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struggle4progress

(118,281 posts)
Sun Nov 22, 2020, 02:25 AM Nov 2020

I can't visit my 90-some mother halfway across the country because of the pandemic

Our Granny-should-happily-die-for-the-economy crowd and the fuck-off-while-I-golf salesman are causing me anger and pain, which I suppose the yay-liberal-tears crowd enjoys

I really don't ever want to hear another word from these "pro-family" and "pro-lifer" fakers

My parents and I used to get together at least twice a year, and when they became less energetic, I started to flying out to see them every few months, about six weeks a year

I've kept that up since my father passed

But now, my mother and I agree I shouldn't travel

I frankly don't know if I'll ever see her again

And I bet there are plenty others facing this



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I can't visit my 90-some mother halfway across the country because of the pandemic (Original Post) struggle4progress Nov 2020 OP
yep, there are... dhill926 Nov 2020 #1
One of my good friends from elementary school lost his mother a while back struggle4progress Nov 2020 #2
Haven't seen my daughter and granddaughters for almost a year...it just sucks! Thekaspervote Nov 2020 #3
I have been facetiming with my 90 year old mom daily since about March. iemitsu Nov 2020 #4
I have an Android cellphone BlueMTexpat Nov 2020 #5
Zoom is offering unlimited time on Thanksgiving Day Sedona Nov 2020 #6
Thanks for letting BlueMTexpat Nov 2020 #7
We also did a zoom party for mom's 90th BD. iemitsu Nov 2020 #9
I'm the elderly relative in my family spinbaby Nov 2020 #8

dhill926

(16,337 posts)
1. yep, there are...
Sun Nov 22, 2020, 02:35 AM
Nov 2020

haven't seen my Mom since last December. She's halfway across the country in memory care. The home is shut down, which is a good thing. But it sucks....and not sure I'll ever see her alive again.

struggle4progress

(118,281 posts)
2. One of my good friends from elementary school lost his mother a while back
Sun Nov 22, 2020, 02:43 AM
Nov 2020

Two of her three children lived in the same town, but for the last few months of her life, nobody was allowed in the care facility to visit

She was bedridden

She had become deaf so phone calls weren't an option anymore

Her daughter had to resort to contacting the facility to wave and smile through a closed window

And then she was gone

iemitsu

(3,888 posts)
4. I have been facetiming with my 90 year old mom daily since about March.
Sun Nov 22, 2020, 03:34 AM
Nov 2020

I can't go visit but we see each other every day.
I know her better than I have since I was a kid.
And it's free (or at least paid for with my phone plan).

BlueMTexpat

(15,368 posts)
5. I have an Android cellphone
Sun Nov 22, 2020, 05:10 AM
Nov 2020

so use the Duo app to do the same thing with my far-flung family. https://duo.google.com/about/

One can also have video conversations with more than one person at a time on Duo.

For larger get-togethers, we use Zoom, but are limited to 40 minutes in the freebie version. So when it's a "cast of thousands," one of those among us who has the premium version sets up the call and we aren't time-limited. https://zoom.us/download

The various young ones regale us with their talents and give examples of various skills, e.g., demonstrating their learning of foreign languages, playing instruments, singing songs, dressing up in costume and performing skits, etc. They are so much fun and are growing up MUCH too fast!

The internet, with its various means of staying in touch virtually, has literally been a lifeline for me!

May it serve you all as well!

iemitsu

(3,888 posts)
9. We also did a zoom party for mom's 90th BD.
Sun Nov 22, 2020, 02:59 PM
Nov 2020

It was great fun and more people showed for that event than ever do for in-person ones.
Strange times but we are an adaptable species.

spinbaby

(15,089 posts)
8. I'm the elderly relative in my family
Sun Nov 22, 2020, 09:13 AM
Nov 2020

Not sure how that happened because I certainly don’t feel old. We’d normally have a huge Thanksgiving dinner at my house, but not this year. Meanwhile, a check of Facebook shows people dining out with friends, having parties, and planning big holiday get togethers, because apparently, none of this applies to them.

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