To Win Boys, Girls Should Shut Up, Says 1968 Scholastic Book

[Liberal_in_LA]

Those, of course, are advanced tips. Before getting to them, teens should master the basics of good chatter. In the case of young girls, that means not chattering much at all. Lawrence advises:

"Boys have a way of wanting to be leaders -- and the fact is, they usually are. A lost ski party in the mountains would look for a boy to lead the way out. It's his job. Let him lead in talk, as well."


Lawrence adds: "Don't lead him. Would you on the dance floor?"
http://blogs.sfweekly.com/exhibitionist/2011/10/studies_in_crap_date_talk.php

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[Arkansas Granny]

1. I went to school in the 50's and 60's and we had several books that gave similar advice.

[Liberal_in_LA]

2. in the early 70s, books still had that kinda of advice.

[undeterred]

3. A lost ski party is probably lost because the male wouldn't look at a map.

[seabeyond]

8. lol. gps has been a wonderful thing. for whatever reason, hubby does not seem to mind

using it to find his way.

we eloped. i was so fed up of him trying to find downtown JOP without asking for directions, i almost called it off. he always goes opposite direction. finally i said... head to tall building downtown.

clue in....

you made me laugh

love hubby dearly. we have worked it out. i ignore him and lead. he acquiesces

[KurtNYC]

11. and wouldn't ask the sherpa for directions

[MissMillie]

4. Any boy who subscribes to this

is a boy not worth winning.

[MineralMan]

5. I don't think so. I always did really well by listening to girls when

I was a young guy. I did my share of talking, but I always listened more. The girls were telling me things I needed to know. Nowadays, I find that the same thing still works well in maintaining relationships. Listen at least as much as you talk. A guy could learn something...

[barbtries]

6. i can remember reading a magazine

that advised girls to ask about him not to talk about themselves. make the conversation all about him and he might just fall in love with you. no wonder so many marriages turn out miserable.

[seabeyond]

10. yup. i always found it contradictive, too. telling me how sensitive their ego was as preaching

how unemotional and nonsensitive men are. didnt make sense. certainly doesnt after being married two decades and raising two sons.

but yes.... that is exactly what we were told

[RaleighNCDUer]

12. Yep. Keep all the conversations about him, and he winds up marrying a stranger. nt

[lumberjack_jeff]

7. In 40 years our grandkids will laugh at the antiquated/obsolete advice given to us today. n/t

[TheManInTheMac]

9. And make him a damn sammich!

[gratuitous]

14. And be quiet about it, the game's on

While you're blubbering to yourself, that sammich isn't making itself.

[Matariki]

13. Yeah, the good old days. When I was a kid my mom would tell me to 'let boys win' at games

Even at age 10 I knew I didn't want a boyfriend who had such a fragile ego.

[raccoon]

15. Annie Oakley got that advice in "Annie Get Your Gun."

Yeah, those were not the good old days.

[redqueen]

16. It's even worse when it's a woman teaching that kind of nonsense.

*sigh*

[seabeyond]

17. yes. i had forgotten.... i remember. lol. nt

[TwilightGardener]

18. That's just nauseating--but my parents and in-laws still conduct themselves this way.

The man is the leader! The woman must defer to his wisdom, and never criticize, lest he feel inadequate and start looking around for a woman who WILL respect him. Yep, I have seen this up close, it ain't pretty.