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Laxman Donating Member (122 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Mar-10-11 12:41 AM
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On The Turning Away
Edited on Thu Mar-10-11 12:46 AM by Laxman

On The Turning Away



On the turning away
From the pale and downtrodden
And the words they say
Which we won't understand
Don't accept that what's happening
Is just a case of others' suffering
Or you'll find that you're joining in
The turning away….- Pink Floyd


The people that each of us are comes as a result of so many different influences. There are literally thousands of things that occur in our lifetimes that define the type of person that we ultimately become and if you’re really lucky, you will continue to evolve and grow until the day that you take your last breath. Some things stand out however and lately the events of the world have me thinking about a very small incident over 40 years ago that made a big impression on me. It was Father’s Day and my family was at my grandfather’s house. He lived in a small working class industrial city that had seen better days, even back then.

It was hot and we were all in the backyard. My sisters and a couple of my cousins were splashing around in a wading pool and I was sitting at a picnic table with my dad, my uncle and my grandfather, who, at the time, wasn’t much older than I am now. (That’s a frightening thought that didn’t hit me until I started writing this) We were listening to the Mets-Phillies game on the radio. I was a Yankee fan, but they were out in Oakland and didn’t play until 4 O’clock so I sucked it up and listened to the Mets. The adults were engaged in “grown-up talk” and I felt cool because I got to sit there and listen. Kind of out of the blue, my uncle commented to my grandfather that he should consider selling his house and moving out because “the blacks were taking over the neighborhood”.

Now I very rarely saw him get mad, but I could tell that my grandfather was pissed. He looked at my uncle and said, “ You know, 30 years ago when I bought this house the people who lived on this block started selling their houses and moving out. They said the damn guineas are taking over the neighborhood. If I did the same thing now I wouldn’t be any better than those bastards.” He went on to explain that he liked the house, it was where he raised his kids, it was paid for, he could walk to work and my grandmother could walk to the supermarket. He added that he could walk three blocks to Main Street and catch a bus or a train to anywhere he wanted to go and it was a real nice street with lots of trees. He leaned across the table towards my uncle and said, “those people moving in here, they like living here for the same reasons I do.” In retrospect, I think it was even more remarkable for him to feel this way only two or three years after riots had torn apart so many American cities and racial tensions were still very high. I don’t remember the subject ever coming up again.

My grandfather never went to college. He never graduated high school. He worked from the time he was 15 until the day he died of a heart attack while he was at his job, still doing physical labor in his early 60’s. For all of his lack of a formal education, he was a very smart man with a sophisticated view of the world. I never really appreciated a lot of the stuff that he said to me until I was older and he was gone, but that day really stuck with me. As a kid you hear that and you say yeah, that makes sense. As an adult you realize that here was a guy who had felt the sting of prejudice and came to the conclusion that it ended with him. That rather than extend the cycle by turning on some other ethnic or racial group, he chose not to look at the world that way.

My sisters and I were thankfully raised in a very tolerant household. I had initially thought my dad’s attitudes came from growing up in a very integrated community and attending school and playing sports with all kinds of people. I’m sure that had a part in it but as I got older I realized that my grandfather set the tone while raising my dad. I hope that my wife and I have perpetuated this cycle in how we are raising our children. Actually, as I listen to the things that my kids say about a lot of different issues, I’m pretty sure that they will make good adults.

I felt compelled to write this today because I feel that we are at something of a crossroads in America. I have a vague uneasy feeling that we are engaged in some kind of end game strategy. There are people who wish to take advantage of our country’s economic conditions to step in and take full and final control of the nation’s wealth and society for the benefit of a very small elite faction. The main tool that is being used is division. Creating the perception that the least among us are stealing from the rest of society and that they are the reason for our economic problems. It’s the poor. It’s the immigrants. It’s the union workers who get a better deal than you. It’s those damn teachers who are living on Easy Street. Never mind the ½ of 1% who earn as much as the bottom 50% of America. Never mind the Wall Street bankers who are back to earning record bonuses and complain about how difficult life is in this country for them. No they are smart and deserve everything that they have got. Amazingly, they earned every penny on their own with no help and no support from our societal structure.

Meanwhile, our public education system is being set up to be dismantled which will leave quality education as the province of the rich. NPR, where relatively unbiased information is disseminated, set up for the chopping block. Unions, with their ability to level the playing field and promote basic benefits that allow working people to live decently, demonized as parasites on society. Access to health care for everyone, a concept for turning America into a socialist county! Good health care is for those who can afford it. Invest in infrastructure? We just don't have the money for that. What we really need are tax cuts for the rich! The best part is that average working class people have been convinced through the use of “hatred of the other” to be the conduit for this takeover to be effected.

On one hand, this is downright depressing. I can just see us hurtling towards the abyss. Turned one group against the other. Using the strategy of division to win the day. On the other hand, if a guy with a 10th grade education could figure out that hate and division was a dead end, maybe there is hope for us yet. I just don’t know.

No more turning away
From the weak and the weary
No more turning away
From the coldness inside
Just a world that we all must share
It's not enough just to stand and stare
Is it only a dream that there'll be
No more turning away?

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calimary Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Mar-10-11 12:43 AM
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1. Welcome to DU!
Interesting post!

:hi:
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handmade34 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Mar-10-11 12:50 AM
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2. very nice post
I have seen what you write about...
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prairierose Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Mar-10-11 12:53 AM
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3. Welcome to DU and thanks for this thoughtful post....n/t
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Laxman Donating Member (122 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Mar-10-11 08:04 AM
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4. Thanks for the Welcome
I'm really not new to DU. I usually don't post much. I just stop by here to catch up on the news and read all the great stuff that gets posted here.
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MedleyMisty Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Mar-10-11 08:15 AM
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5. I lost friends this week
Because I decided I didn't want to be friends with people who were apathetic and silent, who turned away, who wanted to have nice little genteel tea parties instead of talking about real issues.

Heh. Tea parties.

Will respond more later - gotta go to work.
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Laxman Donating Member (122 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Mar-10-11 09:13 AM
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6. Its easier to turn away
Until you lose your job, or you lose your benefits or you lose your pension or you suddenly become a member of the latest group to be blamed for our nation's ills its somebody else's problem. Until then, just go on your merry way. Oh, by the way, I just heard that Charlie Sheen said something crazy! I better tune in to the news to find out what it was.
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BeFree Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Mar-10-11 10:06 AM
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7. It ends here
Which is the only place it can end.

It's the old saw: Be the change you want to see.

Peace
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OneGrassRoot Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Mar-10-11 10:11 AM
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8. Welcome, and thank you! May I share this?
I find I often want to share DUer's posts on Facebook -- and yours is absolutely brilliant -- but I want to ask permission first.

:hi:

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Laxman Donating Member (122 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Mar-10-11 11:04 AM
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9. Sure & thank you for the kind words
I'm glad that you found the story worthwhile. I was pretty depressed yesterday. I had to sit in a waiting room for a couple of hours while my dad was getting some same day surgery. I was treated to about 4 hours of CNN and a litany of people attacking Muslims, the unemployed, the unions, teachers, immigrants. It was an incredible parade of stories demonizing a combination of people who make our society work and people who have the least influence. It was about 60% of this crap interspersed with about 40% of the "breaking news" that Charlie Sheen was fired from Two and a Half Men. I picked my son up from lacrosse practice at the high school on the way back from the hospital and while we were listening to the news on the way home he made a comment that made a connection all the way back to what my grandfather had said. This really sparked me to write this. I'm still feeling a little dismal about things right now but at least I fell like we really can change our approach to dealing with each other, even if it is one person at a time.
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OneGrassRoot Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Mar-10-11 11:18 AM
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10. I'm grateful you took the time to type it out and share...
I've been having discussions periodically about this subject, especially on Facebook where I have quite a few conservative friends and family members engaging, and how I believe it must be dealt with in order for us all to come together and fight the battle that is really being waged against the vast majority of citizens, with us all being made into "The Other" for the sake of distraction, dehumanizing groups of people, etc.

I'll share what I wrote about racism and bigotry earlier today within a discussion:

"Okay, I'm gonna get inflammatory here, but I believe it's the absolute truth based on MY direct experience with people, not only in the last two years but throughout my life. And I don't think we as citizens can come together in any meaningful way until the truth of this is dealt with. I've said before and I'll say it again, I don't think conversations should end when the words racism and bigotry are mentioned -- that should be the beginning of the conversation to really flesh it out and deal with it honestly.

Regarding the NPR exec who quit after being filmed saying this about the Tea Party and how a certain type of Tea Party member (not the original ones truly focused on taxes) has taken over the Republican Party:

"They're not just Islamaphobic, but really xenophobic, I mean basically they are, they believe in sort of white, middle-America gun-toting. I mean, it’s scary. They’re seriously racist, racist people."

I know there are exceptions but my experience tells me that most of the Tea Party members I know would be proud and agree with every single word of this!!! Granted, Limbaugh has convinced them they're not racists or bigots, but seriously....how many Tea Party loyalists here don't want a white, "gun-toting" Christian nation?

Seriously. Be honest.

Is it that the words themselves are offensive, even if their meaning is the truth?

Be honest with yourselves at least, even if you can't be outwardly honest, because Fox and Limbaugh and politicians are playing into this truth with all the birther talk, targeting one specific religion (Islam), and the other things they're outraged about.

I do think we have MUCH bigger things to worry about, but we can't get on the same page as citizens to fight what is really destroying us until we recognize what -- and who -- we're truly afraid of and how others manipulate us based on that."


Thanks again for the permission to share. :hi:



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Laxman Donating Member (122 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Mar-10-11 12:17 PM
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11. Well Reasoned Argument
Nobody wants to be called out as being a racist or bigot, yet you know that this underlies so much of the right-wing mentality right now. People are great at rationalizing their stances, finding some shred of legitimacy that will absolve them of being racists or bigots. Its really about the bible, its really about the deficit, its about being over-taxed, its about fairness...all these fig leafs that really don't hold water when subjected to scrutiny and logical analysis. It all comes back to primal fear and tribalism that is so easy to exploit for political gain. Funny you mentioned the NPR story. When it came on TV last night and the commentator said the NPR executive referred to Tea Party members as gun-toting racists my 11 year old turned to me without missing a beat and said, "well aren't they?"
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OneGrassRoot Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Mar-10-11 12:27 PM
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12. LOL with your 11 y/o. Exactly! :) n/t
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