Swedish (and other women (and men)) taking a new angle on the Assange-debacle

[mogster]

http://prataomdet.se/

There are also the hashtag #prataomdet (#talkaboutuit) on twitter.
Taking the opportunity to talk about rape in general, or just 'ofredande' - close sexual encounters that wasn't OK.
Gotta love that angle, on this miserable issue.

Here's a good article, sorry only Swedish language
http://www.aftonbladet.se/debatt/kronikorer/lisamagnusson/article8306987.ab

Edit: Under the #talaboutit tag, a blog post in English
http://tentaneko.livejournal.com/71503.html

[bettyellen]

1. one post in English about someone who said no repeatedly....

quite the opposite of what Assanges accuser did, from what I have read.

[Demeter]

2. Translation: "I Myself Have Crossed the Boundaries Several Times"

It has happened to me so many times that acquaintances and friends became all too close. Laughed at me, hugged me, pulled me in with an unmild look, kissed me. I said nothing. Just discreetly pulled myself from their grip. Time after time, always more sick of it: what the hell is it they don't understand?

One time someone I considered a friend forever...atfer I dried my tears and went home, and then there was nothing more of that. I never confronted him. He looked me up and asked why we never get together anymore. I mumbled something evasive, took his hands off my shoulders, and said I had to go. I couldn't look him in the eyes. The one occasion I feel safe enough to make a scene when someone encounters me is in the subway.

It has also happened that I many times got too close to someone. Always when drunk. I feel so ashamed when I think of those times, how I nagged and nagged and nagged my ex to share the bed with me, instead of sleeping on the sofa, how I tried to kiss a friend I was enamored of, even though I knew he hadn't the slightest interest in me. How I continued to paw another friend when we lay and petted, even after he said earlier that he only wanted to neck and nothing else that night. I eventually became angry with him, because he made me so horny but wouldn't do anything about it. It felt like he was merely teasing me. Finally, I angrily cut him off my list of "friends"..

Editorial comment from DEMETER

AND SO FORTH AND SO ON...EXISTENTIALIST WHINING. SHE SHOULD WAIT FOR MARRIAGE, IF SHE'S SO CONFLICTED AND UNABLE TO ESTABLISH BOUNDARIES...

I not a native speaker, but this is the best I can do with it... I also think Free Love is an oxymoron at best...sex without love is not the way to go, no matter how narcissistic one may be. If you cannot respect the other person's feelings, how can you respect yourself, or expect the other to respect you?

I'm not saying going back to the Rules, mind you. I'm saying: act like two adults.

[Kennah]

3. Just so long as it's not a Sharron Angle