WARNING/GUARANTEE: Please note my word choice in the subject line. I am not referring to DU users specifically or in general (although some might fit the criteria). Nor am I saying that said people hate gays (as in bigotry). Please keep all that in mind as you hopefully read further.Democrats got used to being out of power. Since 1953 we'd only held the White House for about 1/3 of the time, and after losing control of Congress as well for 12 years we'd fallen out of the role of governing and gotten into opposition mode. We kept striking away at the Republicans, even if our efforts were sometimes less than effective. We adopted a bunker mentality.
Fast forward to 2007. We took back Congress but we didn't switch our brains back to leadership mode from opposition. Still having Bush in office helped; we kept railing against his fiscal policies and the wars. We turned on our leaders when they took impeachment off the table and let war criminals go unpunished, even though in the long run their strategy of actually governing was probably the best approach we could have taken. We needed to show that we were the adults in the room and too many of us (including me) were agitating to use our power the same way we'd tried to use what little power we had in the opposition.
Fast forward again, this time to the 2008 election. Obama's victory should have been a great day for all of us but the disaster of Prop 8 destroyed the spirits of the vast majority of the LGBT*.* community. Some people so eager to celebrate couldn't understand why we were so angry. This was the beginning of the major rift in the Democratic Party between its LGBT*.* members and the rest of the party. I won't go into depth about the slights (real and perceived) of the early Obama Administration since I recently did that
elsewhere on DU, but the rift kept getting wider.
So what was the natural reaction to our agitation for what we felt we were due? Too many Democrats were still punch drunk from the wilderness years and were in full-blown opposition mode. Someone who disagrees with the President about something? They must be the enemy. They must be destroyed.
How did we LGBT*.* react? We were still in opposition mode, and needed to be since we'd just been dealt a major defeat. The attacks on us were met with in kind. And as Obama continued to push us to the back burner or even to the back of the Big Tent at points, we connected his actions with the vitriol we were receiving from some of his supporters. Giant feedback loop. It's led to a lot of hatred, anger, and bad feelings on both sides that persists to this day.
And it wasn't just gays who got hit upside their heads by Opposition Mode: look at single-payer and public-option supporters and those who wanted an accelerated end to the wars. Disagreement was seen as full-blown opposition and led to all-out assaults.
Let's add in another aspect that we've been tiptoeing around too much: the race issue. The 2008 campaign was one of the dirtiest and nastiest in modern history and a lot of it stemmed from the fact that one nominee had brown skin and the other didn't. The African American community was justified in thinking that a lot of the opposition to Obama during the campaign was racially based. But the sheer volume of racist opposition tripped something in a lot of people's minds that made
all opposition to the President seem like it was racially based. Then that extended to all
criticism of the President had to be racist. So the gays who were complaining about our treatment? We all obviously hated the idea that a different minority than our own was in the White House. Factor in as well that the African American community statistically
does have a lower opinion of LGBT*.* (due mainly to the evangelical Christian background in the community) and you had a train wreck waiting to happen.
That brings us to where we are now, still at each other's throats. And in too many cases what started as misguided anger and unwarranted opposition has now led to outright hatred. Can we repair these rifts? Can we rebuild our coalition? Or was our party of 2001-2008 just a crazy quilt of disparate groups knitted together in opposition to right wing Republicans and unable to hold together?
One thing's for sure: if we're going to heal this party we need to do it now.
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