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Yo_Mama_Been_Loggin

(107,972 posts)
Thu Nov 7, 2019, 03:24 PM Nov 2019

It Isn't Just T.I. -- Virginity Testing Is a Worldwide Problem

On Wednesday, the rapper T.I. horrified the world when he revealed that when his 18-year-old daughter Deyjah goes to her annual gynecologist check-up, he has the doctor “check her hymen is still intact.”

“We’ll go and sit down and the doctor comes and talk, and the doctor’s maintaining a high level of professionalism,” the 39-year-old rapper told the podcast Ladies Like Us. “He’s like, ‘You know, sir, I have to, in order to share information’ — I’m like, ‘Deyjah, they want you to sign this so we can share information. Is there anything you would not want me to know? See, Doc? Ain’t no problem.'”

T.I. went on to acknowledge that while the hymen can be broken in many other ways than sex — such as, for instance, gymnastics or horseback riding — he pushed for the procedure nonetheless. “I say, ‘Look, Doc, she don’t ride no horses, she don’t ride no bike, she don’t play no sports. Just check the hymen, please, and give me back my results expeditiously.'” When asked whether he applied such standards to his 15-year-old son, T.I. said he did not, and that he in fact knew his son was sexually active and OK with it.

T.I.’s comments seemed almost lab-engineered to piss off people on the internet, and piss off people on the internet they did. Many pointed out the outrageous invasion of privacy of forcing your 18-year-old daughter — an adult, in the eyes of the law — to submit to hymen testing; others focused on the double standard of T.I. going to such degrees to ensure his daughter was not having sex, while simultaneously applauding his younger son for being sexually active.

https://www.rollingstone.com/culture/culture-news/ti-gynecologist-virginity-test-908990/

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It Isn't Just T.I. -- Virginity Testing Is a Worldwide Problem (Original Post) Yo_Mama_Been_Loggin Nov 2019 OP
Child abuse and, I suspect, a neon sign for something even worse. hlthe2b Nov 2019 #1
If he's still married ... Silver1 Nov 2019 #6
Girls at age 12 should have BYH* slumber parties. Ilsa Nov 2019 #2
Sick Bastard Silver1 Nov 2019 #3
That's fucking creepy. fleur-de-lisa Nov 2019 #4
And what if it isn't "intact"? Ilsa Nov 2019 #5
Disown her? Silver1 Nov 2019 #10
If he's so GAinst women having sex before marriage, who the hell does he think his SON is having napi21 Nov 2019 #7
Cultures are changing amazingly fast, but not everything Hortensis Nov 2019 #8
Harkens back to the days when daughters were property... Wounded Bear Nov 2019 #9
He loves his patriarchy, that is sick Beringia Nov 2019 #11
Has he endorsed anyone in the primary yet? comradebillyboy Nov 2019 #12

hlthe2b

(102,267 posts)
1. Child abuse and, I suspect, a neon sign for something even worse.
Thu Nov 7, 2019, 03:29 PM
Nov 2019

Men (or anyone) like this should NEVER have children. And the women (Mothers) that enable such acts earn nothing but contempt from me. They are accomplices to child abuse.

Silver1

(721 posts)
6. If he's still married ...
Thu Nov 7, 2019, 03:36 PM
Nov 2019

to the mother of this child and she agrees with this, then she's brainwashed. The guy is a complete control freak and would expect nothing less from his wife. I'm sure there are consequences for any dissent.

Ilsa

(61,695 posts)
2. Girls at age 12 should have BYH* slumber parties.
Thu Nov 7, 2019, 03:33 PM
Nov 2019

Make it a ritual in defiance of patriarchy!

* Break Your Hymen

Silver1

(721 posts)
3. Sick Bastard
Thu Nov 7, 2019, 03:34 PM
Nov 2019

I suppose he plans to have a real bonding moment with his future son in law. Eternal gratitude that he "kept" her pure and chaste for him, her "first".

This is so demeaning to this girl I'm beyond words.

Silver1

(721 posts)
10. Disown her?
Thu Nov 7, 2019, 03:40 PM
Nov 2019

Make her feel worthless? Reduce her identity to a servant and object for her husband and his pleasure? Oh wait ... he's already doing that.

napi21

(45,806 posts)
7. If he's so GAinst women having sex before marriage, who the hell does he think his SON is having
Thu Nov 7, 2019, 03:37 PM
Nov 2019

sex with? Or is it even MORE biased than that...only HUS DAUGHTER is to remain a virgin!

Hortensis

(58,785 posts)
8. Cultures are changing amazingly fast, but not everything
Thu Nov 7, 2019, 03:38 PM
Nov 2019

changes just as fast everywhere. It's not like there's anything less than 20,000 years old to virginity testing, probably more like 100,000-200,000.

Wounded Bear

(58,653 posts)
9. Harkens back to the days when daughters were property...
Thu Nov 7, 2019, 03:40 PM
Nov 2019

and virginity a necessary pre-requisite for a good arranged marriage.

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