Once you have passed away, what sort of memorial would you prefer?

[Occulus]

[DinahMoeHum]

1. and don't plant a tombstone. . .plant a tree.

n/t

[TheMadMonk]

20. No bloody box either. /nt

[hootinholler]

23. I've specified Acer saccharum

The Sugar Maple, Cardboard box.

I want a piper too, but no Amazing Grace, a nice lament series finishing with Scotland The Brave.

-Hoot

[Raine]

I want a stone, I want it to say "All We Are is Dust in the Wind"..

Inspite of being nothing but dust I've passed thru this life quietly and mostly unknown so I want my name somewhere. :yoiks:

[etherealtruth]

2. Whatever would help those that loved me

Me ...? I'll be dead, what do I care :-)

[MichaelHarris]

3. one with

tequila.

[liberal N proud]

4. A true Irish wake

I told my kids to stand me up in the corner and party away, put me in a cardboard box when they are done and do whatever they want with me.

They thought they should take me to Disney World (weekend at Bernie's style).

But it really doesn't matter to me.

[Motown_Johnny]

15. or out bar hopping one last time

[devilgrrl]

5. I want my funeral to be a roast.

eom

[nadinbrzezinski]

6. A celebration of a life

I know as a Jew that ain't gonna happen but.

[begin_within]

7. I'm going to hold my funeral while I'm still alive.

Seriously. I'm going to sit there in the casket and have whoever still cares about me at that time give me eulogies and all that. I want them to say it to my face. Funerals after the person is dead are only rituals to soothe the pain of the loved ones. Mine's going to be far more purposeful than that. Seriously... tell me to my face what you all thought of me all these years. Good or bad, don't hold back. That's my plan. Then after I die they all can do the mourning and weeping stuff.

[kimi]

29. Oh, great idea!!

Seriously, thank you for this.

I believe I'll start the planning tomorrow. :)

[nmbluesky]

8. I'm part of Irish myself..

my famiy always celebration for our honor who dead.. called Irish Wake..
yes.. we do miss them.

[Dappleganger]

9. Just like my mother's, but also with a big barbeque...

open bar and pig-pickin' for all my friends, family and neighbors. Lots of music, pictures, video, joking, cheering, etc.

If someone feels offended then they never really knew me after all.

[Sisaruus]

13. My mother, still very alive, already held her funeral - complete with a big barbeque

It was a joint funeral with her 2 sisters - they were approaching their 80s and thought they, too, should have the opportunity to enjoy the remembrances.

[Dappleganger]

16. Brilliant!

What a wonderful idea of hers!

[Sisaruus]

10. the kind my dear friend had yesterday

http://gazettenet.com/2011/01/12/tears-and-laughter-memorial

[Dappleganger]

17. I love this part of the article...

"But there were also laughter, smiles and a sense of camaraderie, especially as Leondar-Wright led the group in singing some of Yeskel's favorite songs - all of them old union standards that celebrated the lives and resolve of working people."

I am so sorry for your loss, dear Sisaruus--57 is too young! She sounds like an amazing person indeed.

:hug:

[Sisaruus]

21. She really was extraordinary

Her commitment, passion, & energy for social justice was infinite. And yet she was one of the most down-to-earth people I've ever met.

[kimi]

31. Condolences

She sounds like a remarkable woman who will be remembered for many reasons.

Hugs.

[Pathwalker]

11. Mine is already planned. It will be a wake/party with drinking,

music, dancing, dirty jokes, lots of stories about all the shit I did and said. I will be in the baggie in the garden window laughing along with them, and then my family will travel to scatter my ashes in the place of my choosing.

[LibDemAlways]

12. I don't personally care. However, I think each person should have

the type of service (or no service at all) he or she wants. Also, if relatives of the deceased are the hushed tones and weeping kind, they should not be criticized for not throwing a big, happy bash. To each his own.

[Raine]

35. Agree, some people are heartbroken at the death of

loved one and sure don't feel like partying it up no matter how the deceased would feel about it.

[LibDemAlways]

44. "heartbroken" You nailed it. That describes my mother perfectly. My

dad passed away last year. They had been married 62 years and she's still extremely depressed and upset. The last thing she felt like doing when he passed away after a very difficult illness was throwing a party.

[guitar man]

14. party down!

It ain't over until somebody pukes and the cops get called! :D

[sylvi]

18. If it was just for me, they could do whatever they wanted

If it was to include 19 other dead and wounded, I might wish it was toned down a bit for the families who were in all different stages of the grief process.

[Pool Hall Ace]

36. I like your answer.

[Urban Prairie]

19. Since the vast majority of my relatives already have passed on before me, and will leave no progeny

behind, and I have only a handful, if that, of old former or close friends left, some of whom had moved out of my(our) state decades ago, I would prefer (and have already let it be known) that no memorial service should be held.

[emilyg]

22. None.

[cliffordu]

24. Other:

A great wailing and a gnashing of teeth.

Virgins deflowering themselves to avoid sacrifice.

John Boehner being deprived of his Orange Glow.

Sarah plain sex tape on YouPorn.

(NOTE: Make sure that last thingy happens AFTER i'm dead, m,'kay???)

[shanti]

25. nothing really

just nuke me and put me into the ocean.

[cynatnite]

26. Watch Star Trek, eat BBQ ribs, and plant me at a VA cemetary...

That's what I want.

[Ozymanithrax]

27. Bury me in the compost pile and let the flowers celebrate. n/lt

[JVS]

28. Something like Andropov's funeral.

[fadedrose]

30. Just play a few Frank Sinatra songs...

[RichGirl]

32. I've left very concise instructions for my family.

Super strong hefty bag...set me out on the curb on Tuesday....

[MrSlayer]

33. Viking Funeral.

Oh yes, that is what I want.

[Thunderstruck]

34. In my family we tend to have reserved wakes and funerals. Then we regroup

at a friend/relative's house or other venue and we celebrate and laugh and sing in celebration of our loved one's life.

[unkachuck]

37. I want....

....every capable person in my family, after much grieving of course, to travel to British Columbia to toss my ashes off the top of Stone Mountain towards Summit Lake as an old tape player blasts Turn Turn Turn by the Byrds....I always wanted to rest near the Alaska Highway....

....now that's going out in style....

[WinkyDink]

38. I don't think I'll be preferring anything at that point.

[AnnieBW]

39. I want to be shot into space

There's a company that will put your cremains in a little tube and shoot them up on a private rocket. Then it burns up in the atmosphere. I want to have my creamains do that. Either that, or get put into a reef ball.

I don't want a Catholic funeral. I am a Pagan, not a Catholic. I would prefer an Interfaith Memorial Service (complete with lots of wine, beer, and food). I also want my urn draped in a Steelers flag. Or put me in my Steelers jersey before I go into the crematory.

[Renew Deal]

49. You lost me at the Steelers.

:evilgrin:

[blondeatlast]

40. I want Fishbone and tacos.

[one_voice]

41. I want to be cremated...

and if there is any kind of memorial, I'd want it to be a celebration of who I was. Including playing all the footage of every Super-bowl the Cowboys won. :evilgrin:

[femmocrat]

42. I don't want a damn thing. Nothing.

I don't want a funeral, a memorial service, an obituary, none of it. I've been to too many of them in recent years and I don't want to put my family through any of it.

[Danmel]

43. Traditional Jewish services

As the child of a holocaust survivor, crematoriums freak me out. I do think that the rituals work pretty well- the immediate burial, having people cone to you to offer support, the shloshim (30 day transitional period), the year of Kaddish which takes you through all the "firsts".
That said after the shiva, I would love a New Orleans style jazz funeral.

[cbdo2007]

45. I hope mine is just like the Michael Jackson memorial - minus Al Sharpton.

[Brickbat]

46. Whatever brings them comfort.

[mmonk]

47. A party. Also, I'd like Funeral For A Friend to be played.

[H2O Man]

48. Other.

I want to be cremated. Then my family can use my ashes on the driveway in the winter. It is long, and gets slippery.

[Renew Deal]

50. Not this kind

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=show_mesg&forum=439&topic_id=184648&mesg_id=184648

[brooklynite]

51. Last time I thought about it...I concluded I'll be dead

...and therefore won't care how I'll be remembered. And why should I focus on how i MIGHT (or might not) be remembered after I'm gone?

[madmom]

52. I told my hubby and kids a loooong time ago, I don't want them to waste money on a

funeral, burn me, throw my ashes in my rose garden and take the money and have one hell of a party to celebrate my life, not morn my death.