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leftyladyfrommo

(18,869 posts)
Mon Jan 18, 2021, 05:47 PM Jan 2021

My friend with Covid died last night at 9:04.

He had been working from home since March. He lived alone with his animals. He was a wonderful, kind man. He went home for Xmas, got Covid and died. His family tried to convince him not to come but he just couldn't face Xmas alone.

I am having good luck finding good homes for his animals. Thank goodness. I am his pet sitter and thank goodness his family found me.



Why does it seem like it's the best people who die and the awful people just carry on?

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My friend with Covid died last night at 9:04. (Original Post) leftyladyfrommo Jan 2021 OP
I am sorry leftylady. You're right--the worst people do seem to get better while the tblue37 Jan 2021 #1
You are very kind to care for his loves and find them homes. Bluethroughu Jan 2021 #2
Oh dear, I'm sorry for your loss FakeNoose Jan 2021 #3
A tragedy undoubtedly repeated in many other families. I'm so sorry for the loss of your friend. hlthe2b Jan 2021 #4
I'm sending healing thoughts to you. I know those can be cliched words but I genuinely mean it. Guilded Lilly Jan 2021 #5
I'm so sorry. fleur-de-lisa Jan 2021 #6
... Nevilledog Jan 2021 #7
Sending you love and peace... Freedomofspeech Jan 2021 #8
((lefty)) blm Jan 2021 #9
That's so sad renate Jan 2021 #10
So sorry about your friend. My friend's lot turned out different. panader0 Jan 2021 #11
I'm glad your friend is doing well whathehell Jan 2021 #19
Yeah, I know an older guy who was in the hospital and survived COVID LymphocyteLover Jan 2021 #21
I'm glad your friend got a happy ending MustLoveBeagles Jan 2021 #64
All that time being alone, and then the temptation... Buckeye_Democrat Jan 2021 #12
So sad they say covid fatigue is why marlakay Jan 2021 #13
Lefty, as a person that lives alone with pets, rest assured that he thought highly of you. Not that dameatball Jan 2021 #14
I'm so sorry... thank you for taking care of the animals. CaptainTruth Jan 2021 #15
Deepest sympathy. sinkingfeeling Jan 2021 #16
I am so sorry UpInArms Jan 2021 #17
THANK YOU so much for taking care of his animals Obvious85 Jan 2021 #18
Damn...I'm so sorry to hear your friend passed on. sdfernando Jan 2021 #20
What a sad story. Peace to your friend. I'm glad he had you to take care of his animals. Fla Dem Jan 2021 #22
Deepest sympathy to you and his fur babies. I wish you all the luck in the world with rehoming them. Karadeniz Jan 2021 #23
Too sad malaise Jan 2021 #24
Because from the likes of T----, Hell has no vacancy. ffr Jan 2021 #25
So sorry for your loss. Lonestarblue Jan 2021 #26
I'm so sorry for you loss BainsBane Jan 2021 #27
💕💕💕💕💕 MLAA Jan 2021 #28
So sorry. I have a family member dying of COVID; he has 5 children and was the family breadwinner. Liberty Belle Jan 2021 #29
So sorry for your family member and you electric_blue68 Jan 2021 #31
Jon was on a ventalator for 8 days.. at first he seemed to be doing leftyladyfrommo Jan 2021 #56
I'm sorry Liberty Belle MustLoveBeagles Jan 2021 #65
So sorry you've lost your friend {gentle hug} electric_blue68 Jan 2021 #30
I hope you find Peace Deuxcents Jan 2021 #32
I'm so sorry, lefty! LaMouffette Jan 2021 #33
I am sorry for your loss... Moostache Jan 2021 #34
My husband Rebl2 Jan 2021 #35
I'm so sorry that your friend died before his time from this terrible disease. Tanuki Jan 2021 #36
So sorry for your loss SheltieLover Jan 2021 #37
This is just sad............ turbinetree Jan 2021 #38
I'm so sorry. barbtries Jan 2021 #39
That is so sad and tragic. I am so sorry. Hug the animals for all of us and hug yourself as well. ED Evolve Dammit Jan 2021 #40
So sorry. healthnut7 Jan 2021 #41
I am so sorry for your loss yourmovemonkey Jan 2021 #42
Damn. I'm so sorry. I'm sure he'll appreciate your kindness to his critters - from Upstairs. calimary Jan 2021 #43
that bdamomma Jan 2021 #44
I'm so sorry stage left Jan 2021 #45
It's so hideously unfair, I am so very sorry for your loss. Maru Kitteh Jan 2021 #46
... iluvtennis Jan 2021 #47
I'm very sorry. shrike3 Jan 2021 #48
My sincere condolences Montauk6 Jan 2021 #49
So sorry to hear this ailsagirl Jan 2021 #50
This is heart-breaking. colorado_ufo Jan 2021 #51
I'm sorry. Focus on the good we will get thru this together. BlueNProud Jan 2021 #52
My heart goes out to you and your friend's family. pazzyanne Jan 2021 #53
Sorry to hear this about your friend. William769 Jan 2021 #54
Bless you for helping your friend and seeking out homes for his furry family. He was japple Jan 2021 #55
Heartbreaking story... BlueIdaho Jan 2021 #57
Maybe it was better thst he died than trying to leftyladyfrommo Jan 2021 #58
So sorry. bluestarone Jan 2021 #59
He loved animals leftyladyfrommo Jan 2021 #60
I'm sorry for your loss, and for your friend. BobTheSubgenius Jan 2021 #61
I'm so sorry wendyb-NC Jan 2021 #62
I'm sorry MustLoveBeagles Jan 2021 #63
So sorry 😢 live love laugh Jan 2021 #66
so very sorry demtenjeep Jan 2021 #67
Sorry for your loss. mfcorey1 Jan 2021 #68
My sincere condolences shanti Jan 2021 #69
I am so sorry for your loss Gothmog Jan 2021 #70
Would that it were not so... Blue Owl Jan 2021 #71
Thank you. nt leftyladyfrommo Jan 2021 #72
I am so sorry for your loss, leftylady. sheshe2 Jan 2021 #73
I'm so sorry Laurelin Jan 2021 #74
Protecting your animals in the event you get seriously ill (long term) or die should be a priority qzwv8j Jan 2021 #75
All the animals have good homes. His family knew how important leftyladyfrommo Jan 2021 #76
So very sorry to hear about this. LibinMo Jan 2021 #77
If there was only a way to make people understand leftyladyfrommo Jan 2021 #78
I am so sorry for your loss. gldstwmn Jan 2021 #79

tblue37

(65,483 posts)
1. I am sorry leftylady. You're right--the worst people do seem to get better while the
Mon Jan 18, 2021, 05:50 PM
Jan 2021

good ones suffer and die. Thank you for taking care of his pets and finding good homes for them.

hlthe2b

(102,343 posts)
4. A tragedy undoubtedly repeated in many other families. I'm so sorry for the loss of your friend.
Mon Jan 18, 2021, 05:53 PM
Jan 2021

his family, and most assuredly his pets. They will undoubtedly mourn him, no matter how good the new home might be. (and I truly hope they will be re-homed--it sounds like you are making sure of that)

My deepest sympathy for all.

panader0

(25,816 posts)
11. So sorry about your friend. My friend's lot turned out different.
Mon Jan 18, 2021, 06:02 PM
Jan 2021

On Dec 2nd I drove to an old friend's ranch house to look at some work he wanted done.
We were both masked and outdoors, taking measurements. I was there almost an hour.
I called back in a week with some numbers on the work but no answer.
Turns out he had gone to the VA in Tucson and had covid. They put him in a coma and on a ventilator.
The outlook was pretty dim. Well, I spoke to him last night. He was in the induced coma for almost 5 weeks.
He talked like he got religion while knocked out--quite a change from the hell-raiser he was for years.

LymphocyteLover

(5,652 posts)
21. Yeah, I know an older guy who was in the hospital and survived COVID
Mon Jan 18, 2021, 06:22 PM
Jan 2021

he seemed very humbled by it all. I was worried about him when he told me he tested positive. I talked to him a couple months later and was relieved he made it.

Buckeye_Democrat

(14,856 posts)
12. All that time being alone, and then the temptation...
Mon Jan 18, 2021, 06:03 PM
Jan 2021

... to break isolation became too strong for him.

Sorry about your friend.

dameatball

(7,399 posts)
14. Lefty, as a person that lives alone with pets, rest assured that he thought highly of you. Not that
Mon Jan 18, 2021, 06:12 PM
Jan 2021

his loss isn't painful and seemingly unjust, but he made a choice that many of us might make. Condolences from myself and DU, if I may.

sdfernando

(4,939 posts)
20. Damn...I'm so sorry to hear your friend passed on.
Mon Jan 18, 2021, 06:22 PM
Jan 2021

I'm glad he had you to take care of his critters and now to find good homes for them. I'm sure they all miss him as well.

Fla Dem

(23,736 posts)
22. What a sad story. Peace to your friend. I'm glad he had you to take care of his animals.
Mon Jan 18, 2021, 06:32 PM
Jan 2021

My sympathies to you.

Karadeniz

(22,564 posts)
23. Deepest sympathy to you and his fur babies. I wish you all the luck in the world with rehoming them.
Mon Jan 18, 2021, 06:34 PM
Jan 2021

Are you also trying shelters, rescue groups...if you need them. Your friend and his pets are so fortunate to have you!

MLAA

(17,318 posts)
28. 💕💕💕💕💕
Mon Jan 18, 2021, 06:39 PM
Jan 2021

I am so sorry to hear this. Thank goodness you are finding homes for his pets. You are an earth angel.

Liberty Belle

(9,535 posts)
29. So sorry. I have a family member dying of COVID; he has 5 children and was the family breadwinner.
Mon Jan 18, 2021, 06:45 PM
Jan 2021

He has been on a ventilator for eight days and is not expected to survive, I learned today.

Damn to hell Trump and all of his minions who failed to remove him from office last January, which would have prevented most of this carnage.

Deuxcents

(16,314 posts)
32. I hope you find Peace
Mon Jan 18, 2021, 06:52 PM
Jan 2021

Because your friend’s heart n deeds were so honorable. My cousin is in hospital with Covid19 n pneumonia n a DNR. I can’t say I know how you feel but I have a pretty good idea..it’s the good people among us that seem to leave us too soon. Maybe heaven just can’t do without them and call them early.

LaMouffette

(2,039 posts)
33. I'm so sorry, lefty!
Mon Jan 18, 2021, 06:57 PM
Jan 2021

And you're right: your friend was so careful, yet took a chance one time, just to be with his loved ones and caught the virus and passed away, while thousands of maskholes who refuse to self-isolate or do something as simple as cover their face with a cloth to keep others safe do not get the virus, at least we rarely hear about them getting it.

There is no justice with this virus. And I am so sorry for your loss!

Moostache

(9,897 posts)
34. I am sorry for your loss...
Mon Jan 18, 2021, 06:57 PM
Jan 2021

This has been the worst 12 month span of my life by far.

May the memories better times find you in the moments you need them most...

Tanuki

(14,920 posts)
36. I'm so sorry that your friend died before his time from this terrible disease.
Mon Jan 18, 2021, 07:03 PM
Jan 2021

You honor his memory and friendship by looking after his beloved pets and finding them homes. Blessings on you!



SheltieLover

(57,073 posts)
37. So sorry for your loss
Mon Jan 18, 2021, 07:04 PM
Jan 2021

Healing vibes on the way to you and his animals! 💗💗💗

Ty for helping his furkids.

yourmovemonkey

(267 posts)
42. I am so sorry for your loss
Mon Jan 18, 2021, 07:47 PM
Jan 2021

I lost a friend and coworker a few weeks ago. He was only 52, and in pretty good shape. The youngest of his 4 kids is only 18. I feel terrible for them. The whole family is so nice, and they were being safe.

All of this was completely unnecessary.

calimary

(81,440 posts)
43. Damn. I'm so sorry. I'm sure he'll appreciate your kindness to his critters - from Upstairs.
Mon Jan 18, 2021, 07:48 PM
Jan 2021

Thank you for that. It will help your friend rest in peace, for sure.

bdamomma

(63,919 posts)
44. that
Mon Jan 18, 2021, 07:52 PM
Jan 2021

is the question that remains to be a mystery.

There's a very long list of awful people esp. past Repig administrations.

shrike3

(3,741 posts)
48. I'm very sorry.
Mon Jan 18, 2021, 07:53 PM
Jan 2021

Why I don't believe in karma. The best people die and the awful people carry on.

I hope your memories of him bring comfort.

pazzyanne

(6,556 posts)
53. My heart goes out to you and your friend's family.
Mon Jan 18, 2021, 08:11 PM
Jan 2021

So glad you are rehoming his fur babies! For those of us with pets, leaving them behind is a big worry. You are an .

japple

(9,838 posts)
55. Bless you for helping your friend and seeking out homes for his furry family. He was
Mon Jan 18, 2021, 08:29 PM
Jan 2021

so lucky to have a good, kind soul such as you in his life. We should all be so fortunate. Peace and love to you and yours, and may all of his animals be loved to the end.

bluestarone

(17,025 posts)
59. So sorry.
Mon Jan 18, 2021, 08:33 PM
Jan 2021

I hear you about why it seems like the good people always die. I've felt the same way MANY times!

leftyladyfrommo

(18,869 posts)
60. He loved animals
Mon Jan 18, 2021, 08:37 PM
Jan 2021

He had a little cat which we have a good home for.
He had 2 lovebirds. 2 flying squirrels and a bunch of fish


He had 2 125 gal tanks and two 60 gal. Tanks. And all kinds of equipment


We got the cat and the fish covered. Mow we need homes for the lovebirds and the flying squirrels





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BobTheSubgenius

(11,564 posts)
61. I'm sorry for your loss, and for your friend.
Mon Jan 18, 2021, 08:47 PM
Jan 2021

You are honouring him by doing what you are doing for his pets. I hope that leaves you with some of the peace and contentment you deserve.

wendyb-NC

(3,328 posts)
62. I'm so sorry
Mon Jan 18, 2021, 10:16 PM
Jan 2021

That's so sad. What a loss. I hear you, it seems like we lose the good people and the scumbags are indestructible. Look at agent orange.

MustLoveBeagles

(11,632 posts)
63. I'm sorry
Mon Jan 18, 2021, 10:22 PM
Jan 2021


My sympathies to you, his family and his furbabies. You are a very good friend to find new homes for his animals. Take care of yourself.
 

demtenjeep

(31,997 posts)
67. so very sorry
Tue Jan 19, 2021, 01:03 AM
Jan 2021

I have asked that too/. Why did my wonderful sister die and not her piece of shit husband

Laurelin

(533 posts)
74. I'm so sorry
Tue Jan 19, 2021, 05:07 PM
Jan 2021

For your loss. And so glad you're there for his pets. My pets are one thing that worry me about covid, as in, what would happen to them if the worst were to happen to me and my husband?

At least he knew you were there. I think that probably mattered a lot to him.

qzwv8j

(87 posts)
75. Protecting your animals in the event you get seriously ill (long term) or die should be a priority
Wed Jan 20, 2021, 03:04 AM
Jan 2021

So many who have been hospitalized and/or died without arrangements for their animals have overwhelmed the “shelters” and rescue organizations to the extent many of the animals turned in at the “shelters” are being killed as soon as the person dropping them off leave. I mean immediately... straight to the kill room.

Two words, one very important legal document — Animal Trust.

I am saddened for your loss. No words can make this right or your pain less. But your friend was lucky to have you, because you’re doing what you can to save his precious family. And since he knew he had you, it was something he did not have to agonize over as he realized he would not be coming home. IMO, with each task you take on to find new homes for these animals has you walking on sacred ground.


leftyladyfrommo

(18,869 posts)
78. If there was only a way to make people understand
Thu Jan 21, 2021, 04:22 PM
Jan 2021

Just how dangerous Covid is. It just doesn't seem real until it hits you right in the face and then it's too late.

His poor family are trying to live with the grief and the guilt. He just didn't want to be alone for Xmas.

Now his family is trying to pick up the pieces. Their lives are shattered.

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