Why we decided to put the kid in online schooling

[JPPaverage]

We have a 13 year old daughter (step for me) and as of Wednesday, she's going to finish out the school year doing online classes.
Her best friend is a boy who is a smaller kid and has come out as gay. He was getting picked on by some other kids. He went to the office and it didn't faze the other kids. They kept bullying him and not only made him cry, he started staying home from school and would not leave the house according to his parents. The bullies naturally called him a slur that guys often get called and one kid shoved him and kicked him when he was down. My daughter said. "Enough is enough" and punched the kicking kid. From what I gathered, she actually bloodied his nose. Naturally she got a 3 day suspension.
I do not question the duty of the school to suspend her, but this bullying needs to stop. The school did nothing to stop it so TJO, my daughter, decided that she would end it. So, TJO and her friend are now both online students until next school year. And she may go to another school if the situation doesn't improve at her home school.
Oh yeah, the bullies dad threatened me and my kid. He had a trump sticker on his truck. I laughed at him and asked if he liked jail because if he laid a hand on me, that's where he'd be going. He just sputtered and sped away.

[leftieNanner]

1. Well Done!

On both counts. Protecting your daughter (and, by extension, the other child), and standing up to the bully.

[jimfields33]

2. I think online school will thrive due to the pandemic

Who wants to wake up everyday wondering if school today is open or closed. Many parents are frustrated by schools today. Add to that the bullying that dates back to the beginning of time and there you have it. Chicago has seen a huge number of student deduction numbers. It’s happening all over the country. Post pandemic, schools will have to regroup and figure out what went wrong and fix them if they want numbers up again.

[lagomorph777]

3. Pretty pathetic bully, if you ask me.

Needs Daddy to defend him from a girl?



Kudos you you and your daughter!

[SYFROYH]

4. Get your daughter some MFA training.

Im particular wrist and locks cause immense pain, lead to instant compliance, and dont leave a mark.

Principal: What did you do to this bully? He is crying.

Your Daughter in a sweet voice: I just held his hand and asked him to be his best self.

[SYFROYH]

7. And i wouldnt worry about suspensions on her record

She can write admissions essays about beating up homophobic bullies.

[TuxedoKat]

5. So sorry

your family and your daughter's friend and family are going through this. I heard an interview with the author of a book called Bullyocracy: How the Social Heirarchy Allows Bullies to Rule Schools, Work Places and Society at Large by Donald Jeffries. Very interesting. Basically he says that the teachers and administration turn a blind eye to the bullying and even may participate in it themselves.

[The Magistrate]

6. Good For Your Daughter

I do question the school doing a thing to her, so long as the instigating bully-boys are not expelled.

If the principal and teachers won't stop it, there's really no other recourse save violence in self-defense and defense of others.

[demigoddess]

8. my son was bullied in the classroom and it was enabled by the teacher.

She actually seemed to encourage it. It was about smarts. this was a gifted program for smart kids and they were apparently jealous of my son's smarts. (he has a very high IQ)