I received one of those dreaded phone calls, today. I lost my cousin to Bi-Polar Depression

[Siwsan]

It caused him to lose his marriage, his job, and now his life. I'm still processing the news. I also lost my older brother to depression, so an old wound is ripped wide open. And I just finished updating all of the family here in Michigan, breaking more hearts with every contact.

His doctor was so concerned about his emotional state that she sent him to the ER, to get an in patient admission. The admission was refused. They just didn't think he met the criteria. I don't know why the doctor didn't intervene. That can likely be added to a growing list of unanswered questions.

If I can ask for kind thoughts for his sister and brothers. Their father is in care, suffering from Alzheimer's, so it's not as if they don't already have a lot to deal with.

[TygrBright]

1. Holding you and your family in the Light.

It runs in my family, too.

The pain is just awful.

Hang in there, take it one day at a time.

sadly,
Bright

[area51]

2. I'm so sorry for your loss. n/t

[badhair77]

3. I am so sorry to read this news.

My sympathy to you and your family. I hope you all can find a way to find some peace in this loss.

This country needs to start an initiative to provide mental health services to our people. There is no reason we could not assist in training physicians and other mental health care providers and facilities. We spend our money on ridiculous things, that money could be better spent in services.

[safeinOhio]

4. Best wishes for you and family.

[FakeNoose]

5. Condolences and healing thoughts during this difficult time

I'm very sorry for your loss! Condolences to your family.

[smirkymonkey]

6. I am so sorry for your loss Siwsan.

Depression is such a tragic thing, you always want to think that there is something you could have done to save them. It's just heartbreaking to lose someone that way.

It's so wrong the ER wouldn't admit him, it could have saved his life.

Wishing you and his family kind thoughts.

[Kittycow]

7. What a horrible, terrible day...

I know that there's a whole bunch of tough days to follow, but the first day is always so bad, especially if you're the one who has to make all the phone calls.

My deepest condolences to you and your family

[RainCaster]

8. I'm so sorry for your loss.

It sounds like this family has been though quite a bit already.

[Hermit-The-Prog]

9. may you and your family find peace in good memories

[lunatica]

10. Hugs to your entire family.

((((((((((Siwsan and family))))))))))).

[Karadeniz]

11. Deepest sympathy. Wishing his soul well.

[gademocrat7]

12. Condolences on your loss.

[malaise]

13. This is so sad

[jalan48]

14. I'm sorry for the loss of your cousin. I had something similar happen to my uncle. Peace.

[LakeArenal]

15. Peace and Love to you. 🕊

[KPN]

16. So sorry. This is so hard for you I'm sure. Everyone's worst nightmare. Hang in there --

you will all get through it. Peace.

[Kaleva]

17. My condolences. It's very difficult to help a person with mental illness.

My wife has suffered from it for years and right now she's up in our bed in a bad state. I won't go anywhere today.

Based on my experience, a patient will be admitted if he or she states that they are thinking of harming themselves and/or others. Your cousin may have aid he was okay.

[flying_wahini]

18. My Dad died of a coronary 6 hrs after being refused at ER because he also didn't "fit" .

I feel your pain! Sometimes you have to park your ass in the ER and not leave when it is that bad. His case was a bit different, but not really. He left and he died.

[nolabear]

19. I am so very sorry. I'm a retired therapist.

Some of the finest and most courageous people I worked with had Bipolar I. It’s hard to understand if you haven’t had it or lots of experience with it. Everyone I know has lost, or nearly lost, patients.

I hope you and your family find some peace somehow. It’s no reflection on any person. It’s terrible, uncontrollable chemistry. ❤️

[IncaRoads]

20. That's awful

My mom and I went through the same thing 3 years ago this month (crazy how time flies).

Do what you need to do to take care of yourself and these things tend to get easier over time.

[Raster]

21. My sympathies... I've lost several good friends to Bi-Polar Depression.

[LisaM]

22. It makes me sad and angry at the same time.

I'm sorry for your pain, and I'm angry that a flat-out call for help was ignored.

[CatMor]

23. Condolences on the loss of your cousin.....

I know how difficult it is to lose a loved one in this manner. Sometimes it's hard to believe and understand why these things happen in life. Hopefully time will heal the wounds of this loss and the memory of him will be with you always.

[OMGWTF]

24. So sorry. My brother committed suicide because his docs wouldn't give him any pain meds.

He'd shattered his knee and broken his back twice. Hs pain was being managed but then he got 100% cut-off due to a crack-down on prescribing opiods. He went through opioid withdrawal alone and killed himself with TWO guns to his head because he couldn't take the pain and no one would help him. Our society is so very deeply fked-up.

[get the red out]

25. I am so sorry

I have had security called on me for trying to get a bi-polar loved one admitted when they were refused and I felt their life was at risk. I got lucky and they lived and I got them admitted somewhere else, (when I hysterically broke into tears and I am sure they wondered if they should admit him or me at that point).

I suffer from depression myself, I've seen both sides of the despair

[greymattermom]

26. My husband has it.

I couldn't care for him, so he's in assisted living. I feel guilty every day, but I knew that I wasn't able to cope with it. I've already lost my grandmother and a cousin to it. In my grandmother's obituary, it says that she died of pneumonia.

[Fla Dem]

27. Very sad, and to think he sought help and was turned away. Hugs to you and your family.

[duforsure]

28. So sorry to hear this

And having people will mental illness in the family, I know how hard it can be. I'm thinking about you and your family.

[elfin]

29. Have lost one family member and another one is perilously close to ending her life

This is such a struggle and I am so sorry it has touched your life in such a devastating way.

[mr_lebowski]

30. Sorry for your family's loss ...

[Takket]

31. I feel very much for you.

This hits close to home. My wife is bipolar and because of it she very nearly both divorced me and committed suicide. She is treated now and the disease is managed but I know first hand what a vicious and deadly disease this is, yet also very stigmatized and deligitimized by the public which makes it even harder to treat.

It sounds Like the case was mishandled at the hospital. When all the mourning passes I would seriously consider a lawyer.

[hunter]

32. People get to be really good at talking themselves out of the Emergency Room ...

... convincing themselves, as well as medical professionals, they're not as bad as all that.

I've done it, and returned to the E.R. in such a bad state that it's clear to everyone that I'm not okay.



You have my kind thoughts, for you and your family.

[Honeycombe8]

33. I'm so sorry. That's heartbreaking.

I wonder where the dividing line is with depression, from "the blues" to depression so severe that it's life-stunting? Bi-polar means a person goes from a manic state to deep depression? I first learned about this when Patty Duke talked about her diagnosis. For years she didn't know that anything was wrong with her, and then she wondered why she behaved the extreme way she did sometimes. Until she was finally diagnosed, and that changed her life. I guess there were meds? I don't know.

Anyway, I'm so sorry.

[irisblue]

34. I am so so sorry

[wendyb-NC]

35. I am so sorry for the loss to you and the rest of the family.

[Stinky The Clown]

36. For all who suffer his loss, may they find peace.

And please take care of yourself.

[spooky3]

37. I'm so sorry.

[cp]

38. Kind thoughts for you and your family

Please give one another many hugs.

[hostalover]

39. So very sorry.

[NewJeffCT]

40. I'm very sorry for your loss

you and your family have my sympathy

[catbyte]

41. Oh, I'm so very, very sorry.

Depression is so soul-sapping, and it's disgraceful how ignored it is here in the U.S. Again, I'm very sorry.

[dlk]

42. I Have a Son With Bi-polar Disorder and Can Relate To Your Pain

I’m so very sorry for your loss.

[Kurt V.]

43. my thoughts are with you and your family.

[easttexaslefty]

44. I'm so sorry

[GreenPartyVoter]

45. I am so very, very sorry! My family has

a similar sad history.

[monmouth4]

46. Sincere and deepest condolences to you and your family.