School Gives Dress Code to Parents Who Wear PJs for Drop-Off

[Liberal_in_LA]

School Gives Dress Code to Parents Who Wear PJs for Drop-Off

Most school dress codes are the same -- nothing overtly revealing, no gang symbols, and some even have uniforms. All these dress codes have one goal in common: to avoid distraction or allow anything harmful to interfere with our kids' day.

But what if your child's school decided their dress code applied to parents, too? That you couldn't set foot at their school -- even just to stand outside your car waiting to pick your child up -- if you were wearing a tank top or pajama pants? Worse, what if they claimed they'd make your child find an alternate way home if you chose to wear something that didn't fit 'the code'?

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The mom says the topic came up when she and a friend were discussing moms wearing pajama pants, and her friend showed her the handbook that says:

We respectfully request that parents who drop off their children and pick them up from school follow all of the dress code expectations that students are expected to follow including the rule stating that pajamas are not to be worn.

http://thestir.cafemom.com/big_kid/127371/school_gives_dress_code_to

[itsrobert]

1. Maybe one of flaps was open

some PJ have those flys that don't close up all the way.

[Mz Pip]

2. Mixed feelings about this.

I don't like ridiculous rules but how hard can it be to get dressed before you leave the house?

[REP]

7. When you're sick, it can be not worth doing

Pick up kid, go home, lie down.

[Horse with no Name]

26. Or when you work nights

you get off work, take your kids to school, wake up, pick them up, feed them, get ready to go back to work.

Give them a break...of course, if they are wearing lacy negligees it might be different, but I suspect this isn't the case.

[REP]

42. Or school starts way before your day does... As long as everything is covered, who cares?

Besides kids, of course. I told my mom I was going to write a tell-all book called "Moms Wear the Damndest Things."

[Warpy]

27. Damned hard when you're a parent of multiple kids

who need to be dragged out of bed, fed, dressed, and have all their books and backpacks found.

If they're showing up in their PJs, they just didn't have the fucking time to put clothes on.

FWIW, I'd sit inside the car with my PJs on and perhaps that should be the dividing line.

[demigoddess]

39. I drove my son to school every day for 7th grade and I had

to feed and dress a handicapped daughter at the same time. I also managed to dress myself, everyday in jeans and sweater etc. I think I also managed a shower. And I was so tired at the end, I thought I was going to have a heart attack, but I still managed to get dressed, even when I did not get out of the car.

[Mz Pip]

67. My kids would have had a fit

if I dropped them off wearing pajamas.They were pretty emphatic that I not doing anything that would embarrass them. BUt then getting dress was not that big of a chore; it took about 5 minutes at the most.

[EdMaven]

60. not a big deal to me if they don't get out of the car, but if they're getting out of the car

on the school grounds to lead their child somewhere, it seems appropriate to wear day clothing. the example being set is "there are no rules". i don't think that's a good example.

there must be a lot of parents doing it -- & getting out of their cars -- or i doubt the school would be getting into the discussion.

under those circumstances, if the school is trying to enforce some kind of dress code, the parents aren't helping -- in fact, they're teaching something opposed by example.

[alittlelark]

75. I used to spend 5-6 hours in the garden

before picking up the kids.

I had no desire to shower and change to pick up the kids.

[DJ13]

3. I see women in PJ's and fuzzy slippers shopping in Walmart

I dont know what those school moms are wearing, but I hardly consider that kind of attire to be in any way sexual or gang related.

[Liberal_in_LA]

4. I see men in checkered, raggedy pj pants outside - walking the dog, walking to store

[FarCenter]

9. People of Walmart

http://www.peopleofwalmart.com/photos

View with caution!

[lunasun]

23. I did not heed the warning...now dinner i made wasted...OMG poo pants NO way

and the tea bagger truck - seen some but not that severe.
Not a big box store fan of any brand but I should just hang in the parking lot maybe

[Blaze Diem]

52. LOL..camera rolling.

Viewing peopleofwalmart.com made me re-think using the restrooms.
ewwww
It was because of the pic of the woman leaning over her shopping cart, all dressed in white shirt & white pants so thin her monthly pad was visible. That & the filthy smelly ones that just make me shop elsewhere.

[formercia]

50. Part of the 99%

I think......

[Blaze Diem]

53. soap is cheap. so is a harbrush

Look in a mirror before you leave the house. Its not about money at all.

[Blaze Diem]

49. peopleofwalmart.com covers the wide range of shoppers. PJs & slippers belong at home

sorry. I think its lazy.
But I'm old

[Matariki]

5. I would charge them with kidnapping

if they didn't let my child out of school into my car.

[Rhiannon12866]

6. How could anyone possibly notice?

Reminds me of when my company tried to enforce a dress code (no sneakers) when we were speaking to folks on the other side of the country by phone... :eyes:

[my2sense]

8. This is ridiculous

Seems they would object to nighties or revealing clothes - but PJ pants?

[EdMaven]

81. it's a DOD school with a dress code on a military base.

[malthaussen]

10. Hard for me to believe

... that in 1968 I was part of a group fighting to abolish dress codes. We won, too. Didn't last too long, did it?

Still, if that's what the majority wants, that's what the majority gets. Nevertheless, I really do not see how wearing pajamas provides "distraction, or ... anything harmful to interfere" with the purpose of the school.

Bit of a jurisdictional issue, there, too, unless the school is a private one.

-- Mal

[LoveMyCali]

11. They only said they respectfully request,

I would just tell them I respectfully decline to follow their suggestions. Seriously, no tank tops?

[Major Nikon]

65. Exactly

While it may be stupid to put something like that in the handbook, I don't really see the school trying to enforce this as the original article suggested regardless of what the handbook claims.

[ProgressiveProfessor]

12. I was once told by a teacher that dropping off/picking up my daughter on a motorcycle was not

appropriate. She could not articulate why. I suggested she have an administrator call me. It never happened.

[RebelOne]

13. What about Pajama Jeans? Are they off-limit? n/t

[KT2000]

30. LOL!

I'm sure they are!

[LWolf]

35. Is THAT what they're called?

I didn't know they had a name.

[RebelOne]

45. Yep. I have 2 pair and I wear them out to the grocery store

and no one can tell the difference between them and regular jeans. And, of course, they also cost $40 a pair.

[shanti]

72. they're comfy

usually flannel, but not always, and with an elastic waistband or drawstring. i have a pair of spongebob pj pants that i love. much ado about nothing.

[TBF]

14. Tank tops prohibited? Here in TX I wear those every day in the summer ... nt

[LaydeeBug]

15. OMG!! EFF THAT!! I would show up EACH AND EVERY DAY in a robe, hair in curlers and a mint julep

mask on my face. Who the FUCK do these people think they are. If I feel like wearing my underoos all over town, as long as the biddies are covered, I damn well will.

Holy cow! This just got me in a bad mood.

[dems_rightnow]

18. Don't you think that's an overreaction..

.... to a respectful request?

[ProgressiveProfessor]

19. The school using the words "respectfully request" does not make it one

[dems_rightnow]

20. Absent evidence to the contrary....

... I will believe it does. Let me know when parents aren't allowed to pick up their kids, and I'm right behind you.

[1monster]

25. Not when they tell you that if you don't comply, they will find another way for

your child(ren) to get home. That is not a request. It's an ultimatum.

[ProgressiveProfessor]

47. I had a classic exchange with a HS counselor once

"I respectfully request that you..." To which I replied "and I respectfully decline".

The next step was "You have to comply with my direction" to which I replied "You request is in violation of Federal Law."

It went down hill from there.

[ElboRuum]

51. That's the point...

Test the request. See if it is respectful. It's only respectful if it is respectful of being declined.

[eShirl]

48. lol

:spray: :thumbsup:

[EdMaven]

61. there's a dress code for the students. so i assume you would pull your child out of that school,

if the message you wanted to teach was "do whatever you feel like at all times".

Not to mention that the school is on a military post & not a regular public school. I knew there was something they weren't telling us, because no way would a public school dare to make such a request unless it were a charter.

[Ian David]

16. There is a legitimate area of concern here....

If you wear house pants with a button pee-hole opening, your penis might fall out in front of the kids.

After a couple times, they might stop thinking it's an accident.

[jberryhill]

31. Unless it's a Catholic school and you are the bishop /nt

[Still Blue in PDX]

17. When I worked evening shift, I drove the kids to school in the middle of my "night."

I pulled jeans on over my jammies, but I damn well wore my jammies. And I drove really, really carefully because I didn't want to end up wearing something goofy in the ER of the hospital where I worked.

Yes, I remembered my momma's warning about clean underwear, hospitals, and all that.

[ZombieHorde]

21. "The slaves shall serve." -- Crowely

[EdMaven]

64. It's a school on a military base. And it's an all-volunteer military.

Not seeing the big civil liberties issue here.

They signed up to follow rules. If they wanted to do whatever they felt like they should have joined a commune. Oh, wait, those have rules too.

I guess society is kind of about social rules in some way or another. This one is pretty minor.

it always amazes me how upset people get about crap like this & how little attention they pay to things like search & seizure and targeted assassinations of citizens.

[Codeine]

22. Those parents will look like right fools

when they have a car accident in Spongebob jammies and tattered slippers.

[ingac70]

28. It's easier to care for people dressed like that in hospitals...

I assure you no one gives a shit in the ER how they look.

[HockeyMom]

24. When I lived up North and it was Winter

I wore a long down coat and boots. I could have been in my underwear under that coat and nobody would know. Winter DOES have it's advantages, Florida people! :rofl:

[SoCalDem]

29. The ONE day my friend threw a coat over her flannel nightgown

to drop her son off at school, a car ran a stop sign and plowed into her car.. She had to get a ride home from the cops in her nightgown:)

[jberryhill]

32. I pick mine up naked

Sometimes the pajamas are in the wash. Whatcha gonna do?

[etherealtruth]

46. LOL

[Sisaruus]

33. Why do parents pick their kids up at school?

Why not let the kids take a school bus, or ride a bike, or walk?

I drive past school bus stops in the morning and at every stop there's a line of parked SUVs with parents and kids waiting for the bus. The side streets are not that long. They have to drive to the nearby bus stop? A co-worker drives her kids to the end of her driveway so they can catch the bus ... she says the driveway is 1,000 feet long so she needs to drive them.

I'm old, I know, but I just don't get why parents do this now.

[gkhouston]

37. If you have a child attending a magnet school, dropping the kid

off often makes for a less lengthy commute than taking the bus. Given a choice between dropping my daughter off at the school she's zoned to at 6:10am or driving her to school myself at 7:20, I'd rather drive.

[blueamy66]

68. I was going to post this as well.

We walked to the bus stop.

I am sick of the traffic jams in front of schools these days.

I watch my neighbor take her little darlings 1/2 a mile from our neighborhood to the Jr High.

Ride your bike or walk for cripe's sake.

[LWolf]

34. A dress code that mentions pajamas

must be responding to the recent fashion trend, where, at least in my middle school, students are wearing flannel pajama bottoms as pants.

We've mostly ignored it, unless there was a problem with fit or condition.

[RainDog]

36. this was a trend in college a decade ago n/t

[LWolf]

44. It takes awhile to trickle down, lol. nt

[HockeyMom]

38. I wore my jammies when I worked the overnight shift

in a group home. The residents were all asleep when I got there. I was the only staff on duty. Who was going to see me? I did fall asleep on the coach with the TV on, although with one eye open, so to speak. When they all got up in the morning, did they care what I looked like? I doubt if they even knew. I looked just like them in my jammies.

[MorningGlow]

40. I must be an old phart

I absolutely detest the fad of wearing pajamas everywhere. It looks so scuzzy.

And yes, of course, get off my lawn! :P

[Raine]

43. I feel the same

is it really that much trouble to actually get dressed, geesh. :yoiks: and yeah they can all get off my lawn too! :evilgrin:

[Quixote1818]

58. I am only 42 but I am 100% with you! nt

[MorningGlow]

78. Whippersnapper

I'm 45. ;)

[FSogol]

41. Why do so many parents drive their kids instead of putting them on the bus?

:shrug:

[CaliforniaPeggy]

57. And if there isn't any bus?

Then what?

It might be too far for the kids to walk, or too dangerous, or whatever.

:shrug:

[MattBaggins]

54. No excuse ever to wear your pajamas outside of the house.

[Poll_Blind]

55. +1 (unless it's on fire)

PB

[MattBaggins]

56. I sit corrected

[canetoad]

59. All I can say is

Imposing a rule is bullshit. However anyone without the motivation or ability to get out of their PJs needs to be roundly and loudly derided in public.

[EdMaven]

62. It's a school on a military post.

* edit to include that this rule is on a military post and thus enforceable (in theory) because the school can notify someone who can come down on the military member.

http://community.babycenter.com/post/a29706097/parents_banned_from_wearing_pjs

[EdMaven]

63. This is not a regular public school, folks. It's a school on a military base.

[Major Nikon]

66. I doubt that type of school would have a locally elected board

But it really shouldn't make that much difference. It's still a public school.

[EdMaven]

69. it's publicly funded, but not public. not in a public school district, not open to

non-military, & under the authority of DOD:

http://www.dodea.edu/home/

[Major Nikon]

70. I understand they fall under DOD

But DOD is a civilian agency that employ civil service workers to operate these schools. And even though the school may be only open to dependents, they are still state schools paid for with public funds. As such they aren't that much different than any other state school.

[EdMaven]

73. it's quite different: it's a military service provided only for military.

[Major Nikon]

74. You keep mentioning one of the few things that's different

The people who attend these schools aren't military, they are civilian dependents. These are publicly funded schools and their operation is ultimately the responsibility of elected officials and the public, by proxy. As such they aren't immune from public scrutiny the way a private school would be, they just more insulated from it since that accountability is routed through federal channels rather than state and local ones.

[EdMaven]

76. it's a military school; the heads of the households volunteered to go into the military &

can quit at any time if the right to bring their kids to school in pajamas is so important to them.

the people live on a military base, in military housing. they are not regular civilians.

[Major Nikon]

77. Actually they can't quit at any time

And their dependents never signed any contract. I'm not sure how you'd distinguish 'regular civilians' from other ones, whatever those may be. Even service members don't sign away all their Constitutional rights at the door, and they sign away none of them for their dependents.

[EdMaven]

80. if their dependants are so into pajamas, they can live off-base.

or drive off-base to attend school. or go to school on-line. or home-school, then they could wear pajamas all day long.

cry me a river.

"they're violating my constitutional right to take my kid to school in pajamas on a military base!"

if people gave half as much attention to things that actually mattered rather than stupid crap like this the world would be a whole lot better off.

i can't believe anyone can actually use the phrase "constitutional right" in this situation.

[Major Nikon]

83. So please explain where the Constitution does start to apply

If the teachers at the school are diddling the students, is this OK because their sponsor "can quit at any time"?

And you seem to be giving quite a bit of attention, so I'm not sure why you'd want to complain about this now.

[shanti]

71. oh good grief

:eyes:

[eppur_se_muova]

79. So leather and chains aren't mentioned? I call that permission. nt

[RainDog]

82. LOL. n/t

[Duer 157099]

84. What if instead of PJs I sleep in sweats and a t-shirt

are those also not ok to drop my kid off at school in?