



Tikki

[lisa58]

37. I'm so sorry for your loss

[BonnieJW]

38. I am so sorry for your loss, dear lady.

Your road is difficult, since you now have to once again grow a little girl into a woman. I know you will succeed.

Doesn't your granddaughter get Social Security since her mother died and she is still a minor? I don't know what that will amount to, but it all helps as I'm sure you know.

[BlancheSplanchnik]

39. very deeply touched here....

I hate that it's taking such widespread suffering to create the determination to change here in the US.....

Your story is painful yet full of value too.... part of the Energy helping to move us all forward and upward.

You are cared about and listened to.

:hug:
:grouphug:

[liberal N proud]

40. Stay strong

Stories like yours are why those of who have good health care fight to get reform. We know this is not how things should be.

[grantcart]

41. thank you for your very moving story

[JitterbugPerfume]

42. losing a beloved child

is the hardest thing a mother can endure . You are in my heart.

I too am 68 and I admire you very much for your strength .

I lost my son in 1988. The pain never goes away , but it does become more managable

[madmax]

43. Very sorry for your loss Stargazer

:hug:

Thank you for posting this.

[omega minimo]

44. +130 -- no words

:cry:

[LaydeeBug]

45. +131 no words here either. Demand Single Payer!!! nt

[ginger14]

46. Your last point is a great one, and please accept my sympathy for your daughter's passing.

I read the OP yesterday and it just breaks my heart that this would happen in our country in 2009!

[loveslife]

47. My condolences

Stargazer,
I read your original post regarding your daughter and though I don't know you, I would like to send you my deepest sympathies. Now I want you to know that though I have been a longtime lurker here, I believe this is my first post and its because of you and your daughter that I am posting. When I first read what had happened, I was so upset and angry that I copied a link to my facebook links:
http://www.facebook.com/posted.php?id=743017449&share_id=121321307783&post_id=121321307783&fragment=share_footer121321307783&comments=&share_footer121321307783=#share_footer121321307783

(Not sure if that will get you there) Anyway after posting the link I said:
"How can it get any clearer than this that we neeed health care reform and universal health care. I am so disgusted right now!"
Well that let off a barrage of spewed misinformation from a family member (boyfriend's sister in law). Usually I'm pretty diplomatic and don't try to rock the boat with those in the family but for her to say what she did about "socialized healthcare" after what happened to your daughter, well I lost it. I thought of deleting her nonsense but instead will continue to give it back to her. I will respect your wishes though if you would prefer I took the link down.

Health care is a big issue for me( I don't think I should say why here) also and as I am unemployed ( 1 and 1/2 years now), its only getting bigger. The misinformation the right is spewing is astounding and needs to be stopped.I know its small comfort but your sharing your pain has only made me more of an activist.
Kindest Regards
loveslife

[Lifelong Protester]

49. My condolences also, and I like what loveslife says..

"How can it get any clearer than this..."

so sorry for your loss.

[Skittles]

48. aw Stargazer

my heart so goes out to you and your granddaughter

[maxpower]

50. Peace to you

Things have to change. I am sick and tired of hearing stories like this. We are better than this. These things should never happen in this country. I will keep you in my thoughts.

[midnight]

52. You make many good points about the status quo. That fear thing is their

trump card-they think anyways. Your great loss has been an experience that needs to be voiced. What your daughter went through was because of this broken system. Her burden's, her daughter's and yours could of been lessened with access to affordable health care. Hugs.

[Hubert Flottz]

53. I'm very, very, sorry you lost your child.

Sending you big hugs and best wishes. One of my best friends in the world died the other day and I've been really sad too. Time will make the pain more bearable, but some things just seem to make time stand still.

[jeff30997]

54. I am truly sorry for this tragedy!

I wish I could do more to ease your pain.:hug:

[dembotoz]

55. i donated blood last week

they are currently very low during the summer.
those of you who can donate please do.

[myrna minx]

56. I am so very sorry for your loss.

:hug:

[DainBramaged]

57. If there is one small thing I can do to help, kindly let me know

I am poor, but I could not think of not sharing what little I have to help make you and your Granddaughter's lives a little easier.

All my best and you are in my prayers.

[roguevalley]

58. I am appalled at your trials and I wish you and your family peace.

Know you are not alone in this darkness.

[bkkyosemite]

59. I agree with your opinion on healthcare yes they are not worried about food or utilities

or any of the normal things that are essential to live. We need Single Payer so that everyone is covered and not at the mercy of a for profit entity deciding our healthcare.

On another note I am so sorry for your pain at this time and I sincerely send prayers and special positive thoughts your way for strength. And please know that we care and are here to listen if you need it.

[defendandprotect]

60. Let's hope there is a happier future ahead for all of us, especially ...

for you and your granddaughter --

Sad day for our country as well!

[liberalmuse]

61. Love to you and your grand daughter.

Watching someone you love die is heartbreaking. I can't even begin to fathom where those who are trying to sabotage health care for all. I wrote a rather harsh letter to Sen. Nelson the other day. I asked him how he would feel if he had to watch a loved one die, knowing that if they had had affordable health care they might be around longer. Maybe some people simply have hearts of stone. I'm so sorry to hear of your loss and wish you all the best I can for you and your grand daughter. :hug:

[ControlledDemolition]

62. Such a loss is something no parent should have to endure. Sending +ive thoughts. n/t