How to tell someone they sound racist

[proud2BlibKansan]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b0Ti-gkJiXc

[Iris]

1. The follow up should be - how to admit you did something racist and move on

Not many people would say I'm racist, but I've had my moments. I work on admitting that and trying to have a better understanding of how my attitudes and actions contribute to the problem.


on another note - my God! The comments on this one are HORRIBLE

[damntexdem]

8. And this is a racist society -- we can easily say or do racist things without 'intending' racism.

And the definitions and sensitivities are constantly changing -- which does not mean that they shouldn't change, rather that we should be as aware as possible of where the lines are being redrawn, and how they are being negotiated.

[Romulox]

2. That was a really insightful video. Others should give it a watch. k & r. nt

[Karenina]

3. That is EXCELLENT! Tanks for posting it!

[BlooInBloo]

4. Gotta love the comments, eh?

:rofl:

[proud2BlibKansan]

5. I didn't make it past the first few

Unreal. Racism never ever ceases to amaze me.

[BlooInBloo]

6. Yep - could see how that was going.

[Wednesdays]

7. K&R

:kick:

[Karenina]

9. bttt!

[Karenina]

10. Again. MUST SEE. GOOD INFO!

[comrade snarky]

11. That was great!

Big ol rec from me

On edit:
Dang... too late. Well the kick will have to do!

[bobbolink]

12. It's "I" messages vs. "YOU" messages.....something we aren't taught.

Along with Active Listening.

This society lacks good communication skills.

[omega minimo]

14. Says YOU!!!!!

:evilgrin: :hi:

[bobbolink]

15. Up against the stick, mother wall, this is a FUCK UP!

:evilgrin: back atcha!

:hi:

[omega minimo]

16. treat em like they took your wallet.............. LOL

:rofl: :pals:

[bobbolink]

17. Exactly!

The people in my bank know me and joke with me a lot.

So, one day I pulled this on a favorite teller, complete with holding a banana in the proper position.

She laughed her head off!

Last week, the bank manager, who has been exceedingly kind to me was with the tellers, and they laughed seeing me, so I asked her if she was offended by a four-letter word and she responded "No", so I said this to her, and after cracking up, said, "You're so funny, Bobbie".

It's great to do business with a bank with humor!

Can you imagine walking into a 7/11 with a banana and doing that?

:scared:

[omega minimo]

13. Brilliant. What a darling, smart, funny, spot on example of our cultural diversity, too.

What he did AND what he is. :pals:

[Karenina]

18. . .

[Raineyb]

19. Hmmm. That tactic doesn't seem to work to well here.

:shrug:

[omega minimo]

20. Yeah, he's explaining how to recognize the difference, in a way that may

help deal with defensiveness. Doesn't mean people won't get defensive.

And (defensive) folks themselves would need to distinquish b/w who they are and what they said/did.......... :think:

He's trying to do something idealistic and constructive. What occurs often is a "that's not in my thinking already so I don't have to think about it" stuckness.