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hedgehog Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-10-10 02:31 PM
Original message
I know some of you are ticked off, but can't we retire the "R" word?
A lot of us are offended to see people we disagree with compared to the mentally handicapped in a disparaging manner.
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slackmaster Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-10-10 02:32 PM
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1. Republican?
:shrug:
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LaurenG Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-10-10 02:33 PM
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2. Thats exactly what I thought. nt
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Posteritatis Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-10-10 02:33 PM
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5. Pretty sure that kind of thing's exactly what the OP's talking about. (nt)
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hedgehog Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-10-10 02:34 PM
Response to Reply #1
7. I've seen several posts today referring to people as "retards" or
to a statement as "retarded". It's lazy and offensive to use those terms.
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slackmaster Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-10-10 02:36 PM
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13. I just use 'tards as a general term
It goes equally well with bas- fuck- or re-.
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backscatter712 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-12-10 12:22 PM
Response to Reply #13
108. What about freep- ?
It seems to go especially well there.
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piratefish08 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-10-10 03:56 PM
Response to Reply #7
46. Rahm started it.
tell him.
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Uncle Joe Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-10-10 02:36 PM
Response to Reply #1
12. No "retire," they're trying to gut Social Security.
Seriously I agree with the O.P. it's an offensive word against a disadvantaged group of people.
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RaleighNCDUer Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-10-10 03:28 PM
Response to Reply #12
38. And if we all stop using it maybe people will forget that it is the word
Rahm reserves for progressives.
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Xenotime Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-11-10 11:26 AM
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69. That word is already dead.
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Touchdown Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-10-10 02:33 PM
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3. Rickshaw?
:shrug:
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LAGC Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-10-10 02:33 PM
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4. I'll retire it when Rahm retires it. (n/t)
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bunkerbuster1 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-10-10 02:34 PM
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6. my first thought as well.
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hedgehog Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-10-10 02:35 PM
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9. But M-o-o-o-o-m, all the other kids are doing it!
:eyes:
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spoony Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-10-10 02:36 PM
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11. Yep, if they stop calling us retarded and it will disappear. nt
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Nite Owl Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-10-10 02:40 PM
Original message
+++++1
that's the only way I have seen it used actually, just repeating Rahm. And it's a reason why he needed to apologize.
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LanternWaste Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-10-10 03:54 PM
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45. I imagine that for many people...
I imagine that for many people, their own ethics are actually predicated on the ethics of others-- doing (or not doing as the case may be) only what others do, saying only what others say, believing only what others believe...

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backscatter712 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-12-10 12:21 PM
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107. This time, it wasn't Rahm that said it.
Edited on Thu Aug-12-10 12:33 PM by backscatter712
It was Jon Stewart that said it, in reference to John Boehner and his simultaneous advocacy of deficit hawkery AND extension of the Bush tax cuts.

Yeah, as much as I agree with the sentiment in regards to Boehner's statement, comparing the GOP to the intellectually disabled is an insult to those with mental disabilities.

The truth is that Boehner, and the rest of the GOP are actually ethically retarded.
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Stoic Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-10-10 02:35 PM
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8. Just quoting Rahm. Take it up with him. n/t
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hedgehog Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-10-10 02:36 PM
Response to Reply #8
10. And if Rahm uses the "C" word, the "B" word or the "N" word, are
you going to jump off those bridges after him too?
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jgraz Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-10-10 05:44 PM
Response to Reply #10
55. Seriously, you think he *doesn't* say that shit in private.
I'd love to hear the names he uses on the Palestinians.
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sandnsea Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-10-10 02:37 PM
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16. Rahm never called anybody a retard
He said particular behaviors were "fucking retarded", and then apologized for it.

Since then, the loving left have lied about what he said and continued to use the word despite his admission that he was wrong to use it.

I know who I think is the bigger person.
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RaleighNCDUer Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-10-10 03:30 PM
Response to Reply #16
39. So saying progressives are fucking retarded is not the same as
calling them retards?

Try again.
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sandnsea Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-10-10 03:46 PM
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40. That is not what he said
He said it was fucking retarded to run ads smearing Democrats. That's an action, not an attack on any individual.

Who lied about what he said? And continues to lie without any regard for the offensiveness of the word or the fact that they're lieing?
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Kerrytravelers Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-10-10 02:36 PM
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14. Go ahead and send an alert when you see it.
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hedgehog Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-10-10 02:40 PM
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21. Thanks - I didn't want to jump the gun over a single word.
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Stoic Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-10-10 02:41 PM
Response to Reply #14
22. Quoting Rahm or even using the word tangentially is not a violation of rules.
Only using the word in reference to a person or group is a direct attack would be.
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Kerrytravelers Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-10-10 02:44 PM
Response to Reply #22
24. I am aware of the rules.
Edited on Tue Aug-10-10 03:06 PM by Kerrytravelers
When the alert is sent, the Mods will look at the post in context and see if it is a rule violation or not.
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Name removed Donating Member (0 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-10-10 02:48 PM
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27. Deleted sub-thread
Sub-thread removed by moderator. Click here to review the message board rules.
 
cleanhippie Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-10-10 02:37 PM
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15. No, because when used correctly, it can be the correct word.
When used to disparage the mentally handicapped, its wrong, but when used to describe someone who is otherwise "normal", but seems to have lost the ability to think reasonably, logically and critically, its exactly perfect.

How about instead we start a movement to get that word reassigned to mean "someone willfully ignorant"?
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hedgehog Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-10-10 02:40 PM
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19. We already have that word, it's "fool".
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cleanhippie Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-10-10 02:45 PM
Response to Reply #19
25. Maybe, but "fool" doesnt seem specific enough.
Certainly not strong enough to describe willful ignorance.
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Maru Kitteh Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-10-10 02:47 PM
Response to Reply #15
26. It is always disparaging to the mentally handicapped and it is NEVER the right word.
And the people who use it are being total fucking assholes when they do.

And P.S., "somebody else said it first" is a snotty little child's excuse for those of you hitching your wagon to that little gem.
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cleanhippie Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-10-10 02:49 PM
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28. Well, I guess you are the final authority on this then?
You may be surprised to find that not everyone agrees with you.
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Maru Kitteh Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-10-10 02:51 PM
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31. Yeah, that's pretty much how people defended the use of the N word and all kinds of bigoted
ignorant fucking hate speech.
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cleanhippie Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-10-10 02:52 PM
Response to Reply #31
32. Is it? Is it really? Is that what I am doing?
Please, do elaborate.
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Maru Kitteh Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-10-10 03:02 PM
Response to Reply #32
35. You are, and I'm sure that no resonable investment of my time in educating you or anyone else
who stridently defends the reprehensible use of bigoted, discriminatory hateful speech will be met with any satisfactory result.

My time is valuable so I shall waste no more of it with you beyond the reminder that life has a cruel kind of irony now and again, so if you should find yourself with a child or grandchild who faces these kinds of challenges in the future, I hope you will remember your vehement stand in defense of cruel and bigoted speech here.

Good day.
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cleanhippie Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-10-10 03:07 PM
Response to Reply #35
37. At least you are good for a laugh.
I'm sure you have some good points and a reasonable argument, but your poutrage and vitriol shuts down any chance of discussing it like rational adults.

Good day, indeed.
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LostinVA Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-10-10 03:53 PM
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43. "poutrage" -- niiice
:eyes:
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cleanhippie Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-10-10 04:24 PM
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50. Thanks
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Dorian Gray Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-10-10 05:58 PM
Response to Reply #37
57. Meh...
she sounds right and reasonable in this regard.
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cleanhippie Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-11-10 01:32 PM
Response to Reply #57
81. I can see how you agree with that
and Im ok with it. Lets move on.
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uppityperson Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-10-10 06:25 PM
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59. "when used to describe someone who is otherwise "normal", but seems to have lost the ability to thin
"when used to describe someone who is otherwise "normal", but seems to have lost the ability to think reasonably, logically and critically, its exactly perfect."

Right, like calling someone of dark skin a N* because, after all, that just means black and is exactly perfect. Like calling someone a c* because, after all, it is exactly perfect.

Using a disparaging term and defending that use as "its exactly perfect" is hate speech.
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cleanhippie Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-11-10 01:31 PM
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80. Sorry, I disagree.
Edited on Wed Aug-11-10 01:31 PM by cleanhippie
While all of the other examples you cite are quite valid, I stand my my assertion on the original word and do not feel it is analogous with the other words you described at all.

Nonetheless, as I was told by a mod, the word is unacceptable here and I am ok with that. No problem, lets move on.
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LostinVA Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-10-10 03:52 PM
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42. Yes, she is -- it is never the right word, ever
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cleanhippie Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-10-10 04:24 PM
Response to Reply #42
49. Well, now I know where to go for the difinitive answers on what is right and wrong.
No further need for debate, I guess.
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Kerrytravelers Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-10-10 05:18 PM
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54. You don't even have to worry about debating the rules. They are already laid out for you!
http://journals.democraticunderground.com/Skinner/363

Specifically:

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cleanhippie Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-10-10 06:09 PM
Response to Reply #54
58. I think the MAY is the key to this.
I understand the rules as I also understand the OP's original point. However, the OP, and the subsequent discussion I have had with other posters seems to indicate that there are certain words, the one in question being "retarded" I assume, that there is NEVER an appropriate use, ever, and on that point I disagree.

Context and intent is everything, especially when using words that can be insulting or disparaging, but telling someone that a certain word can never be used, under any circumstance seems to be contrary to the whole INTENT of a discussion board.

But maybe I am wrong......
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Kerrytravelers Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-10-10 06:26 PM
Response to Reply #58
60. We see the use of the word "retarded" that violates the rules.
I believe that is what the OP is objecting to, which is why I responded the way I did above. http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=show_mesg&forum=389&topic_id=8916430&mesg_id=8916484 Using the word within the rules is fine.

If you ever believe that something is a rules violation, go ahead and alert. That is what the Moderators are here for.

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sui generis Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-12-10 08:19 AM
Response to Reply #54
101. but this IS DU and we can discuss the rules. That's the point.
Otherwise we should better call the site authoritarianunderground.com or something more suitable.

Discussing the rules is not a violation of the rules. Addressing the appropriateness of enforcing a rule is the nuance that's lost here - and appropriately I agree that should be taken up with the admins.

And my aside on this thread is god I hate authoritarians. I certainly hope parents of authoritarian children everywhere are deeply offended.
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sui generis Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-11-10 12:25 PM
Response to Reply #42
72. disagree
Edited on Wed Aug-11-10 12:27 PM by sui generis
it seems like we keep have the same positions on the same arguments week after week.

People should be sensitive enough and aware enough to make their own choices about USE of language, not be "told". Certainly we make choices about who we respond to or listen to or engage with. Outside of DU it IS the right word in certain cases. Not to a public official. I draw the line at "retard", but liberally use "retarded", and now use it with great glee because NOT USING language is a social norm that should be questioned.

Saying "that's mentally challenged" is not banned by the DU rules, incidentally.

It's an inconsistency that points out that you have to INTEND to offend. Anyone who CHOOSES to be offended by a term on behalf of someone else isn't really offended at all, just seeking attention.
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lumberjack_jeff Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-11-10 01:23 PM
Response to Reply #72
78. "Anyone who CHOOSES to be offended by a term on behalf of someone else isn't really offended at all"
The ability to take offense on behalf of others is a good definition of empathy.

And I guarantee that the offense I take at the term is genuine.

And describing a purple velvet hat as "african-american" (to use an example of the way you are trying to skirt the fundamental issue) is no less bigoted.
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sui generis Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-11-10 02:55 PM
Response to Reply #78
85. I'm sure you believe you are offended
Edited on Wed Aug-11-10 02:58 PM by sui generis
just as I'm sure you believe you accused me by proxy of being "bigoted", antisocial and a sociopath. Noted, you intended to offend using non-offensive terms and language. However outrage and offense are subjective. Your use of incomplete sentences is offensive to me and I alerted on you. Not. So what's worse, the intent to offend, as you attempted, or the "offensive" words, which you didn't use?

I don't need other people telling me what their rules for my use of language needs to be, any more than I should need to tell other people what proper grammar they need to use or else risk being deleted. It is that simple. IF I am a worthy person and IF I am a person with empathy, I will choose my own rules and use them appropriately or not, and if I am intentionally inappropriate (which I like to do occasionally), then let the chips fall where they may.

If I accidentally or unintentionally use language that causes you to choose to be offended and your offense at my language is still genuine, then you're an ass who really doesn't have empathy for a mistake (and without further evidence I do NOT believe that to be true at this time). If I intend to offend, you will certainly know, and you will exercise your own choices about whether to continue talking to me or not. It's about choices, not about rules, at least among adults, and that is both my opinion and my system of values.

I am not swayed by social approval or arguments based on some idea of the wisdom of the collective.

My point is, the world works better when people choose their language and context than when they are "told" what language and context to use, and you'll know which assholes to ignore if they run around intending to offend, and which ones to forgive.

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lumberjack_jeff Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-11-10 03:58 PM
Response to Reply #85
86. I didn't say you were antisocial or a sociopath.
But you DO intend to offend.
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sui generis Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-11-10 04:00 PM
Response to Reply #86
87. well the moderator here certainly believes that to be the case.
When I am telling you that I don't intend to offend your belief has nothing to do with reality.

I am trying to be fair and explain MYSELF and MY values, not tell you which values you need to have. Unlike the crapfest here.
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lumberjack_jeff Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-11-10 04:04 PM
Response to Reply #87
89. Your belief and your values is that no one who is offended has any standing.
It's like saying you don't intend to hurt based on your belief that your victim is only pretending to feel pain.

You're the worst kind of bully. The sanctimonious kind.
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sui generis Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-11-10 04:10 PM
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91. that was judgmental and name calling and an ad hominem attack
I did no such thing to you - so I'm wondering why you believe you have a point to make after that.

Since I know I'm not a bully, and I hate "sanctimonious" people, especially the blanket-rules-for-everyone people on this thread, your description of me as a sanctimonious bully carries zero weight.

It's simply "wrong".

Just as if you had called me a retard. DOUBTLESS parents of sanctimonious bullies everywhere are outraged and offended, but I am not.

Also there is a difference between being sure of my opinion and being "sanctimonious".
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lumberjack_jeff Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-11-10 01:16 PM
Response to Reply #28
76. Yes. She is.
And no, we'll never be surprised that assholes walk among us.
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cleanhippie Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-12-10 10:33 AM
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103. No, she isnt.
The mods are in here, and IRL, its a free for all. But you are right about one thing, I am never surprised either about the assholes among us.
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Dorian Gray Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-10-10 05:57 PM
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56. Exactly right.
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Posteritatis Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-10-10 02:50 PM
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29. "Stupid" is a perfectly useful word in that latter case. (nt)
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cleanhippie Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-10-10 02:55 PM
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34. Yeah, thats a pretty good word.
But there are a lot of stupid people, and stupid is typically used as an adjective, not a noun.
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Caliman73 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-11-10 05:04 PM
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96. Use the term "dullard" then...
That is a term not associated with the developmentally disabled and means: a stupid, boring, or unimaginative person.
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SidDithers Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-10-10 03:54 PM
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44. No, it's still offensive, even in that context...nt
Sid
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lumberjack_jeff Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-11-10 01:15 PM
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75. So let's "reassign" the N word to mean something bad...
... but not in a way that it disparages hypersensitive people of color. It could be the "exactly perfect" word to describe several stereotypes. :sarcasm:

I really don't understand why people are so unwilling to get this? "Retard" used in any way other than a verb should have no place here.
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Caliman73 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-11-10 04:59 PM
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95. You just proved why it is never appropriate for anything other than a clinical description.
I have worked with developmentally disabled individuals for the last 11 years. The word "retarded" is innocuous in and of itself. It means delayed or slowed. It is applied clinically to people who have IQ scores lower than 70 and other significant impacts on a person's ability in receptive and expressive communication, skills of daily living, and other functional skills. People do not come into life hoping to be retarded. It is not a choice. It is a serious impediment to living in our society.

The problem with the word being used as an insult is that you cannot separate the term from the people that it has been used to describe clinically for the last several decades. It is quite okay to say that some one is mentally retarded when you are talking about the developmental condition. You don't tell someone who is mentally retarded that they are retarded. You certainly do not tell someone who is not mentally retarded, but is acting in a willfully ignorant manner that they are retarded, or flig the word around as an insult.

How about rather than starting a movement to reassign the word, yet again, we become more aware of why we choose to disparage someone by drawing a comparison to the condition, and we think before we speak or write. The terms Idiot, Moron, and Imbecile were also clinical terms that once described mentally retarded people, but were abandoned and are now used to describe people of average or higher intelligence who do not always use common sense, have attitudes, or make choices that we approve of.
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Name removed Donating Member (0 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-10-10 02:38 PM
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HillbillyBob Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-10-10 02:39 PM
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18. Reprehensible?
Repressive, Reptilian, Ridiculous, Rotten, Robbers?
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LargeGreenSpider Donating Member (130 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-10-10 02:40 PM
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20. Red Sox?
I agree ... screw that.
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zipplewrath Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-10-10 02:42 PM
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23. It is basically a quote
An allusion is probably more accurate. But it is to highlight how the administration "treats" one section of the party. The offensiveness is sorta parta the point. As someone else said, it will disappear when the reference does.
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Touchdown Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-10-10 02:50 PM
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30. Rainbow?
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MajorChode Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-10-10 02:53 PM
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33. Refudiate!
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End Of The Road Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-10-10 03:03 PM
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36. Ruh roh.
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Octafish Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-10-10 03:50 PM
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41. People who use it have no clue, hedgehog.
Lucky them.
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SidDithers Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-10-10 03:56 PM
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47. +1...
couldn't agree more :thumbsup:

Sid
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eppur_se_muova Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-10-10 04:24 PM
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48. How about "factually challenged" ? nt
:shrug:
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LWolf Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-10-10 04:38 PM
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51. A lot of us are offended to be the target of juvenile name-calling
on the part of the FUCKING WHITE HOUSE CHIEF OF STAFF that compares us to the mentally handicapped in a disparaging manner.

Do you really think we're going to forget?

Please remember that when Rahm's apology was issued, he apologized to the mentally handicapped for using a term disrespectful of THEM.

He didn't apologize to those of us he was calling retarded.
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Poboy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-10-10 06:57 PM
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63. Exactly LWolf. -nt
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lumberjack_jeff Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-11-10 04:11 PM
Response to Reply #51
92. "He didn't apologize to those of us he was calling retarded. "
FUCK!!!

I work with people with developmental disabilities daily. I guarantee that none of them suffer the complete inability to understand even this simplest of concepts... that you and others demonstrate here.

I can only conclude that you don't get it because you don't want to. You cling to your distorted sense of superiority.

OF COURSE HE APOLOGIZED TO THE HANDICAPPED FOR USING A TERM DISRESPECTFUL OF THEM. THEY ARE THOSE WHOM HE INSULTED.
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LWolf Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-11-10 07:15 PM
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97. He used the term to insult
Edited on Wed Aug-11-10 07:16 PM by LWolf
the left wing of the Democratic party opposing the administration. Not to insult the handicapped. That was the goal. TO INSULT US.

The result? He insulted both. He apologized, though, to only one.

Simple fact, easily understood by all but those who don't want to.
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lumberjack_jeff Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-11-10 08:54 PM
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99. If he'd expressed his opinion of our intelligence/education/social standing by calling us n*ggers,..
... he'd never have gotten a chance to apologize, but in any case that apology wouldn't be directed at us.

And we wouldn't be whining; 'We are not, so take it back!'
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LWolf Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-12-10 11:14 AM
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104. I haven't seen anyone whining "we are not, take it back."
It doesn't matter what term he used. The offense is a deliberate, public, insult. The fact that he used a bigoted, derogatory label to deliver that insult says more about him than it does about the cognitively disabled or about those he was insulting.

That's probably why you are still hearing about it. Because it points out the COS' despicable character and bad judgement.

And perhaps because the insult stands; it has nothing to do with the faux apology offered to the cognitively disabled.
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peacebaby3 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-10-10 04:44 PM
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52. The term is still used in the medical, psychological, and legal fields.
It's in the DSM IV and is used often in all of these professional fields. A person is considered mentally retarded if he or she meets a certain criteria. It falls under the Axis II in the DSM IV. At some point this may change and I would be supportive of that change, but it will take a long time for it to be considered a taboo term in these fields. It's too bad some people turned the word into a disparagement. I only bring this up because I have been verbally attacked by some people for using a word that is completely appropriate in my work and is the only recognized term for a certain diagnosis in which a person has intellectual impairment and deficits in other areas such as personal-care and interpersonal skills. There will soon be a version V, but I haven't heard there will be a change in the use of the term "retardation." There has been a great deal of discussion over the disappearance (really just a change) of Asperger, Rhett, etc. in this version. They will now all fall under Autism Spectrum Disorder just in case someone on here is interested.
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cleanhippie Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-10-10 06:53 PM
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61. .
Edited on Tue Aug-10-10 06:54 PM by cleanhippie
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backscatter712 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-12-10 12:19 PM
Response to Reply #52
106. It's also used by auto mechanics...
as in "I've got to retard the spark timing."
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MellowDem Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-10-10 04:49 PM
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53. Retard is going the way of "stupid" and "idiot"...
Just like the use of idiot isn't meant to disparage the mentally handicapped anymore, retard isn't either. It almost always refers to the non-mentally handicapped. Just the evolution of language.
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sui generis Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-11-10 11:04 AM
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67. Yes, DU is a bit slow on this point
although I disagree with DU's intent to enforce this rule as silly and nanny-ish, I understand that it is less the word itself and any made up social bullshit and feigned outrage behind it, than the tenor of conversation that follows the use of the word.

And personally I don't care if the moderators don't want an essay on the topic. A tight three paragraph essay with a topical subject, exposition and conclusion does NOT break the rules, I'm happy to point out.

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Xenotime Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-11-10 11:28 AM
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70. I was offended when I heard it used in the movie The Hangover.
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MellowDem Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-11-10 01:10 PM
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74. It will still offend people, for sure...
and in certain instances the word may be used in fact to disparage the mentally handicapped. The instance you are referring to in The Hangover doesn't seem to be making fun of the mentally handicapped. IMHO, it is definitely poking fun at the bearded guy.
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lumberjack_jeff Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-11-10 01:30 PM
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79. It SHOULD go the way of "n*gger".
Edited on Wed Aug-11-10 01:31 PM by lumberjack_jeff
The fact that, as you observe, it's going the opposite direction is a really spectacular example of the fundamental problem. People with cognitive and intellectual disabilities will always be an easy target.
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MellowDem Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-11-10 01:50 PM
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84. Well, n*gger hasn't gone away....
in fact, it is still pretty commonly used, though the meaning has changed drastically depending on the context. It has also become a word that only black people can say and still be deemed somewhat socially acceptable. But, it is socially acceptable to many, given the right context. So, in that way, retard has gone the same way in that, depending on context, its use is socially acceptable.

I'm not sure retard is going the other way. Retard used to be a scientific term to describe the mentally handicapped, much like idiot. I suppose the mentally handicapped could try to claim the word retard, so only they could say it, but from what I've seen, there isn't much of a problem of people disparaging the mentally handicapped with the word retard. So claiming the word seems rather irrelevant.

Personally, I don't like the use of the word retard, because of its disparaging meaning, and I just generally don't like disparaging words regardless, unless it is comedy.

Maybe I'm being very optimistic, but from my experience, our society treats the mentally handicapped with respect. There are instances where they don't get the care they need, but that is more a problem of our healthcare system than our society disrespecting the mentally handicapped specifically. Indeed, that seems to be more a problem of class than anything else, since the mentally handicapped whose parents have lots of financial resources have among the best treatment there is. If anything, society is still too sensitive in many cases towards the mentally handicapped, treating them with pity rather than animosity, and that seems to be the main problem.
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lumberjack_jeff Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-11-10 04:02 PM
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88. This makes me want to club a seal.
I'm not sure retard is going the other way. Retard used to be a scientific term to describe the mentally handicapped, much like idiot.


"Retard" is ONLY a scientific term when used as a verb. It was invented as a slur by maladapted bullies to try to make their pathetic selves feel superior. It has failed spectacularly in that regard.
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sui generis Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-11-10 04:25 PM
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93. agreed it is an ugly word
my point on the deleted post below was that there is no real difference between saying something is mentally challenged than saying it's retarded, and yet "retarded" is the less acceptable phrase.

Somehow that was too offensive an idea to leave standing for discussion. It really is sad on a progressive forum when pointing out irony is considered bullying, offensive, and insensitive, but I guess blanket rules are made for people who have no sense of nuance whatsoever.

Hey where in Washington? I have family in Moses Lake.
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Poboy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-10-10 06:56 PM
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62. I have changed my signature, just for you.
Up until just now it read "Member of the 'fucking retarded' progressives".

Even though I STILL think using it is COMPLETELY justified, I have changed it.
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LWolf Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-10-10 07:28 PM
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65. I like the new sig line. nt
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sui generis Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-11-10 04:25 PM
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94. oh lordy
parents of crazy children everywhere are now offended.

:P
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Catherina Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-10-10 07:02 PM
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64. Tell it to the White House. n/t
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jillan Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-11-10 11:03 AM
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66. This mom of a special needs girl says thank you for this thread.
That word has become as offensive as any other ugly word used to describe a group of people that is different than themselves.
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Name removed Donating Member (0 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-11-10 11:26 AM
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Stinky The Clown Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-11-10 11:31 AM
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71. I understand the reason for your post, nd am on your side. I also know you know the source .....
..... of the current usage. I think you need to direct your anger at him/them.

As to the merits of your plea, it is justified and should be honored. I promise to try. I can't make that an absolute statement as I am human and have and will again make mistakes.
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lumberjack_jeff Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-11-10 01:33 PM
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82. I think most of us understood your intent.
I didn't like it, but I thought it deserved some slack.
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TransitJohn Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-11-10 12:26 PM
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73. Ruh Roh!!
:hide:
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edbermac Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-11-10 01:20 PM
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77. RickRoll?
Hell yes!



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bvar22 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-11-10 01:45 PM
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83. Take it up with Rahm
--bvar22
Proud member of the "Fucking Retards" wing of the Democratic Party,
Proud member of the FDR/LBJ/Wellstone wing of the Democratic Party,
Proud Member of the fringe wing of the Democratic Party that wants "Canadian Style Health Care".
.
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.
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No, Mr. Gibbs and Mr. Emanuel,
Fuck YOU!


"If we don't fight hard enough for the things we stand for,
at some point we have to recognize that we don't really stand for them."

--- Paul Wellstone


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Individualist Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-11-10 04:06 PM
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90. Place blame where blame is due.
Write a letter to the DLC asshole who publicly used it to refer to progressives.
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hobbit709 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-12-10 08:25 AM
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102. Exactly.
I once was told by someone that he didn't want to hear me cussing all the time and then asked what was my problem.
I replied "It's my birthday and I'm so fornicating happy I could just defecate"
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Laelth Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-12-10 11:21 AM
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105. Tell that to Rahm. n/t
-Laelth
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backscatter712 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-12-10 02:38 PM
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111. Serious question:
Is this thread in response to Jon Stewart's smackdown of John Boehner last night, in which he used the R-word?

Or did Rahm call liberals the R-word again? I thought Rahm's foot-in-mouth incident was old news.
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