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w8liftinglady (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Dec-15-10 10:47 AM Original message |
BREAKING RANKS: Why Some Veterans Hate it When You Say 'Thank You' |
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xchrom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Dec-15-10 10:50 AM Response to Original message |
1. Very interesting. Nt |
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Jackpine Radical (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Dec-15-10 10:50 AM Response to Original message |
2. Here is something I wrote a few years ago re: Veterans Day. |
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w8liftinglady (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Dec-15-10 10:54 AM Response to Reply #2 |
3. My partner had kind of the same reaction at work |
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whathehell (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Dec-15-10 11:25 AM Response to Reply #3 |
8. Seems rather churlish.... |
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w8liftinglady (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Dec-15-10 11:40 AM Response to Reply #8 |
16. I guess it takes actually being in a war zone to understand this |
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whathehell (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Dec-15-10 12:25 PM Response to Reply #16 |
23. You know what? |
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w8liftinglady (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Dec-15-10 02:41 PM Response to Reply #23 |
35. please read your PM...peace. |
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Jackpine Radical (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Dec-15-10 12:58 PM Response to Reply #8 |
29. I wouldn't respond negatively to any individual saying thanks. |
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whathehell (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Dec-15-10 01:02 PM Response to Reply #29 |
30. Thank you. |
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liberalmike27 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Dec-16-10 12:28 PM Response to Reply #30 |
78. I feel Like an Hypocrite |
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SaveAmerica (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Dec-16-10 01:15 PM Response to Reply #30 |
79. Anger becomes a big part of your world, maybe it seems displaced? |
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Maat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Dec-15-10 09:47 PM Response to Reply #29 |
54. I really appreciated your post, Jackpine Radical. |
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kenfrequed (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Dec-16-10 11:32 AM Response to Reply #8 |
76. err... |
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whathehell (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Dec-17-10 01:04 AM Response to Reply #76 |
83. err... |
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kenfrequed (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Dec-17-10 11:42 AM Response to Reply #83 |
84. You missed it. Again. |
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whathehell (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Dec-17-10 05:24 PM Response to Reply #84 |
87. As do you....Again. |
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kenfrequed (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Dec-17-10 05:31 PM Response to Reply #87 |
88. I see |
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whathehell (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Dec-17-10 06:30 PM Response to Reply #88 |
91. Okay... |
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bobbolink (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Dec-15-10 11:34 AM Response to Reply #3 |
11. I appreciate the courage it takes to speak out like that. |
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2Design (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Dec-15-10 11:35 AM Response to Reply #2 |
12. now this is something I can get behind - the new way of thanking |
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kentuck (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Dec-15-10 11:36 AM Response to Reply #2 |
13. That's the way I feel also, Jackpine |
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dflprincess (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Dec-15-10 12:30 PM Response to Reply #2 |
26. It is not the veterans who need to ask forgiveness for the wars they've been sent to |
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SaveAmerica (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Dec-16-10 01:17 PM Response to Reply #26 |
80. Your words brought me to tears, thank you |
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madokie (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Dec-15-10 07:41 PM Response to Reply #2 |
50. That pretty much says it all for me too |
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Jackpine Radical (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Dec-15-10 08:19 PM Response to Reply #50 |
51. "your wits still about you" |
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sirthomas66 (336 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Dec-16-10 09:48 AM Response to Reply #2 |
72. I served in that same war, and feel as you do. The experience |
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Marr (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Dec-15-10 10:54 AM Response to Original message |
4. Just after the invasion of Iraq, I saw something that summed up this sentiment to me. |
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Supersedeas (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Dec-16-10 09:40 AM Response to Reply #4 |
68. some americans cherish 'bling' much more than patriotism - 20 minutes of reality TV can |
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Bigmack (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Dec-15-10 10:57 AM Response to Original message |
5. What Jackpine and w8lifting said... nt |
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old mark (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Dec-15-10 11:06 AM Response to Original message |
6. People have thanked me here on DU "for my service"....I had no choice but to go the prison or |
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SoCalDem (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Dec-15-10 11:18 AM Response to Reply #6 |
7. I have always thought it ranked up there with "Have a Nice day" |
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2Design (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Dec-15-10 11:37 AM Response to Reply #6 |
14. I think this is why KERRY was not embracing them putting him up as a hero |
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Glassunion (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Dec-15-10 07:32 PM Response to Reply #6 |
47. When I have a chance to get in front of a computer I will elaborate. |
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Glassunion (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Dec-17-10 12:42 PM Response to Reply #6 |
85. Finally in front of a computer. |
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JonLP24 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Dec-15-10 11:30 AM Response to Original message |
9. It only bothered me a little |
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whathehell (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Dec-15-10 11:31 AM Response to Original message |
10. "So many non-veterans have taken to showing their gratitude and awareness by |
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treestar (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Dec-15-10 11:38 AM Response to Original message |
15. Then there are the ones who'd be mad that you don't |
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whathehell (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Dec-15-10 11:41 AM Response to Reply #15 |
17. Yep... |
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kentuck (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Dec-15-10 11:42 AM Response to Reply #15 |
18. Are you a veteran? |
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treestar (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Dec-15-10 12:01 PM Response to Reply #18 |
19. What difference does that make? |
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UTUSN (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Dec-15-10 12:02 PM Response to Original message |
20. I've been flamed for not liking the "T U 4 ur S" deal, but my reason |
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UTUSN (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Dec-15-10 12:15 PM Response to Reply #20 |
21. O.K., I'll confess, too: There's a certain amount of in-your-face to it, too. n/t |
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Pool Hall Ace (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Dec-15-10 12:15 PM Response to Original message |
22. If anything, I have been tempted to say |
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ProgressiveProfessor (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Dec-15-10 12:25 PM Response to Original message |
24. I have seen this too, it can get a bit syrupy at times. |
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uppityperson (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Dec-15-10 12:30 PM Response to Original message |
25. k&r |
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Tierra_y_Libertad (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Dec-15-10 12:37 PM Response to Original message |
27. It's like saying Gesundheit or "Have a nice day" a social custom of no value. |
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Ron Green (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Dec-15-10 12:54 PM Response to Original message |
28. Perhaps some vets want to be thanked and some don't. |
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old mark (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Dec-16-10 06:07 AM Response to Reply #28 |
57. You mean you think we should be treated as INDIVIDUALS? Now THERE's |
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Uncle Joe (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Dec-15-10 01:05 PM Response to Original message |
31. Kicked and recommended. |
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JustAnotherGen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Dec-15-10 01:16 PM Response to Original message |
32. Good for him! |
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lukasahero (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Dec-15-10 01:48 PM Response to Original message |
33. Isn't this just over-compensation for how our Viet Nam vets were treated? |
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NuclearDem (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Dec-15-10 02:22 PM Response to Original message |
34. I agree with the sentiments... |
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Gaedel (802 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Dec-15-10 02:49 PM Response to Reply #34 |
38. When someone says....... |
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NuclearDem (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Dec-15-10 06:06 PM Response to Reply #38 |
43. Nail on the head nt |
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Pacifist Patriot (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Dec-16-10 09:42 AM Response to Reply #38 |
70. Well said! |
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kenfrequed (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Dec-16-10 11:41 AM Response to Reply #38 |
77. I agree to a point. |
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Ganja Ninja (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Dec-15-10 02:42 PM Response to Original message |
36. I've had people thank me for my service. |
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WinkyDink (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Dec-15-10 02:47 PM Response to Original message |
37. As a BB, I marched against TWO Invasions/"Wars," decades apart. WHERE ARE THE |
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Bucky (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Dec-15-10 03:21 PM Response to Original message |
39. Thank you for posting this. Wait, I don't mean "thank you". What factors made you post this? |
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w8liftinglady (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Dec-15-10 06:12 PM Response to Reply #39 |
45. I thought it was introspective |
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WCGreen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Dec-15-10 03:26 PM Response to Original message |
40. I always thought that tossing off a thank-you to a soldier was kind of |
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Hosnon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Dec-15-10 03:34 PM Response to Original message |
41. As Bill Maher once said, putting a bumper sticker on your car is literally the least you can do. nt. |
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county worker (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Dec-15-10 03:58 PM Response to Original message |
42. When someone thanks me for my time in Vietnam I go back in my mind to the time when I came home and |
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walldude (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Dec-15-10 06:09 PM Response to Original message |
44. Shouldn't we be apologizing? |
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Duer 157099 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Dec-15-10 06:14 PM Response to Original message |
46. That phrase always bugs me and just sounds so disingenuous |
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WinkyDink (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Dec-15-10 07:34 PM Response to Reply #46 |
48. I say it, and I assure you I am not "disingenuous," having voted for those who claimed to want to |
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Recursion (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Dec-16-10 05:58 AM Response to Reply #46 |
56. *shrug* I've never minded "thank you" or "welcome home" |
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westerebus (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Dec-17-10 05:47 PM Response to Reply #56 |
89. It ain't easy being green. |
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Toucano (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Dec-15-10 07:38 PM Response to Original message |
49. Great! I can go back to spitting on them now. |
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whathehell (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Dec-16-10 05:04 AM Response to Reply #49 |
55. "But seriously, doesn't it seem like |
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old mark (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Dec-16-10 06:11 AM Response to Reply #49 |
58. I have been spit on and had garbage thrown at me by those who opposed the war |
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retired af major (47 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Dec-16-10 11:16 AM Response to Reply #58 |
75. can you elaborate old mark? |
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old mark (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Dec-17-10 01:09 PM Response to Reply #75 |
86. Back in 1970, I went home on a short leave and made the mistake of wearing a uni... |
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Dawson Leery (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Dec-15-10 09:01 PM Response to Original message |
52. There are superior ways to support ones country than |
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Mudoria (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Dec-15-10 09:42 PM Response to Original message |
53. The operative word is "Some" |
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unhappycamper (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Dec-16-10 06:12 AM Response to Original message |
59. I always say "Welcome home Brother (or Sister)" |
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Recursion (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Dec-16-10 06:19 AM Response to Reply #59 |
60. I've never had a non-vet say "welcome home" to me |
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tomp (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Dec-16-10 07:02 AM Response to Original message |
61. dear marine: |
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HEyHEY (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Dec-16-10 07:28 AM Response to Reply #61 |
62. Spoken like someone who had choices in life. |
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Pacifist Patriot (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Dec-16-10 09:04 AM Response to Reply #62 |
65. *sigh* |
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HEyHEY (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Dec-16-10 09:22 AM Response to Reply #65 |
66. huh? You talking to me? |
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Pacifist Patriot (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Dec-16-10 09:40 AM Response to Reply #66 |
69. Not at all. |
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HEyHEY (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Dec-16-10 09:42 AM Response to Reply #69 |
71. Yeah, I remember when I was 18 and had Rage Against the Machine albums though |
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sirthomas66 (336 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Dec-16-10 10:28 AM Response to Reply #61 |
73. The beginning of wisdom is silence. |
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SmileyRose (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Dec-16-10 07:49 AM Response to Original message |
63. My husband thanks every soldier and policeman he sees |
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Pacifist Patriot (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Dec-16-10 09:01 AM Response to Original message |
64. I learned this from my dad, a Vietnam veteran. When I encounter a Vet... |
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maxrandb (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Dec-16-10 09:24 AM Response to Original message |
67. I Hate it as well |
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Rozlee (821 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Dec-16-10 10:54 AM Response to Original message |
74. I was a non-combatant, helping injured American soldiers and Iraqis |
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SaveAmerica (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Dec-16-10 01:30 PM Response to Reply #74 |
82. Rozlee, please please don't let the guilt stay in your head |
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JVS (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Dec-16-10 01:17 PM Response to Original message |
81. Max should know that we don't get to make those decisions. |
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soryang (642 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Dec-17-10 06:28 PM Response to Original message |
90. Implied in the thank you is that something was accomplished... |
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