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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsThis waiting for the stimulus $ is killing me....
I've got all my utilities due, and groceries are running low
I was only able to enter bank info today, so who know how much longer for it to drop.
I dont want to have to borrow more $ from family.
If this drags out another 2 weeks Im screwed.
mvd
(65,185 posts)My mom and I are in the same boat. My mom gets SS through direct deposit. I recently electronically filed. The wait continues for both of us. I have some food money but not much else.
Hope things work out for you!
BComplex
(8,082 posts)have the extra money in it.
3Hotdogs
(12,462 posts)Census.gov
Bernardo de La Paz
(49,069 posts)For those who qualify (lots do) it is retroactive to March 15, if applicable.
Last few days eligibility has been expanded.
The checks for those without direct deposit do not bear Prime Minister Justin Trudeau's signature.
His Liberal Party negotiated the legislation in about 3 days with the Conservative Party (yes, their name and orientation) and the New Democratic Party (socialists). It was passed in the next day or two.
His daily briefings, from the Cottage he is living in (while official house is being extensively modernized) run about 15 minutes plus about 15 minutes of reporters phoning in questions.
BComplex
(8,082 posts)They even use paper ballots to vote. AND they're fairly counted!
Newest Reality
(12,712 posts)It can be very stressful.
Don't let the mind take you on the Panic of What If Tour, if possible. Be with what is now and rest well when you can.
I'll bet you have already been through tough times and great challenges as well as sorrows and losses. If so, then welcome to this adaptive species. You know it will pass and your focus and energy are important right now. Draw on what you have learned and the resolve of your inner strength and see what happens.
Things will come. Things will stay a while. Things will go. I think that applies to what we call good and bad, gain and loss. This is one of those times where you find what you didn't know you had in there. Take a deep breath. Relax. It's your mind and you can deal with it by claiming it.
Be Well!
Bernardo de La Paz
(49,069 posts)Remember to breathe & that all things pass. Do what you can, don't worry about the rest.
DO think about What If. Enough to figure out what you can do to prepare and what is out of your control.
Then do what you can. Don't fret about what you can't do or control.
When the What If Panic returns don't fight it. Open a window in your mind, say "Oh you again", and let it waft out because you've already dealt with it. When new information comes in (it is good to be tuned in) then consider it, integrate, do what you can and let the rest go.
It takes practice but you get good at it by doing it.
Do it by changing what you can, accepting what you can't change, and thinking about the difference (thinking some, but not too much).
Newest Reality
(12,712 posts)Thanks for adding that. Resources like that can be helpful.
Yes, your point about simply acknowledging the contents is excellent. I would call that neither indulging or suppressing what arises. It's like looking out at the vast, blue sky and seeing clouds pass, be they white and fluffy or dark and stormy. The sky is not affected and neither holds onto the clouds nor does it try to avert them.
Another way to put it also, is what is, in technical terms, a pattern interrupt. As you said, notice what's coming up without being judgmental. If it is too strong, (you get caught up easily) you can also try just doing something else to create an exit point. Shift to whatever might be interesting, ANYTHING. Just change tack abruptly and on purpose.
That's a practice-oriented thing, too, but the habit of breaking the pattern causes the pattern to follow a new path and not continue the rather obsessive thinking that causes so much distress.
I want to add another item for perusal. It is a saying I picked up that serves me well:
A pessimist complains about the wind. An optimist waits for it to change. A realist adjusts the sails.
This is a good time to note the way the wind is blowing an adjust our sails as needed.
Bernardo de La Paz
(49,069 posts)Yes, you have to change tack when thoughts overwhelm. But the mind and ego will only let you do that if you have sufficiently processed the material. If you've done that, then you can accept that thoughts and anxieties will come up. Acceptance is key.
Fighting the thoughts or trying to deny the thoughts or trying to crowd them out doesn't work. That generates churn and wears down a worry path in the brain.
When thoughts come up, don't fight them. Check to see if all the points have been duly considered. If they have not, then consider the thing and decide if you can do something about. If you can, do. If not, accept.
Once you've considered and done what you can and accepted what you can't change, then you can much more easily change tack and take an exit to something distracting, be it entertainment or work or home maintenance or hobby or creativity.
Re pessimist and optimist, here's another one for you that is somewhat orthogonal:
A pessimist says the glass is half empty, an optimist says the glass is half full, an engineer gets another more appropriately sized glass.
I like your one about wind and sails and will do my best to remember it.
Some lines of my post were lifted from my Journal entry https://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1014&pid=2465562
Cheers to you and our Original Poster.
Newest Reality
(12,712 posts)Appreciate your sharing good information to help.
Wounded Bear
(58,773 posts)hope things work out for you.
JCMach1
(27,590 posts)Tomorrow
BComplex
(8,082 posts)Just curious.
JCMach1
(27,590 posts)Capitol One
BComplex
(8,082 posts)Glad to know it's actually materializing somewhere, though!
JCMach1
(27,590 posts)In TX today
FirstLight
(13,367 posts)I understand that it takes time to roll things out and am grateful someone got the website stuff up and running. The logistics of this are staggering.
still wondering about distribution...going thru H&R block for filing and refund, could have been a screw up. OR going in and adding direct deposit could also be a glitch. There's no real clear info. I dont get why they dont at least have info for those who use tax services if that changes anything or not...
oh well, going to ask my mom for a little help i guess, ugh...