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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsI'm sorry I have not been doing my job as a MIR member
I've been wondering how to really do it and as soon as I get past the death of my dad.
He died yesterday at 90 years old of lung cancer. I'll get to it, soon, please be patient .
thank you
Wounded Bear
(58,670 posts)joshcryer
(62,276 posts)Time will heal your pain. It is all that will. Be well.
mn9driver
(4,426 posts)applegrove
(118,696 posts)to go back to routine tasks anytime soon. Reach out and remember. Cry. Dad's are the greatest. ((((Hugs))))
Nevilledog
(51,122 posts)Brother Buzz
(36,444 posts)Repost your OP in the MIRT forum and you'll find everyone will be willing to walk you through the process and get you oriented.
Sorry for your loss.
abakan
(1,819 posts)I will read them in the coming days.
Thank You
Brother Buzz
(36,444 posts)Believe me, you'll go back to it again, again, and again. And speaking of again, there are a ton of extraordinary people in the MIR Team forum that will help you.
MIRT's motto, "The only dumb question is the one that isn't asked".
BumRushDaShow
(129,115 posts)and as soon as you are ready, do come in and "sit for awhile".
Sending my deepest condolences to you.
Marie Marie
(9,999 posts)MontanaMama
(23,322 posts)You cannot be expected to be over the passing of your beloved dad in one day...one week or whatever. He's your dad. Take the time to mourn.
hlthe2b
(102,294 posts)irisblue
(32,982 posts)Response to abakan (Original post)
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Miigwech
(3,741 posts)May all his memories be a blessing.
MoonRiver
(36,926 posts)I also felt inadequate on MIR team. Some said I shouldn't quit, but I did. You definitely should stay. They are a very understanding group.
ProfessorGAC
(65,076 posts)Take your time, and thanks for volunteering for MIRT.
SheltieLover
(57,073 posts)So sorry for your loss.
Please remember to engage in quality self-care. Make sure you eat, sleep, and do a lot of deep breathng to stay grounded and centered.
Please also consider contacting his hospice organization, or one in your area for bereavement therapy. Most will provide 13 months to support you through the "year of firsts," birthdays, anniversaries, holidays, etc.
And know that the stages of grief are not linear; there is no timeline for resolving grief.
Hugs
brer cat
(24,578 posts)Take care of your self first. MIRT will be here when you are ready to return.
LiberalLoner
(9,762 posts)Spazito
(50,370 posts)Don't worry about MIRT, it will be there when you feel you can participate.
malaise
(269,057 posts)Deepest sympathy
Dem2theMax
(9,651 posts)We will share a date together. My dad died on December 14th, eight years ago.
Don't worry about us. You take care of you.
We are all here to support you.
Hortensis
(58,785 posts)People here don't know what MIRT is doing.
When you're ready to get active on that private forum, you'll find there are instructions for how to do the job. It's a forum like these where people discuss their thoughts on cases and guidelines and you can read old threads and ask questions.
Take care of yourself right now, though.
alwaysinasnit
(5,066 posts)barbtries
(28,799 posts)Soph0571
(9,685 posts)When you are ready we will talk you through how to get be a marvellous member of the team, and in the meantime my deepest condolences at your loss.
greatauntoftriplets
(175,742 posts)niyad
(113,348 posts)yourself, and remember that your DU family is here for you.
Jay25
(417 posts)sinkingfeeling
(51,460 posts)NoRoadUntravelled
(2,626 posts)Please give yourself the time you need as you adjust to a new way of being in the world. It's so very hard to lose a loved one. You are in my thoughts.
Cadfael
(1,297 posts)CaptainTruth
(6,594 posts)AmyStrange
(7,989 posts)-
I'm not in any hurry myself, but that's gonna be one of the first things that I do.
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DonaldsRump
(7,715 posts)Losing a parent at any age is awful. It's the end of an era, if nothing else. For most of us, it's even greater than that.
I just finished two consecutive terms on MIRT and met some incredibly fine people between April 2020-last week. It felt like a REAL team because it WAS a real team. No one minds how much you contribute, and especially under the circumstances, they will of course understand. Really great folks, I have to say, several of whom have posted on this thread!
Your obligation right now, if I can be so presumptuous, is to you and your family. There are plenty of fantastic MIRTers right now who will welcome you with open arms whenever you're ready.
mahina
(17,669 posts)God bless him, and you. Aloha.
electric_blue68
(14,912 posts)it's usually hard stuff to go through losing a parent, lung cancer Imo one of the worst things to suffer from.
Mine are both gone a bit over, and under a decade.
You need to take care of the immediate things, and go through some grieving - at some point you'll get to your MIR work.
Look how many people here are giving you support. Strength to your and your family.
Rhiannon12866
(205,539 posts)Please do whatever you need to do and take your time. Everyone certainly understands. As we always say on MIRT, "real life comes first," and my heart goes out to you - I lost my own Dad between Thanksgiving and Christmas some time ago and know how devastating this can be. Come join us when you're ready and we'll welcome you then.
And here's the link to the MIRT Forum when you need it:
https://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=forum&id=1244