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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsT.I. Said He Goes To The Gynecologist With His Daughter Every Year To "Check Her Hymen"
Rapper and actor T.I. said in a podcast interview that aired Tuesday that he goes with his 18-year-old daughter to the gynecologist every year to "check her hymen" and make sure it's "still intact."
In an interview with Nazanin Mandi and Nadia Moham on Ladies Like Us, T.I. talked about his parenting style, among other topics. When asked about whether he's had the "sex talk" with his daughters, he pointed to his approach with his eldest daughter, 18-year-old Deyjah Harris, who's in her first year of college.
"Not only have we had the conversation. We have yearly trips to the gynecologist to check her hymen," T.I. said. "Yes, I go with her."
He then mentioned that after her 16th birthday party, he "put a sticky note on the door: 'Gyno. Tomorrow. 9:30.'"
"So well go and sit down and the doctor comes and talk, and the doctors maintaining a high level of professionalism," T.I. said. "Hes like, You know, sir, I have to, in order to share information Im like, 'Deyjah, they want you to sign this so we can share information. Is there anything you would not want me to know? See, Doc? Ain't no problem.'"
https://www.buzzfeednews.com/article/clarissajanlim/ti-daughter-hymen-check-doctor?bftwnews&utm_term=4ldqpgc#4ldqpgc
(paging Dr. Gunter, Dr. Jen Gunter... this dude needs a verbal ass-kicking)
mrs_p
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waddirum
(980 posts)No board certified physician would agree to perform such a procedure for the purpose of informing a parent. This may take place in other countries, but not in the U.S.
riversedge
(70,413 posts)should be reported to an ethics Board for sure!
Sanity Claws
(21,863 posts)No privacy.
I wouldn't be surprised if the daughter runs away at 18 or stops contact with him when she is an adult.
SharonAnn
(13,781 posts)Aristus
(66,504 posts)as sitting on a bicycle seat.
Dude needs to leave the 19th Century behind...
Aristus
(66,504 posts)3catwoman3
(24,088 posts)I dont think so, dad.
MustLoveBeagles
(11,673 posts)I didn't have sex until many years afterward. He'd probably still say I was a ho. Fuck this guy. Seriously. Creepy as fuck even if he's making this up.
SummerSnow
(12,608 posts)and hide her away? This is ridiculous. My question is why would a doctor go along with this and what does her mother say about this?
lapfog_1
(29,238 posts)demigoddess
(6,645 posts)Proud Liberal Dem
(24,452 posts)Kali
(55,027 posts)what a creepy asshole
3catwoman3
(24,088 posts)Bordering on abuse, here. Back off, dad.
I would be interested in knowing how many women he's bedded.
Hekate
(90,963 posts)3catwoman3
(24,088 posts)Seeing as I have spent a 43 year career having to be diplomatic ALL the time, I am a master of understatement.
smirkymonkey
(63,221 posts)KG
(28,753 posts)lpbk2713
(42,772 posts)This runs the risk of making his daughter neurotic.
demmiblue
(36,911 posts)WePurrsevere
(24,259 posts)I had the basics but learned a bit too.
MissMillie
(38,597 posts)You know, by the time my son was 13 or 14, I would accompany him to the doctor, sit in w/ the doctor and him for just a few minutes so that I could ask questions, and then I'd leave the room.
I always felt that my son would get much better care from his physician if my son could talk openly w/ him/her.
And I trusted the doctor to alert me about problems when necessary.
SoCalNative
(4,613 posts)if you live under my roof and I pay your insurance...
Hekate
(90,963 posts)He sounds like the type.
redstatebluegirl
(12,265 posts)I ended up putting myself through school after he cut me off for not going to mass. Best decision I ever made.
phleshdef
(11,936 posts)Skidmore
(37,364 posts)has at least three children from "relationships" with women in addition to three children and a stepchild with his wife. This is the guy who doesn't think a woman should become president because women are emotional and may make rash decisions like set off a nuke when not thinking clearly.
I feel sorry for his daughters. How long does he plan on being this controlling.
lettucebe
(2,337 posts)This is the dumbest thing I've ever seen, heard, or read. Simply sickening as well is the implication that he somehow is "present" for these exams? I have no words
Quackers
(2,256 posts)Other than that, I agree with your post.
Blue_true
(31,261 posts)If she sat spread legged on his shoulders as a little girl, or she did splits in gym class or some other physical activity, if she did leaps like track athletes do, if she played basketball or soccer, ect. It may be intact near the wall of her vagina, that part may survive until she has sex or something gets stuck up inside her (like if she masturbates or allow a person to stick something other than s penis inside her).
riversedge
(70,413 posts)Archae
(46,369 posts)Any bets as to how many bastard kids *HE* sired?
awesomerwb1
(4,269 posts)leftieNanner
(15,190 posts)Perfect question!!
And I had the same one.
Locrian
(4,522 posts)I guess the chastity belts were a bit too much for him...
what a disgusting, creepy way to be a dad.
classof56
(5,376 posts)and he could be the keeper of the key.
Lord, what a total idiot.
SummerSnow
(12,608 posts)demmiblue
(36,911 posts)https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/T.I.
Wednesdays
(17,462 posts)proves that men never get emotional.
get the red out
(13,468 posts)has basically been the "leader of the free world" since the US abdicated it's position upon the election of Trump. I don't think this jerk thinks things through.
IcyPeas
(21,930 posts)19942006: Drugs, weapons and assault
20072009: Weapons conviction
2010: 11 month sentence
2018: Public disorder arrest
(from the linked wikipedia page above)
elias7
(4,035 posts)And what does he do if her hymen is not intact?
Hekate
(90,963 posts)Blue_true
(31,261 posts)from a middleclass Australian family, and a few other female rappers. The dude from Canada that is a rabid Raptors fan may not have a rap sheet among male rappers, there are maybe a few more that don't, but most do.
MustLoveBeagles
(11,673 posts)EveHammond13
(2,855 posts)Hekate
(90,963 posts)Wounded Bear
(58,765 posts)I took my daughter to a gynecologist, too, because I believe in good health care and preventive medicine.
I don't recall asking about that, though.
I_UndergroundPanther
(12,486 posts)Need serious ass kickings and verbal evisceration,and total loss of narcissitic supply forever.
I hate controlling abusive men.
Like Nazis punch them.
Ohiogal
(32,144 posts)SWBTATTReg
(22,191 posts)daughter one bit if she finally told her dad to bug off.
Hekate
(90,963 posts)Not trust issues between them
3catwoman3
(24,088 posts)...be quite appropriate.
treestar
(82,383 posts)there are no words. And what if it is broken? Just how does he plan to react?
Hekate
(90,963 posts)MineralMan
(146,345 posts)WhiskeyGrinder
(22,487 posts)lunatica
(53,410 posts)What will he do if she has sex? What a fucking stupid asshole. Meantime he is doing his best to jack up the creepy ick factor in her psyche.
durablend
(7,467 posts)Sounds like he'd be right at home as Trump's "other black friend"
Neema
(1,151 posts)Ugh. Poor girl is going to have some issues.
Blue_true
(31,261 posts)Some guys and females simply don't get around to sex, for whatever reason.
Neema
(1,151 posts)until marriage. Unless it was all a front, it's pretty doubtful.
Regardless, he does not have the right to violate his daughter's body that way. It's disgusting.
Blue_true
(31,261 posts)I don't know whether he has a son. If he does have a son, is he pressing his son to remain a virgin? I doubt it.
Teen sex can be problematic, if I had kids, I would advise daughters and sons the same way. My advice would be to wait until they are older to start pairing off, the world is full of people, the chance is very high that they will meet a person later on who is far more impressive for them - that is why I would advise patience. But I believe that a daughter using birth control is not an issue, neither is a son using a condom.
GoCubsGo
(32,099 posts)This asshole talks a good game, but I have my doubts any of it is true, other than reminding his daughter that she has her annual check-up. I think he's probably full of shit. It all sounds too much like Trump's B.S. puffery. His "check the her hymen" shit sounds like embellishment of what's likely just a normal doctor's appointment.
ecstatic
(32,777 posts)with this.
TI might mean well, but he's sending the wrong message to his daughter--that a man has a right to inspect and control her vagina. Not cool.
She'll probably have intimacy issues as well as a result of the Taliban-esque atmosphere her dad has created.
GoCubsGo
(32,099 posts)Or, that this atmosphere actually exists within his home. It strikes me as bullshitting his audience in some weird attempt to prove some macho, controlling image to them. It just strikes me as shit-stirring. He very well may be a control-freak asshole, who would love to be able to control his daughters like that. I just have my doubts that he's actually doing what he says he is doing.
MustLoveBeagles
(11,673 posts)He's still a dirtbag though.
Blue_true
(31,261 posts)He likely talked to his daughter about the hazards of teen sex and she took his advice seriously. But he has to do the macho rapper thing and brag.
TwilightZone
(25,512 posts)If he's just exaggerating it for attention, that makes it worse.
PCIntern
(25,623 posts)Otherwise speechless
sarisataka
(18,883 posts)No, just no
IADEMO2004
(5,575 posts)JDC
(10,143 posts)He can wear the key around his neck.
Creep
Vinca
(50,323 posts)Iggo
(47,586 posts)I_UndergroundPanther
(12,486 posts)Entitled abusive nacissists always want to own people because they want control,but have no self control.
irisblue
(33,046 posts)Thread Reader App (@threadreaderapp) Tweeted:
@SilkOne Hello, you can read it here: Thread by @DrJenGunter: "This is horrible on so many levels. Let me educate you all about the hymen 1/12 The hymen is a left over collection of c [
]" https://t.co/Z9A89Qr4lW
Enjoy 🤖
Link to tweet
demmiblue
(36,911 posts)I linked to the video she tweeted about somewhere above.
Go Dr. G!
Initech
(100,128 posts)demmiblue
(36,911 posts)Virginity is NOT a medical statusand this is coercive.
Link to tweet
underpants
(182,988 posts)doc03
(35,431 posts)I give a damn what he does.
Demovictory9
(32,489 posts)MoonRiver
(36,926 posts)The Genealogist
(4,723 posts)Even if this is just him BSing, it is incredibly disturbing.
bluestarone
(17,101 posts)Even mentioning this is so fucking sick! He's the type of asshole, that when his closet is opened, lots of dirty shit will be discovered!
Blue_Tires
(55,445 posts)2. Why would anyone be proud to admit to the world that they sexually repressed their daughter until the day she legally became a woman??
3. Are we even going to mention the brazen hypocrisy? I read in some other story that dude's (older) sons were openly sexually active in their teen years.
Hekate
(90,963 posts)I hope she has no sisters, and I hope she finds the wherewithal to escape her *hole father's control soon and make a life for herself far away.
milestogo
(16,829 posts)She was an 18 year old college freshman, and she was covered by her father's health insurance. His ex-wife took the daughter to a gyno before she went off to college.
Dad thought he had the right to know if his daughter was taking birth control pills since he was paying for it. Creeped me out.
NCLefty
(3,678 posts)LakeArenal
(28,863 posts)Shes stoned? Shunned? Beaten? Just what?
MustLoveBeagles
(11,673 posts)PupCamo
(288 posts)Runningdawg
(4,527 posts)My mother did this starting with my 13th BD. Every year. The Dr allowed it because he was part of the same religious cult. HIS story may be BS but I can guarantee you it's happening. And worse. Right now. In America.
Demovictory9
(32,489 posts)sdfernando
(4,947 posts)On getting top dollar for her when he sells her into marriage.
Fucking nurse creep!
catbyte
(34,511 posts)Ferrets are Cool
(21,112 posts)FUCK YOU ASSHOLE. And you just made it worse by making it PUBLIC. You are fucking deplorable. GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR
Jake Stern
(3,145 posts)Even if she did sign a release it was clearly under duress. How can accepting it ever be considered ethical?
Withywindle
(9,988 posts)What I have heard is that sometimes in situations like this, doctors will play along and tell the abusive controlling person (parent, spouse, partner) what they want to hear, and check in with the victim and try to get them help as much as possible in private. The reasoning is that if there is an open confrontation or a refusal, the abuser will likely take it out on the victim in a worse way later.
No way to know if that's what's going on here. It is just one possible explanation for the doctor's behavior.
Blue Owl
(50,547 posts)n/t
DFW
(54,476 posts)And now I am in no hurry.
empedocles
(15,751 posts)samnsara
(17,656 posts)demmiblue
(36,911 posts)According to MadameNoir, in a recent episode of T.I.'s ExpediTIously podcast, he told Tiny that he was owed sex in their marriage contract.
'Whats yours is mine and whats mine is yours. That means that little thing you got, that little sex box you got is half mine,' he said.
'So you pick which side you want, and thats yours. The rest of it is mine. We can split it right down the middle of the What do they call it? The, the, the, is it the, "Uvula"?'
He seems to have been referring to the vulva.
'What Im saying is, its half mine. And my half is on the inside.'
https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-7656539/Rapper-T-doctor-check-daughters-hymen-year-ensure-shes-virgin.html
MuseRider
(34,136 posts)and put a lock and key on it?
Bayard
(22,199 posts)Sounds like he is projecting his past onto her--do as I say, not as I've done.
Wonder if she does any dating at all?