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LoZoccolo (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 02:01 AM Original message |
The opposite of a 'Tiger Mother': leaving your children behind |
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HEyHEY (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 02:20 AM Response to Original message |
1. Oh, I'm sure they're fine.... |
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Tunkamerica (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 04:24 AM Response to Reply #1 |
9. I don't think it is different. Except the article doesn't seem to leap to the same conclusions it |
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HEyHEY (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 04:31 AM Response to Reply #9 |
11. Yeah, were it a guy moving to "be with his old lady" in Nevada |
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joshcryer (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 05:30 AM Response to Reply #9 |
15. It wouldn't be a story if the roles were reversed. |
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Tunkamerica (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 06:01 AM Response to Reply #15 |
16. and write books? |
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joshcryer (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 06:03 AM Response to Reply #16 |
18. Probably a few. |
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Darth_Kitten (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 07:20 AM Response to Reply #15 |
25. Exactly. |
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joshcryer (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 05:27 AM Response to Reply #1 |
14. Deadbeat dads aren't the same as custody battles with amicable endings. |
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Tunkamerica (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 06:02 AM Response to Reply #14 |
17. Nope but treated the same in some people's minds |
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joshcryer (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 06:04 AM Response to Reply #17 |
19. Not mine. |
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joshcryer (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 08:50 AM Response to Reply #17 |
53. I see what you mean, though. |
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HEyHEY (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 08:22 AM Response to Reply #14 |
34. No, but someone dumping their child off on the other parent |
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joshcryer (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 08:25 AM Response to Reply #34 |
38. Not really, I'd cut anyone slack for "dumping their child off on the other parent" if they... |
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HEyHEY (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 08:27 AM Response to Reply #38 |
39. I'm sure that'll be a comfort to the five-year-olds with abandonment issues |
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joshcryer (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 08:37 AM Response to Reply #39 |
45. I doubt you know anything about custody hearings because that sort of thing is addressed. |
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Romulox (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 09:04 AM Response to Reply #45 |
61. LULz. The Family Court will "address" any hurt feelings on the part of the 5 y.o.! |
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joshcryer (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 09:26 AM Response to Reply #61 |
79. Yes, they'll discuss issues like how a child might be affected by a long move away. |
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Romulox (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 09:35 AM Response to Reply #79 |
87. "mandatory phone calls and such"? |
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DaisyDeedles (47 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 02:22 AM Response to Original message |
2. I don't think those are the only choices. |
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HEyHEY (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 02:25 AM Response to Reply #2 |
3. Pff, next you're gonna say a balance of child independence and strict guidance can be met |
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DaisyDeedles (47 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 02:44 AM Response to Reply #3 |
4. Heh heh. |
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petronius (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 02:49 AM Response to Original message |
5. "I had to leave my children to find them" - kind of threw up in my mouth a little |
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Bonobo (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 06:26 AM Response to Reply #5 |
22. I agree completely, accept for this part: |
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petronius (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 07:31 PM Response to Reply #22 |
89. You're right, of course. I didn't really mean "fine" in a positive sense, or even |
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JeffersonChick (338 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 02:52 AM Response to Original message |
6. Opposites? |
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Abq_Sarah (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 02:54 AM Response to Original message |
7. Some people just shouldn't have kids |
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upi402 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 02:58 AM Response to Original message |
8. It's not unique at all anymore |
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Tunkamerica (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 04:27 AM Original message |
I see this has received some unrecs. I almost did too, except it's an interesting topic. |
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joshcryer (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 05:25 AM Response to Original message |
13. Probably an attempt to reignite the "kids don't bring joy" thread. |
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Tunkamerica (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 04:27 AM Response to Original message |
10. double click ...ignore |
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msanthrope (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 05:18 AM Response to Original message |
12. Narcissist reproduces, then claims victimization. Leaves to pursue |
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xchrom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 06:08 AM Response to Original message |
20. recommend -- interesting topic. nt |
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cali (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 06:09 AM Response to Original message |
21. you'd think she's have figured all this out prior to having them |
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Le Taz Hot (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 08:25 AM Response to Reply #21 |
37. People put more thought into |
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AngryAmish (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 06:32 AM Response to Original message |
23. Human garbage |
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Darth_Kitten (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 07:19 AM Response to Reply #23 |
24. Why, for doing what too many men do, yet they never get any flack? |
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Bonobo (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 07:41 AM Response to Reply #24 |
26. Men abandon their families without being criticized? |
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Darth_Kitten (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 07:42 AM Response to Reply #26 |
27. Men give up custody.... |
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Bonobo (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 07:59 AM Response to Reply #27 |
30. That's minimalizing what she did by a lot. |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 08:04 AM Response to Reply #30 |
31. did anyone say she was a good mom? anyone patting her on back for any reason? |
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Bonobo (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 08:17 AM Response to Reply #31 |
32. I would say she is patting herself on the back a bit, yes. |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 08:20 AM Response to Reply #32 |
33. so wht she is patting self on back. most selfish people do, and justify behavior |
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joshcryer (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 08:23 AM Response to Reply #30 |
35. And you'd be wrong to assume that "he was a selfish prick" if he followed the court orders. |
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joshcryer (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 07:43 AM Response to Reply #26 |
28. Another person who didn't read the article. |
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Bonobo (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 07:48 AM Response to Reply #28 |
29. I read the article. nt |
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Name removed (0 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 08:23 AM Response to Reply #28 |
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joshcryer (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 08:27 AM Response to Reply #36 |
40. You equated this woman to a deadbeat dad, which indicates that you in fact didn't read it. |
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HEyHEY (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 08:29 AM Response to Reply #40 |
41. Yes there is abandoning your child emotionally and sluffing natural parental responsibilities |
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joshcryer (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 08:30 AM Response to Reply #41 |
42. So you're saying she should not have accepted the fellowship? |
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HEyHEY (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 08:32 AM Response to Reply #42 |
43. Why are you discriminating against women? |
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joshcryer (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 08:33 AM Response to Reply #43 |
44. Oh so she should have accepted the fellowship and uprooted her children. |
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HEyHEY (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 08:37 AM Response to Reply #44 |
46. Are you suggesting a woman is incapable of accomplishing all that? |
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joshcryer (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 08:38 AM Response to Reply #46 |
47. Not at all, it's perfectly feasible that she could have uprooted her children to Japan. |
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HEyHEY (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 08:43 AM Response to Reply #47 |
48. You're the one who thinks it's cool if they don't have a mother. |
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joshcryer (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 08:45 AM Response to Reply #48 |
50. I think it's cool if they don't have a father in the conventional sense, too. |
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HEyHEY (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 08:47 AM Response to Reply #50 |
51. Also, she left for good, not just six months |
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joshcryer (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 08:48 AM Response to Reply #51 |
52. She had joint custody for 2 years after that. Thought you read the article? |
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HEyHEY (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 08:52 AM Response to Reply #52 |
54. I did read the article, you're the one cherry picking it |
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joshcryer (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 08:55 AM Response to Reply #54 |
55. Yeah, she only talks to her kids regularly and all, but she's gone, gone, gone. |
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HEyHEY (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 09:05 AM Response to Reply #55 |
62. You can't hug a phonecall |
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joshcryer (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 09:12 AM Response to Reply #62 |
69. Yeah, she really went "bye!" to persue her own interests. |
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HEyHEY (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 09:05 AM Response to Reply #55 |
63. You can't hug a phonecall |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 08:57 AM Response to Reply #48 |
57. she should have no more claim than the father. father wasnt going becuase she wanted to. |
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joshcryer (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 09:00 AM Response to Reply #57 |
59. And they visited her while she was there so it wasn't like she abandoned them by taking the job. |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 09:07 AM Response to Reply #59 |
64. i dont pat her on back for any of this. i hope kids are getting what they need from dad |
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HEyHEY (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 09:15 AM Response to Reply #64 |
73. Absolutely, it's no different |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 09:18 AM Response to Reply #73 |
75. i can go with that. nt |
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joshcryer (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 09:16 AM Response to Reply #64 |
74. So if a male gives up custody but pays child support he's a bad guy? |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 09:20 AM Response to Reply #74 |
76. if a male gives up custody, pays support, yet does not connect with children, assure them |
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joshcryer (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 09:24 AM Response to Reply #76 |
77. Giving up custody does not mean having no role. |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 09:26 AM Response to Reply #77 |
81. if she is giving the children what they need on an emotional level |
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joshcryer (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 09:28 AM Response to Reply #81 |
84. Agreed. |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 09:31 AM Response to Reply #84 |
86. gotcha.... |
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HEyHEY (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 09:08 AM Response to Reply #59 |
66. Japan is a red herring, people leave for six months all the time, it's when she came back,....n/t |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 09:09 AM Response to Reply #66 |
67. agreed. nt |
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joshcryer (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 09:14 AM Response to Reply #66 |
71. When she came back she filed for divorce and had joint custody for 2 years? |
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HEyHEY (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 09:26 AM Response to Reply #71 |
82. And after the two years, what happened? THe two years is irrelevant |
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joshcryer (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 09:30 AM Response to Reply #82 |
85. nm |
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WolverineDG (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 08:44 AM Response to Original message |
49. I thought the opposite of "Tiger Mother" would be "Let them do whatever the fuck they want" |
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GoCubsGo (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 08:56 AM Response to Reply #49 |
56. OT, but that brings up an interesting question... |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 09:00 AM Response to Reply #56 |
58. i haven't seen good come from the "whatever they want" parenting. |
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WolverineDG (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 09:24 AM Response to Reply #56 |
78. I was "free range," but my parents definitely set rules & had standards |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 09:28 AM Response to Reply #78 |
83. "free range" & feral kids |
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JoDog (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 09:03 AM Response to Original message |
60. The first line in the story |
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Bonobo (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 09:08 AM Response to Reply #60 |
65. Do you know any kids that wouldn't be hurt to hear their parents say that? |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 09:14 AM Response to Reply #65 |
72. depends how goof the parent is or how good a person parent is. i have an aunt |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 09:12 AM Response to Reply #60 |
68. i really think it is a zillion times easier today. i have four female cousins and four male |
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Romulox (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 09:13 AM Response to Original message |
70. Massive narcissism rules the day. |
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Bunny (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 09:26 AM Response to Original message |
80. Common wisdom used to be that when a couple was experiencing |
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LoZoccolo (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Mar-08-11 02:14 PM Response to Original message |
88. kick |
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