Mom in Hospital...
I'm not very good with stuff like this, and I don't want to make it worse by getting all weepy and freaked out. On another level, she's been saying for a year at least that she really wants to go. She's done and misses her family that are all on the other side...though she also admits she can only talk to me about this, because my sister is not open to it.
My older sister is the "manager" and is good at handling the sketchy stuff. My dad is pretty far gone mentally, though he knows what's up he's probably not registering the gravity of the situation, or he's in denial too.
I'm over a mountain about 45 mins away, but she's also not coherent. Her LOC is probably about a 1, she's not answering questions and not aware what day it is etc.
I need to wait till tomorrow when there's more answers.
She's had a few strokes, but usually has only affected speech and she recovers in a few days. She's never lost consciousness like this. She was sick all day yesterday and my dad made it sound like a tummy bug...so she got severely dehydrated and my sister came over this morning to gather her up and take her to the ER, but that time she was out of it.
No bleeds... CT shows nothing ...she's also severely anemic so they are gonna give her an infusion.
Meanwhile all they can do is push fluids thru the nite and I have just gotta calm down and let her decide how she wants to handle this...she's a fighter but I also know she just might see this as her chance to exit.
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Thanks, it's a rough place in life when parents start to fade.
I asked my sister about my mom's DNR and if it is on file with the hospital, she wouldn't answer me. I wonder if they keep that stuff flagged like allergies etc...?
I hope you can somehow find some peace with whatever happens. Wishing you that, and strength too.
Wishing your mom all the best. 
I'm the black sheep and my dad and I fought a LOT growing up and sister is not very close to me either. So as a single mom through all my struggles she has been the one to advocate for me, help me with bills, etc.
Now I am afraid she won't let go cuz she's worried about me. I want her to know we'll be ok, I don't want her to stay if she's unhappy on my account 
I keep sending out thoughts/prayers to her and my grandma and dead auntie that if they come for her to not hold back because of what's going on here. The rest of us will be fine <3 
the condition your mother is in. I can see you are doing your best to cope with the whole thing. I have gone through the same thing with a few of my family members. I do not have any set solution or cure all but one thing I learned is that visitation in the hospital or at home is something that can help you deal with everything.
It might not lessen the hassle, that might increase. But being able to deal with all of this is the key. It means the difference between you taking care of all the things you need to do in your life and being sent to the hospital yourself.
I'd rather remember her last visit with me & the kids as my last memory....not a hospital bed
maybe she will fight thru the night, maybe she will stick around to kick my ass somemore... 
my heart goes out to you.
You all were there for me and it helped so much. Don’t for a moment think that these are random or obligatory wishes. There are truly kind people here who feel your pain and anguish. It is a cyber hug in a way, but real emotion behind it.
Some wonderful people here on DU got me through my sister's final days a few years back.
I truly respect what you are going through and hope for the best for you and your Mom.
Many cyber 
and big hugs here.
Or with your sister -- whoever has the medical power of attorney. The hospice people were wonderful when my mother was dying. They made a sad and difficult time easier to bear.
She doesn't have to have a terminal diagnosis to be on hospice -- just a doctor's opinion that she has less than 6 months to live. If she's still alive at that point, the decision can be made whether to re-certify for another 6 months, or to leave hospice.
I know how hard all of this is. I hope you have someone nearby who's holding your hand through this.
Quit eating on Christmas day.
Its only a matter of time.
Try to stay strong.
My mom gave up on Cmas too...Dad told her he didn't believe in any of it and she ripped all her decorations up and put them in the trash. She brought our presents up to us the next day and said she's done.
We'll see how it pans out... love to you and your momma too