TEANECK, N.J. — During the 10 months she was deployed in Iraq, Leydi Mendoza, a 22-year-old specialist in the New Jersey National Guard, did everything she could think of to ease her longing for the year-old daughter she had left back home.
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And on the flight back in May, Specialist Mendoza fought back the guilt she felt about being half a world away for so many formative moments by telling herself that one day Elizabeth would be proud of her service.
But since her return, Mr. Llares has allowed Ms. Mendoza only a few brief visits with Elizabeth. Despite a written family care plan they had worked out with military officials outlining shared custody upon her return, Mr. Llares now believes it is too disruptive for the baby to spend more than a few hours at a time with “a mother she doesn’t really know or recognize that well,” said his lawyer, Amy Lefkowitz.
After months of arguments, an exchange of legal papers and a restraining order, Specialist Mendoza and Mr. Llares each are demanding full custody of Elizabeth, and are scheduled to appear at a court proceeding Tuesday to determine her fate.
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But things quickly fell apart. The first time Elizabeth was reunited with her mother, she burst into tears. Specialist Mendoza cried, too.
Mr. Llares, also 22, declined to be interviewed, but his lawyer acknowledged that he restricted Specialist Mendoza’s visits with Elizabeth because he was concerned that the abrupt change would frighten and confuse her. “He wants her to have a close relationship with her mother,” Ms. Lefkowitz said, “but he wants an appropriate transition.”
http://www.nytimes.com/2009/09/01/nyregion/01guard.html?pagewanted=2&hpOy! What a mess.