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FailureToCommunicate

(14,012 posts)
Sat Sep 19, 2020, 06:42 PM Sep 2020

RBG dies and I thought it couldn't get worse. Then today, my older brother passed away...

Last edited Sat Sep 19, 2020, 09:11 PM - Edit history (2)

He had been in somewhat declining health for the last six years since he was assaulted by a drunk guy -hit repeatedly in the head- and had to have emergency brain surgery for the swelling.

After the assault he had to retire and give up his two congregations...he was a minister, like my father.

He never really got back to health after that.

I talked to him yesterday (by phone, he's in North Carolina and no visitors are allowed where he is (was)) but I just didn't have the heart to tell him of RBG's passing. It would've broken his heart even more than it was already.

He mentioned that as bad as he was feeling, he was happy that he had early voted.

I take that as at least a small consolation.

2020 just got even worse.

-FTC

Edit to add: that talk was virtual ...like almost every human contact these days it seems.

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RBG dies and I thought it couldn't get worse. Then today, my older brother passed away... (Original Post) FailureToCommunicate Sep 2020 OP
I'm so very sorry XanaDUer2 Sep 2020 #1
I'm very mzmolly Sep 2020 #2
How horrible wryter2000 Sep 2020 #3
I'm so sorry for your loss. redwitch Sep 2020 #4
My deepest sympathies. DonaldsRump Sep 2020 #5
I dont know what to say other than sorry... Eliot Rosewater Sep 2020 #6
I'm so sorry for the loss of your brother. May every good memory comfort you livetohike Sep 2020 #7
... Nevilledog Sep 2020 #8
Condolences to all . Take care . Yes 2020 Sucks . It's so good you spoke to each other yesterday lunasun Sep 2020 #9
I am so sorry MaryMagdaline Sep 2020 #10
I am so sorry to hear about your dear brother's sudden and unanticipated Tanuki Sep 2020 #11
So very sorry. apcalc Sep 2020 #12
Condelences SheltieLover Sep 2020 #13
Sorry for your loss soothsayer Sep 2020 #14
I am so sorry for your loss😿 Meowmee Sep 2020 #15
OMG, I'm so sorry PlanetBev Sep 2020 #16
I am deeply sorry for your loss. I hope you use the best of your brother Celerity Sep 2020 #17
Sorry, FTC democrank Sep 2020 #18
Sending you love and peace... Freedomofspeech Sep 2020 #19
My heart goes out to you. May your older brother Rest In Peace. iluvtennis Sep 2020 #20
I'm so sorry for your loss. LiberalLoner Sep 2020 #21
I am so sorry. CottonBear Sep 2020 #22
As Queen Elizabeth said many years ago, this truly is an annus horribilis. Lonestarblue Sep 2020 #23
Ain't that the truth... gembaby1 Sep 2020 #79
DANG! This shouldn't happen to anyone. So sorry for the family's loss... Karadeniz Sep 2020 #24
No mere words will take away your pain so, I am very sorry. appleannie1 Sep 2020 #25
There are no words DownriverDem Sep 2020 #26
I'm so sorry for your loss. BainsBane Sep 2020 #27
I am so sorry. murielm99 Sep 2020 #28
So sorry for your loss. SaveOurDemocracy Sep 2020 #29
Deepest sympathy malaise Sep 2020 #30
((Fail)) blm Sep 2020 #31
So sorry to hear this. bluestarone Sep 2020 #32
I'm so very sorry, FTC.. Cha Sep 2020 #33
So sorry for your loss still_one Sep 2020 #34
I'm so sorry 💔 Raine Sep 2020 #35
I'm so very sorry. Your grief is double. sinkingfeeling Sep 2020 #36
I'm so sorry for your loss. Ilsa Sep 2020 #37
Sorry for your loss. RestoreAmerica2020 Sep 2020 #38
*hugs* sakabatou Sep 2020 #39
So sorry for your loss. kimbutgar Sep 2020 #40
I'm so sorry for your terrible loss Hekate Sep 2020 #41
Thought it couldn't get worse . . . people Sep 2020 #42
Sorry for your loss FTC BadGimp Sep 2020 #43
I'm so sorry, FTC. kag Sep 2020 #44
Hugs and sympathy Wicked Blue Sep 2020 #45
I'm so very sorry for your loss. hamsterjill Sep 2020 #46
I am sorry. warmfeet Sep 2020 #47
Oh no Dorian Gray Sep 2020 #48
Sad for your loss, but happy that you were close. Many DUers with you right now. dameatball Sep 2020 #49
For years, I continue to be heartened by the empathy and kindness of DUers! FailureToCommunicate Sep 2020 #52
Peace be with you. mobeau69 Sep 2020 #50
I am so, so sorry... jorgevlorgan Sep 2020 #51
So sorry for your loss. liberalla Sep 2020 #53
I'm so sorry for your loss. NoRoadUntravelled Sep 2020 #54
Condolences on the loss of your beloved brother. gademocrat7 Sep 2020 #55
Oh .... ancianita Sep 2020 #56
I am profoundly sorry for your loss. Dem2theMax Sep 2020 #57
I'm so sorry, FTC. gristy Sep 2020 #58
I'm so sorry for your loss. area51 Sep 2020 #59
That's such profound sadness, out of love for your brother. Wishing you moments of peace JudyM Sep 2020 #60
FTC, I am so very sorry. crickets Sep 2020 #61
I'm so sorry. barbtries Sep 2020 #62
All my sympathies. nt LAS14 Sep 2020 #63
I'm sorry for your loss MustLoveBeagles Sep 2020 #64
I am so sorry for the loss of your dear brother, FTC. smirkymonkey Sep 2020 #65
I'm so sorry for your loss. yardwork Sep 2020 #66
Bless those we hold near and dear in our hearts in Jesus name we pray amen.............. turbinetree Sep 2020 #67
I am so sorry to hear about your brother's tragic assault peacebuzzard Sep 2020 #68
SO sorry to hear this. : ( Strength to you. electric_blue68 Sep 2020 #69
Accept my deepest sympathies. cayugafalls Sep 2020 #70
I'm so very sorry. cate94 Sep 2020 #71
Condolences... Alacritous Crier Sep 2020 #72
... N_E_1 for Tennis Sep 2020 #73
So tragic... Trueblue Texan Sep 2020 #74
I am so sorry for your loss. Metatron Sep 2020 #75
So very sorry for your loss. niyad Sep 2020 #76
My condolences on your brother's passing. Fla Dem Sep 2020 #77
My condolences. gembaby1 Sep 2020 #78
What a story! 2020 has been one hell of a nightmare year! So sorry to hear about the loss Illumination Sep 2020 #80
We can all honor his and RBG memories by voting (like your brother did, in voting early). I will... SWBTATTReg Sep 2020 #81
So sorry occupant Sep 2020 #82
My condolences for your loss. (eom) StevieM Sep 2020 #83
I'm so sorry for your loss. onecaliberal Sep 2020 #84
My sincere sympathy on your brother's death. firstwife Sep 2020 #85
My deepest sympathy, FailureToCommunicate. Granny M Sep 2020 #86
So sorry for your loss FakeNoose Sep 2020 #87

lunasun

(21,646 posts)
9. Condolences to all . Take care . Yes 2020 Sucks . It's so good you spoke to each other yesterday
Sat Sep 19, 2020, 06:49 PM
Sep 2020

Hope the good memories help you in your grief

Tanuki

(14,916 posts)
11. I am so sorry to hear about your dear brother's sudden and unanticipated
Sat Sep 19, 2020, 06:52 PM
Sep 2020

death, as well as his senseless traumatic brain injury and its devastating consequences. It is definitely a comfort, albeit a small one, to know that he got to vote and the satisfaction he took in doing so! Please take care of yourself. Better days are ahead. Pick up the bright candle that your brother used to light his way and carry it forth in the world as he would have done. Let his memory and his example be an inspiration to you.


PlanetBev

(4,104 posts)
16. OMG, I'm so sorry
Sat Sep 19, 2020, 07:13 PM
Sep 2020

What a heartache in an already heartbreaking year.

My deepest condolences to you and your loved ones. Please take care of yourself at the difficult time.

Lonestarblue

(9,959 posts)
23. As Queen Elizabeth said many years ago, this truly is an annus horribilis.
Sat Sep 19, 2020, 07:26 PM
Sep 2020

I’m so sorry for your loss. It seems that everyday something knocks us down, and then we get up and keep going. I’m so glad you were able to speak with your brother yesterday. Those conversations give a lot og memories. Take care of yourself and your family.

kag

(4,079 posts)
44. I'm so sorry, FTC.
Sat Sep 19, 2020, 08:13 PM
Sep 2020

I'm very close to my brothers. Even though we're all middle aged, when we get together it's like we're teenagers again.

I'm so very sorry for your loss.

hamsterjill

(15,220 posts)
46. I'm so very sorry for your loss.
Sat Sep 19, 2020, 08:20 PM
Sep 2020

Peace and comfort - and the genuine hope that things one day do get a little better for everyone.

Again - I’m sorry for your pain.

Dorian Gray

(13,488 posts)
48. Oh no
Sat Sep 19, 2020, 08:25 PM
Sep 2020

My condolences to you and your family. That's a lot to handle right now. Wishing you to have much strength through this.

Dem2theMax

(9,650 posts)
57. I am profoundly sorry for your loss.
Sat Sep 19, 2020, 09:16 PM
Sep 2020

One wonders how much more our hearts can bear.

We are all here for you. Lean on us.

JudyM

(29,225 posts)
60. That's such profound sadness, out of love for your brother. Wishing you moments of peace
Sat Sep 19, 2020, 09:30 PM
Sep 2020

and comfort along the challenging path you’re on.

crickets

(25,959 posts)
61. FTC, I am so very sorry.
Sat Sep 19, 2020, 09:40 PM
Sep 2020

I am glad you got to talk to him yesterday. Peace and strength to you and your family.

barbtries

(28,787 posts)
62. I'm so sorry.
Sat Sep 19, 2020, 09:43 PM
Sep 2020

yes, 2020 is the year that was and always will be. the worst, that is.
I can't address the possibility of 2021 being worse though i'm sure republicans are doing everything possible to make sure it is.

hugs to you and your family.

 

smirkymonkey

(63,221 posts)
65. I am so sorry for the loss of your dear brother, FTC.
Sat Sep 19, 2020, 10:06 PM
Sep 2020

He sounded like a wonderful person. May he rest in peace.

My sincere condolences to you and your family.

peacebuzzard

(5,158 posts)
68. I am so sorry to hear about your brother's tragic assault
Sat Sep 19, 2020, 10:47 PM
Sep 2020

That is horrific, shocking, and so sad.
I am so sorry. no words.

Fla Dem

(23,630 posts)
77. My condolences on your brother's passing.
Sun Sep 20, 2020, 09:53 AM
Sep 2020

It does seem as if we are being tested. Some more than others. Peace to you and your family.

 

Illumination

(2,458 posts)
80. What a story! 2020 has been one hell of a nightmare year! So sorry to hear about the loss
Sun Sep 20, 2020, 11:33 AM
Sep 2020

of your brother!...

SWBTATTReg

(22,097 posts)
81. We can all honor his and RBG memories by voting (like your brother did, in voting early). I will...
Sun Sep 20, 2020, 12:31 PM
Sep 2020

of course vote as usual, but the memories of these two persons will give me an additional push to honor their memories.

May your brother rest in peace.

Regards and be strong.

 

occupant

(166 posts)
82. So sorry
Sun Sep 20, 2020, 12:44 PM
Sep 2020

Let my first reply be to offer you condolences for the loss of your brother. My brother was everything to me, so I know how you are feeling as I lost mine too. Take comfort that he is sitting at the right hand of the Lord and he will be watching over you. Good things will come, just watch and see...

firstwife

(115 posts)
85. My sincere sympathy on your brother's death.
Sun Sep 20, 2020, 02:38 PM
Sep 2020

I am so sorry for your loss. A blessing you could speak with him, double blessing he got to vote. Imagine him celebrating with RBG right now. 💙

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