My heart bleeds in foster care it's a Gut check we have two new young brothers

[TEB]

Six and Eight years old they were placed with us today. No great job teb you and my wife none of that I’m just posting I think from my memories of youth dysfunctional family. I just want to say you think you’re having bad day these boys are having a shitty day. Years ago my wife met a woman who was caseworker in foster care at a group luncheon for professional women, and we entered program. Doing foster care We Opened up to background checks we opened up our financial our home for inspection attended classes. It’s not for stipend no brag my wife is attorney me I’m a ass and trash 34 years in teamsters union.

When the boys showed up we fed em I knew they were inbound. Pancakes eggs sausages I refilled there plates second time. Just checked on them told the two beautiful boys come on down stairs they were in bedroom sitting on bed they trust each other our home is strange were strange people . I told em hey guys , You fellas do not have to be alone we’re all relaxed. They came down and now are outside with boog and Duncan pup , I said to the boys you guys wanna see a little furry pig as I put puppy chow and peanut butter in Duncan’s bowl. And boog chocolate lab and Duncan golden retriever puppy are welcome committee kids we love kids.

As I sit here I think of when I was these guys age our mom took us my brothers and I she left our father. Our old man was insane violent a drunk after his tours in Vietnam I learned years later our old man was suffering ptsd after our mom and him reconciled. Years later I always felt in my heart for our father he would apologize. And I’d say don’t worry it’s in past I’ll never be like you to my wife or children why I always knew after three years in infantry I never had to be in war. I was lucky I used to tell our old man I skated in 82nd 325 pir and 3rd armor west Germany.
And I’m so glad pardon my ramble friends my heart just breaks today. For these two boys my youth made me the former alcoholic I am. At 54 I hate seeing broken children.

[secondwind]

1. You are doing a good deed, god bless you...

[spicysista]

2. This experience will change your lives, forever.

My hat is off to you and your family. My mother took in 1, which grew to 3 by the end of that very day. It was an amazing journey for our family ( my newly divorced mom, sister, and me). My foster brothers and sister will forever be a part of our circle.
Bless you for your kindness and grace. Thank you for your service.

[monmouth4]

3. Much love to you, your wonderful wife and those two boys. You are giving them wonderful memories.

[cilla4progress]

4. Beautiful.

Thank you for sharing this - yes, grace - with us this Sunday.

I work in the family law legal system. I see those, often family - grandparents - who take in children whose parents can't care for them. I always tell them they are saints in my book!

[Ohiogal]

5. God bless you and your family

Helping these poor kids who got dealt a shitty hand in life. There’s a special place in heaven for people like you guys.

[panader0]

6. My affection and respect for you continues to grow.

As I have said before, you are a good man TEB. Teach those guys to play guitar with you.

[kcr]

7. There aren't nearly enough people like you and your wife

These boys may be broken, but now they have found you. You will make a difference in their lives.

[NNadir]

8. Bless you. n/t.

[zeusdogmom]

9. Every kid needs a safe place to call home.

For now, for these 2 boys, it is at your house. My guess your furry canine family members will work overtime loving up the 2 boys. Blessings to everyone.

[japple]

10. Thank you for sharing this. It's nice to know that some of the kids in

foster care wind up in a good place. My heart breaks for them all.

[dlk]

11. You and your wife are doing so much good for these children

Overcoming a difficult past is no easy thing. It takes tremendous courage. By opening your heart and your life to children in desperate need, you have made the world a better place. Words seem inadequate for the tremendous good you (and your wife) are disseminating.

[PennyK]

12. You are such a good person

You have the biggest heart!

[Scarsdale]

13. These boys will come to realize

how lucky they are, landing in your home. They will learn how a real man treats kids. It will take time to earn their trust, but you and your wife WILL earn it. Lucky they have each other, and were not separated. The two dogs will do their part in making the boys feel safe and welcome.

[SaveOurDemocracy]

14. Love to you TEB, and to your wife and ALL your kids...2 and 4 legged.

There is a reason so many of us look forward to your rambles...you, unabashedly, open yourself up and share your heart with us. You are loved for that.

Not many (any?) of us have your courage and faith to lay our souls bare like you sometimes do.

You are loved.

[roamer65]

15. God bless u, TEB.

[Joinfortmill]

16. Thank you

[demigoddess]

17. I was not fostered but I lived with my aunt for a year while my mother

was in hospital. It taught me what real people were like. Not like my mother. My aunt probably saved me. Even though I went back to being beaten and insulted, that year saved me. You are doing good work.

[nuxvomica]

18. Like I always say, our singular duty is the protection of innocence

Every other duty we have derives from it: working, behaving, making compromises and sacrifices, whatever. And the rewards are not inconsequential, whether from watching a "little furry pig" go after peanut butter or seeing a scared child finally relax and feel like he's safe. But the rewards carry no price tag and most of the suffering in this world comes from people chasing after only the things that do. That's how we are wired, I think, and that's why we left the trees and may someday touch the stars. If only everyone understood that as well as you do, TEB.

[SaveOurDemocracy]

22. I love that, and I agree. Selfless acts of love are how we feed our hearts and souls.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

19. Ramble all you want my dear TEB. Your heart shines. n/t

[elleng]

20. ;-( ;-)

[lunatica]

21. Boog and Duncan will heal the boys to 90%

You and wife will top off the last 10%. Because you know.

All this, the bad and the good makes me cry.

Kids and dogs have a knowing. My son told me that.

[Delmette2.0]

23. Thank you for being a foster parent.

I worked on the other side. I was the foster care payment specialist during the transition from paper to computers 30 years ago. All payments went through me. I heard so many stories from social workers, local administrators and the foster parents. I still think that many foster parents had my name and phone number on the wall next to their phone. I get choked up thinking about it.
My usual opinion was get the financial aid to the foster parents because they have children, usually multiple siblings to care for. Of course it was sometimes more complicated.

I couldn't begin to do what you and your family are doing, but I could resolve problems and push along the financial assistance. Even today I am grateful for the unconditional acceptance foster parents have for the children they care for.

[Karadeniz]

24. I loved reading your story!❤ Thank you for giving up your home and lives to help others...

That's why we're here!!!

[Ligyron]

25. Good grief, they're 100% better off than they were yesterday.

Doesn't sound like a shitty day for them one bit to me and I bet tomorrow will be even better for all of you as they settle in.

Great, now I want a puppy too!

[JudyM]

26. Best line, magic words: "You fellas do not have to be alone we're all relaxed."

And the pups! The brothers got lucky. Thank you for fostering.

[GeoWilliam750]

27. Good on you, sir

And good on Boog and Duncan

[littlemissmartypants]

28. Kicked and recommended. Love you, TEB!

Please let us know if there is a way we can help you.

❤ lmsp

[Blue Owl]

29. K&R