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zazen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 09:34 AM Original message |
Dad 'just snapped' before boy's death |
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ensho (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 09:50 AM Response to Original message |
1. could be they consider their children as their own personal 'property' |
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nolabear (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 11:14 AM Response to Reply #1 |
20. The psych term for this |
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Tunkamerica (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 01:13 PM Response to Reply #1 |
42. by all accounts this guy was a good dad till this happened. |
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CoffeeCat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 09:50 AM Response to Original message |
2. The middle and upper-middle classes are stressed... |
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Alcibiades (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 10:08 AM Response to Reply #2 |
6. The irony is that Durham has been spared |
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Tunkamerica (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 01:15 PM Response to Reply #6 |
43. but did you see the guy's house? |
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MattBaggins (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 02:20 PM Response to Reply #43 |
61. I was going to be snarky and ask if this house was on a cul-du-sac |
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elehhhhna (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-25-10 08:33 AM Response to Reply #43 |
95. 400K house on EMT wages? sheesh. |
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laureloak (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 10:35 AM Response to Reply #2 |
10. OMG, WTF! Why didn't Mr. Stress kill himself and not the kid. |
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Dappleganger (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 11:46 AM Response to Reply #2 |
35. Great post--quite revealing yet not surprising. |
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FirstLight (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 02:47 PM Response to Reply #2 |
76. +1000 |
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proud2BlibKansan (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-25-10 09:04 AM Response to Reply #2 |
102. I'm trying to understand why we think these people can AFFORD this life style? |
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Jim__ (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 09:51 AM Response to Original message |
3. There is something called "Family Annihilators". |
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valerief (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 11:11 AM Response to Reply #3 |
19. Interesting concept. nt |
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ensho (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 11:26 AM Response to Reply #3 |
24. interesting - comes down to ego? |
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Dappleganger (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 11:42 AM Response to Reply #3 |
32. We had an incident locally... |
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Dappleganger (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 11:45 AM Response to Reply #32 |
34. Dug up the article |
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Tunkamerica (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 01:16 PM Response to Reply #3 |
44. yeah there's no proof of any of that and he lost his job over a year ago |
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Alcibiades (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 09:55 AM Response to Original message |
4. This is tragic |
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Uben (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 09:57 AM Response to Original message |
5. The guy was anEMT. His wife sold Avon. |
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Alcibiades (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 10:08 AM Response to Reply #5 |
7. An unemployed EMT |
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Uben (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 10:18 AM Response to Reply #7 |
8. I know there could be unmentioned circumstances..... |
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Alcibiades (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 11:17 AM Response to Reply #8 |
21. His father-in-law lives with them |
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jayfish (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 11:29 AM Response to Reply #21 |
25. including the word "hardscrabble" in the name of a development of $300k+ homes... |
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Alcibiades (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 11:53 AM Response to Reply #25 |
36. I've often thought that, too |
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elehhhhna (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-25-10 08:40 AM Response to Reply #8 |
97. Yep, my friends in near Chicago bought for 240, and have 8K in taxes on top! |
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elehhhhna (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-25-10 08:38 AM Response to Reply #7 |
96. so if they unloaded it for 350K, they'd have had enough to |
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valerief (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 11:10 AM Response to Reply #5 |
18. My thoughts exactly. nt |
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Dappleganger (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 11:30 AM Response to Reply #5 |
27. I wondered that too. |
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HughBeaumont (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 11:38 AM Response to Reply #5 |
31. I don't know, but that loan officer and underwriter need to be kicked in their asses. |
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elehhhhna (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-25-10 08:45 AM Response to Reply #31 |
98. they are. all the mort. people I know (most making 150K+ at ther peak) |
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Ex Lurker (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 01:29 PM Response to Reply #5 |
48. That jumped out at me too. Not that an EMT doesn't deserve that kind of salary, but |
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Blue_Tires (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 02:49 PM Response to Reply #5 |
78. Doesn't really surprise me |
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bullwinkle428 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 08:50 PM Response to Reply #5 |
87. Banks giving out mortgages to people that weren't in the position |
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proud2BlibKansan (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-25-10 09:05 AM Response to Reply #5 |
103. I have that same question |
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WingDinger (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 10:20 AM Response to Original message |
9. Noone gives a fuck, till they can cluck their tongues at the dead, for not accepting THEIR ultragene |
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Matariki (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 10:47 AM Response to Reply #9 |
14. Yeah, I noticed that. |
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JanMichael (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 10:56 AM Response to Reply #14 |
16. That comment was from a relative that the family had visited |
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Matariki (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 11:03 AM Response to Reply #16 |
17. Oh. |
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FirstLight (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 10:37 AM Response to Original message |
11. your last sentence... |
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jayfish (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 10:44 AM Response to Reply #11 |
13. "Your Last Sentence..." |
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FirstLight (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 02:07 PM Response to Reply #13 |
57. ??? |
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jayfish (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 02:26 PM Response to Reply #57 |
64. Is there some self-destructive sociobiological impulse that leads... |
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FirstLight (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 02:44 PM Response to Reply #64 |
74. either way |
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mopinko (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 10:41 AM Response to Original message |
12. i think that the behavior of killing offspring is part of our |
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AlbertCat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 12:08 PM Response to Reply #12 |
38. More proof that heterosexuals should not be allowed to raise children. |
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mopinko (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 12:51 PM Response to Reply #38 |
40. what does being hetero have to do with it? |
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Tunkamerica (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 01:27 PM Response to Reply #40 |
47. i think albert's being facetious. |
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madmom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 10:48 AM Response to Original message |
15. I can't imagine any home being worth that, honestly, if you have |
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Alcibiades (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 11:22 AM Response to Reply #15 |
22. That's certainly true |
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marions ghost (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 11:42 AM Response to Reply #15 |
33. Right, but |
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madmom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 12:16 PM Response to Reply #33 |
39. I am not by any means blaming anyone, but I really do not understand the mentality of |
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Alcibiades (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 01:31 PM Response to Reply #39 |
49. The value of these homes did go up and up |
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marions ghost (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 02:10 PM Response to Reply #49 |
58. Seems obvious |
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snooper2 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 02:56 PM Response to Reply #49 |
80. He left his job in 2002 |
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Alcibiades (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 09:16 PM Response to Reply #80 |
90. Thanks, I had misread it |
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Alcibiades (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 01:34 PM Response to Reply #33 |
50. They were also rather aggressively pitched |
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MattBaggins (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 02:30 PM Response to Reply #33 |
66. I blame the people that bought them. |
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sendero (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-25-10 07:04 AM Response to Reply #66 |
93. I blame... |
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Xithras (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 11:26 AM Response to Original message |
23. Most primate species kill their young from time to time. |
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Dappleganger (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 11:37 AM Response to Reply #23 |
29. I dunno. |
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Xithras (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 11:58 AM Response to Reply #29 |
37. Evolution isn't about compassion. |
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zazen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 01:18 PM Response to Reply #37 |
45. I agree--with the distorted thinking of psychotic depression |
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pipi_k (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 08:45 PM Response to Reply #45 |
86. I agree....and.... |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 02:20 PM Response to Reply #37 |
62. evolution, the new cult like religion that will explain every poor behavior. |
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Hello_Kitty (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 02:31 PM Response to Reply #62 |
67. And nature always gets it right, until the amateur biologist needs glasses. eom |
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Xithras (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 02:55 PM Response to Reply #62 |
79. Many people confuse the words "evolving" with "improving" |
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elehhhhna (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-25-10 08:51 AM Response to Reply #37 |
100. it's worse than that. some ate their children. |
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elehhhhna (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-25-10 08:50 AM Response to Reply #23 |
99. i suspect Bonobos are simply smart enough to not get caught |
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marions ghost (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 11:30 AM Response to Original message |
26. Hardscrabble Plantation |
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deutsey (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 11:35 AM Response to Original message |
28. Photo of the dad and his son |
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Dappleganger (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 11:38 AM Response to Reply #28 |
30. Dammit |
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zazen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 01:05 PM Response to Reply #28 |
41. oh, what a beautiful little boy! very, very sad n/t |
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lightningandsnow (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 01:26 PM Response to Original message |
46. All the posters on this thread saying the father "just snapped" from financial stress make me sick. |
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zazen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 01:34 PM Response to Reply #46 |
51. the Raleigh N&O title used the term "just snapped" |
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Alcibiades (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 01:36 PM Response to Reply #46 |
52. It's inexcusable |
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X_Digger (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 01:40 PM Response to Reply #52 |
54. It's also guilt aversion.. |
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Alcibiades (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 02:34 PM Response to Reply #54 |
69. There's a certain amount of anomie in that type of neighborhood |
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zazen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 01:37 PM Response to Reply #46 |
53. PS: this was moved by mods from LBN to general discussion |
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superduperfarleft (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 01:46 PM Response to Reply #46 |
55. "while knowing full well what they are doing" |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 02:19 PM Response to Reply #46 |
60. when the chemical in the brain has been shifted for whatever reason... explanation is hard |
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lightningandsnow (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 02:42 PM Response to Reply #60 |
73. There is no evidence that this man was suffering from psychosis. |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 03:55 PM Response to Reply #73 |
81. and there is no evidence that there wasnt. the fact that the person appeared to be a good parent |
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lightningandsnow (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 08:27 PM Response to Reply #81 |
84. Many abusive parents appear to be "good parents". |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 08:34 PM Response to Reply #84 |
85. of course lightening... anything can be anything... we are reading a very small story |
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lightningandsnow (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 09:11 PM Response to Reply #85 |
89. I'm so sorry about your mom. |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 10:51 PM Response to Reply #89 |
91. ya |
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elehhhhna (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-25-10 09:02 AM Response to Reply #91 |
101. oh honey -- |
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slackmaster (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 02:22 PM Response to Reply #46 |
63. More very young children are killed by their own mothers than by men |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 02:28 PM Response to Reply #63 |
65. not true. |
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slackmaster (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 02:34 PM Response to Reply #65 |
70. Whether or not my statement is true depends on where you set the age range of the children |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 02:37 PM Response to Reply #70 |
72. first one i grabbed. at the least, i googled to check facts. do you have a link that shows |
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slackmaster (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 02:49 PM Response to Reply #72 |
77. "General Characteristics of Filicide" |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 03:56 PM Response to Reply #77 |
82. women commit as often as men |
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Tunkamerica (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-25-10 06:54 AM Response to Reply #82 |
92. because he/she wasn't quoting one specific slate article? |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-25-10 07:10 AM Response to Reply #92 |
94. actually poster first made the statement women murder children more. |
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Roon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 01:51 PM Response to Original message |
56. I knew a federal police officer who took his own life |
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MattBaggins (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 02:16 PM Response to Original message |
59. This wouldn't have happened if not for the NINV loans of this past decade |
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Alcibiades (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 02:36 PM Response to Reply #59 |
71. Probably because he had a huge downpayment |
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marions ghost (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 02:45 PM Response to Reply #59 |
75. Do you understand |
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librechik (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 02:33 PM Response to Original message |
68. EMTs the most poorly paid of professionals |
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AspenRose (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 05:12 PM Response to Reply #68 |
83. EMT is a stressful job as well |
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Odin2005 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-23-10 08:55 PM Response to Original message |
88. Damn, just damn! |
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