Is it appropriate for little boys to pee in public? Or men?

[Liberal_in_LA]

Is it appropriate for little boys to pee in public?

I've made lots of mistakes as a parent and one of them is teaching my son to pee on trees.

Peeing outside is convenient but is it uncouth in the city?

I trained my son to use the potty when he was only 2 years old. I used an approach that has become known in mommy circles as the "three-day method," where you go cold without diapers over a weekend.

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There's something unappetizing, unappealing better said, uncouth about this, and the photograph my husband took a few years ago of my son peeing right in front of the Beverly Hills sign has suddenly become rather tasteless and humiliating.



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[MrSlayer]

1. That's one of the benefits of being a guy.

Nothing wrong with peeing on a tree as long as you place yourself strategically. You did not make a mistake.

[Liberal_in_LA]

We don't need to see it! I've seen men, in the city, pull over and run behind trees

get yourself to a toilet

[immoderate]

42. You would if you could...

Should they not go behind the tree?

--imm

[Liberal_in_LA]

52. no I wouldn't. I saw a guy come out of movie theater and go around the corner and pee

omg. lazy bastard

[rufus dog]

69. You are in LA and you ask that question?

Have you ever started the day with a large coffee in the OC then been stuck on the 405 North of Century Blvd? Where the hell am I supposed to pee? All of the gas stations and fast food places have locked rest rooms, once I drove up La Cienaga to a starbucks and there were 6 guys in line! So there I am with another cup of coffee and no place to pee. Hello! Tree or Bush!

[Sen. Walter Sobchak]

79. I have lived in Southern California almost my entire life

oddly enough I have never had difficulty finding bathrooms...

[badtoworse]

76. You're right - the world is our urinal ...

and unlike the ladies, you never have to drive to another gas station because this one is too icky

[Toucano]

2. I'm paralyzed with concern about public urination. n/t

[Liberal_in_LA]

9. this issue trumps wikileaks and tax cuts.

[abelenkpe]

17. LOL! :) nt

[Cali_Democrat]

41. Indeed!

:)

[Pharaoh]

3. There is nothing wrong with peeing outside!

We've done it for millions of years!.

[Bluebear]

4. Yes, if they are canines. nt

[JuniperLea]

5. It's inappropriate for anyone to pee in public...

The only exception I'd be willing to make is whilst hiking in the wilderness as there is no other option; however, this isn't in public.

[DrDan]

24. so . . . if you are within some city limits, but no one is within a half mile - are you "in public"?

[JuniperLea]

28. Yes... unless you can guarantee you can pee faster...

Than that car full of little girls coming down the road.

:eyes:

[northoftheborder]

6. As a mother of 3 boys, and 4 grandsons...

....our family allowed back-yard emergency stops until about 4, and other isolated spots away from public facilities when nature called....

[FreeState]

7. It depends... generally Id say no for big cities and yes for small areas

this is 100% based on health issues. I grew up peeing on trees and bushes rather than going home when I was out playing. If you ever own a dog you will be amazed at the amount of urine just from dogs that is up and down your streets.

Edit to add as a kid on vacations my Dad would pull the car over if one of us had to go and there was no rest stop in sight - girls and boys would just pee on the side of the van. No big deal - better than peeing your pants in a car!

[WillyT]

8. Only If They're Circumcised

:hide::evilgrin::hide:

:yoiks:

[Liberal_in_LA]

11. and breast fed

[RKP5637]

20. OMG!

:popcorn: :popcorn: :popcorn: :popcorn: :popcorn:

[JuniperLea]

21. And outside of the Olive Garden... eom

[madinmaryland]

49. Ironic that a DU'er named "Willy" is talking about "circumcision".

:P

[Obamanaut]

10. When selecting a tree upon which to pee, be alert as to the possible

observation by passersby AND the wind direction

[charlie]

14. And cameras

Becoming an unwitting YouTube star might be impetus enough to hold your water :)

[JoePhilly]

16. Also make sure that you are not standing in an area where ....

... a badly sliced drive from an adjacent fairway, might allow a golf ball to hit you in your exposed testicles.

[NNN0LHI]

12. Appropriate my ass. I am too shy to pee in public

I have a hard time peeing in an indoor public urinal with some joker standing next to me. Usually can't do it. Unless I am drunk. Then it doesn't matter.

Don

[Roon]

37. I used to get stage fright too

then I developed an overactive bladder.Now I can pee anywhere, anytime, with anyone in the room. lol

[NNN0LHI]

46. LOL

Always a silver lining.

Don

[RandomKoolzip]

13. God, I am so tired of all these deadly serious downer threads about real issues.

[abelenkpe]

15. Only in an emergency

should one pee in public.

Pretty much everyone figures this out eventually. :)

No shame should be attached to such need tho

[tinkerbell41]

18. This will really throw you!

I myself do it on occasion, and I'm female. I have taught my daughter, and niece how to go behind the "flowers". If nature calls, especially in the city where most places insist you purchase something to use the "facilities" well I refuse to go in my pants.

[Liberal_in_LA]

22. that does throw me!

[SoCalDem]

25. Well.. when "ya-gotta-go, ya-gotta-go"..

If one is on a car trip & out in the middle of nowhere (with no facilities), do you pee your pants & the the car-seats, or do you pull over somewhere, and make the best of it?

Men do have an "edge" on us girl-folk because their "equipment" is easier to "operate" in an emergency situation, but the function is still the same.. gotta empty that bladder.:)

[tinkerbell41]

26. Well

We are hiding behind the landscaping, not like we are in the middle of a street.

[Withywindle]

35. I've done it too.

Again, obviously trying to be discreet, but sometimes it's just a need and you have to. I don't think it should be a bigger deal for women than for men. If it's OK for one, it's OK for both.

Discretion is definitely good manners for both genders, though. Especially since, frankly, (non-trans)men who just whip it out are actually showing more.

[badtoworse]

81. An old girlfriend of mine got a speeding ticket once

She told the cop that she really had to go to the bathroom. As he handed her the ticket, he said, "Next time, go squat in the weeds!".

[badtoworse]

82. Self delete

[JackRiddler]

19. Define public.

Is it appropriate for a civilized society not to maintain open and clean public bathrooms?

[Glassunion]

27. Define men.

[JackRiddler]

32. Define appropriate.

[Glassunion]

33. Define pee.

[JackRiddler]

48. Define little.

[Glassunion]

53. Me...

[JackRiddler]

55. Yeah, what does the OP mean by "little" boys, anyway?

[Glassunion]

56. Hmmm...

Folks like me I guess. I own firearms and drive a BMW. You know... Little boys.

[Roon]

39. I know where every public bathroom is in downtown denver

and that is saying something because even McDonald's locks their bathrooms down there.

[Kali]

43. DING DING DING!!!

You don't provide restrooms, I use the landscaping.

[Cirque du So-What]

23. I lived in a rural area when my sons were small

and I encouraged them to go behind a tree instead of running back to the house, but I also drew a distinction between taking a whiz in sylvan seclusion and relieving themselves where anyone could see them. My younger one forgot, however, and took a leak on a forsythia bush in my in-laws' backyard. F.I.L. was amused; M.I.L was apoplectic, but she survived after taking to the fainting couch with a case of the vapours.

On edit: forgot to register my concern with urination in urban areas. I'm agin' it from a hygienic standpoint.

[Denninmi]

29. Public Urination may be 4th Degree Criminal Sexual Conduct in Michigan

when combined with other relatively minor offenses under the "three strikes" law -- public indeceny, disorderly conduct, etc. If convicted, you have to register as a sex offender, and get stuck on that registry for the rest of your life.

I'd serious reconsider this whole thing if I were you. Other states aren't as lenient as Michigan, in some jurisdictions the primary offense can land you on the sex offender registry.

[a la izquierda]

30. It drives me nuts when my husband does this...

unless we're out cycling, of course. Then he (and I) are as discreet as possible when having to take a "natural break" (fans of Tour de France announces Phil and Paul will get this).
But honestly, we'll be sitting in our yard, having a fire or just hanging out at night with the dogs, and instead of going in the house, he'll walk to the back of the yard to take a leak. Drives me insane.

[guitar man]

31. Since I've quit drinking

I'm not so bad about it. When I was still drinking I would mortify my wife with where and when I would take a leak. "Are you over there pissing?!?!! Dammit,can't you wait until you get home!!?!!?? :grr:

"*Burrrp!!! ...not when you've had as much beer as I have!! :beer: :beer: :beer: :beer:

:rofl:

[Diclotican]

36. guitar man

guitar man

Maybe it is just me, and my horrible sense of humor, but I can se it in front me, you more or less drunk, going to pee, and your wife more or less appolic standing and telling you to waite for home... When you NEED to go, you need to go, toilet home or no toilet home...

We have maybe all been there, one time or another I guess....

Diclotican

[NNN0LHI]

54. Bad thing about beer. You can't buy it you can only rent it

:toast:

[Upton]

34. Big deal..

I pee outside on my own property. Nothing wrong with marking your territory.

[Jamastiene]

38. This looks interesting.

:popcorn:

[GSLevel9]

40. yeah, uncouth at best.

If you're a Boy Scout a Camp WitchiWankee out on a hike, maybe...

but behind the 7-11...

no.

[InvisibleTouch]

44. On a topic like this, I always want to ask:

"Would the classiest, coolest guy you can think of, do this?" Insert your favorite dignified public figure or personal friend/acquaintance here. If the answer is "No," then it's probably not cool for the general population either. Peeing in public, spitting on the sidewalk, etc. Yuck.

[Withywindle]

45. Spitting is worse, IMO

Because I don't see people peeing on a crowded sidewalk in broad daylight, but some people seem to think letting loose a gross lugy is just fine. It's often accompanied by that unmistakable hacking noise too.

It always makes my gag reflex twitch.

[tpsbmam]

68. Actually, I've known quite a lot of classy, cool and very successful men

(including public figures) and I've been with quite a few of them when they were desperate and ducked behind something to pee. I don't think class & coolness has anything to do with this one. As a matter of fact, I can't think of a guy I know who hasn't done this at least once. And I admit to being royally ticked off (read: jealous) a couple of times that it wasn't as easy for me and I had to suffer 'til I found a bathroom!

[Zanzobar]

70. I can see the classiest, coolest guy crapping in the middle of the street

I can see Sean Connery on his hands and knees puking in an alley; Michael Caine punching a hooker; Brad Pitt pissing in a museum closet. I wouldn't put it past any of them.

Every guy I've ever known is capable of the highest and lowest behaviour.

Here's a good rule: Pissing in the park shrubs is no problem where it rains commonly. If it doesn't rain a lot, don't do it. It stinks to high heaven.

[pinboy3niner]

47. On government buildings in Vietnam...

...there are red warnings stenciled every 10 feet or so: "Cam dai!" "Cam dai!"

Noticing this when I was traveling there a few years ago, I asked my Vietnamese host what the signs said. The reply: "Dont' pee!" "Don't pee!"

It seemed to me that they wasted a lot of red paint, because I rarely saw one of those buildings when there wasn't AT LEAST one man peeing on it.

:)

[Initech]

50. When you gotta go, you gotta go!

[markpkessinger]

51. Don't try it in New York . . .

You should teach your son that, if he is out in the counryside or in the woods, or other places where he can have a reasonable assurance of not encountering the local constabulary, then by all means, whizz away! But in many larger cities, public urination is a misdemeanor that will result in a fine.

[JackRiddler]

58. I have. Lots of times.

So have a number of women I know.

(Be discreet and make use of soil like a civilized person, okay?)

[markpkessinger]

64. Then you have been lucky

But if a cop happens to see you, he really won't give one wit how "civilized" you are about it.

[JustABozoOnThisBus]

85. Sure, even in New York

When you gotta go, you gotta go. Try using the mens room in a store or restaurant without being a customer. Good luck.

If you walk around in New York, you are well acquainted with the odor of urine. Every once in a while, there's a good rainstorm that flushes the city, but other than that, you know you're in a toilet.

I hate that new residential subdivisions are being built without alleys. The lack of alleys is what causes the "public" in "public urination".

:hi:

[Sen. Walter Sobchak]

90. So... we should have more alleys so assholes can pee in them?

Some people are trying their best to keep the US from becoming a full fledged third world country!

[JustABozoOnThisBus]

91. Sure, more alleys. Or maybe more public restrooms?

Public restrooms would require maintenance and other expense. Good luck getting municipal government to buy into that.

[Sen. Walter Sobchak]

93. It isn't usually the cost of maintenance...

It is perverts and junkies infesting them,

[WinkyDink]

57. Public urination is a debatable issue?

[we can do it]

59. No Especially If You Live 20 Feet From Someone Else

out hiking, camping or on the road, that's different

[meow mix]

60. anywhere except olive garden

plz dont pee there

[Kaleva]

61. Patton & Churchill both pissed in the Rhine River near the end of WWII

Patton even had a photographer take a picture of him doing it.

[pinboy3niner]

62. Only if someone's not watchin' his Cheerios

:evilgrin:

[Bigmack]

63. One of my fondest memories...

Us teachers were on strike and picketing the district headquarters. I had my country-raised 5 year-old son with me. With no prompting from me, he walked over and peed on the district headquarters sign.

He was stunned when he got cheers and whistles from the assembled crowd.

We did, however, have a talk after that.

[pinboy3niner]

65. LOL, great story!

:rofl:

[comrade snarky]

66. Last person I caught pissing on my front stairs

I chased down the block and cornered in front of a cafe. Should have made him get some napkins and clean it up. Didn't think of that at the time but I console myself that all the people at that cafe in San Francisco saw me shouting at him and heard why. The people in the window got quite a laugh. For some reason his girlfriend didn't find it funny.

That's one suit wearing sack of crap that wont be pissing on anyone's home anymore.


Is appropriate to pee in public? Ask me again after I piss on your front door.

[Sen. Walter Sobchak]

73. Welcome to my yard...

There is an OCTA bus stop about forty feet from my house, assholes waiting for buses piss in my yard every day, most of them are local teenagers. I can't think of a thing to do about it other than some strategically located sprinklers and motion sensors.

[comrade snarky]

77. My brother in law did that because of cats killing his plants

I'm not telling you what to do, but his plants are still alive :evilgrin:


:edited for tpyo

[AsahinaKimi]

67. Seriously?

What was the artist thinking
when he created this statue?

[badtoworse]

71. I grew up in a one bathroom house

When I was a kid, if the bathroom wasn't available, sometimes I'd pee out the window. My brother did it too.

[JVS]

72. Urine was meant to flow free.

[Sen. Walter Sobchak]

74. Fuck No!

My father would have tied a knot in it if I dared do that when I was a kid,

[quinnox]

75. Yea, why not

WTF are we supposed to do, piss our pants?

Most restrooms are more disgusting than the public roads in this country. I don't blame guys for not wanting to set foot in them.

[jberryhill]

78. In Brussels, this is a national monument

[comrade snarky]

84. Manneken Pis was put up around 1620

A time when the center of the street was also the sewer, unless you lived in a fancy part of town and paid a guy with a cart to empty the buckets from your house and carry it out of town.

Just sayin... maybe not the yardstick we should use for waste treatment and public excretion.

[csziggy]

80. As the owner of a farm, I have to say - rural locations are not as private

As many seem to think. Unless you really know what is on the other side of those bushes, and how thick the underbrush is, DON"T DO IT!

We've had visitors step outside our house to pee, oblivious to the fact that the "back" of our house is easily visible from the place next door. While our new house was being built I had a camera set up to take time lapse photos of the construction. I have several shots of some of the workers stepping "behind" the bushes - out of site of the construction site but in full view of the old house window where my office and camera were.

We've had people pull over to the side of the road to pee, not realizing that just the other side of that line of trees was a group of girls riding horseback - if I had thought they were doing it on purpose, those men would have had sex offences charged against them for "displaying" in the presence of those underage girls.

I came home one day, pulled up our drive and found a man peeing just out of sight of the main road. I had no clue who he was and apparently he thought he had found a private place to relieve himself. I just stuck my head out the window of my truck and told him that we had a restroom at the lower barn. I also wrote down his license numer in case I found him there again. At the barn were two of our female riders - they had not even seen this guy pull in. Since one was the wife of a police officeer, I guess the guy was lucky I was the only one who saw him.

[Hassin Bin Sober]

83. I live near Wrigley Field in Chicago.

All summer I have people peeing on my garbage cans and in between our parked cars.

No one can see me when I sit on my third floor back deck due to the huge tree in my yard. I can see them but they can't see me.

So I yell: "Hey it looks like a dick, only smaller!!!"

I've considered a pot of boiling water for the garbage cans as those are right below the deck. But I figured that would get me in trouble.

[csziggy]

89. How about tossing a pot of used cooking oil over?

Not boiling, cold and smelly. It wouldn't hurt, just startle them and leave them with a cold, slimy feeling - and oil stains on their clothes!

Or get a water scarecrow, the kind used by suburbanites to keep neighbor's cats out of their yards. Motion sensor turns on a spray of water.

Or take pictures and turn over to police as part of a complaint of flashers.

I've got lots of ideas, none of which I would be brave enough to actually do, except maybe the last.

It has actually gotten better here since the road was paved. Of course, that means faster traffic and no trail riding down the road in front of the farm, but it's a trade off we've learned to live with.

[Iggo]

86. Yes and Yes.

[Dappleganger]

87. When we lived in VA and boys were little, they quite often peed in the yard.

We had about 5 acres they could run around, and we were surrounded on two sides by a national forest. The nearest neighbor could just barely see our front yard. I taught them it was ok if nobody was around and to go behind something like a shack or a big tree, and NOT to do it in front of girls. Our daughters pretty much shamed the boys into not doing it when they were all outside together (as it should be).

Peeing is not just about relieving oneself when you're a little boy. I learned that lesson the hard way.

[VeryConfused]

88. No, that should be done in private

[WhaTHellsgoingonhere]

92. Should I tell my female friends that they are worse people than me?

I have female friends who pee in the woods, too.

Since that hasn't come up, they must be worse than me.

[MrCoffee]

94. Appropriate or not, my 4 year old doesn't care

He loves peeing outside. The kid's a weirdo.