Ever have a moment that makes you realize things really are not that bad for you?

[rainbow4321]

Met a patient at our hospital last night who had been having an ongoing headache for a month, feeling dizzy and just not right.

She came in to have some tests done....was found to have multiple brain tumors as well as abdominal tumors that are overlapping into her lungs.

Her prognosis: They have given her 3 weeks max to live.


Her family is making plans to have her move to where they live.



And what was her biggest concern? Did the staff enjoy the brownies that she gave us...her neighbor had made them for her but since she has diabetes she didn't want to eat them and make her sugars go sky high. So she gave them to us.



:-(




Don't think I will be complaining about anything going wrong for me anytime soon.

[OneGrassRoot]

1. Thank you. Perspective is everything. n/t

[eleny]

4. +1

And a rec for the thread.

[Adsos Letter]

2. Thankyou for posting this, rainbow4321.

A timely post.

[Karenina]

3. Anyone in the "western world" who is complaining

simply DOESN'T GET IT!!! :rofl:

[pitohui]

9. because if we live in the western world we're not entitled to our pain or our feelings?

what the hell is wrong w. people?

these days i'm almost more grateful for those of my friends who behaved badly as they were dying, instead of suffering in silence and leaving behind an impossible legacy for the rest of us

one of my friends had a brain tumor and died quietly, in a few weeks, w.out telling anyone, another went mad and accused everyone and everything of causing it and died noisily in a few months

who is to say that the quiet one is more nobel or the noisy one "doesn't get it" because he was a westerner? (they were both westerners, well southerners anyway, but one of them -- the quiet one -- had substantially fewer dollars than the noisy one -- should that matter?)

allow people to feel what they feel

[jotsy]

5. Yup!

Pulled into the grocery store with a bad case of the blues, my oldest had run away for the third or fourth time. Watched a car park in the handicapped spot, gentleman got out, seemed completely able bodied. I started to think it might make feel better to give him a bad time about it when he opened his trunk and began assembling a wheel chair for a small child. I realized the temporary and fixable woes in my life were a breeze compared to the constant reality of his. As tough as times get, my peeps are here, they are healthy and together we're a pretty formidable crew when it comes to supporting our community. Lucky and proud to know that.

[Monique1]

6. AllI can say

:(

[pitohui]

7. ever have a moment when you realize you're sick and tired of being told to shut up and suck it up?

because i'm having such a moment right now

i'm sorry your friend is dying in 3 weeks but at the end of the day someone who is dying in 3 weeks is liberated from a lot of the issues that the rest of us have to worry about

she'll get housing, food, etc. for three weeks

try being sick for three years and get back to me about how much your family puts up with you, wants to keep spending money on you (that they don't have), and even if they still love you any more -- try it for three decades

i was born ill, and a short life of illness is at the end of the day preferable to a long one where you are remembered with bitterness and anger as a drain on everybody else

how do you know she isn't thinking, wow, i'm glad i'm going out this way instead of lingering with 20 years with alzheimer's (as one of my relatives did)

i think if i'm in pain and misery, i should be allowed to feel what i'm feeling, and not to be told to fuck off because somebody has it worse

somebody ALWAYS has it worse, i'm still entitled to have feelings

sorry for my vent but i'm v. ill right now at this v. moment and just not in the mood for this crap

a person can have it bad and still be alive, in fact, you almost HAVE to be alive to suffer, the dead don't suffer

[LoZoccolo]

8. As a matter of fact I saw a part of a documentary about Cambodia under the Khmer Rouge last night.

Now that was difficulty. I really don't have it that difficult.

[Hello_Kitty]

10. That's heartbreaking. eom

[angstlessk]

11. I heard of parable..that if we all hung our griefs, sorrows and delights on a tree..

and marched around that tree and picked out one of each..we would end up with our own...cause we have survived those thus far..and maybe we could not survive another's grief or even delight...

[woo me with science]

12. Recently? When I saw the pictures of the floods in Pakistan.

Thank you for this post.











http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_58eOM8Ne2EA/THsKfBuuV3I/AAAAAAAAAgA/WLUvdha8Msg/s1600/Pakistani+Floods--infant+rescue.jpg

[emilyg]

13. Thanks.

[jwirr]

14. Learned that the same way years ago. I would take my daughter

who is severely disabled into the university hospitals for a check up every 6 months. Our appointment was at 8:00 am. So was everyone else's. So setting in the waiting room became a therapy session for me. In the 6 months time at home I would find myself feeling sorry for myself. Setting in that waiting room I would watch the other parents come in: a father carrying a little girl who was atrophied to the point that she was rigid in his arms, a mother with a beautiful little girl who looked completely healthy but who came in almost every day because she need blood transfusions due to leukemia and did not have long to live. I soon stopped feeling sorry for myself. My little girl had daily seizures and was developmentally disabled but she was going to live. And today some 45 years later she is still alive and doing well.

[donheld]

15. Every single work day

I drive for Denver's RTD Access-a-ride program. We drive for those who are disabled to the point they cannot take regular fixed route busses. I see many many people who are in conditions nobody would wish to be in in a million years. It makes one realize how lucky most of us really are.

[BlueIris]

16. Every time I drink clean water. nt

[Itchinjim]

17. KNR