What a day (repuke ruins family project)...

[Naturyl]

So, my wife's grandmother announces the other day that we are expected to show up at her house today to paint a gazebo. No biggie, except we're informed that my wife's intolerable Republican aunt is going to be there as well. This is a person my wife and I had decided to disassociate from some time ago, after my wife helped her and her husband through the death of their son - only for them to call the house shouting and swearing just a week after they got back for out of state, claiming I broke a lawnmower (which I didn't) and demanding $1000. Keep in mind, these are millionaires, and I'm dirt poor, not to mention I didn't even break the damn thing and they had no proof. I wanted to go to court but the wife wasn't having it.

Anyway, we knew immediately what my wife's grandmother was up to with this "painting party." It was a transparent attempt to have my wife and the Repuke aunt reconcile, and everyone (other than the grandmother) knew it wouldn't work. I could smell disaster a mile away. So we get there and the aunt has brought a boom box with her on which Rush Limbaugh is blasting away. Mmmm.... nice. Okay, fine. I'll ignore it. I won't say shit. After about an hour of the torture, I go home to get another paint brush and a scraper. I spot my "Obama '08" button and put it on, but when I get back, the wife intercepts me and tells me to take it off. I'm not to "start trouble" and I must "be civil." Okay, as if blaring fucking Rush Limbaugh in our faces (and we are all known Democrats, including the grandmother) is civil. As if that's not starting trouble, but hey... fine. Off goes the pin and my mouth remains shut.

I endure almost another two hours of it, regularly feeling as if my lunch is going to come up, especially because Auntie is adding her agreement and "you betchas" to everything El Rushbo is saying. The wife isn't feeling well and leaves. Things get worse. Auntie now feels extra empowered to get vocal, and steps up the mega-dittoes. Finally, a horrible young woman calls in and gets Rush going on the ever-popular topic of the non-working (I am on disability) and how they are thieves and leeches who ruin America, etc. I'm fucking fuming at this point, but my mouth miraculously remains shut. Auntie then proceeds to vocally agree with everything Rush and the Nazi caller are saying about the non-working - in other words, about me. That's it. Final straw. Without even realizing what I was doing, I set my brush down, turned around, and walked out of there. Walked home and told the wife I was done with it.

Wife goes back there to get the paint brush, and a predictable shouting match ensues. It ends with Auntie Repuke throwing the brush at her and the wife calling her an "elitist bitch."

So yeah, fun times in the family. Thanks to this woman's incredible selfishness and rudeness, the grandmother, who was well-intentioned, is now probably hurting worst of all. Fucking sad. Have no doubt, these people ruin everything.

[Warpy]

1. Go back another day, touch up the gazebo

and tell granny you love her, but if you ever see that insufferable bitch* again, you will turn around and leave.

*sorry to the easily offended, but some members of the right wing kennel must be identified correctly, although the term should be used sparingly.

[Naturyl]

3. That's my plan.

Sadly, the shouting match between the aunt and my wife happened so quickly, there was no time to tell the grandmother I'd be happy to paint the gazebo, I just will not stand for that shit.

[roguevalley]

36. you are a good person for not making your grandma feel worse. i on the other

hand would have slapped the shit out of the auntie. especially if the sow threw something at me.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

2. I say bravo to you and your wife!

And your Grandmother should know by now that any sort of "reconciliation" just ain't in the cards.

She needs to give it up.

"Elitist bitch" I LOVE it!

You both did well! Congrats!

I would have told that woman off, right at the start.

[Naturyl]

5. Ohhh, I ached to tell her off, believe me.

I kept my mouth shut for wife and her grandmother's sake.

I can't tell you how I would love to tell that woman and/or her husband off. I'm hoping they call us - because if they enter MY home either through the phone or in person, they will be told off with such force it will leave a crater.

And yeah, I think the grandmother now realizes reconciliation is not ever gonna happen. If it wasn't obvious before today, it is now.

[nosmokes]

4. doncha know about 'spillin' your beer in auntie's radio, accidentally, of course?

[Naturyl]

7. I considered it, believe me.

I didn't have any beer but the power cord was right there. If not for being electrocuted, I'd have been sorely tempted to have a "whoopsie" with a boxcutter.

When you're assailed with Rush for nearly three hours, every plan of escape comes to mind.

[Darth_Kitten]

21. Or accidently kicking it to the curb.

Whoops!

[madrchsod]

6. ya wasted a nice spring day on that......

:grouphug:

[Naturyl]

11. I wasted another nice spring day once....

Auntie Repuke and her husband Mr. Repuke were getting back from California the next day, where their son had just died. Their cars were dirty, and not wanting them to have to come home to that after all they had been through, I spent three hours washing their vehicles.

It wasn't a week later that Mr. Repuke was on the phone cursing at me and demanding $1k for the lawnmower he decided I ruined.

[county worker]

8. When ever someone wants to treat me to wingnut radio and I can't escape I put in the ear buds and

play the MP3 or something. Drives them nuts!

[Naturyl]

12. That was part of the eventual shouting match.

Auntie Repuke demanded my wife and I "just ignore it." Kinda hard to do when it's a loud-ass boom box literally 2 feet away. My wife said she could buy us earplugs, lol.

[undeterred]

9. These things are better addressed directly.

There should have been NO RADIO on so there could have been talking. It could not have worked.

I feel sick to my stomach when I hear clips of Limpballs on the progressive shows. A couple hours of him would not be possible. I have stopped doing business with people and being friends with people who listen to HATE RADIO, and that's what he is.

[Naturyl]

14. The grandmother had to yell over Oxy Rush to be heard.

Auntie Repuke was told to turn it down, which she did just a little bit - briefly. Before long it was blaring again.

[gratuitous]

10. For the foreseeable future

Inform your grandmother-in-law that while you love and respect her, you can in no wise put up with Auntie Repuke. You tried your best, and it didn't work. You know it causes Grannie distress to see her relatives at odds with each other, but sometimes that's just the way it has to be. Tell her that you will only accept separate invitations to go over for a visit or a project or whatever, but if Auntie Repuke is going to be there, you and your wife will not be.

You don't have to be mean or cite to any of the objectionable behavior; Grannie is all too aware of it. Just make your position clear in short, declarative sentences. And stick by it. If you're invited over and Auntie Repuke is there, turn right around and go home. You don't owe anyone any further explanation.

[Naturyl]

15. Yeah, that's how we plan to handle it.

I'm just hoping granny-in-law isn't too hurt/angry over all this. She may feel I behaved wrongly by leaving without a word.

[B Calm]

13. I don't understand why any of you would put up with this aunt!

Are you all hoping that you'll be in her will?

[Naturyl]

16. Absolutely not.

Granny-in-law puts up with her because it's her daughter. My wife and I don't put up with her, which is why we both knew this painting thing was going to be a disaster, but I was told I had to go anyway because the grandmother insisted on it.

As for being in her will, not a chance of that for any of us. I don't know where the millions will go, but it won't be to us. Maybe to Limbaugh or somebody like him. Her son, also a millionaire, recently died and didn't leave anyone but his parents a dime, not even his beloved grandmother. Or maybe he did, but since it wasn't in writing, Auntie Repuke didn't tell...

[Maru Kitteh]

17. Once upon a time families could bridge chasms such as these.

Many of us still try.

Once in a while it works. Sometimes it doesn't.

[JHB]

44. Not all of them.

Self-centered insufferable jerks who were incapapble of putting aside pettiness for just a few hours have always been with us. They've been ruining weddings, holidays, and other get togethers since time immemorial.

The only difference now was Auntie BabsBush saving here own voice by letting amplified Rush do hwr talking.

[KonaKane]

18. A sledgehammer to her radio would have been entirely apropos

and worth the ensuing fallout. Your patience and tolerance is epic.

[Naturyl]

20. I was actually carrying a hammer for a while

To hammer down some loose boards. It was a struggle not to use the hammer more productively.

[Darth_Kitten]

19. Send her a bill for your time.

:) She's a goading, empty-headed moron.

Send her a bill. :) Tossing a brush at your wife, isn't that assault?

Sorry, I'm just in a vengeful mood.

You would have more patience than I would. She's one nervy, nasty character. :(

[Naturyl]

22. Yeah, it's basically assault.

My wife said that had the brush actually hit her, she would have gotten out of the car and delivered some ass-whooping. I believe her - and she could do it.

[Darth_Kitten]

24. Sometimes you just have to divorce idiots like that aunt.

Is she mentally unstable? Is she the black sheep of the family? A freak of nature?

I take it the grandmother is nothing like her daughter?

Sorry, I'm firing questions at you. :)

[Naturyl]

25. Grandmother is the opposite of her.

Kind, generous, compassionate, patient, considerate, good-hearted, etc. Sometimes the apple does fall from from the tree.

The aunt, on the other hand, is a woman who has house packed with useless shit she buys to "save money" and she charges her mother down to the last penny for everything she picks up for her at the store, even a 48 cent soda or anything. She is absolutely money-obsessed and thinks of nothing else, except Obama-bashing. She watches nothing but Faux News and calls her poor mother daily to propagandize her with the latest nonsense they have come out with. She is a millionaire who is always the first one into the thrift store as soon as the doors open, to get the good stuff cheap before poor people snatch it up.

[Darth_Kitten]

29. It must suck to be her.

She sounds like a very empty person. Cruel to the core.

hmmmm. You were wise to walk away.

[eppur_se_muova]

45. Perhaps you should only refer to your aunt as "Hetty".

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hetty_Green

[lpbk2713]

23. I'm sure you've heard this old adage before ...

You can pick your friends but you can't pick your family.

And I know that one only too well.

I believe you conducted yourself admirably.

If it had been me in that position I'm sure law enforcement
would have been involved eventually.


:thumbsup: :hi: :thumbsup:

[HughMoran]

26. I consider Faux & right-wing radio a personal attack on me

I start screaming at people who put it on and I won't stop until 1) I am forced to leave or 2) they comply and turn the shit off. I accuse people who listen to this violence of being mentally unstable and guilty of trying to destroy the country. This is NOT a joke - I'm really impressed that you lasted as long as you did.

[Naturyl]

27. I was able to stifle vomit and tolerate it, until...

Rush and his horrid caller started in on me personally, in the form of non-working people. You better believe I felt personally attacked and when Auntie Repuke started vocally supporting it, I was like "that's it. Enough." Outta there.

Really, I should have left when he was attacking everybody else, which of course was in the first 30 seconds. But I waited until it was directly on me. I was doing my best to put up with it for granny-in-law's sake, but that was just too much.

Never again, ever.

[HughMoran]

34. Well, you can't say you didn't give it your best shot

Considering she was allowed to listen to Rush (& rub it in), but wearing an Obama pin would have pushed her over the edge, I think you did more than just turn the other cheek. The right-wing hate merchants are tearing this country apart.

[Gman2]

28. Run the fucking broken lawnmower over the blaring buffoon.

[JuniperLea]

31. HAHAHAHA!

Perfect!

:yourock:

[Naturyl]

32. It's no longer broken.

The actual repair bill came to just over $250, which we shelled out. They counted it down to the penny and gave change back. Keep in mind we make less than $700 a month. But you know what? Clearly they needed it more than we do.

[JuniperLea]

30. I feel for you and your wife...

I have an evil RW elitist dumbass aunt myself. She's the typical Freeper... I kid you not... types her misspelled words in all caps and everything! Claims Obama is "radical" but can't say one thing he's actually done that's radical, only things "he wants" to do. This creep put her own mother into a convalescent home and ransacked her house, taking everything of value, and then attempted to put the kibosh on my mom and my other aunt (both nurses) who wanted to take her home to live... evil, wicked aunt cried to the doctor that the trip would kill her dear mother. Grandma lived another six years with mom and the good aunt... we never saw the coin collection, the art, or the silver again, but we had grandma and that's all we cared about.

Maybe your wife and I are cousins:)

:hi:

I live quite nicely without this putrid excuse for a waste of skin and oxygen. She's a big Palin fan (according to her FB page) and has gone extreme Fundy... she's forgiven, you see... :puke:

Be good to granny... I know you will. I miss mine terribly, even after 11 years... they are so precious.

[Naturyl]

33. It sounds very similar... eerily so, even.

Glad you escaped her clutches.

[NC_Nurse]

35. Aside from her politics, she is obviously a hateful bitch and you and your wife

are right to be rid of her. She's only hurting herself with all that bile. Too bad she probably has no clue.

At least you won't have to even try to put up with her bullshit anymore. :-)

A brighter future for is in store for you! Minus Aunt Rude.

[Caretha]

37. Sorry to have to say this

about your sweet granny...but she is a "sh*t stirrer". If she really loved your wife (her grandchild) she would never have put either of you in such an intolerable situation.

Don't forget that the path of good intentions leads to hell.

[Obamanaut]

38. So you knew Granny's ulterior motive, and you knew the other family

members knew it wouldn't work, and you knew Auntie was gonna be there - so rather than make an excuse about prior commitments you went anyway.

Sorta like "I'm going into the bear's cave, but I'll be quiet and maybe tidy up a bit, and maybe it won't disturb the bear and her cubs, and maybe it'll be ok."

[Naturyl]

39. We were ordered to go.

And since the grandmother provides the car we use for transportation and money for groceries the last 2 weeks of most months, you don't argue with her. You show up when she says to show up.

[Obamanaut]

40. No, you do - I don't. Did you get the memo re slavery ending? Ordered

you to go? Is this for real?

If you must kowtow, and you seem to think you do - do it in such a way that auntie is not there.

"I'll paint your gazebo, but I'd rather do it by myself."

[Naturyl]

42. That's what I'm doing.

As for "kowtowing," guess what? I piss granny off and the car gets pulled, and we have zero transportation. Not feasible. If disabled people on SSI were paid enough to afford the necessities of modern life, it wouldn't be an issue. But we aren't, so it is.

[Caretha]

47. Now that is pathetic

(shaking head)

No wonder you have no self respect.

[Brewman_Jax]

41. At least you've earned major credits with your wife

having to behave at her family's place under intolerable circumstances. You'll get to do what you want to do for a while--you've earned it.

[LoZoccolo]

43. Cool story, bro. n/t

[malaise]

46. Here's the difference between you and me

As soon as they turned on Rush I'd have been out of there. No one is doing that to me.