Mom had a bad day at the doctors office

[Omaha Steve]

Most of you know my mom turned 87 this month. She had a couple of strokes a few weeks before that. Mom is at the point of being forced against her will to move into an assisted living facility with memory support at the very least. Medicaid will be the only reason she will get the quality care she needs.

I may not be around much for a short time. I'll check in and post as time allows. Keep a light on for me to find my way back home in dark times (the DU).

Omaha Steve

[Sarah Ibarruri]

1. I'm so sorry. I'm hoping the best for your mom and for you.

I, too, am in a similar situation. It's hard.

[WinkyDink]

2. {{Omaha Steve}} My mother, too, turned 87 in July.

[sammytko]

11. My mother also turned 87 this month and its starting to go downhill

For the first time in YEARS, she did not go to the senior citizen center at lunchtime to hang out with her friends. She said she was feeling tired. We took her to the doctor to get her blood work results. Blood sugar a little elevated and she has to watch what she eats. I don't think she will last the year. Her short term memory is bad but otherwise she is ok, just really slowing down, and you know what that does to an older person.

[Raven]

3. Good thoughts for you, OS.

[polmaven]

4. We will keep your mom and you in our thoughts, Steve.

Wishing her all the best.

[blogslut]

5. Take care of your mom

We'll be here when you need us.

[liberal N proud]

6. DU can wait, your mother can't

Take care of her best you can.

[Obamanaut]

7. There are some really good care facilities available, but one must do some

research.

My M.I.L. lives in a good one. She is 96. From time to time she must go to a hospital outside of our area for treatment. When this happens, one of our neighbors, who is a CNA at that facility, changes her day off so she can be the one to accompany Granny.

The staff calls the residents by Mr or Ms and the last name, unless that resident requests otherwise. I think that is a great sign of respect for their dignity, rather than having a 20 something call an 80 something person Jane, or Harry, etc.

Look for a good one, they exist.

[sweettater]

9. Speaking of respect.........

when my mother was in a nursing home, she has since passed away, it would infuriate me when they called the residents honey, sweetheart instead of, like you said Mr. or Mrs. last name. They would talk to them like 2 year olds. All seniors deserve the up most respect. In hindsight I wish I would have called them on it. It was the same for my mother-in-law. I am now a senior and I still refer to someone older than me that I don't know very well, Mr. or Mrs. last name.

[whathehell]

12. Exactly....They tend to patronize seniors and it pisses me off.

They did it to my father and he and my mother hated it.

[annabanana]

8. The light is on

Best wishes for your Mom.

[Omaha Steve]

24. I saw the light

Thank you all for the good karma. And thanks to those that sent birthday wishes to mom while she was in the nursing facility to be evaluated.

[MineralMan]

10. Best wishes to you and your mom.

[CTyankee]

13. My mother's assisted living facility was wonderful! She was 90 when she moved there.

She was pretty active, but needed help with her shower and remembering her meds. Also, she ate much better and gained back some much needed weight. Her facility was a lovely building in a nice residential neighborhood, near to a hospital. I visited as often as I could but it was hard with me being in CT and she being in TX. I was enormously grateful that she had such excellent care.

[dionysus]

14. best of luck to the both of you.

[SusanaMontana41]

15. Take care, you two. n/t

[livetohike]

16. I'm sorry Omaha Steve....I will also be in a similar situation with

my m-i-l and my mother :hug:.

[dgibby]

17. My mother ended up in an assisted living facility.

Turned out to like it very much, especially after we convinced her that it would be nice not to have to worry about keeping up the house (pipes freezing in winter, etc). She had her own apt, consisting of LR, kitchen, BR, bath, plus help with activities of daily living. Her rent was income based, and she was able to keep her car (until she couldn't see well enough to drive). Then she used the van the facility provided. She could even have pets if she wanted. All in all, it was a good move for her(and us). Good luck to you and your mom.

[midnight]

18. K&R

[lonestarnot]

19. Was thinking about you just this morning before I saw your post.

Hope everything works out ok for the Moms. :hug:

[wildbilln864]

20. best wishes to you and your mom! nt

[Sportsguy]

21. I Will Steve

And I have dealt with this in the last year with my father. He is in an assisted living facility, and if not for Medicaid, we would not be able to afford it. My siblings and I contribute what we can, but we're being stretched right now. For now, we're hanging on & Dad is doing ok. I hope all the best for your mom and for you. Definitely will keep a light on for you.

[lapislzi]

22. All the best, OmahaSteve

I went through it twice: first with grandma, and then with dad. If you need any help or advice, PM me. I know the ins and outs of the system.

:holds up light:

[roguevalley]

23. bless you and your mama