My Realtor's mother died of Covid

[obamanut2012]

The Realtor's sister is a good friend of my sister, which is why she's our "family Realtor." Or was, because none of us will use her again after her mother's death. All of us have bought homes this past year. This is in SOFL.

Her mother was only 65, but had a chronic disease that disabled her so badly she lived with the Realtor, who had medical POA. The Realtor's boy friend, college-aged son, and HS daughter also live at home.

The Realtor is an anti-mask, anti-vax, Qbert, which none of us knew, since she wore a mask at showings and closings and didn't mention politics. Her sister is none of these things.

They all became sick two weeks ago. Except for the son, who moved out three months ago and in with his GF's family, because he is also not anti-vax. He has gotten his first shot. The Realtor refused to get her mom a vax, and of course she and her BF didn't, nor her daughter, who is old enough.

You see where this is going.

Her mother was taken to the hospital Monday, intubated Wednesday, and died last night at 9 pm. The Realtor sobbed all week they should have been vaxxed. Her sister told my sister she and her siblings are never talking to their sister again. They had zero idea any of this was happening until it was too late, or they would have tried a court order.

The Realtor's BF was admitted late last night.

She and her daughter are still sick, and her mother is dead. Her siblings are enraged and planning to go full no contact with her.

I hope her daughter recovers, and I hope she goes to college next year and never talks to her mother again. I'm glad her son has good people to support him while he finishes at FAU.

[dewsgirl]

1. So many of these stories lately, it's hard to keep up.

[obamanut2012]

7. This is someone I know, too

To an extent. She was a really good Realtor.

[dewsgirl]

9. I didn't put it in my post, but I have read at least one

of these personal stories here on DU everyday this week. It's all so very sad in one way, incredibly frustrating in another and completely unnecessary.

[obamanut2012]

12. It makes me very angry and very sad

My county is better than many in FL, but it isn't good.

[dewsgirl]

16. Mine used to be better, but it isn't as bad as others.

Then I also have my oldest son living in Matt Gaetz district(he's in the air force). I have young grandchildren, the oldest is in elementary school, my DIL homeschooled her last year(with a new baby). She's going back this year, I worry about them constantly.

[obamanut2012]

19. At least about 50% of folks still wear masks out

here ion PBC. Sometimes less, sometimes more.

I have been fully vaxxed since April, but never stopped wearing masks, and I'm thankful I didn't, nor my GF or any other family member.

[dewsgirl]

27. Me too, fully vaxxed and always wear a mask, wash/

sanitize hands at every opportunity if I'm out. Thankfully my son and DIL up there in Ft.Walton/Destin(the Redneck Riviera) are extremely careful. And my granddaughter will be wearing a mask to school.

[niyad]

15. Earlier this summer, I was noticing that we did not seem to have multiple, daily posts

here on DU about covid deaths of friends and loved ones and acquaintences. Sadly, it turned out to be only a brief reprieve.

[obamanut2012]

25. I think it will get worse in a terrible way, since kids are starting to really die now

[niyad]

28. Sadly, I thnk you are quite correct.

[obamanut2012]

29. State universities start down here two weeks from today, too

College-aged kids tend not to wear masks unless they have to.

[niyad]

32. One of my friends is terrified for her family all of whom are teachers in OK, in one of

the worst counties. In-person classes start tomorrow. Her family are all fully-vaxxed, but we know that many staff and students are not.

[obamanut2012]

33. Public schools start here too, tomorrow

[yardwork]

2. It sounds like the Realtor is feeling terrible remorse.

She was influenced by QAnon. Those people have been lied to and literally brainwashed into believing falsehoods. Yes, she neglected her mother and her actions led to her mother's death, but it sounds like she didn't do it maliciously. She was deceived.

This propaganda is destroying our country.

[LisaL]

3. Yep. Some people are gullible and conspiracy prone.

At least in her case she seemed to have figured out she was wrong. Of course it's too late for her mother.

[obamanut2012]

5. Hopefully, it's not too late for her, her BF, or daughter

She won't be able to attend the funeral.

[obamanut2012]

4. My sister said all she's done is call her sister and cry

All week, and begged the hospital to give her mom the vax. They told her it was too late.

You are nicer than me, Yardie.

[yardwork]

6. Not necessarily! It's easier from a distance.

[Rebl2]

44. These people

begging for the vax when they are laying in the hospital with Covid seem to be under the impression it’s like penicillin. Give me the vaccine and I will be cured. They don’t seem to understand how vaccines work.

[obamanut2012]

47. The Realtor did

According to my sister, and was shocked it wouldn't help.

This woman graduated from a top FL university with an MBA and has a Realtor license, so she isn't stupid.

[Historic NY]

11. Aided by FOX and FACEBook of other social media.

[Crunchy Frog]

8. So she basically murdered her mother. Makes sense that the family is disowning her. nt

[LisaL]

10. To err is human.

I am assuming her siblings will reconsider once they get over their grief.

[obamanut2012]

13. Oh, they won't

She will be dead to them. They are beyond enraged. I tend to agree she murdered her mother. She had medical POA over a disabled woman and didn't get her a needed vaccine. It's really, really just awful.

[LisaL]

17. Your loony un-vaxxed relatives are still your relatives.

I couldn't do that.

[obamanut2012]

22. I don;t take to most of my loony, RWNJ extended family

Blood isn't thicker than water to me. No one has a claim on my support, affection, or presence because of relation. I get if you feel that way, but I don't.

People are NC from relatives for good reason.

[MLAA]

34. I sure believe there have to be consequences to the covidiots' behavior.

Ideally before they die or kill someone. So I’m all in on shun and shame. Last week I shun and shamed my brother after his being unvaccinated resulted in me having to fly to Florida from AZ to care for my Dad who needed hospitalization and now this week in rehab. My brother is in easy driving distance, but since he isn’t vaccinated not letting him anywhere near my dad.

This meant I left a wonderful health compromised husband for what will wind up being 2+ weeks and risking covid and then bringing it home to my husband. I’m considering quarantining at a hotel when I return to be super safe. I would likely have come anyway initially to make the major decisions for his care, but could have left after a week and leave brother to handle rehab.

Last week when this began and I made immediate plans to fly the next day, he called to ask what he could do. I told him ‘get your fucking shot if you ever want to see him again or go to his funeral’. Idiot said he would consider it.
Once I made it to Jacksonville (24hr delay due to weather in Dallas) he texted ‘I hope you get some rest’. I replied ‘I can live without rest I’m concerned about getting Covid because so many idiots in Florida won’t get vaccinated and I’ll take it home and kill my husband’. The next day he got the vaccine. Of course, he is still 5 weeks away from being as protected as possible so no help with this current situation.

So, I am still angry at him and likely to remain so.

[Farmer-Rick]

37. I refused to visit anti-vaxxer family

I've refused 3 invites from Anti-vaxxer family members and some have stopped talking to me because of it.

I refused to allow them over to my farm last Thanksgiving. They kinda invited themselves because I use to do a really big spread and it's a great location for views and winter sports . But last year, I said I didn't want to catch COVID-19, so no. Now, I'm the devil and they stopped talking to me.

They went around during the pandemic acting like normal. Went out to any restaurants and bars that would let them in. Crowded friends and family into their homes for parties. Never wore masks, never used hand sanitizer, partied last Christmas in restaurants and with new neighbors. They have never even gotten sick.

All I can say is that god protects both fools and drunks and they were probably both.

[gab13by13]

20. Yes, I am reading a book on having compassion,

I agree with your sentiments. So what lesson will be learned by the daughter? Will she continue to vote Republican?

[femmedem]

41. +1000

The woman obviously loved her mother enough to care for her in her home. She must have thought she was making the right decision for her, even though it was horribly wrong. She is suffering now with unfathomable guilt and grief, and she will likely never forgive herself. How does it make the world better to compound her grief by cutting her off from family and friends? How much better it would be for everyone to open their hearts beyond what they knew their hearts were capable of.

[obamanut2012]

14. I feel teh same way you do, Crunchy

And, my sister said The Realtor's sister and the other siblings do, too.

[spinbaby]

18. It's a family disease

I can’t find it at the moment, but I recently saw a tweet from a medical person saying that when someone dies, there’s sometimes no one to notify because everyone else in the family is dead or intubated.

[LisaL]

21. Because it spreads easily so if one person in the family gets infected, and they live together,

the rest are likely to get infected as well.

[obamanut2012]

23. There was a woman who lost almost her entire family last week in NOFL

I think Jacksonville. They were anti vaxx and anti mask. She lost five people within ten days, including her mom and fiance.

Thank God everyone in my immediate family is vaxxed, masked, and liberal.

[Tommymac]

31. To be fair liberal is not relevant. Lots of POC and liberal anti-vaxxers out there.

Anti-mask - is more political. But anti-vax goes across the spectrum.

POC are scared because in the past the government did them wrong in experiments like the Tuskegee Syphilis scandel in the 1930's.

And those far left folks who follow RFK Jr and celebrities and believe in popularized conspiracy theories like vaccines cause autism and GMO's are evil (both factually wrong and proven so) are part of this spectrum.

The left has it's share of far out folks who disregard facts too.

Very sad.

[gab13by13]

35. Just a comment on GMO's

It's not the GMO that's the problem, it's putting Roundup on the GMO crops that's the problem. I have been doing organic for years, plus it tastes better. Put a GMO potato in a glass of water, put an organic potato in a glass of water, within days the organic potato will begin to grow "eyes" while the GMO potato will never grow eyes.

[Farmer-Rick]

42. Yup, they design the GMOs to make the corporations money

So, they get 2 for 1 if they can sell you seeds that you can't replant unless you pay them. And you have to pour their poisonous chemicals all over them to get them to grow.

So where are the easy to grow GMOs? Where are the GMOs that don't use hardly any water, or produce 50 percent more edible fruits/seeds/plant parts? Where are the GMOs that need less nitrogen or fertilizer? Where are the GMOs that can out compete weeds and fight off viruses and mildew? There are few with built in bug protection but the plants still die from bug attacks. The bug has to eat them first before it dies and a hungry swarm will eat a lot before it dies 3 days later.

Anyway, GMOs could really help if they weren't all controlled by corporations.

[Walleye]

43. It's the southern republican states that have the low vaccination rates, that's a fact

[obamanut2012]

48. It is rural counties in every state

That is a fact.

[Walleye]

51. Well, the rural counties are the most heavily Republican

[obamanut2012]

54. That was my point

[Elessar Zappa]

49. You're somewhat correct but polls show

that Republicans are the least vaccinated group in the country, particularly Republican men. There are of course anti-vaxxers on the left but the numbers aren’t near as high as on the right.

[Sherman A1]

24. Really can't seem to work up any sympathy for the survivors

They had their chance to do what they could to mitigate their exposure to bad consequences. They chose to not do so,

Life goes on.

[obamanut2012]

26. I feel for her daughter

And the Realtor's siblings and other family.

[Ziggysmom]

30. Fox News is killing gullible Americans.

[GoCubsGo]

40. And, tearing up families, too.

[Starry Messenger]

38. Omg, I'd be up for murder 1 if someone did this to my mom

How sickening.

[obamanut2012]

39. I know

I would never talk to my sister again, although she would never do that.

[Cousin Dupree]

45. Consequences. Always too late for these morons.

[Woodwizard]

46. I have a in law like that

Loud racist, alcoholic, high blood pressure. Proudly yells he is not taking the ffing shot he may be dead before Christmas the way the delta variant is spreading in our area of only 51% vaccinated. At this point OH well if that happens.

[Warpy]

50. Realtor's got so much company out there

that it is both impractical and undesirable to write them all off. Once she recovers (if she does), find out if she's now smart enough to get the shot. Antibodies from the disease, itself, tend to disappear after a few months and the vax is still necessary for long term immunity.

I don't know why people are taking their medical advice from ignorant randos on Fakebook, but they are, and Zuckerberg isn't lifting a finger to stop it, his precious algorithm is too important to tamper with.

Personally, I'd want to know if this woman has bothered to answer the clue phone. I also think her siblings are reacting with a lot of guilt of their own, since it seems nobody asked if Mom had gotten her shots. It's just a rotten situation all around, but not your circus and not your monkeys. If Reator Lady has caught the clue that Fakebook dogma is killing people, consider using her services again. She might be a walking disaster when it comes to anything outside her field, but she is a competent realtor.

[obamanut2012]

55. From what I've been told, the siblings have tried to get the HSA for their mom

The FL equivalent of the medical POA, but they were denied by the court. So, they tried.

I have no personal skin in this game: she helped at the house closing with the attorney and that was it. My sister knows her sister, so that's how I even know about it.

[PoindexterOglethorpe]

52. I have zero sympathy for the Realtor. It's too bad she can't be charged

with negligent homicide or some such for not getting the mother vaccinated.

I'm also tired of being told we have to be understanding of these idiots.

Oh, and clearly despite the Realtor's MBA and Realtor's license, she clearly isn't all that smart. Probably never took a science class outside of high school biology, probably "doesn't believe in" evolution, has no clue exactly how things like vaccines work.

I'm sorry the mother died, but the anti-vaccers are bringing this upon themselves.

It's honestly a shame that they don't all get Covid and die.

[obamanut2012]

56. I totally agree with

Not having understanding and sympathy for them. We would never say that about someone who committed a hit and run, and this is close to the same, except it can kill more people. I feel compassion and sorrow for their minor kids and very young adult kids, and the pets that will miss them. That's about it. Kids are dying here in SOFL now, and these folks are fueling it.

[Doremus]

53. Horrible. My niece's BIL, a Floridian (surprise) and also staunch anti-vaxer and Trumpian

was admitted this past week. Before they intubated him he asked for the vaccine.

[obamanut2012]

57. JFC they almost all do!

The vax won't help you now.

And, it has been VERY easy to get here since May. Walk-ins at Target, Public, Walgreen's, the Federal sites, etc. I was at Target a bit ago, and a masked staff member at the Clinic was holding a sign saying walk-in, free, etc.

[LisaL]

62. Then they have a fundamental misunderstanding of what vaccines do.

When they are attaching an anti-vaxxer to a ventilator, it's too late for the vaccine.

[live love laugh]

58. How could the siblings have no idea? They seem negligent. nt

[obamanut2012]

61. Because she has blocked them from her mother's life

As has her mother. You can't make adults interact with other adults, except at work.

[Demovictory9]

59. ". The Realtor sobbed all week they should have been vaxxed" seems she's learned her lesson

...at the expense of her mother's life

[obamanut2012]

60. Yup

She is planning to take everyone with her to get vaxxed after they are over Covid. If they get over it.