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MineralMan Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jan-18-11 03:46 PM
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The Most Important Thing I Learned from My Father
My father, who is 86 this year, taught me many things when I was growing up, and even after I was grown. He taught me that respect for myself came from the respect I gave to others. He taught me to fish. He taught me to think quickly and act slowly. But, the most important thing I learned from him was how to approach a problem that faced me. I didn't know he was teaching me that, but he taught it anyhow.

After flying B-17s during WWII, he returned from overseas to a wife and a six-month-old child. So, instead of pursuing a career as a pilot, or continuing his education, he fell back on his youthful experience as an auto mechanic, first working for a Plymouth dealership, then eventually opening his own auto repair shop. He was very successful at this, as he was at most things, and successfully raised three children and got them into adulthood without any huge problems.

The reason for his success as an auto mechanic was that he was probably the best diagnostician of problems with automobiles I've ever known or heard of. He almost invariably diagnosed the problem successfully the first time, and very quickly, then turned to the repair. It's a more difficult thing to do than you'd think.

As a kid, I spent a lot of time in my father's shop, particularly during the summer months, doing odd jobs around the shop and hanging out with the old man. I remember one day especially well. A man had come in with a car that he had taken to several shops, none of which had been able to fix his problem. He had spent a good deal of money on repairs that didn't correct the problem. I can't remember exactly what the problem was, but that's not the point.

My father listened to the man describe the symptoms and what the other shops had done. He then asked the man a couple of questions. Then, he drove the car around the block. He told the man to give him a few minutes, then went back to work on the job he had been working on. After about ten minutes, he came back and told the man he could repair his car for him, and told him what he proposed to do. The man left the car, and my father repaired it later that afternoon in about an hour. He phoned the man, who came and got his car, paid my father, and became a customer of his for decades.

After the man left, I asked my father how he knew what was wrong with the man's car, and why the other mechanics hadn't been able to fix it. I was 13 years old, and this was really the first time the question had occurred to me.

What he told me that day changed the way I thought about almost everything. Essentially, here's the gist of what he said:

"Every time a car comes in here, it has some sort of problem. If I can correctly figure out what that problem is the first time, I'll make a good living repairing cars. If not, I'll waste a lot of time. So, I listen to the customer describe what the car is doing. Then, I'll think about what he or she said for a minute. During that time, I'll build a mental list of all the things that could cause those symptoms. Next, I'll ask the customer some questions that will help me eliminate some of those reasons. If necessary, I'll test drive the car, so I can experience the problem for myself. After that, I'll think some more, testing each thing that could cause similar symptoms against all of the factors I know about. Most of the time, I'll be able to eliminate most possible causes very quickly, and narrow the field to just a couple of likely causes. Eventually, I'll have eliminated all but one cause. At that point, I'm ready to say what needs to be done. I can do that whole process while continuing to work on another car, because actual repair work doesn't require all my attention, and I'll still be earning my pay by continuing to work on another car. If I think carefully and consider all of the possibilities, I'll be right about 90% of the time."

"A lot of mechanics are good at changing parts or doing the work of auto repair, but they don't think long enough before starting to work, or don't know enough about how things actually work to reason through a diagnosis. Then, they do something that doesn't correct the problem, usually because they decide what's wrong before actually knowing what's wrong. They waste their time and do unnecessary work. It's always better to analyze the situation carefully, be sure you have the correct answer, then work on that. It saves time in the long run."

Although I didn't realize it at the time, the process my father described to me was basic critical thinking. It turns out that the process he used to diagnose problems with automobiles was the same process needed to figure out almost anything. Listening, questioning, testing, analysis, elimination of incorrect answers, and decisions based on logic turn out to be the keys to solving most problems. Later in my life, I realized that he applied that same process to almost every decision he ever made. I try to follow that example myself. I doubt I'm as successful as he has been in his life, but he taught me that process that day in his auto shop, just by answering a kid's question.

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csziggy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jan-18-11 03:50 PM
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1. Your father is a very smart man
Give him my best. And thank him for raising a smart child that shares his wisdom with us here.
:hi:
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MineralMan Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jan-18-11 03:53 PM
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3. He is. I'm still in awe of him.
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mdmc Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jan-18-11 03:52 PM
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2. r
enjoyed the read..
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yellerpup Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jan-18-11 03:57 PM
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4. Outstanding.
Thank him for giving us all advice we can really use and thank you for making sure we heard it. :kick: & recommend
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MineralMan Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jan-18-11 04:00 PM
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5. Thanks. Critical thinking has been in the news, and that brought
the lesson to mind.
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monmouth Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jan-18-11 04:03 PM
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6. Great story. We had a "family" mechanic, a fellow my dad went to
school with and he was sort of like your dad. He'd look at what the other mechanics had done, ask for the engine to be turned on and then listen, he'd walk all around the front end and just listen. Then he'd ask questions, then like your dad, he'd think on it for a while and suggest this could be it, you'll have to leave it. Sure enough, a few hours later dad was good to go. Noises meant a lot him. I still remember that guy, I was fascinated by his process.
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MineralMan Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jan-18-11 04:07 PM
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12. Sounds like the same process, for sure.
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eridani Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jan-18-11 04:04 PM
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7. My brother-in-law was a mechanic like that
Died of AIDS in the 90s. Still miss him. Real intellectuals aren't always the people with the most formal education.
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MineralMan Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jan-18-11 04:05 PM
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9. You're right about that. Intelligence is not measured by
degrees attained. That's always been true. I'm sorry for the loss of your BIL.
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Uncle Joe Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jan-18-11 04:05 PM
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8. It sounds like you have a wise father.
Thanks for the thread, MineralMan.
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MineralMan Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jan-18-11 04:06 PM
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11. It's a pleasure to share such stories.
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leftstreet Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jan-18-11 04:05 PM
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10. I wish your Dad was on the Catfood Commission
:thumbsup:
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cdsilv Donating Member (883 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jan-18-11 04:20 PM
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14. My grandfather (machinist) and father (engineer) were shade tree mechanics who taught...
all of us kids basic auto diagnosis/repair (critical thinking), my brother is a professional mechanic who practices this.
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onecent Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jan-18-11 04:18 PM
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13. Great post.
I am fortunate enough in our town to have a mechanic like this, there needs to be many more like him!
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markpkessinger Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jan-18-11 11:41 PM
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15. Wonderful, sound advice
Thanks for sharing this story. Your father's approach is a very wise one indeed; I can think of very few situations/problems/challenges where such an approach wouldn't be greatly beneficial.
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russspeakeasy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jan-19-11 10:32 AM
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16. A pleasure to read.
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MineralMan Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jan-19-11 12:25 PM
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19. You're very kind to say so.
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lumberjack_jeff Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jan-19-11 11:45 AM
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17. Exactly, 100%, inarguably right.
Have you ever read the book "shop class as soulcraft"? I highly recommend it. If we want to create critical thinkers, give the student a problem to solve for which the teacher doesn't already know the right answer.
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MineralMan Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jan-19-11 12:25 PM
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18. I haven't read that, but I'll hunt down a copy.
Critical thinking should be taught from kindergarten, as one of the primary parts of the curriculum. In fact, it should be taught continuously in all subjects being taught. Teaching youngsters to think isn't all that difficult, if done systematically at every grade level. I had a number of teachers who taught it...not as a subject of its own...but as part of teaching their subjects.

If we fail in that, our educational system fails altogether. If we succeed in that, we produce people who are capable of learning all their lives. It's a key thing missing in many of our schools today.
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xxqqqzme Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jan-19-11 06:38 PM
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24. You are so right. If you are lucky
you will have one, maybe two, teachers like that in your life. Those are the teachers you remember, who inspired you, who gave you the tools you needed. I was luck to have two.

One was my psychology class teacher, he was also the very successful basketball coach. It was my first class of the day. He was the teacher who guided a group of high school sophomores and juniors through the Cuban missile crisis. He was a voice of sanity and reason when everything else seemed to be imploding. He also very honest about how frightened he was. Because it was a psych class, we spent more than one of those scary days talking about fear.

The second was the senior year civics teacher. He spent the entire school year teaching the Constitution; it's landmark cases, the decisions, the role of Supreme Court Justices and how decisions impact societal changes. I stayed in touch with him for many years after graduation, visited whenever I was in town; occasionally talked trash on St ronnie.
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HughBeaumont Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jan-19-11 12:33 PM
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20. Great Post.
Imagine if people actually employed that tactic. We probably wouldn't have endless invasions, 14 trillion dollar debts or "Trickle Down Economics" installed permanently.
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MineralMan Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jan-19-11 01:32 PM
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21. Thanks. You're right. Many of the problems we suffer in this country
are due to a failure of thinking. We approach things on a surface level far too often, I think, and fail to properly analyze the problem and seek an appropriate response to that problem. I'm afraid I don't hold out much hope for that to change, though. It's depressing.
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felix_numinous Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jan-19-11 01:42 PM
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22. Your father sounds like a very wise man
who was not encumbered by a big ego. Good analysis (as well as most things!) require putting one's ego aside, getting out of your own way, in order to truly take in the whole situation. The wisest people I have known are the most receptive. That pause, that gift of time we have before acting or speaking, can save us a lot of trouble later!
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MineralMan Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jan-19-11 02:37 PM
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23. I believe he is. I'm a bit biased, though, of course.
:hi:
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Zoigal Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jan-19-11 07:35 PM
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25. You're a very lucky man to have a father like this, Mineral Man.
Give him my best. Agree with you completely that critical thinking
should be emphasized in schools (starting at the K level). Was a teacher for forty years and seldom encountered it in college education classes....z
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