I got drunk at a Catholic school party too!

[Bluesaph]

I didn’t know how to drive. My mom had dropped me off at some kid’s house senior year. I couldn’t tell you whose house it was or even where it was. I had never been in with the popular kids but yet here I was, having been invited by a kid I had a crush on.

I went along with the crowd and drank anything that was offered, mixing my alcohols. Later, somehow, we all ended up at a park and continued the drinking.

I couldn’t even walk. I was totally a wobbly blubbering mess. And guess what! Nothing bad happened to me!

In fact, the boy I had a crush on had to go to my best friend’s house and climb up her window to ask her how to get me home because I couldn’t tell him the directions. He loaned me his leather bomber jacket and drove me home, then had to face my very scary angry dad! I threw up in his car and on his jacket!

The next day I thought I was going to be a laughing stalk. Guess what! Not one person laughed. Friends asked me how I felt. And no one knew I threw up in my crush’s car.

Now THAT is how girls should be treated! This was back in 1982! Decent people behave decently, even as kids!

[OneBro]

1. Logged in just to rec this!

[pnwmom]

2. Exactly. Most boys and men would not behave like Kavanaugh, and I'm glad your crush

was in that category.

Welcome to DU, Bluesaph!

[libdem4life]

3. K&R

[regnaD kciN]

4. What repercussions did you face?

Having “a very scary angry dad” suggests to me you probably didn’t avoid any consequences.

And that’s the point I keep thinking of when Republicans ask why Dr. Ford didn’t press charges immediately. “Don’t let the parents find out” is often Priority One for teens who get into bad situations. Now, maybe her parents might have been super-understanding and backed her without question, but I can think of lots of families, particularly ones that would send their daughter to a Roman Catholic prep school, whose immediate reaction would have been “Why did you agree to go to a party where there was drinking? How did you manage to let those two guys get you into a bedroom? Don’t you realize how close you came to being ‘ruined for life’?” What kid is going to balance the possibility that, thirty-six years later, her assailant might wind up on the Supreme Court versus the certainty of getting a severe punishment from mom and dad?

[Bluesaph]

15. Confession next morning

My dad yelled at my crush and told him he was going to report him to the school. He assumed the boy had taken advantage of me.

My mom went crazy crying because I didn’t have any underwear on (I wasn’t wearing any because I didn’t want panty lines showing and there were no thongs back then). She thought the worst had happened.

My dad had the attitude that it was my own fault for being drunk. My mom on the other hand made an appointment with the family priest and took me to confession the next day.

We never talked about it again. I think my parents wouldn’t believe me that nothing happened. And I didn’t want to bring it up anyway.

[uponit7771]

5. K&R, MAGA Minions are trying to make the case that most boys act like sexual predators and that's...

... exception not the rule.

Not everyone in this country teaches there children they are entitled to anyone everywhere anytime

[Xipe Totec]

6. Here's my son's story

From the DU Archives, May 6, 2006


I didn't play that game (drinking each other under the table) with mine till the oldest was 16.

Of course, the oldest was adopted (international exchange student) and a full blooded Russian...

By the way, he introduced us to the proper Russian drinking ritual with salt, dense Russian bread, and Stolichnaya.

By the time he graduated from High School, he was familiar with the tell tale signs of alcohol abuse and the symptoms of inebriation. This is a good thing because...

.... When he went to his High School prom (a German girl as his prom date) he was the ONLY person there who had any experience with alcohol. The natural inclination of kids that age is to try alcohol for the very first time. Every one of the kids in his group (all international students from Europe and the Former Soviet Union), snuck into the Prom with some alcohol they stole from their host parent's liquor cabinets. They mixed this ungodly assortment of crap and proceeded to get absolutely blitzed....

On my wife's insistence the group had rented a hotel room in Galveston to make sure they had a safe place to retreat to, if things got really hairy. They surely did.

The exchange student from Spain got plastered to the point of alcohol poisoning. Sure enough, they had to go to the hotel room to regroup and figure out what to do. My son was the only one of the bunch who was sober. Why? because he knew what can happen when you mix a hodgepodge of incompatible liquors, so he did not drink that day, and did not feel any compulsion to do so. Let me repeat, the only kid there who had experience with alcohol, of his own volition did not drink.

The poor girl vomited over herself and was covered in it from head to toes. The other girls were grossed out and would not come anywhere near her. My son took this poor girl into the bathroom, undressed her, held her under the shower to clean her up, wrapped her in towels and then stayed with her while she dry heaved into the toilet while holding her hair out of the bowl. His sole objective was to keep this unconscious girl from drowning.

There was hell to pay the next morning, of course...

But all the other students vouched that my son did not drink that night and was instrumental in keeping this girl from harm at the absolute most vulnerable time in her life.

To this day, I remember that incident and swell with pride at my son's Chivalrous act. I am so glad he decided to join my family.

Scroll down to post #82 to see the original

https://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=view_all&address=105x5108911

[eleny]

7. I actually went looking for the Rec button under your post

Until I realized this one was a reply.

[H2O Man]

8. "

[demigoddess]

10. I had parents that went out drinking almost every weekend.

I had no desire to get drunk my whole life. My kids imbibe but they didn't do it until they left home and they have the wrong idea why I have no desire to drink. They think I am afraid of drinking. No I just know what it looks like. Not pretty.

[Xipe Totec]

11. We drank at home - safer that way. nt

[PatSeg]

9. K&R

[Bluesaph]

12. Thank you.

😊

[SunSeeker]

13. K & R

[IronLionZion]

14. Did you clean his car and jacket?

[Bluesaph]

16. O.O

He cleaned it. He was so sweet and concerned the following Monday at school. Truly a gentleman.

We did go out a few times after that event. Behind my parents’ back of course. And we even fooled around. It took its course and we ended up friends.

But my point is that here we have the same exact situation as Kavanaugh and the difference is stark! A kid who behaves the way Kavanaugh did will grow up to be a man who behaves the same way. Either you’re a good person or you’re not.

[LiberalFighter]

17. Most kids would be concerned about the consequences with their parents.

Especially the daughters.