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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsIt Isn't Just T.I. -- Virginity Testing Is a Worldwide Problem
On Wednesday, the rapper T.I. horrified the world when he revealed that when his 18-year-old daughter Deyjah goes to her annual gynecologist check-up, he has the doctor check her hymen is still intact.
Well go and sit down and the doctor comes and talk, and the doctors maintaining a high level of professionalism, the 39-year-old rapper told the podcast Ladies Like Us. Hes like, You know, sir, I have to, in order to share information Im like, Deyjah, they want you to sign this so we can share information. Is there anything you would not want me to know? See, Doc? Aint no problem.'
T.I. went on to acknowledge that while the hymen can be broken in many other ways than sex such as, for instance, gymnastics or horseback riding he pushed for the procedure nonetheless. I say, Look, Doc, she dont ride no horses, she dont ride no bike, she dont play no sports. Just check the hymen, please, and give me back my results expeditiously.' When asked whether he applied such standards to his 15-year-old son, T.I. said he did not, and that he in fact knew his son was sexually active and OK with it.
T.I.s comments seemed almost lab-engineered to piss off people on the internet, and piss off people on the internet they did. Many pointed out the outrageous invasion of privacy of forcing your 18-year-old daughter an adult, in the eyes of the law to submit to hymen testing; others focused on the double standard of T.I. going to such degrees to ensure his daughter was not having sex, while simultaneously applauding his younger son for being sexually active.
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hlthe2b
(102,267 posts)Men (or anyone) like this should NEVER have children. And the women (Mothers) that enable such acts earn nothing but contempt from me. They are accomplices to child abuse.
Silver1
(721 posts)to the mother of this child and she agrees with this, then she's brainwashed. The guy is a complete control freak and would expect nothing less from his wife. I'm sure there are consequences for any dissent.
Ilsa
(61,695 posts)Make it a ritual in defiance of patriarchy!
* Break Your Hymen
Silver1
(721 posts)I suppose he plans to have a real bonding moment with his future son in law. Eternal gratitude that he "kept" her pure and chaste for him, her "first".
This is so demeaning to this girl I'm beyond words.
fleur-de-lisa
(14,624 posts)Ilsa
(61,695 posts)What does he think he's going to do about it?
Make her feel worthless? Reduce her identity to a servant and object for her husband and his pleasure? Oh wait ... he's already doing that.
napi21
(45,806 posts)sex with? Or is it even MORE biased than that...only HUS DAUGHTER is to remain a virgin!
Hortensis
(58,785 posts)changes just as fast everywhere. It's not like there's anything less than 20,000 years old to virginity testing, probably more like 100,000-200,000.
Wounded Bear
(58,653 posts)and virginity a necessary pre-requisite for a good arranged marriage.